Do girls even realise the power they have?

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Do girls actually even realise the power they have over guys? Guys literally live to get girls and sex, this allows girls to manipulate or get the guy to do almost anything they want. Since in dating girls are the ones with all the power boys constantly buy girls things, do generous acts and more just to impress and potentially win the girls heart while she just has to be selective and take advantage of such.

Most girls can literally flirt and say sexually suggestive things and through that get guys to do whatever they want. Also guys are soooo much more polite and willing to do things than girls are for guys. Do girls even realise the power they have? They are constantly overwhelmed with attention and specialtreatment.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

No, I don't think so. I am aware that if I wanted to, I could probably manipulate SOME guys to do things for me or flirt without consequence and leave star-struck guys in my path. But do I REALLY have that much power? Personally, I don't believe so, but maybe that's just because of who I am. I'm more of a pleaser, as in I feel like I have this "role" that you've designated to guys, rather than be the one fawned. You said "guys are soooo much more polite and willing to do things than girls are for guys", and that's not necessarily true. I would do basically anything fo my boyfriend, and sometimes I'm not sure if he'd do the same even though I would jump hoops for him. Do girls even realise the power they have? I'm not "constantly overwhelmed with attention and special treatment"- sure, I have a doting boyfriend, but I'm a "pleaser", like I said earlier, and I'm always making sure he's happy and working towards making him comfortable and being hinest and open with him because I care so much about him and I want our relationship to thrive. I don't take advantage of the "feminine power" I posess- if I posess any, because it sure doesn't seem like I do. It's flattering to know I could theoretically do that, but I don't think I actually could, if that makes any sense.

I think this "feminine power" is a bunch of crap- sure, some women are undeniably dazzling and model-gorgeous and have guys falling at their feet, but does every girl REALLY look and act like a Victoria secret model and have men trailing them? What about the power guys have- do GUYS even realize the power they possess?

estoydorado1 · Accepted Answer

Lol, this is amazing. You really don't understand how this happened? First of all, I don't disagree that women have the upper hand in some aspects of life, but then again so do guys. Secondly, the irony of this entire argument is that men give that power to women. Your talking about women being able to make men jump through hoops like women have mind control or something. A lot of guys give women that sort of power (no one is holding a gun to your head), and I stay hearing men lament all the trials females have put them through. You guys that constantly complain about women's "unfair power over you" are effectively putting yourselves on blast.

kaylaS91 · Accepted Answer

Yeah, maybe. However, that's a double-edged sword in my opinion.

In case you haven't noticed, most of the guys a girl has 'power' over (solely because she's a girl, at least) are the ones who want nothing more from her than to get their dicks wet. Seeing as how I'm not, nor have I ever been, interested in casual sex or anything of that sort, I think it's safe to say that this 'pussy power' has never worked in my favour. It's made me have to deal with a ton of creeps and have to put up a front with EVERY guy I develop an interest in just to make sure that we're on the same page.

shadowlegend · Accepted Answer

Does it not occur to you that some of us don't want just sex or immature guys just chasing us for the sake of it? Who cares if women have more "power" to manipulate men into sex or simply to give us attention, when there are plenty of women who are actually looking for the that all-elusive decent man, who values loyalty and integrity, and wants to hold onto a good woman when he has her, not "test the waters" to see if she's actually the "best" he can get. This so-called power you think women have doesn't do us any good when there seems to be a huge deficiency in decent men.

brain5000 · Accepted Answer

Yep, _attractive_ girls (and in many cases, guys) have an easy time getting laid. This is an advantage - no question. They'll likely fulfill the evolutionary imperative of continuing the species, which is nice for them.

Does it make all relationships successful? Does it make for an easier life? Sometimes, not always.

Will it get them the prince from the castle to marry them so they can live happily ever after? Maybe - or maybe they'll just have babies and live in a sterile bubble.

It's a big deal. It's not everything.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

It doesn't matter, all of that power goes as they age. Besides, a lot of men do not realize that a woman only has as much power over them as they allow her. If you guys stopped being so desperate things would be different.

Turn down sex as much as you have it... then you will see how different things can be...

Account · Answer

I do. That doesn't mean I like it. It sucks that guys are so easy.

RJGraveyTrain · Answer

Yes, my dad taught me as a teen "not to abuse the power of the pussy", and I can confidently say that I don't. Lol.

ElissaDido · Answer

I do. But we don't have it at all times.

Miyumi · Answer

Girls have power when guys give them that power. Noone tells you to buy presents, act generous etc. to get a girl. If that's how you play the game then good luck. You're only going to find girls that take advantage of the power you give them.

Most girls can flirt and be suggestive? Yeah sure, and then in some cases get harassed or worse because the guy will be like: she pulled the trigger.

So I disagree with you. It's guys that give girls the opportunity to take advantage of the power given. You don't need to shower a girl with presents or pretend niceties to impress her. If that's what you want to do then expect someone to take advantage of that. Grow some balls, love isn't grown from presents and 'acts' of generosity. Be real, be yourself, value yourself and respect your and her/his boundries.

natured · Answer

You are generalizing way too much, what about the men who POOF right after the first date? Basically the MEN who stop texting you all of the sudden.

The men who get cold feet before getting married?
Men who just stop giving the right attention to a woman because they might prefer another one?

I agree with what you say, but it goes for BOTH genders, both have things under control, but IT TAKES TWO to make a bright decision and it TAKES TWO to get attracted :)

Thank you <3

SovereignessofVamps · Answer

I think lots of girls don't. I always wondered why... like some girls can be so anxious about pleasing him in bed w/o even knowing him, like it's a new boyfriend or even a hookup. So it occurred to me, maybe they got anxious because it was a really hot or popular guy instead of a more average guy. So I'd say with the really attractive guys, girls can feel really helpless. And it's a shame too, since lots of guys like that can have issues or not care about her at all. Players are evilll. But also sexy. Until he betrays you.

Sweetsara27 · Answer

First of all I have never done anything on the list that you said. Second I usually get the guys that attach themselves to me who are immature and live off of drama or act like they are in high school still. Also a guy doesn't have to buy me anything all the time every once in a while I would probably just want flowers but that's about it. I would actually want a decent guy who really cares about me not use me and lie to me just so he can have his fun while looking for someone better then me when he doesn't see what's in front of him is a decent person that doesn't need to treated like trash.

ThisDudeHere · Answer

The moment you accept the fact that the only reason they a have power is because you let them have it is the moment you will notice the tables turning. Have you ever thought how inconsistent it is of women to supposedly abuse this "power" that they have and yet at other times they are submissive and want to be overpowered?

It's because they use their "power" on chumps but let real men take power away from them - that is what they instinctually want. Nothing wrong with that - just feminine thinking. But still.

danceislife080 · Answer

I have yet to date a guy who truly would do anything for me. They do when we start dating but as soon as they as you say "get what they want" then the tables turn, and I've found myself being manipulated by the guy. Then when I speak up for myself they are the one blaming me for their actions.

Brooke_1713 · Answer

Yeah i do know that. But i just don't usually fall for those guys who do those kind of things, i just don't like guys who are willing to be my "pet" or treat me as if I'm some kind of godess. I don't easily fall for anyone who buys me super expensive gifts on every occasion or willing to pay for dates everytime (I'm not saying those things are bad, I'm just saying that it'd be useless anyway since i really don't need or crave those kind of things) What i want is somebody who is able to realize his privilege and self worth, but at the same time being able to know how to treat me with respect but also know how to respect himself ( let just say that i don't want them to lower themself or anything like that, I want to date someone who is able to act like themself, i don't want to date a guy who is always tolerants me towards things )

BluesBoy · Answer

When the only power you got is your ability to manipulate other people to benefit from their power then you have no power at all cause when you will face someone that has enough willpower to not get manipulated then you will be powerless.

Power resides in your own true strenght , physical and mental toughness and your intelligence and skill in your work. When you have that you can crush people on your own and not rely on other to do your job.

Women get such power over weaklings that cannot stand for themselves

Anonymous · Answer

No. That's not true... A lot of us just want a guy who understands us and wants to be there for us forever and will love and support us no matter what. Unfortunately we don't always get it. So the so called power you are contributing to us is useless as we can't get what we want since at the end of the day it's the guy who has to decide if he is ready to settle down with us or not.
Getting a free meal or a gift here and there might sound like "power" to you but how do you keep a guy who doesn't want to be kept?

BuchitaBuchys · Answer

I don't think being more "willing" to do things for leverage for sexual favors is what being "polite" means. Like that isn't polite at all in my opinion, that's being manipulative.

And sure we do, that's why i try not to talk to men. I don't assume that EVERY man who's nice wants to bone me, but if they make it explicit they do, then I'll avoid them at all costs.

Anonymous · Answer

Do guys not realise the power they have? They can give a girl everything she is looking for, a relationship, security, safety, a sense of humour, money, a dating partner, children, whatever.

As much of the worlds media tells you, this allows guys to manipulate or get the girl to do almost anything they want. Many of them can cheat on the girl, and even dump her, and still find another girl after that one. Plenty of men can even leave her holding the literal baby, and still manage to do a runner.

Since in dating guys are the ones with all the power, guys get to choose which girls get a date. The other girls, who simply cannot ask a guy out, are and remain dateless. Forever at the mercy of just hoping a guy will ask her out.

The guy just has to be have the balls to ask a girl out, and take advantage of the ones who say yes...

(See how that works?)

spoonman2014 · Answer

I don't think some do, they need to have it taken away from them to realize they have it good. They need to go a week without a single text to finally get one from their grandma that starts like "Dear Kelly, I want you to come over and have prune pie. You aunt showed me this thing called 'facebook' and you are in short shorts and have your lips sticking out like a ducks. You look like a hussy, you will attract the wrong boy for that reason. You're a smart young lady, you can do better. From grandma"
And have men tell them "its bros night" so all their advances will be turned down for that reason. They need to go above and beyond for a guy only to have them turned down for some emotional reason that doesn't make sense

Mrwoo99 · Answer

Women only have power over beta orbiters, omegas or needy losers that are usually the bottom 20% of males. The men who are fat, ugly, have social issues and poor that even other men don't want to be friends with. The problem with this generation of men is that since masculinity is being punished by feminism as toxic, men are being brought up as pussies and needy.

Also with the high divorce rate due feminism, men are raised fatherless by single mothers that can't teach him the true meaning of manhood. Most of the students at my university are complete fags that look so delicate that women are more to fear in confrontation. I even see on town in bars and nightclubs, women are causing more trouble than men on a night out; they have higher testosterone than men nowadays. Lucky for me I have good masculine role models.

jamieswift13 · Answer

Haha that is so funny because to me it seems the guy has much more power! He is the one to usually make the first move and the girl has to sit back and wait for it. It usually isn't the girl who tells the guy she like him first, it's the guy. Right now I'm in a situation where I like this guy and I don't know if he likes me back. I want to tell him but I don't know how. It's so unorthodox for the girl to make the first move and then it is nerve wracking to see what happens after it.

Tony1974 · Answer

They have power to a point; a lot of it is illusion. Once they give it up, they are no longer in control. They are more slaves to their hormones than we are. Sex is a feed-back loop designed to get them prego. Unless they are on the pill, their hormones will drive them to fuck until they are prego. That's the whole point of sex; pair-bonding and procreation.
A smart man/woman is selective, only partaking of the ones that s/he's most compatible with so that s/he doesn't create too many shrill and distraught former partners slandering their good name to any other potential mates.

Unfortunately for most men, they don't have as many options as most women do. Thus slut shaming as any guy knows that most women who go out expecting to get laid do, where most guys HOPE to get laid.

waxwork · Answer

How is it a girls fault if you can't control your libido? Claiming all guys are like this is a sweeping generalization that insults guys. Claiming the fact that a woman turns you on is a power she has is just strange. You have the power to get up & walk away, to leave, to change the subject, to "take care of things" before you leave the house so you don't get so aroused, to not talk to people you feel are taking advantage or arousal. The fact you think you are powerless in the face of a woman trying to turn you on says more about you & how you perceive sex & flirting than it does about any girl and her "powers".

electrikrainb0w · Answer

My hard rule is I don't ask for things, but if they're offered I will accept.

I won't lie. I've worn short-shorts and gone to arcades knowing that guys will pay for my games for me. I had two guys fight over who got to pay for my games one time.

But usually it just comes to me. I've gotten discounts, free things, etc. even when I'm just wearing normal clothes.

RealandGenuine26 · Answer

I don't have to manipulate to get a man... this is wrong and incorrect on so many levels. I was brought up to never go chasing after a man, and to never throw myself at one either. i know that if I'm meant to be with a guy , it'll happen naturally. if you have to manipulate to get someone then you're better off working on yourself or being by yourself. before trying to be with somebody.

DarkHumorRUs · Answer

Some do, but many cute girls don't.
I am sure there are plenty of girls who are just used to be treated well by seemingly everyone, especially in public. They probably wonder how they've never had a bad experience with the workers at the grocery store and such.

wildchildx · Answer

Women only have that power over weak men. Strong men.. the kind of men most women want... can easily tip the balance of power in their favor.

lil_Wítch · Answer

You make the assumption buying things for women helps to win her heart. That's bs, and actually an insult too.

I don't know for anybody else, but i don't want a complete circusact trying to get laid. Because al those generous things you do is just that: an act.

Just be yourself otherwise it's just fake.

Either there is a click or there's not. Buying things or "acting" generous don't matter.

Jemini_Crocket · Answer

Attractive women = yes Average looking women = maybe if they really try But ugly women? = hell no.

AceOtana135 · Answer

They don't have power over all men. I've never had difficulty ignoring or walking away from a woman. Flirting or not.
In fact the moment a woman starts flirting with me, I'd still be no more inclined to buy things for them.

I've been single by choice for over 27 years, I'm still immune to women's advances.
Also I am perfectly straight by the way.

Viranda · Answer

Girls only have power over pathetic boys.
Wealthy, handsome or intelligent boys are not that pussy kind of people you are describing.
I don't really use that "power" unless it's something I find harmless to the boy, like homework.
I wouldn't ever use it to get free stuff or a slave to carry my stuff around or be my personal driver, simply because I'm not a bad person.

deraz24 · Answer

I don't use my "power" to manipulate guys lol, its either I like you or I don't, I don't want to play with you. And girls risk things almost as much as guys if not more sometimes, we not all manipulative

JDavid25 · Answer

I'm sure some do.. But like others have said.. A lot of guys allow the girls to have the power over them.. If guys weren't throwin themselves at girls sexualizing themselves it would be easier.. On the same end.. Sometimes it can't be helped that the power of girls is too much for the guy only to fight.. So I see both sides..

ChocEyes1 · Answer

Even if that's true (which still needs to be established) you make it sound like guys have no choice but to give them whatever they want. We are all rational beings capable of rational decisions. Ifyou consider what a woman asks you unreasonable, then just don't give it to them. Easy.

JuliaHarris · Answer

Women only have the power that you give us, just as men only have the power than we given them. In other words, grow a spine.

Anonymous · Answer

This is a very subjective opinion. I've known girls who do this but it's only few girls who truly can do this. In my opinion, it's only women who are very attractive or instagram models who have this "power". I don't think this is usual for the average woman.

AleDeEurope · Answer

I feel sorry for you if girls have power over you. Honestly, you need to realize how much power you, as a guy, can have over a woman. Once you do, you'll have so much fun.

thepathtonowhere · Answer

I would not call that power, I would call that men willing to do anything for sex. A lot of men are desperate. So you are telling me that I can get a house and a car from a guy just by flirting. Please tell me how. Also if that was true then most girls would have an easier time dating

Atlas67890- · Answer

It takes skill to tell a woman that they are oppressed and deserve XYZ while simultaneously telling them that they rule the world al la Beyonce. But that kind of skill pales in comparison to the abilty to get women to ignore true suffering of women in other parts of the world in lieu of say... 'tampons aren't free, and my office is too cold.' (insists on wearing the skimpiest outfits while the mean are forced to wear suit and ties to work.) Oh the oppression!

Aizou · Answer

They only have power over those who lets them.

Anonymous · Answer

I guess I'm different. I've never had a guy go out of his way for me. Lastly, I've never been really specially treated. At most, I've been told I'm pretty. I mean I guess I "could " manipulate a guy bit, I've never been taught how... let alone I just want something real. I want a guy to not just want me sexually but, to love me. I don't see any real point to play games. At the end of the day, he's going to know who I am one way or another.

Unit1 · Answer

Of course they do! Why else do you think there are such things like prostitution, gold diggers and bitches, who lead guys on and simply extract resources from sex-starving boys?

But that power is only active while they are in their teens and 20s. After that it's not as potential anymore.

Hence I do not let myself being manipulated by the "magic of having the vagina".
But I am glad, that not all women are like that. Plenty of good ladies may be found.

naomi10wylde · Answer

I realise. Makes me a bit wary and uncomfortable though because most men misinterpret my niceness as flirting and I don't want to lead anyone on so I try my best to make my intentions clear.

Anonymous · Answer

It's not girls who have that power, it's people of either sex that are very good looking that have this power. I know very handsome men who most women would do just about anything to be with them.

JoyGirl · Answer

Yeah, I realize the power, but I just don't use it. I know how to keep my legs closed, even when all the guys are swarming around me. 😊

Spelling95 · Answer

They do. What most don't realize is that power is not forever. Attractiveness is why men give a shit about women. Nobody thirsts after 35 year olds. Use the power wisely and don't take it for granted ladies.

RandomBritishGuy94 · Answer

They only have power over you if you give them power. If you're in such a relationship where you can't say no it's not one I'd recommend staying in.

If this isn't a relationship that's very much your problem. Make your own choices.

Anonymous · Answer

Plenty realize it, some don't. BUT, you're also overplaying it a bit here. They have that kind of power over the type of guy who doesn't have good options. For guys with options, their power diminishes in proportion to his ability to get other attractive women. But yeah--if a girl is facing a dude who has nothing even close to an option as good as her then she's got all the cards.

PunkinPie · Answer

HAHAHahahahahahaha... *gasp*... Hahahahahahahahaha... *I can't breathe*...

likitb4istickit · Answer

Of course they do, whether they admit it or not. This is why you just get a whore unless you like being manipulated. Then it's a 2-way street at least, since they don't eat without doing as you tell them and you get no pussy if you don't pay them.

springocelot · Answer

lots of them do that's why so many girls engage in fake humility but don't worry, that's just dating  when it comes to relationships, it's a different story

Love_Is_Eternal · Answer

The only power women have is the power that men give them. I'm a handsome fit guy but I always reject women no matter how attractive they are because women today are not worth the hassle. Believe me, no woman has any power over me. Sadly, most men today are just too weak and pathetic.

evenlift · Answer

"Guys literally live to get girls and sex". Most guys are like that. But, the thing is, girls want guys who aren't pathetic like that, and most girls will never defeat the competition to get a guy who isn't pathetic like that.

Maypai · Answer

Girls only have power and control over males if they're deemed attractive.

writing_essays · Answer

Another bitter question by the same loser who is jealous of the girls he is trying but can't date.

whynotmarryJ · Answer

if you let anyone ever manipulate you then honestly you have serious problems. Just because a girl has sex with you doesn't mean you have to buy her a pair of shoes.

Tonita91996 · Answer

That's why we need to wait until we are married when we decide to have sex because it causes major problems if we don't. Women are always the blame when something goes wrong. We are look upon as sluts if our numbers are awfully high.

karahiri · Answer

I don't know if that's us having power, or y'all being super easily swayed.

pavlove · Answer

Dude just jerk off less and you won't be so obsessed with sex and therefore women. Think of it this way if a woman can read this and say this guy needs to get laid in some way you've already lost before you got started

Anonymous · Answer

I'm here to read angry MGTOWs in the blue section LOL

Anonymous · Answer

Funny you say this. I dated this girl for nearly 2 months she always talked about having sex doing this and we never did she flaked and was using sex as a way to control and manipulate so I left. Some guys might be powerless to women like that I'm not.

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