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I went out to eat with this guy and he was so rude to the waiter. Is this a red flag? (Page 2)
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That is honestly the biggest turn off to me. It means he doesn't have the patience to be kind to people, and thinks he's better than others.
Some waiters make us all mad. Normally they are the cheapest and dumbest labor. I don't get why should it be a red flag. You'll date the waiter instead or what?
he could be paying his way through a law degree for all you know
@wankiam well only a cheapest and a dumbest roughneck would've chosen the law school. There are hundreds of lawyers crying for no job exactly at this website.
ok if you say so. goodbye
I should be surprised but as a waitress I deal with people like you every single day. Waitressing is one of the hardest jobs you will ever do, and as someone who's done a bit of everything I can honestly say that.
Then there are cowards like you who like to bully people and aren't brave enough to do a job like that where you will get bullied all the time and get treated like you are worthless and doing a dirty job when all you are trying to do is make a little bit of money doing a job NOBODY wants.
Although I have to thank people like you... you have made me realize not all people are good, that the costumer isn't always right, and that some people are just assholes! I've learned to hold my own when someone yells at me, throws their drink at me or says the worst things to me just because the COOK messed up their order.
@Mimi1721 waitresses is a complete different story. And I don't bully anyone of them.
@Mimi1721 I mean I am tolerant to any kind of labor, waiters or waitresses. But there's couple of guys at a local italian restaurant who I really hate =D. I am not bullying anybody, again and don't like people who bullies them. Well, that's not a reason to break up with a guy, in my opinion.
Waiters are stupid but Waitresses are different? How so? What this is coming across is that you belittle other men and (more than likely) flirt with the waitresses... Just a creep are we?
How is being a waiter different? I see tons of waiters who do an awesome job. That's the most ridiculous thing I've ever heard!!!
@Silver158 waitresses are women and they are all kinda the same =D. And the waiters are f.. n well make me mad =D
Yes I get that waitresses are women and waiters are men, I just don't see the difference between how they do their job.
@Mimi1721 women are much better, well at least around our place. The men, are mostly boys, students, well they are as stupid as hell... I don't know, maybe it's region-specififc.
I guess that makes sense if the men around where you live are stupid... total sense now.
@Mimi1721 only the waiters. I know a couple, but honestly they are the only couple of waiters in the neighborhood. However, men are getting dumber everywhere except for our gym =D
Yes. At the very least it means he thinks he is better than someone else by virtue of his life experiences. Not a good match if you're a kind and reasonable person.
Yesss, when I go out on a date I pay attention to the guy to see if he's nice to the waitstaff. If he's nice, then he's a good guy ❤️
It's a huge red flag like it should be a deal breaker
That flag is not just red, it's on fire. I told my daughter, and I'll tell you, that the best indicator of a person's quality is how they treat people who can do NOTHING for them.
it's a huge red flag to me. shows how they view other people in general.
Yep, if they treat the public like that, imagine how they treat people in private.
Define rude?
Cause that is a little too ambiguous
People have their own measure of what rude is...
YES! People who treat service workers like shit ARE shit.
I think you know the answer as well as the rest of us.
I would think so. How he treats others is an insight to how he treats you.
very definitely a red flag. its one thing to complain if the service is bad but not to be rude.
It is a red flag. It matters not how you treat me, but how you treat the waiter.
Yes, it's a dead ringer. Seems nearly everyone here agrees too.
Yup, if people are rude to servers or anyone they might feel like are below them, it's a bad sign. Went on a date once and the girl was rude to the barista, went through with the rest of the date but never bothered to see her again.
If he's rude to someone serving him... What does that day about his character?
Yeah, if he's rude to someone then doesn't that count as a bad attitude and bad personality?
DUH YES
you're in line for some of this later on after he's mined you for what he wants
I agree with this guy here👆
I just hope she isn't one of those girls (of many) who get turned on by guys acting like dipshits. Seen this happen way too many times.
Yep that happens too, Those girls are brainless zombies! XD
Getting wet when they see a guy acting like my left nut
They think guys who act disrespectfully towards others is a sign of confidence (which it's really insecurity). Not all girls are this stupid, but too many are.
Yep that's why i said "those" girls, and yeah i agree with you
If there was no call for it, this is a definite red flag, yes.
What did he do, exactly?