How do I become cold hearted and heartless?

[Tomsta]

I'm done with being hurt by my emotions especially love and romance, i'm fucking done with it all. If there was an operation to remove emotions from me i would take it, but as that isn't a possability how can i become a heartless barstard who doesn't let anyone in

[Rawrzz]

Kill the voice inside; kill the lie; kill the lie.

Drugs will do that, though. Kill every bit of yourself until you dont give a fuck about anything. Although, there's something painful about being numb and apathetic, too.

I don't think you known what you're asking, though. You just want the pain to stop. Channel it and work through it. Don't endeavor to become a monster. There's enough of those around already.

It's so seductive to be cold and corrupted and isolated, try to to an independent republic.

Being cold and heartless isn't something you can just decide to do. It takes a lot of pain to get to that point. A lot of pain. And say you succeed. You've chosen security over freedom. You've isolated yourself. And that's no way to live. Part of being human is that connection you get with others, even if it hurts you, sometimes. If you lose that, you lose your humanity, and you'll do anything to anyone. Do you really want to become that person?

Instead of wishing to be cold and heartless, wish to be able to not be at the mercy of your emotions. Wish to be able to use them and master them, to enjoy them, rather than be controlled by them.

[Tomsta]

Yes i do, i've dealt with a lot of pain, on top of my brother dying i got reject by the only girl i've ever loved

[Rawrzz]

Alright then. Move to the projects, go hungry at night, and fight physically for your life with boys that don't care, bust some slugs, do drugs, and get thrown in a cell. Watching your back every minute of the day will push you over the edge into the cold and heartless territory, without a doubt. If you survive, you'll become a step closer to cold and heartless

[GoodLuckCharlie]

Ha, that's quite easy. Just don't care about what other people say. If someone insults you, think to yourself that other people's judgements of you shouldn't matter. That's the whole point. If you don't care about what other people think of you, you'll start becoming more robotic. I honestly don't agree with the way you're dealing with your emotions, but it's your choice, so...

[Tomsta]

My emotions do nothing for me but hurt me, i'm fucking done with them and the pain they cause they can go fuckign die in a ditch for all i care

I alreayd don't give a damn how people see me

[GoodLuckCharlie]

Then you're pretty much heartless already. There's not much to it. If you're still feeling emotions, that's because you care about what other people think of you. If you look at psychopaths, they don't care about what other people think of them, or what their actions will do to others. That's why they can commit horrific acts like murder without caring at all. Of course, I encourage nothing of that nature. If you want to be heartless, don't do it by hurting others. Just protect yourself.

[chigurl33]

Now the procedure I tell you of has not been scientifically proven and is potentially risky but for cold hearted, having a heart surgery and making them keep the new heart in a freezer for a month before hand will give you an icy cold heart and to become heartless is even easier, rip your heart out.

That was just me being a douche waffle. I have just a few words for you.

Life pulls us down but it's only when we get up we become victors.
You have to dig through the dirt to find the gold, the more the dirt, the more prized the gold.
If you've fallen too many times and think you can't do it again, stop, eat a cookie, stand up again.

[Anonymous]

You're built to reproduce, go find some other girl to impregnate already. That's advice coming from someone who hasn't felt emotions for anyone in quite sometime. Just remember, whenever you feel yourself getting emotional and shit, that emotions are only chemical reactions. There's no such thing as love, only a sense of comfort and familiarity. You don't have to shut everyone out, I mean who would you make satire comments to then? Just realise that any feelings you have for them are all fabricated by your brain to give you a sense of self worth.

[Tomsta]

I hate kids so that's not a good idea, i'm also Demi-Sexual...

[Opinion Owner]

And I'm bi sexual doesn't mean I don't realise why we exist

[Tomsta]

Then you obviously don't know what demi-sexuality is. Demi-Sexual people are people who identify as a middle ground between asexual and sexual. Demi-Sexuals only feel sexual attraction to someone after an emotional bond is formed; meaning they they just can't do one night stands they need a conenction whether it be friendship or a relationship

[Alex_Savage]

Oh honey. I'm sorry dating and romance hasn't worked out for you. :-( Please don't go all MGTOW on me, but there are actually kind and sincere women out there, but most of them don't really talk to guys all that much. I've seen it happen before, with the sweetest girl, and she had her heartbroken by a man who was a total a**hole, and now she hates all men. It goes both ways dear. I just hope you meet someone who changes your mind someday. ^-^

[cth96190]

Kind and sincere women?
Aside from my mother, I have not met any.

[Alex_Savage]

@cth96190 Exactly! Because I believe that kind and sincere women don't really go out and talk to men all of the time. And I bet that your mother is a wonderful woman, so you may have to lower your standards a little! ^-^

[cth96190]

I gave up and went MGTOW.
Kick a dog often enough and it learns to stay away.

[Tailliah]

Simple. Don't care. Don't care about other people. Don't bother being in a relationship.
I don't suggest this route though because we all experience pain but many times good does come out of it.

[RJGraveyTrain]

I think it's easier to just not date, dude.

[Tomsta]

When everyone around you is either married, engaged or in a relationship (even though one of the guys is a twat and doesn't deserve the girl) that's not excatly easy to do

[RJGraveyTrain]

Sure it is. You can focus on YOUR life, instead of theirs. I mean it might not FEEL easy but it isn't difficult. There is no time restriction, no finish line - working on yourself and your life will get you to where you want to be faster than lamenting about it or essentially opting up for a lobotomy.

[Tomsta]

My life according to everyone is already pretty good, i've got a decent paying job, i've bought a flat (waiting to be finished as it's a new build) got two hobbies i love doing only thing missing is a girlfriend

[RJGraveyTrain]

But why is your life incomplete just because you don't have a girlfriend? The trick to happiness and success in relationships, for me anyway, is knowing how to live without having dependency on another person or a relationship status. You need to be whole on your own before you can be whole with another person.

[Tomsta]

It's the only thing in my life i've never had success in

[RJGraveyTrain]

Then maybe the work you need to do is with yourself, not with relationships?

[Leos123]

Well... You can't. You're just human. You can be angry, self destructive, uncaring and everything. But you will still be hurt. You will still be controlled by emotions. You will still feel voids in your heart.

Just heal yourself. Nurture yourself. Stand back. Be logical. Think clear. Focus. Breath. Have a goal. Ignore all other things.

That's how to be cold.

[MrOwens]

It is all a mind game and your mental health. Read up on human behavior and mind studies. You will crack people open like a walnut! Turn this negative energy into your motivation. Psy studies may be your forty and it definitely adds Armour to your mind.

[Anonymous]

You gotta base your happiness in something a movable and steadfast. for me it is weights and Fitness weight of Integrity they only way what they say on the outside they're always there for you they will never cheat comma they only make you better never worse. Just like with anything practice will make you perfect stop being nice and exchanging pleasantries with civilians. Do not hold doors do not say please do not say thank you do not say I'm sorry treat everyone as an object. Like with anything practice makes perfect. Work on that poker face and eventually it will become your real face you won't care about others you won't feel their pain you're at they will be gone. If you're dating a lot if you're cheating cheating but always cheat because if you don't put in your best it won't hurt when it's gone. Realize that there are more than six billion people on this Earth and you're the most important one.

[Abe90]

Are you really that oblivious to the answer?

"Can I be your friend? NO"
"Wanna hang out with me? NO"
"Tell me a little about yourself? DO you always ask pointless questions?"

Based on these examples, you can figure it out for yourself. Don't be annoying by asking for further instructions.

[LaFemmeFatale]

So you want to become one of these "heartless bastards" who hurt you?

I guess you are hurt but if you become cold hearted then the girl like me will never manage to fall I love with you.

Don't allow others to change the kind heart you have :)

[Tomsta]

Oh it alreayd changed 4 years ago, girls don't want mister genuine guy who looks for something serious they want johnny douche-alot who will hurt her

[LaFemmeFatale]

If it changed you wouldn't ask that question :)
I am gonna tell you one thing that many people forget: No one in the world thinks that they are heartless, even the most heartless people in your memory, think that they are kind deep down. Each of us have different motives behind our actions and it is always hard to understand for other people.
In 2008 we had a war in Georgia, there were victims from both parts. If you go to the Russia and meet the family of victims they will say that killers of their sons were heartless bastards, but if you come in Georgia, these heartless bastards may be seen as heroes who protected their country from enemy.

I mean, we should look at life from different angle and we should look at people from different angle bot as biased victims but as observers, what would you do in the shoes of these people? Maybe you would do the same thing... Maybe, just think about it for a moment.

[LaFemmeFatale]

Now you can be who you want but trying to be heartless and self pity won't make you happy.

[Tomsta]

Better than being constantly hurt by my emotions...

[LaFemmeFatale]

Oki good luck ;)

[redxiii74]

It takes years to achieve this, I know. So your better off getting your sad feelings validated with a friend, drink and cry, rage with ranting and slowly find a new hobby or interest. The alternative is to not share feelings let them stay in smoldering to consume your heart and I don't think you really want that

[underconstuxion206]

That's not too hard, just concentrate on your self for a while, and work on yourself, read books go to the gym, stop looking for someone to be your girlfriend, and you won't fall for anyone else, plus women like that.

[cth96190]

MGTOW

[cth96190]

Look up what the medical literature says about the chemical mechanism that is involved in what is called romanric love, or eros.
Eros is a delusional state of mind that is created by the release of endorphins.

[elly91]

careless... simply just that a bastard. ... be nasty with everyone and play with peoples feelings and tre at them like toys... its not too hard..

[Tomsta]

Done

[Anonymous]

It's not about being heartless. it's about not giving too much until you know the person deserves it.

[bente2]

You wouldn't need a manual if what hurt you hurt you enough. Take it from me.

[Stevan7]

Umm, focus on yourself? You get hurt because you expect too much of someone. If you expect one big nothing then they can't hurt you. You're welcome emo.

[matheus_mb]

Don't let yourself get involved with anything, it's the safest way, build a wall around your heart.

[AleDeEurope]

Stop giving a fuck. Treat people like shit and enjoy doing it.

[AirForceOne]

Here's the thing. If you're not cold and heartless now, you won't be. You can try not going all in right away, or find a hobby to occupy your time.

[Tomsta]

Already got two hobbies

[bloodmountain1990]

You don't gotta become cold hearted and heartless to avoid getting hurt. You can just keep your heart and emotions guarded.

[Blitzkrieger]

Watch videos of people getting killed it works up to a degree.

[fueledbythc]

Figure out who you are with a lot of deep thinking and self reflection.

[Adigelunar]

thats naturally happens when u have a lot in life - n it pushes u to be like that

[ThisDudeHere]

Well you should first stop crying for attention.

[elly91]

I agree. .

[BeautifulPromisesx]

Haha I'll teach you.

[Tomsta]

PM me please

[Anonymous]

Be the game not the player

[Unit1]

Maybe MGTOW can help you.

[bedroomdweller]

Ask a real alpha
@FallingInReverse

[SoFeckinAddicted]

Just lol @ this question

[Maxemeister]

How can u be cold hearted

Without a heart

[laughingbuddha]

its easy just don't give a fuck :)

[lost_alice]

you can learn it with me

[louiseisaturtle]

you never will

[Tomsta]

Oh i will, even if i have to live in seculsion for my entire life. I don't wanna feel anything anymore i fucking done with it all, i just want to be rid of the fucking thing

[Paul34]

Become a MGTOW man!

[Marinepilot]

Just do it.

[Anonymous]

Become MGTOW

[Anonymous]

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