Can you ask a girl what her measurements are on tinder?

[Anonymous]

Something that really annoys me about tinder is that so many girls only post their faces on their pictures so you cannot really see their body type. Obviously, like majority of guys I like curvy girls. Small waist, big ass, wide hips, curvy figure.
Is it okay to ask about a girls measurements, waist and butt, to get an idea of how curvy she is?
I mean, it is pretty common that girls ask the guy his height if he doesn't post it, so then it should be okay for a guy to know their curvyness?

[Anonymous]

I feel like a girl asking for height is not the same as a guy asking for hips, butt, and those kind of measurements. Now if a girl asked how big a guy's junk is that's more on the same level, and that's still shallow as well. It's just some stuff you don't ask. Like one of the other comments said that's shallow. I had a guy one time ask me what my bra size was and I told him it was none of his business. I'm not telling any guy that kind of stuff personal stuff. I can't speak for all girls but I wouldn't want a guy asking me about that kind of stuff. Focus on my personality or things to get to know me. That's what I do with a guy I like. Physical is only part of the attraction and personality should make up the other part.

[Asker]

I get what you're saying but I disagree. The bottom line is that it has to be a two way street. When a girl asks me how tall I am, she only does it to verifiy that I meet her preferences. Like I am 5'10, so if a girl is 5'9 or taller she probably will want a guy who's much taller than me, so then by asking she doesn't waste both our time. And just as she has her preferences, I have mine. I like curvy girls, with small waists, big butts and wide hips and I dont want to waste my time showing up to a date and finding out she doesn't have those things just as a girl wouldn't want to show to for a date with a guy much shorter than she wants

[Opinion Owner]

I can see where you're coming from with both parties wanting to ask things to see if the person fits their preference. It's ok to have a preference I just don't think I along with other girls would feel comfortable telling a guy they don't know about hips and butt measurements I wouldn't. To each is own, but if you want to know that stuff ask the girl to send a full body picture. That to me would be better than asking for measurements of that stuff.

[Asker]

Yea I see but, then I guy could also be stubborn and say that he doesn't feel comfortable telling a girl his height. And pictures can often be misleading when it comes to angles, lighting, clothing etc. I've had experiences with girls dressing certain ways to make their butt look bigger than it actually is. It'd be like me sending her a picture standing next to 5'6 guy making me look tall. I think its better if we all except that the dating world is very shallow and just lay all our cards on the table.
by the way what would be your opinion on instead of asking for actual measurements just asking if she has a thick, curvy body type and a big butt?

[Opinion Owner]

Me I guess I can't grasp the concept of asking people for measurements since I don't date online. I usually meet people at school or work, in person basically. Not to say it's anything wrong with dating apps and stuff. Dating can be shallow depending on the person or people involved. I feel like personality should outweigh physically. In high school, I thought tall guys were attractive, not to say that I wouldn't date a short guy at all. The guy I'm seeing now, he's my height and I'm still crazy about him, he's also younger than me and I said I'd never date someone that was 3 years younger. So preference sometimes goes out the door when you meet someone special. As far the last part of your question, that's still too direct asking a girl that stuff. It's almost like if you want to have a girl with those specific physical characteristics then you'd have to meet her in person instead of trying to find all that out online.

[00Jayce00]

Maybe instead of asking for measurements, ask for a simple picture that shows her in full figure. She may feel less "attacked" if you ask to see her rather than ask for her measurements because she'll easily know you're going to judge her size and she'll back out due to that. Also you can ask for measurements and she could lie or you may not be able to put the pieces together or you may expect a curvy girl because of the measurements but instead be met by a girl who is more heavy than curvy... if you know what I mean. A picture can't lie.

[cinderelli]

ask for a full body pic instead , and if you still wanna know her height or something just be nice , like let's say she seems tall , say something like '' oohh you seem really tall, how tall exactly are you?'' and if she's short then give her a compliment on something else and then switch to '' what's your height?'' she'd still be blushing with the compliment and wouldn't be offended or something.. that's just my advice.. I don't have experience with this

[BertMacklinFBI]

*rolls eyes*

[cinderelli]

@BertMacklinFBI do you have a better opinion? or you're just here to roll eyes like a bitch 😂 😂

[KaseyRouqe]

Lol I guess it should be fine to ask. But keep in mind that your height is something you know from the top of your head. Some girls might get upset because they might think your superficial. Again I think there is anything wrong with asking, but that's what some girls might think.

[cavmanier]

If we weren't superficial, why would we post portraits on tinder? I know what you mean by they wouldn't want to feel like they need to be attractive.

[KaseyRouqe]

@cavmanier I'm not saying there is anything wrong with that. Honestly I think there should be some physical attraction in relationships. I like making myself attractive for myself not to receive other people's approval. Of course looks shouldn't be important, but if you aren't physically attracted in the slightest before actually getting to know the person, I don't think a relationship would work. I'm just letting you know what might go through a girl's mind if you are asking for specifics. You might come out as superficial or picky.

[cavmanier]

I don't understand why many people think looks or being sexually attracted to a person isn't important.

[Barrabus_the_Free]

If they only post their face, you know they're fat.

If she doesn't have pics of her body, you can safely swipe whichever way it is for NO.

[cavmanier]

Yeah I think it's okay. Of course a lot of girls probably won't like feeling pressure to have an appealing shape.

[mermaid175]

women will not give you those numbers without unmatching you. that's a big area of insecurity so proceed with caution...
I don't need to know exact height or whatever other number guys include in profiles, if anything that hurts your chance.

[Blonde401]

You can ask. Enjoy being unmatched though. I don't think asking height is fair either TBH.

[ShaunaM95]

I mean you could ask if you're okay with being unmatched by the majority of the women.

[estoydorado1]

That makes sense or ask for a full body pic, so you can see the proportions yourself. I'd be way too lazy to compare and visualize measurements if I were you lol.

[SarahsSummer]

Sure, guys height same as a girls body measurements SMH.

[Asker]

Height is a body measurement so it is the same, how could it not be? Obviously when a girl asks me how tall I am she does it for the sole purpose to verify that I meet her preferences, there's absolutely no other plausible explanation. And if a girl is 5'10 or taller she'd probably not want to date me since I'm 5'10 so she would ask in order to not waste her time. So if women can bring up their preferences then why can't I. Why dont I have the right to verify that she meets my preferences before putting in the time of meeting up?

[SarahsSummer]

You can bring up any incoherent, illogical or ignorant analogy you want. It's a free country.
But in case you want some knowledge, a girl will ask your height to know how you'll look next to her in relation to HER HEIGHT... with heels on. Should girls ask what size pecks and cock you have or just whether it's a six pack, eight pack or keg on your stomach?

[Asker]

Exactly she's asking to verify that I meet her requirements. I dont care about height, I'll date a girl thats taller, shorter, same, doesn't matter. But I do care about curves. So why can she have preferences and the right to know them beforehand but I cant?

[Asker]

Dont pretend that girls dont have height requirements, and a girl would be asking just for the fun of it. Studies have shown that if you meet the magical 6 foot benchmark you should flaunt it because women are drawn to it. Girls have their requirements, and us guys have ours. Thats how it works, its a two way street. Woman are attracted to tall, broad, muscular men and guys are attracted to curvy, thick girls with big boobs and childbearing hips and big butts. I dont understand how its alright for girls to be open about their biological preferences but not for guys.

[SarahsSummer]

Open up all you want. If fact that's encouraged on dating sites Tell the women of tinder what you prefer. Problem solved. No need for a girl to list her measurements. But stop being so butt hurt you're not 6' tall. That's not attractive to anyone.

[Bleh-___-]

It's the same thing as making it mandatory for all men to include their penis size in their bio. Everyone's gonna lie.

[Anonymous]

I would roll my eyes, you guys don't even know how measurements work...
Like you would say a girl with measurements of 35-28-39 is curvy, but then when you see her in real life you would say she is fat. 😒

[kiki631]

You can, absolutely... but will it make you sound like a shallow douche, absolutely.

[Asker]

But then why do girls often ask me for my height. I dont ever post my height, not that i am ashamed of it I'm average. But to me its like if she brings up her preferences then why can't I bring up mine?

[Anonymous]

NO! Message her and see if you like her personality first, then from there if you do like her you should meet *for a nice luch date in public or something similar* or at the very least be friends on spcial media where you can judge that. But NEVER ask for measurements. EVER.

[Asker]

But if she asks for my height, then why can't I ask for her measurements. If she brings up her preferences then why can't I bring up mine?

[oboeyoudidnt]

I mean asking exact measurements would be kinda weird- no girl takes measurements like that.
Asking to see her body is diff. Like for a full body shot

[rgb008]

She will most likely get triggered and lie.
Beware.

[SaltAndLime]

You can ask, but they may not share. Maybe ask what their body type is instead?

[fsu19]

Girls who have good bodies will post a full body picture. The ones that don't usually won't.

[daremetwo]

Oh unlike the blue anon guys on GAG?
To scared to even post a user name?

[Anonymous]

Yes u can ask but some will get offended by these _ind of questions

[Asker]

I dont get offended when girl ask for my height. I am 5'10, so obvisouly if a girl is really tall she may not want to go out with me, and both of us dont waste time. Most girls like taller guys and most guys including myself likes curves, with small waist and big butt. Nothing wrong with that.

[Miss_Taken]

Rather ask for a full body photo

[Anonymous]

Maybe... no.

[Asker]

If she can ask my height, I can ask for her measurements. Two way street.
Most girls like guys that are tall, or at least tall compared to them. Most guys like girls that have small waist, big ass and curves.

[Opinion Owner]

Measurements is way different than height.

[Asker]

Actually they are not because height is also a measurement.
And the principle is exactly the same. When a girl asks how tall I am she does it to verify that I meet her preference. I am 5'10, so obviously if a girl is 5'9+ she'll want a really tall guy and by asking and finding out she doesn't waste her time. And just like she prefers taller guy I prefer curvy, big booty girls. I have just as much right to have my own preferences and getting to verify whether a girl meets those, just as she has does to me.

[Opinion Owner]

True, it's just that some girls don't feel comfortable telling.

[Asker]

I'm sure they dont, just as some guys wouldn't feel comfortable telling their height. Dating is shallow af. And girls can't expect that to be able to judge guys by height and muscles and not have guys judge them back by boobs and butt. Its a two way street.
I have accepted that some girls won't date me because they think I am too short. Similary girls need to accept that some guys won't date them if they have small boobs or small butt, no curves etc. By being direct nobody wastes their time.

[Opinion Owner]

So you're looking to date someone for looks only? That's what it sounds like.

[Asker]

Nobody is looking to date for looks "only". First I need to know that she fits my physical requirements. If she does then I can take her out and get to know. If I like her personality as well and we're compatible then we I am willing to start a relationship with her. If I dont like her personality I'll keep it very short. And I think everybody approaches dating this way.

[Asker]

Are you telling me you dont care about looks. You wouldn't have a problem with showing up to a date with a guy you met throught tinder and finding out he was 5'1 and skinny? Would you not date want to know beforehand?

[Opinion Owner]

I would like to know what he looks like, but I'd rather have a really nice guy who's short and helpless looking than a really cute guy who's terrible.

[Nahid1234]

Yes you can do that