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Should I let my boyfriend stay with his female friend for the weekend? (Page 2)
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I looked at your updates I'm so pleased to hear he told her about you and that you get to go too! It really shows he has nothing to hide. I agree it can be a bit uncomfortable with the idea of your spouse visiting and staying with the opposite sex especially if its JUST them two. However it really depends on how he is as a person, if he's genuine and doesn't have many friends of course encourage it. But its nice to know he's thinking of you and your feelings too! Yay!
I think it is okay for your boyfriend to catch up with her ever so often, but I definitely would not want him to stay the weekend. You should ask to be introduced to her sometime so this girl is not a complete stranger. Talk to him about how maybe you are okay with him visiting her just to hang out with her for a few hours, but you really are not comfortable with him staying the whole weekend with her. Also I would definitely ask him if you could meet her and if he could introduce you to her.
The situation doesn't sound too terribly suspicious. No real red flags are coming up, for me. However, it's totally natural that you feel uncomfortable with it, and I think he should respect that. Would he be okay with you spending the night with a male friend? I'd be surprised if the answer is yes. Maybe he can invite you to go along, or she can come to visit him instead and you can be there- that would make it all a little less weird.
This girl didn't even know about you? Okay, NOW I'm seeing a red flag. But it sounds like he is addressing it in a reasonable way, so at least there's that.
sounds like the best compromise is to just have him make the friend aware of you and your relationship with him before he goes. I'd personally be offended even if it were a male friend and he wasn't willing to talk about his relationship... especially if the nature of their friendship includes him helping her through breakups.
i think you are in danger... in danger of letting your own insecurities get in the way of a good honest relationship. i dont see why he hasn't told her about you yet but im sure he plans too from the way he has been so honest with you. its obviously just a brother sister type friendship but if you start saying he can't see her then you will most likely be the one he stops seeing.
i dont think you have anything to worry about then
With updates in view, I applaud your mature handling of this situation that most can't match. I do believe that sterling characters will be stand up guys and wean friends, side-chicks, et al. from sharing too much of what is becoming a relationship (to you) on their own terms, timeline and SOP management styles w/o an SO hampering their style and esp. no ultimatums.
As they say, if they are really yours, no risk in letting them go at times for they will always return to you.
I am just here for the courage of saying if my girlfriend (if i had one) wanted me to stop having female friends or deny simple hangouts with them, then i rather end the toxic relationship than risking friendship. Go downvote me y'all. I know my values.
Let him visit but if when he comes back he still hasn't told her he has a girlfriend then break up with him. It's odd that he hasn't told her. Who doesn't tell their friends? They shouldn't be getting drunk to hang out.
I'm sure she'd respect it and not get drunk if she knew he was taken
Yay, glad y'all are meeting!!
You're not being unreasonable. This girl might have made the invite and made assumptions about things, all because this guy wasn't man enough to tell her he was in a relationship now.
I wouldn't like it. How would he like it if it was reversed
Does he give you tons of attention? Is he sweet often? Does he surprise you and make you feel like a queen?
If yes to all of that then you have no need to worry. In fact, even if they are hooking up, it's strictly a physical thing. Remember that his body is his and your body is yours. If you're number 1 in his life and it absolutely shows in the way he treats you, then worry nothing about what he does with her =]
How ironic, Im in a new relationship & I have a female best friend from college that lives 2 hours away!
Please trust him & let him go!
This question should be changed to:
"Should I let my boyfriend cheat with his female friend for the weekend?"
Projecting, aren't we?
I'm just being honest. Cheating happens a lot in the generation. Why open the door for it?
Because relationships should be built on mutual trust and understanding? Cheating always happened, it's just more visible now thanks to social media. And if you don't trust your partner, why even be with him?
I get what you're saying, but if you open the doors to cheating it will happen. How do we know this girl isn't someone he used to have sex with from time to time. If you had a girlfriend and she used to have sex with her male friend before she met you... would you let her spend the night at her male friend's house? I know a lot of people who are still friends with their former friends with benefits. Even if they are not willing to cheat on you, all it takes is one drunken mistake...
You're only opening the doors to cheating if you automatically think it's cheating. Just because you give him a chance to cheat, doesn't mean that he will. And yeah I would let my girlfriend spend a night at her male friends house if I had one, because I would trust her. If she cheats, win for me, I'll know she's a bitch and ditch her. If she doesn't, win for us both. But when you commit to someone and go into a serious relationship, you should always trust them, until they give you a good reason not to.
Depends on whether she wants to fuck him. Men are simple creatures.
I would express my concerns but not necessarily stop him from going, see what he says :) how long have you been together?
No. But it may be the end of your relationship. You decide which is more important- your terms or his. Is there anyway to compromise? Can you go too?
Ask yourself this. Is she hot?
Yes... dont let him go
No... don't let him go
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This whole thread makes me mad. How many times have girls told me they can't hang out with me because they have a boyfriend and they don't think it would be appropriate.
it's all up to you baby but I've got girlfriend if I spend the weekend with them I know what will happen
At the age of 61, probably Scrabble.
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Thanks for the opinion. Your beard is epic sir.