My girlfriend is insecure about being flat chested?

[Anonymous]

We went out to dinner and when we came back she said it bothered her that the waitress had bigger breasts than her. This isn't the first time she's said something like this either. Should I ask her if she wants implants? I'm considering it.

[Girl7150]

DON'T ask her that! That will totally make her insecurity worse.
Trust me, I have small boobs (I'm kind of fine with it though), and my boyfriend asked me that, and it made me feel terrible.

I'd say it's possible that she saw you stare at that waitress' breasts, and felt inefficient. Then when she says she want bigger breasts, it's because she wants you to make her feel better about the ones she has and say that you like her small breasts - NOT make her even more insecure by asking her if she wants implant. She definitely says it to make you compliment them and say that you think they are great the way they are, so do just that :)

[Asker]

Thanks, but I wasn't staring. I knew how she felt and thought that it would make matters worse if I did, so I did my best to control myself.

[Girl7150]

Good :)
But I'm sure she's just saying it because she felt less and wanted you to say that hers are great the way they are too

[btbc92]

Don't!!! Your just going to make it worse. That is an idiot move. Implants aren't healthy anyway. It will stretch her out and the cause problems. And the if she don y like it, it will forever alter her breast. Not smart. I keep telling girls they her body, let alone her breast is NOT worth a man's attention. If you love her for her, then it's not your problem. She has to stop with that mess and learn on her own to trust you. Your not with her for her breast in any shape or form. At least I hope not.

[Wubba]

NO. I'm also a member of the itty bitty titty committee and I once had an ex suggest it, offended me to the core. Just reassure her that you love her body exactly how it is and it doesn't matter at all if boobs are big or small they're just as amazing either way! Hey, little ones never sag haha

[queenlion]

Would u like her to get an implant? :) it's maybe just because of her insecurity but i guess it would be lessen if you make her feel love by complimenting her breast.

[Asker]

Only if she wants it, whatever makes her happy

[truthbeknown]

No, not yet. Keep complimenting then, pay attention to them. Let her know her breasts turn you on. However, some women will never be able to get that out of their head and will always feel like less of a woman because they have smaller breasts. Once it becomes a self confidence issue, you say something like, "Do you think augmentation surgery would make you feel better about yourself?" Put the question in her lap, don't let yourself be the fall guy for saying you want her to have implants.

[Tdieseler]

Don't all girls think that?
Does she have an ass? she better, can't be lacking in both areas.

Oh, dont encourage implants, they are stupid. Fix her insecurity, tell her you like em the way they are and only your opinion should matter. even if you are lying :)

[Asker]

Her butt is flat too

[Tdieseler]

oh hell no... she better have one hell of a personality then... hence why you should lie your ass off.

[Asker]

She does, and she's cute.

[Tdieseler]

well then, lie your ass off. tell her her strong points... not the weak ones..
she probably just needs you to "assure" her, thats why women tend to bring themselves down.
I've found you just tell em the opposite and seal it with "im the only one that matters"... and you get them back to puppy mode and they can shut up, just like you probably want...

[Asker]

It's weird though, her younger sister has both big breasts and an @ss, which doesn't help her feel any better

[Tdieseler]

Like I said... just tell her you don't care.

[Asker]

Will do, thanks.

[sidsw17]

No matter how much you tell her that she is fine the way she is and you love her for her she will probably not feel complete in herself if she feels she has smaller than the average size boobs, support her on what she is thinking re-assure her but ultimatley support her on decisions she may want to go for in the future, hopefully she will learn to love the body she has already and forget about any ideals of enlargement etc but support her is very important

[MisterD90]

a lot of women seem to insecure about breast size, just as guys are about dick size, personally I find that a smaller more natural size is more attractive as it brings a more feminine silhouette. Let her know that it shouldn't bother her and that you love her for who she is and that it shouldn't weigh heavy on her mind.

[Anonymous]

Why not tell her you love what she has. And show her. By offering implants you're confirming she's not good enough and needs to change. It could lead her to wanting to change more and never feeling pretty enough. Encourage her to be herself if you really care about her and her well being.

[Simba4]

compliment her, every chance of the day you get. You have to help her overcome her insecurity by telling her how much you appreciate them. Make it honest compliments.

[WiseTurtle]

asking her if she wants implants must be the last solution. First help her to fix insecurity because I guess it's not affecting only her chest right?

[Tdieseler]

hear hear

[Asker]

Well no, she's also mentioned how her butt is "as flat as a pancake".

[WiseTurtle]

your reply is paradoxal. Help her growing some confidence is like treating the insecurity issue from the roots.

[Asker]

It can be "paradoxical"but I'm not lying

[Tdieseler]

Turtle, i told him to just say only his opinion matter.

[WiseTurtle]

@Asker I don't say that you are lying I was just pointing that insecurity is affecting many things and not only one thing.
@Tdieseler Which means? I'm sorry but I didn't understood your reply.

[Tdieseler]

Gotta read my opinion Turtle... you'll get it.

[WiseTurtle]

@Tdieseler Oh yeah I totally agree with your opinion !

[Tdieseler]

can't count the number of times those lines have worked.

[WiseTurtle]

Sad they aren't token seriously.

[Anonymous]

Don’t ask her that cuz then it’ll only make her start questioning if you actually like the size of her breasts, if you want her to get implants, if you think she’d look better with implants, etc. I did something similar to my girlfriend and she got even more insecure about her chest size

[hunterzoloman655]

NO!!! don't ask if she wants implants it will make you seem shallow and like you think she's not beautiful without big breasts, instead you should ask her what her opions are about it

[NaultD]

Just drool over something that she has in spades legs, ass, skin.

[Anon85]

That's just going to reaffirm her insecurities. I'd recommend against that idea

[zagor]

It is sad that she is so insecure. I would work on her self-esteem instead of considering implants.

I can't imagine it bringing me down if a guy in the locker room has a bigger penis than me...

[beenthroughstuff]

I'm pretty flat-chested and I've learn to love it. It was something I was insecure about, but it's pretty easy not having to deal with the crap that comes along with having big boobs. She just needs to learn to accept them.

[Anonymous]

Don't let her base her self-esteem on boob size. Make sure that she does it because she wants to... not as a path to happiness... If she does, she will be even more miserable.

[GrayWhi2]

Just tell assure her you like her the the way she is

[Anonymous]

Yeah aak her if she wants