What is the reason why you would break up with your gf/bf other than cheating?

[asdsfgag]

You all know my reason

[lumos]

- Him not showing affection for me anymore, or not putting effort into the relationship, making me feel unwanted
- Being lazy, not having ambition, wanting me to support him fully when he's not even trying to find a job/be productive
- Being abusive, physically or verbally
- Wanting to argue about every little thing, not being able to let go of things we've already resolved (and bringing them up in new arguments)
- Being so busy that he doesn't have the time to see me at all
- Moving far away (I don't do long distance relationships)
- Having some sort of addiction (gambling, drugs, alcohol etc)
- Lying constantly
- Not get along with my friends and family

Those are the main ones I think, off the top of my head, in no particular order.

[Account]

1. Them being aggressive.
2. Them sharing details about our personal life.
3. Them lying to me about anything.
4. Them wanting to have a threesome.
5. If they fall for someone else.
6. If I happen to fall for someone else.
7. Mental and sexual incompatibility.
8. Me putting more effort than them.
9. Constant fights about the EXACT same thing over and over again.
10. If they would try to make me choose over my family and them.

[datgirl]

If they didn't give me enough attention
Cold
Unemotional, uncaring etc etc
Anger issues
Verbal/physically Abusive
Lazy
Being disrespectful to me and my loved ones
Racist
Free loader
Only interested on sex or too focused on sex
Didn't have plans for marrying and starting a family
Pathological liar
Manipulative
Boring

[datgirl]

Also drugs
And a bad past like spending money, drinking too much, partying a lot, promiscuity and sleeping with prostitutes/hookers and did lots of hookups, ons, fwbs.

[natured]

- If he would be violent
- If he would tell me to stay away from my Family
- If he would party TOO MUCH without telling me where he is going and getting home drunk

These are the 3 deal breakers, and my Man is none of the above luckily, and he is extra careful because he knows i snap in a second

[Zumbido]

Not sure. Maybe I'm just not experienced enough, but I've always been the one that was dumped.
I assume it would be the reason I got over each one though, the way each of them just nonchalantly went about it and just ended it with little to no warning or attempt on their part to fix it, coupled with how soon they started obsessing over other guys and (while they say we're still friends) never initiate a conversation with me, it shows me that they must not take relationships with the same seriousness that I do.

[MazeOfLove]

Yay, from a relationship coach's perspective, there are two absolutely deal breakers--cheating and abuse. For me personally, there are two others:

1) Compulsive lying
2) Constant victims mentality

[coachTanthony]

What Maze said!

[Wonderer89]

Failing to put the time and investment into our relationship, lies about important things like big financial/personal decisions or being unwilling to take my feelings into account when I need him to hear me.

I'd expect him to end our relationship if I did the above and refused to work on it too

[Streamhopper]

The only thing that is the kiss of death in any relationship I've had is that someone isn't willing to put in any effort. I took great pains not to identify a party, because I've been on both the sending and receiving end of things.

[MlleCake]

Differing goals, distance, growing apart, different values, verbal or physical abuse, other types of addiction, lying, financial problems, break down in communication.

[NatashaJ]

1. Thinks I am his mom and he acts like a man child
2. He very rude all the time
3. Perverted touches me without my consent all the time
4. Won't take no for an answer

[Fitness-Fanatic]

If he became abusive , or started taking drugs. If we no longer loved each other

Most things I'm sure we could overcome , we have great communication between us

[ThisDudeHere]

Them not putting in any effort anymore but expecting me to put in some.

Also, I don't know your reason.

[asdsfgag]

Expecting sex before marriage is my reason for dumping his ass

[ThisDudeHere]

I wouldn't marry a woman I haven't slept with so obviously the two of us wouldn't work out well.

[asdsfgag]

I will make sure he is fine with my abstinence before I decide to date him.

[ThisDudeHere]

How would you bring that up before even dating?

[asdsfgag]

We would be friends before dating. My friends know I am abstinent.

[ThisDudeHere]

Man guys assume you're friendzoning them.

[asdsfgag]

telling him I won't have sex with my boyfriend will be interpreted as I don't date anyone?

[ThisDudeHere]

It depends on how and when and to whom you get the point across. If I were dating a girl and we didn't officially consider ourselves boyfriend and girlfriend yet, and she suddenly tells me that there will be no sex until marriage, I'd consider it weird and move on.

[asdsfgag]

why suddenly. I will tell him whenever he brings up the topic of dating.

[ThisDudeHere]

One doesn't just "bring up the topic." They usually just ask you out.
And here is how I see it going down for you:

-Hey.. um, so I was thinking... want go out with me?
-The first thing you should know is that we won't be having sex. Just fyi.

[asdsfgag]

I will reject him for him to know I am a prude

[ThisDudeHere]

I'm not following...

[asdsfgag]

I will play hard to get ans he will either move on or chase after me

[ThisDudeHere]

So your strategy is to play hard to get indefinitely?

[asdsfgag]

no I play hard to get in order to know if he likes prudish girls or not. If he does then he won't mind me staying abstinence.

[ThisDudeHere]

Whatever floats your boat I suppose.

[Finnick]

If I could tell that at some point we were going to realise that by staying together we were going to end up not working out. I'm all for having a relationship, but I wouldn't want to waste their time.

[victoriameliegray]

if we are too different. If he has too many qualities that i dislike, for example lying, stealing, addicted to drugs etc.

[alice55]

Not the same view (politic, for the future, etc...)
Beat me
Too maniac
Too independant
Go out without telling me
He can't take a decision alone, always ask me for everything

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

1.) Lack of communication
2.) Always wanting to argue
3.) Always moody and argumentative
4.) Sarcastic in mean way
5.) Lacks to show love and affection

[Imhotep99]

1) Lack of empathy and too eager to start fighting/arguing.
2) Violent/manipulative behavior.
3) Addictions (smoking, drinking etc) after being in a relationship.
4) If she fails to put effort into the relationship.

[Glen68]

if the love just wasn't there anymore or if you both wanted different things in life like one wants kids and the other doesn't

[willwhitez]

Can't think of anything that could divide me and my wife.

[rgb008]

Violence/anger issues
Drug abuse
Alcoholism
Weight gain and no motivation to get healthy again

[Christinerose]

Don't get along or trust issues or if not working out

[realperson02]

manipulating
nagging
not grateful.
and many more (since I am not a mood for it now)

[art84]

If she had to move to another city/town or if the love wasn't there anymore and felt it was time to move on.

[BPTDK]

Correction... I don't know your reason... what is it?

[asdsfgag]

not agreeing with ny abstinenc3

[BPTDK]

Haha yeah that'll do it

[taimee]

1) I've LOST INTEREST
2) HE BECOMES PUSHY
3) I DONT FEEL NOTHING WHEN IM WITH HIM
4) HIS DICK IS NO GOOD

[Silver158]

5) Makes intelligent use of the Caps Lock

[taimee]

@Silver158 who are you?

[Seppel]

i feels no love and longer, to much diskussions, no harmony, too different oppinions about important stuff