My Boyfriend Chews Tobacco?

[Anonymous]

Just recently, I have discovered that my boyfriend chews tobacco for five months. This is one month less than we have been together. I care about him and am concerned about his health, but I also am completely against tobacco or the use of drugs. He says that he chews tobacco because he feels pressured from his friend to do so and that previously, he would never chew with him, but now has given in. I'm discouraged. I believed that we had a great communication and would talk about the most awkward and uncomfortable situations, but now, I'm disappointed. I have no idea what to do or say. A person will quit when they WANT to quit and he seems to be unable to motivate himself from falling under pressure with his friend. Do I break up the relationship, seeing that if he has hid something for five months he will continue to do so, or do I continue to nag this conversation of tobacco and try to get him to quit?

[writing_essays]

I think he probably smoked before he met you and tried to quit when you guys started dating because he didn't want to lose a relationship that he valued. The chewing tobacco is his way of coping with not being able to smoke around you.

[Asker]

He has never smoked. He hates smoking in fact.

[Jesmarston]

well i would argue that he knew you would be concerned and he tried to shield you from worry, but you have to preasure him to stop though but leaving should be your last resort