Well, I hate to burst yours and your family's bubble, but higher education doesn't mean they're educated on how to raise a family, manage career and relationships at the same time, maintaining and keeping a marriage, let alone stay married. The most educated are in my opinion, like the rich, are equally depressed and miserable as they have a very hard time connecting to people. It's understandable that you want somebody to relate to equally, but a person who doesn't have a college degree doesn't mean anything. You want somebody who is ambitious and understands the importance of an education. That sounds far more logical than how you're saying it and what your family is putting it. So what, with your family on that aspect. They lived their lives, you have to start living yours. As long as you're not involved with the wrong kind of person, doing all of the wrong things, you're ok. I wouldn't want to get involved with a person who doesn't have one either or seeks to go to college like myself. But one thing I cannot stand is a person who lacks ambition for the right reasons. If he doesn't have that or dreams, it's goodbye.
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I have to agree with most other people here. I'm at university and academia is extremely important to me but not even all of the people who are degree educated are intelligent, decent nor good people. So I can't judge non-graduates that way either.
If I dated a non-graduate who was still ambitious, successful and intelligent then I wouldn't judge them for not going. Some jobs don't require university so it's just not that important.
The fact that it is so important to you is bizarre since you acknowledge it doesn't make you smart nor decent - so why use it as a barometer of a good partner?
Yeah. It isn't a big deal to me. Having a degree doesn't make you any better of a lover than the next. Hell some of the highest paid, married men I know either didn't go to college at all, dropped out or only have diplomas. Ironically. Not that you should date because of someone's funds but many people value it.
For me it's the person that matters. Obviously I want them to want things out of life and have ambitions, but not everyone's ambitions are the same.
I hear you. here are a couple of thoughts. A recent study showed that right now getting a college degree does NOT guarantee you a job. But it does guarantee you some debt. Young people need to really look at what education will give them what they want from life. If it is a job or career maybe technical training is a better idea. The next part of that is automation is going to eliminate a lot of the "jobs" in the future. Choose your profession wisely.
The other thing is my Dad told me many years ago, that when I wanted to find a mate, to marry a waitress. She would appreciate what you can offer her. Does that mean I would be marrying below me? Not at all. But it does mean I can bring a higher level of income to her.
Definitely. Nothing special about college in my opinion. There are some top professions that traditionally haven't required college. There are also many degrees that are a complete joke. I judge someone based on their passion, their intelligence etc etc. Not because they studied cake decorating in college.
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I want a girl to be mature and responsible - I don't really care whether or not she has an associate's on her record. Besides, I'd be quite content becoming the sole provider if that's what we decided, at which point it wouldn't matter in the long run. Getting a degree shows responsibility and tenacity, sure, but there are other ways to see those character traits in someone. Some people start their own businesses with only a high school diploma and I would be remiss to ever speak ill-will of someone who managed that.
Going to college and having a degree doesn't always mean you are smart. Look at people like Bill Gates, Zuckerburg etc.
Also college is a waste of time, you spend your time, money and effort to get a degree then when you finish college you end up working a minimum wage job spending the rest of your life paying off college debt.
If for example you have a phd it does not mean you are guaranteed to get a job in that field once you graduate.Half the people in my college classes are idiots. They haven't left high school. They don't even show up for the classes, only the exams as if they're going to pass and if they show up to class they're either sleeping, playing video games, watching movies or laughing their asses off with their buddies.
there's nothing wrong with your decision. finding someone who was able and disciplined enough to finish college could mean a lot of great things about that person. :) But yeah, just as long as you know that it doesn't make anyone "better" than someone else. I dropped out of college to be able to help my mom when she was dealing with cancer. Who says my brother is a better person than me because he chose to stay away from us while getting his accounting degree? I already make more money than him because I've learned a lot of ways to make money investing. I can hold my own in ANY financial discussion and most other discussions as well. So, not sure what's wrong with people like me. But in the end, yeah you have a right to require whatever you want from potential spouses. Nobody should try and make you feel like a jerk for having standards.
I see absolutely no value in education, it was a waste of my time.
I care about intelligence and her being able to hold a meaningful conversation or at least be compatible with my level of intelligence.
School is mainly how well you can sum up facts others thought you to say, where intelligent people can figure things out for themselves without education.I'd be fine dating a girl without higher education. In saying that, I am a sapiosexual. If I can't have intelligent conversations with them, the relationship wouldn't last long. But they don't have to have gone to university to be intelligent. They may have equally ambitious goals outside of higher education.
Yes of course I would. Higher education is a joke these days. I don't have a college education, nor did I want one and I make great money will retire early. I wouldn't force my kids to go to college either. You're a very closed minded and not very tolerant individual.
Today higher education only means higher indoctrination towards being lesbian and hateing men and God alike. Equality is the bait that robs the cradle. Money and education have nothing to do with each other. Its an idea that creates the money , not the money that creates the idea.
I'd rather they just be smart than educated. I met all the most unintelligent people I've ever known in college lol
that makes sense... except for the fact that college doesn't actually make people smarter and earn more money.
Usually when you take 2yrs of college the gov't wastes your education with random learning crap you won't need.Trade school yes. College yes. University yes. Apprenticeship yes. Online classes yes. If they just had a high school diploma and were not entrepreneurs than no. Education is extremely important to me.
Going to college isn't for everyone. Earning a college degree doesn't guarantee a higher paying job. Are you going to select your husband based on his GPA also?
I have a high school diploma and yet I make well over $125,000 a year. I have more common sense and career experience. A degree had nothing to do with they type of person you are
College is simply a stepping stone to particular career paths, not a barometer of overall intelligence.
So yes is date a gal who didn't go to college.My husband doesn't have a degree, makes good money and climbing up the cyber career ladder. He just has a lot of certs and 8 years of experience in computers.
Yes i would, my parents never went to college, my dad is a mechanic and my mom is a hair stylist. They are living good so i don't find it THAT important to have a college degree.
Not all "smart" people go to college, if you think a higher education means you're a better person, you need a little more life experience
As long as they're intelligent, and have a descent job that's stable. No need for a degree in every circumstance
Date someone that has a job and doesn't have a ton of student loan debt for a degree they may never get to use? Sure, of course.
Having a degree doesn't mean they are intelligent and doesn't guarantee success in the work force either.Hell ya! I prefer a man who had to actually worked and had to be smart to become successful. Rather then a college kid who got a liberal degree and is now working as a server. Who the better man? The one who did it on his own too feet.
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