How many exes do you have?

Question

Have you learnt anything from those experiences? Do you think it made you a better person?

ObscuredBeyond · Accepted Answer

The one gal taught me that some things (like catching your mom engaging in prostitution) can scar you to the point that you yourself never get your life in order when you're older. The next girl taught me that parental divorce and alcoholism can also screw someone up to the point they give up, and that nothing I do is going to fix them if they hate themselves so much that they don't want to be fixed.

Emily (who's dead now) taught me that if her dad loses his faith and divorces her mom, her mom is judgmental to the extreme, and her family expects her to be a role model when older but surrounds her with the opposite in school just to save a little money, then the girl has a good chance of winding up hooked on drugs and having feuds with her probation officer, who thinks she's still in a gang. And that if a gal finds herself down this path, and her mom also rejects me, that no amount of rabbits pulled out of hats on my part can necessarily save her. So I shouldn't blame myself if I forget to message her one night, and I learn she's dead the next day.

The next two girls taught me that con artists are very real. And when you outlive your usefulness, they can be downright vicious throwing you under the bus.

The next two after that taught me that an innocent smile can hide a bitter extremist.

The next two after that taught me that Facebook dating Filipinas isn't always a wise strategy.

The next two after that taught me that underfunded and understaffed ASD treatment programs are terrible places to look for a future wife.

Haven't had a girlfriend since.

So... yeah. That's 11 women. And I've crushed on quite a few more, but it never went anywhere.

Matt21 · Accepted Answer

only one ex but she was my ex 4 separate times... and I learnt if both parties aren't willing to put effort into the relationship then it's never going to work out... even if you try it 4 damn times!

Now I have the most amazing girl in my life and we've been together for over 3 years. We always talk and have an amazing bond and so many fond memories. it's so nice to be able to give your all and really open up and know that the other person won't judge you and will open up in return :)

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

i've dated a lot of people and i've had about 4 relationships... i really am appreciative towards everyone i've dated despite how things may have ended. everyone comes into your life for a reason and than things end eventually. i'm kinda seeing this guy right now & i'm really happy that i know what it's like to be in a shitty relationship vs. a really awesome one because i appreciate the good guys when they come around. i also feel like i learned how to be less selfish & i calmed down a lot after dating one of my exes... i was reallly a piece of shit towards him but i really loved him ironically so when he broke up with me i promised myself to be a better partner in the future when i met someone i really liked.

LolaB28 · Accepted Answer

All of my exes are crap! I am friends with two of whom I dated in high school. I did learn that I'm not doing to date a man who doesn't have a job because that means he will financially dependent me like the last three guys I dated. I also learned that if a guy says he's not looking for a relationship and just wants to be friends with benefits that he means that and there's no point in waiting around trying to change his mind. I wasted three pathetic years on a guy thinking that he would want to be with me. I am glad I went through what I went through because I know what I don't want and I'm not going to give just any old dude a chance.

YeahImaGirl · Accepted Answer

3. One was gay (I learned from that a lot haha), one was what I consider my first love (since the gay one was obviously gay from the start), and my newest ex... the one that I cheated on and broke his heart. From the last two I've learned a lot. Never fall in love with a man on the opposite side of the world, and never accept someone's heart if you know you don't want it anyways.

Anonymous · Answer

I've only had two. (I only go out with people that I have full feelings for) Yes I have definitely learnt from these...

I have learnt that I go for the wrong sort. I get mixed up with manipulation and controlling with flirting and charm due to the strong feelings I develop for them...

I think it definitely has made me a better person because despite true humiliation one of them caused and also the other controlling me, I made it through and have become so much stronger than I could ever be.

There fore I can now focus on myself and find hopefully someone who won't do that to me.

Comawhite666 · Answer

3  I'd like to think I've learnt to become more tolerant and less jealous but until I get into another relationship I can't judge how true it is

Anonymous · Answer

have i learnt anything from the experience?:
yes, he left me after i told him i got pregnant (2 years ago)

do i think it made me a better person?:
yes and no. yes cuz i will know next time a boy pulls a stunt on me, and its given me more responsibility. no because I'm now taking care of a 2 year old child all by myself at age cuz my parents kicked me out of my house since they're not caring at all :/

Paris13 · Answer

Too Many to Count.
However, I still have a Husband out in Egypt and also Currently, I live with an "Ex" who still Marks an X in Both of our Hearts, but just Friends and Family Only.
That works for Me.
I have "Learned" I am More Wise by the Year, dear, with every Experience, no Matter Who it is with or What it is.
Good Luck. xx

JudgmentDay · Answer

NONE, can't have any exes if I never dated in the first place. Probably won't because I don't ever really see the point of being in any relationships or dating for myself. For those that have more than ten exes, it makes me wonder, how'd they keep going and how did they ever manage to get in that many different relationships with that many people in the first place?

MaelaK · Answer

One.
I really learned a lot, perhaps not so much on relationships but on interactions and manipulation in general. (It was an abusive relationship) and I learned a lot on myself as well.
It made me better, in the sense that it made me wiser and stronger.

Barrabus_the_Free · Answer

16-20. I think. Might be higher.

I've learned a lot, yeah, but whether it's made me a better person depends greatly on how one measures such things, and on who is doing the measuring. I'm sure there are people that would say I'm much better than I was when I entered high school. I'm equally certain there are people who would say I was a better person back then. *I* like the now-me better than the back-then-me, and that's what matters.

OjosOscuros2 · Answer

Just 1. Made me realize that I shouldn't have forced anything that wasn't there. I was too young to be ready for a huge commitment. I decided to be single for a while until I grew up. Few years later I met the person that would become my husband. Things happen for a reason. I do think the way I handled it made me a better person.

Prettygurl12 · Answer

I have two. If you want to count the 6th grade boyfriend and the 9th grade boyfriend lol

vishna · Answer

3, I don't want anymore:c I want to settle down soon and get married

kaylaS91 · Answer

I have one ex.
Have I learned anything from that experience? Sure. I learned to trust my gut instincts or at least not dismiss them right away. As well as a bit of a clearer idea of what I do want and will/won't tolerate in a future partner.

Lelaila · Answer

I have 1 ex and I learned from it. I have learned to say no and that someone is good for me when they don't make me uncomfortable or feel like I have to be quiet all the time.

Kitten967 · Answer

3 exs. I learnt not to trust people that easy and to ask for help if I need it. Not sure if it made me a better person or not

randomhobo · Answer

Four exes. I've learnt nothing from them apart from that i am probably asexual or at the least aromantic.

BiPolyAlan · Answer

Let's see... 4.
1. First girlfriend
2. First boyfriend
3. The girl who moved far away
4. The woman who couldn't make up her mind

Happily married now (and poly, so who knows who I might meet in the future 😊)

Anonvanessa · Answer

Eh 3-5 can't remember. All I remember was they turned out to be garbage, or idiots. Though, I learned a lot and to always value myself at the highest point possible, and if they can't respect me the heck with them.

marblefallsxoxo · Answer

Every relationship teaches you how to be better in the next one. Be smart and learn quickly, so you can be successful in the next one.

HOAAH · Answer

Zero exes, only a husband for the last 7.5 years and yes I have learned a lot and it has made me a better person

Anonymous · Answer

I have had 20 previous sexual relationships but 13 of them were 32+ years ago.

torken · Answer

I've had way too many.  Each person I've dated has taught me something about myself and also about the type of girl I'd like to be with forever, so in a way, I don't regret any of them.

KingsDaughter01 · Answer

Omg I said 2 and I've only had 1. I guess I feel like the one I'm with currently I may be losing. Guess I just decided it without even thinking. :(

ShaunaM95 · Answer

I have two. I learned an awful lot from both experiences. Like what I want and don't want in a partner.

Annewill82 · Answer

1 ex and he barely even counts. That situation taught me a lot about myself good and bad, how to treat someone properly, want not to tolerate, etc.

JustinTheGreat · Answer

I have only had a few REAL relationships. But I've had soooo many relationships that lasted like 2 weeks and that I don't count. So if I counted all those exes it's probably like 15-17

I_am_imPaulsive · Answer

Been dating since I was 11. I had more than 10 relationship in the past, but I've only really been in-loved twice

MrWolf · Answer

You're all Saints compared to my numbers. Let's just say they are much more then 50+ And i don't count one-night stands. For real no honesty here lol.

dylanthe13 · Answer

2 exes and yes i learn a lot especially with the previous one. I'll make myself better for my current relationship.

Carley99 · Answer

I've had 6 and I've learnt a lot form all of them they are one of the reasons why I'm as mature as I am today.

sophieegm · Answer

Would you call a guy who kind of dated for a week an ex?

rjroy3 · Answer

3 serious relationships that had the potential of marriage. 10 exes overall, then there are girls I dated but was never my girlfriend

Matti_Jr · Answer

If I hit a 100, I'd host a massive party and invite them all to it to celebrate my achievement.

madhatters4 · Answer

i've had 5 ex's. yes i think every relationship positively impacts you in some way.

valeriewen · Answer

definitely painful but the best life teachers to me

NyomiMcClinton · Answer

2 that I consider that I was in a serious relationship with.

meganz621 · Answer

definetly believe it matured me and i came out differently

EmpatheticLady · Answer

I have one ex. I learned a lot in that eight year relationship.

TheBeeBookworm · Answer

I had one. But it wasn't really an ex... since it was long distance and we never went out. After four years of not seeing each other, I caught him looking at another girl's ass when he came to my college for a visit. Smh.

Anonymous · Answer

7 exs. And absolutely. Learned so much it kind of scares me! But in a good way. I think I'm better now and it's helped me rely on myself more.

realperson02 · Answer

2 and a half. learned a lot from it . by the way i think I'll faint by seeing the number of exes of some girls on this question.

Anonymous · Answer

Like... not that many. But enough where it suffices to learn. I learnt that I have to do things for myself and take it at my own pace.

Mihikko · Answer

3, I become wiser in choosing my Mr. Right. I know its bad comparing exes but then just keep reminding my self to use brain first before your heart :)

jacquesvol · Answer

I learned a lot but I lost them, can't find them back

RedThread · Answer

I have a few. I've learned a bunch of lessons through them.

Words_and_Wisdom · Answer

None. Because I never had a girlfriend in the first place.

Aristotle · Answer

Over the course of my entire life.. uh... 5 I think

Anonymous · Answer

I only had 2 ex boyfriend. it took 1month each. it hurt me a lot because they found someone new.

Anonymous · Answer

One ex-husband, five ex-boyfriends. I wish I went out with my second husband much sooner.

OrdinaryGentleman · Answer

About 2, technically 8 but 2 were only serious long term relationships.

ChocEyes1 · Answer

Quite a bit if you consider friends with benefits and hookups. None if you mean actual girlfriends

timidmale · Answer

None, look at me, what girl is gonna want a guy like me?

Anonymous · Answer

It made my depression become severe. But I'm all good now. We're Facebook friends

theonechick2203 · Answer

I have 4 exes and I believe every one of them helped me.

Anonymous · Answer

12. That's not how many I've slept with just every person I said yes too. I learned a lot.

abnormalchica · Answer

None! :)

WalrusRoyale · Answer

I don't have any. I've never been in a serious relationship.

TrippyKid · Answer

I have 3 lol I appreciate them all though taught me a whole lot

ashish2ash · Answer

yeah ofc. that's the only thing for which we can show gratitude for.. teaching us so much

Musicismysoul · Answer

I've never dated.

Aesgaliel · Answer

Never been in a relationship

wisdom_sharer · Answer

"Having exes" sounds weird. :D

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