What is the best way to approach a girl on Tinder?
What Girls Said 25
Be original and different! Ask about a photo they have or make a funny joke to them. I had a photo up of me abit sunburnt and a guy made a joke/compliment saying "Nice sunburn 😛" I just laughed it off and we still talk up to this day!
Dont use a pick up line or say hi cause you will get overlooked6
Notice something cute about her profile and ask her about it
Be clear with your intentions
Don't say something too sexual over text message unless you read the vibe that she's comfortable with it
The more comforted and relaxed you make her feel the more likely she is to give you her number and text you back.
Remember less is more, and that flattery is always a good gateway2
My opinion is having at least one picture of you alone that doesn't hide your face and another with full body, having a bio, when you're matched, don't take forever to message (i believe in whoever match us up message first), i dislike compliments in first message but you can gamble, i dislike the "hi how are you", really common, and question from bio is starting to bore me, i think having the conversation flowing and the questions interesting is good too, but that's just me lol1
Being funny is usually a good method. Funny guys are more memorable and make some girls feel more comfortable and open to conversation. Don't open with anything sexual. It's outputting. Find something witty to say that relates to her.6
By asking a random funny question?4
Don't just text her your phone number. Had that happen today.
ME: do I call, text or is this a booty call?
HIM: Thanks anyway.
Don't go OTT on compliments. Ask them to tell you a secret or something like that! Dig deeper than superficial shit1
You are a sexy billionaire looking for a wife and she is the one for you4
Say hello and maybe comment on something personal like you have nice eyes pretty smile leave it at that1
Messages... we always like the old fashioned approach.2
The best thing you can do in whatsoever is being yourself and to remember its not about if they'll like you is about you being okay if they don't1
In local supermarket1
Say hey " you are so pretty.😀🙆0
Maybe say hi to them
What Guys Said 90
I always open with something about their bio. Why?
(1.) Like 90% of men immediately jump to her looks ("hey beautiful") or ask if they'd like to fuck.
(2.) Many men don't even read the bios, let alone mention anything about them.
If a girl on Tinder is even somewhat serious, she'll have a bio that will be more specific than "swiped right for the dog". Women will usually out important details that they WANT you to know in the bio.
•Her school and major
•Relationship preference (casual or serious)
Messaging a woman either with a question or compliment involving one of these things will set you apart and capture her interest. Some examples I've used:
"You're studying to be a teacher? That's great! What do you want to teach after school?"
"You said you like reading, what are your favorite books? Mine is the Alchemist, I loved it for its many life lessons and sense of adventure!"
Something that shows you care more about her than her looks won't work with all women, but for those that are actually worth your time on that app, it is a good strategy.7
A guy I worked with over the summer gave me his tinder to message girls he matched with for the fun of it. One of the girls I messaged had in her profile she was looking for a guy to slap her ass and kiss her forehead, so I said that I'm the type of guy to slap her forehead and bite her ass, then I asked if she was wet yet. If you read most of the girls answers here you'd think that I'd committed an egregious error because I made things too sexual too quick and that she'd never respond, but she messaged back saying that I was funny.
Point is, there are girls on tinder that will appreciate and want sexualized messages from guys and there are those that want you to be all gentlemanly and shit. My advice would be to keep it lighthearted and fun, even if it is sexual in nature (that's probably why they're even on there in the first place). Be adventurous, don't be generic and timid. Don't play it safe. If she doesn't message back then its her loss. She probably couldn't have come up with anything better and you two likely wouldn't have gotten along anyways.0
I swipe everyone right and I'm lucky to get 1 match a week. Usually a fat, ugly girl with kids or a fake scam account. The few who aren't fat or fake never reply, or give me 1-2 word replies and then stop replying forever. Effervescent still, that's only like a 1/500 occurance. I'm not ugly either so it goes to show how lucky women are.1
There's not really a way unless you're naturally funny. Because some women hate one thing while another woman likes it. Chances are, you're gonna get ignored no matter what you say. Just don't be quick to hop to sex and know how to carry a conversation. Also, never have any expectation because most women are there to simply talk.2
Ask a question that is somewhat unique - "what is your favourite pizza topping/ice-cream flavour/karaoke song?". Then provide your answer - "if it helps mine is...".
This should engage them in conversation, giving you a chance to try and win them over.2
Saying something specific and unique to each girl from her profile thats not about her looks has gotten me a response nearly every single time. It allows me to express personality, be funny, and show that I'm going to be interesting and not the other 95% who want to jsut cut to the "can we bang yet?" question... I have literally gotten into long conversations leading to phone numbers talking about Toaster Strudel...
Thats another tip. Don't do it too fast and be as smootha s you can with the question, but get her number and get off the app for the vast majority of your interaction. Chattign on Tinder should be just the opener. If she is responding fast and you guys are going back and forth pretty quick you should have her number within an hour. Way more convenient and a step into the right direction for actually dating and setting a first meeting!2
Almost every little girl. on the app wants a guy that gives them. one lines.. if that's what you're looking for then give them what they want.. however if you want a relationship I suggest going somewhere else.0
Show her a picture of your dog. If you don't have one just take a picture of your friends dog and say it's yours. No wonder dogs are called the man's best friend.0
Tell her you'd drag your wang through a half mile of broken glass just to hear her fart through a walkie talkie. That tends to work for me.0
Funny, but also provocative joke that would make her want to reply. Then after 2-3 messages if she is returning with humor you can say something that compliments her, but also hits her ego. Like - Ohh you are actually funny, who would have thought. She will probably like, what do you mean i don't look like im funny, but you also complimented her, so she will take it lighthearted. Make sure you show that you have high opinion of yourself when arranging the date, if she is not free that day, you tell her when you are free, don't be like I'm always free, the date is the most important thing for me. Keep everything fun and short, 10 message exchanges each are more than enough.0
With a pun.0
Be casual and funny. Tinder is supposed to be casual so don't sound too serious.
Jokes are always a good way to start a Tinder conversation0
here's what i always say2
it depends, seems like pretty girls (like dayum hot) needs something very creative, and pref a pickup line of some sort. as they got x1999999 guys message them. tho a simple "Hi im hannibal, I was just wondering if your ticket system had a long answer time" might work. normal girls often work with a " Hi beautiful, how you doing". and some girls with a humor u can do some funny\nasty pickup lines like " Jeesus.. you are so beautiful i would drag my balls over a field of rusty nails full of ebola, run cross country and fight a bear only to smell the cock of the last guy you had sex with" 3/10 that i tried variations of that on laughed and we got well along, others thought me a supercreep 😅0
There is no way haha.2
Talk to her as a friend, get her likes and dislikes
Ask her if she has any hobbies , interests. Always
be gentlemen to her. Don't come on to her quickly,
take things at slow even pace.1
Maybe a girl can confirm this. But what i like to do is after weve matched i look at the profile description and start the ice breaker that way. Like one girl i knew was going to school to be a doctor. My family is full of them so i started with "i saw you're going to school to be a doctor. What field are you looking into?" it shows you read the profile and want to talk about more than just hook ups.1
You really just have to learn how to run a genuine conversation. Like,, try to get to know her better by asking good questions, not the ordinary "what is ur favorite color" bullshit.0
Really simple, if you want a relationship, dont. Tinder is filler with pump and dump girls that have incredibly high standards.0
Ask her what she wants0
Don't I'm trying to save you don't chat with no girls on them dating sites they will step on your heart2
Dick pics and a wagging-tongue gif.2
Everyone has their theories - I would just go a simple have a good profile yourself then check out her profile and ask her something about herself or one of her interests as an ice breaker0
Playfully tease her a bit by a joke or a comment that subtly indirectly says that she is not what you are looking for.
Ask her to describe the qualities that she is looking for in a mate, and then say sorry i don't have most of those
Both create some curiosity which is awesome. Most guys are too eager to please, do you have to do opposite to be unique.0
Be handsome if you're a guy. Be beautiful you're a girl.1
Don't send dick pics3
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