My boyfriend is very wealthy. We have been together for almost 2 years. But he never surprises me with any gifts. It’s only on first dates, he looked like he’s a romantic guy and bought me a ring just to tell the others that I’m already in a relationship. First year I celebrated my birthday, he asked me to go for a dinner, I appreciated it. But he never gave me flowers or got me any gifts.
On Valentine’s day still nothing to receive. I always got him gifts on special occasions and on the days I look something that reminds me of him, I bought it, I did a very good gift packaging, designed my own card for him and his reaction was like, “are you not doing anything at work?”. Everytime we passed by Florist, I always asked him why I never got one. Silence and he suddenly talked about other topic.
When it came to even his uncle’s/ aunt’s birthday, we could go to Louis Vuitton to find jackets/ shirts/ bags. But he never bought me anything. I don’t ask him to buy me luxury presents (as I believe he could afford so much luxury presents). It’s just the little things he missed for some occasions I thought were special.
2nd birthday I’m with him, he even forgot to wish me happy birthday until I asked him. That’s what made me think he didn't get anything for me, again. And thats right. He barely says I’m beautiful, never “wants” to kiss me. But he makes me think that he loves me. Maybe I’m just blind? Is it normal if I think too much about this?
I am very happy finding perfect gifts for him (I’ve been saving money so that I can buy him good gifts). He even knew that the gifts I bought for him could cost as much as my monthly income per gift. But it would cost a litttttle for him to get me a bucket of flower, right? He owns his company so I think time isn’t the matter. I’m so confused.
Most Helpful Guy
Normally, I wouldn't expect a female to think much of it. Mainly because the many guys are like that. But also many guys are not like that. However, someone just wealthy, i'd expect the female to expect more, since he can afford to do so. Why, because normally many guys normally don't have careers or the ones that have a career but have too much monthly expenses, but in either scenario, both are on a budget. This kind of thing just happens too much. But with a wealthy, there's really no excuse.0
Most Helpful Girl
You can't expect guys to get you gifts. It doesn't matter if they're affordable and he's rich and whatnot. It is HIS money and he should be able to spend it how he wants. If you're upset because you feel like you put in too much effort, put in less effort. You don't have to buy him gifts if he isn't doing the same for you.
Besides the gift part, the fact that he doesn't seem like he wants to kiss you and the fact that he doesn't wish you a happy birthday is messed up and I completely understand why that would bother you.
These are things you need to address with him and if he's not going to change and it bothers you too much, you should call off the relationship0