Never. Not at all. In fact, some are like I wish I was single again.. etc but being in love is more beautiful.. but if the guy breaks up or anything, then you're prone to be sad.. so single is a win win situation. You are saved from the risk of emotionally drowning.
Because TV and socal media push unrealistic expectations of what it means to be 'successful' and 'happy' and too many people go with the flow right over the waterfall, because it's not comfortable being different all the time. People need to stop giving a crap about celebrities opinions on every little thing.
it's not, you just think it is because people around you also think it is... they're not thinking for themselves... there are times to be single and time to be in a relationship... having a girlfriend or boyfriend just because everyone says you should is literally... LITERALLY retarded
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I’m 27 and single. No kids either! Am I okay with this? Yes. Do I get lonely sometimes? Yes. But I mean I’m okay, it’s not like I’m dying to be with someone to the point where I will just settle with just anyone. But you know what I do notice? When my friends (who are all married with kids) ask me so when are you having kids or when are you gonna start dating someone I kinda feel like they are trying to tell me my time is running out to have kids... which does make me feel like shit /: lol
don't let them feel bad! you still have some time to settle down! besides.. it is better to wait and find the right person to be with than jump into something serious and have it crash down in a few years like most of peoples relationships now adays!
They're jealous :P No but seriously, I guess maybe people don't understand how someone can be happy with being by themselves. For me it's the best thing ever! You get to work with yourself, learn who you are, please only your own needs...
They want someone to share the same miseries and struggles they are going through, and if you're single throughout, they can't relate to you. Relationships aren't easy, it comes with much hard work and sacrifice, risks, and requires maintenance, if somebody isn't fully up for it, then don't even bother starting and getting involved in one. Some people don't get it and aren't willing to accept differences, but it all depends upon their views and their upbringing and how open minded they are in accepting differences from other different people than themselves.
It's probably because society thrives on the idea of couples. Everything sells if couples are involved. Chocolate, jewellery, flowers, clothes etc. Everything. Advertising is focused on it. So now we think we need to be in relationships all the time.
Wow awesome point. You are so right that society always throws this idea that everyone needs to be in a relationship and if your not in one clearly somethings up
Ugh, it shouldn't be. My parents, however, gives me crap because they want grandchildren and they know that, because of my faith, I won't have children until I'm married. They don't like having to wait
I can relate! It's very irritating. My mum can't have more children because her husband (who's not my biological dad) Produces weak sperms. So the baby won't survive pregnancy, and even if it does (which there's a very low chance) it will likely turn out to have disabilities.
And my mother is pretty much putting her dreams onto me and relying on me to bring the grandchildren quickly. I don't want to be a mother anytime soon (one day but not yet). And it triggers me off so much when she makes references to having grandchildren and all.
She's even got me ranting about it to a user on GAG 😫
I feel bad for your mom. It must be so disappointing to her that she can't have as many children as she wants. It's still not right for her to push this on you though. Your relationship with her must be shaken by this "responsibility" she put on you. How are you holding up?
I don’t look down on people who are single, especially those who can have almost anyone they want at almost any time. I look down on myself however for being single all my life at 25 by force. I wish I at least had options if I was to be satisfied with single life... and I’d say that applies with everyone else too. Being single isn’t looked down on, it’s undesirability sadly
Well it's not that it's looked down upon. It's just that for most (including myself), an ideal life is one that has love... someone to share experiences with... to laugh with, to converse with, to have sex with, to have a family and grow old with, etc. Being alone is depressing for most whether they admit it or not because we all desire that. It's hard to go against our instincts.
Well "looked down upon" is a big saying, but it's genreally because of a few things. The main two been the feeling that your 'not able to get anyone' and the second been that familly is rated very highly so when you don't have a partner people will question it.
I didn't know that singles are being looked down upon but if they did, it might be because people nowadays have nothing better to do than to be judgmental about other people who they don't even know. I am single since birth by the way
I think much of people’s perception that it’s looked down upon stems from being raised, ideally by a family, and if it was a single parent and your parents were divorced you were conditioned to feel it would of been better if they were together... that your friends with parents married had a superior family. So, I think part of it had to do with conditioning
Because we are a species that reproduces sexually. In other words, if you aren't mating, a) sooner or later you will run out of time and your genetic legacy will be reduced, b) it could be because people are rejecting you, which may be a sign that you are not an attractive (in the broadest sense of the word) mate.
Companies make money on you being in a relationship Parents wanting grand kids. Couples feeling threatened by a "loan wolf". Religious influence and attitudes about what sex should be about. Social norms - What's popular is often pushed as the standard. Desire by many women to have kids and be taken care of - That goes with marriage.
Its just society thats put this idea in people's heads that you're not an accomplished person unless you're in a relationship, have a career and own your house.. blah blah blah. I think people need to stop judging other people and let them live their lives the way they want to.
That depends on if you're single by choice or not. If you are, it's not a bad thing, but if you're not single by choice, you'll view singleness as bad in your own life, which you will then project onto everyone else's singleness too.
It not looked upon it’s rather us as individuals don’t like to be alone. We crave attention from others and that love feeling... the notion of really being wanted and needed by somebody who wants to share your life x
Who said so? I didn't get that memo, and I certainly would have SHREDDED it, if I had!! What's wrong with being single, and doing whatever you want? Ask people in unhappy marriages about being single, and see what they say!!
Not everybody pictures the view off being single upon down, being single means your strong enough to wait for what you deserve and it’s better then being in a false relationship.
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Never. Not at all. In fact, some are like I wish I was single again.. etc but being in love is more beautiful.. but if the guy breaks up or anything, then you're prone to be sad.. so single is a win win situation. You are saved from the risk of emotionally drowning.
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Because TV and socal media push unrealistic expectations of what it means to be 'successful' and 'happy' and too many people go with the flow right over the waterfall, because it's not comfortable being different all the time. People need to stop giving a crap about celebrities opinions on every little thing.
it's not, you just think it is because people around you also think it is...
they're not thinking for themselves... there are times to be single and time to be in a relationship... having a girlfriend or boyfriend just because everyone says you should is literally...
LITERALLY retarded
I’m 27 and single. No kids either! Am I okay with this? Yes. Do I get lonely sometimes? Yes. But I mean I’m okay, it’s not like I’m dying to be with someone to the point where I will just settle with just anyone. But you know what I do notice? When my friends (who are all married with kids) ask me so when are you having kids or when are you gonna start dating someone I kinda feel like they are trying to tell me my time is running out to have kids... which does make me feel like shit /: lol
don't let them feel bad! you still have some time to settle down! besides.. it is better to wait and find the right person to be with than jump into something serious and have it crash down in a few years like most of peoples relationships now adays!
They're jealous :P No but seriously, I guess maybe people don't understand how someone can be happy with being by themselves. For me it's the best thing ever! You get to work with yourself, learn who you are, please only your own needs...
They want someone to share the same miseries and struggles they are going through, and if you're single throughout, they can't relate to you. Relationships aren't easy, it comes with much hard work and sacrifice, risks, and requires maintenance, if somebody isn't fully up for it, then don't even bother starting and getting involved in one. Some people don't get it and aren't willing to accept differences, but it all depends upon their views and their upbringing and how open minded they are in accepting differences from other different people than themselves.
It's probably because society thrives on the idea of couples. Everything sells if couples are involved. Chocolate, jewellery, flowers, clothes etc. Everything. Advertising is focused on it. So now we think we need to be in relationships all the time.
Wow awesome point. You are so right that society always throws this idea that everyone needs to be in a relationship and if your not in one clearly somethings up
Ugh, it shouldn't be. My parents, however, gives me crap because they want grandchildren and they know that, because of my faith, I won't have children until I'm married. They don't like having to wait
I can relate! It's very irritating. My mum can't have more children because her husband (who's not my biological dad) Produces weak sperms. So the baby won't survive pregnancy, and even if it does (which there's a very low chance) it will likely turn out to have disabilities.
And my mother is pretty much putting her dreams onto me and relying on me to bring the grandchildren quickly. I don't want to be a mother anytime soon (one day but not yet). And it triggers me off so much when she makes references to having grandchildren and all.
She's even got me ranting about it to a user on GAG 😫
I feel bad for your mom. It must be so disappointing to her that she can't have as many children as she wants. It's still not right for her to push this on you though. Your relationship with her must be shaken by this "responsibility" she put on you. How are you holding up?
I don’t look down on people who are single, especially those who can have almost anyone they want at almost any time. I look down on myself however for being single all my life at 25 by force. I wish I at least had options if I was to be satisfied with single life... and I’d say that applies with everyone else too. Being single isn’t looked down on, it’s undesirability sadly
Well it's not that it's looked down upon. It's just that for most (including myself), an ideal life is one that has love... someone to share experiences with... to laugh with, to converse with, to have sex with, to have a family and grow old with, etc. Being alone is depressing for most whether they admit it or not because we all desire that. It's hard to go against our instincts.
Well "looked down upon" is a big saying, but it's genreally because of a few things. The main two been the feeling that your 'not able to get anyone' and the second been that familly is rated very highly so when you don't have a partner people will question it.
I didn't know that singles are being looked down upon but if they did, it might be because people nowadays have nothing better to do than to be judgmental about other people who they don't even know. I am single since birth by the way
Me too. Are you ready to mingle?
through the net? Nah. And besides, i am super boring.
No you're not, dear Social Butterfly. I like girls who think they're 'boring'
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I think much of people’s perception that it’s looked down upon stems from being raised, ideally by a family, and if it was a single parent and your parents were divorced you were conditioned to feel it would of been better if they were together... that your friends with parents married had a superior family. So, I think part of it had to do with conditioning
Because we are a species that reproduces sexually. In other words, if you aren't mating, a) sooner or later you will run out of time and your genetic legacy will be reduced, b) it could be because people are rejecting you, which may be a sign that you are not an attractive (in the broadest sense of the word) mate.
*your genetic legacy will be diminished
There’s a general (incorrect) perception that you can’t be happy alone.. that unless you have a companion, you will be lonely and therefore, unhappy.
There’s also a social “norm” that says when you share your life and lie’s experiences, you ARE happy... and to a great extent that’s true.
Companies make money on you being in a relationship
Parents wanting grand kids.
Couples feeling threatened by a "loan wolf".
Religious influence and attitudes about what sex should be about.
Social norms - What's popular is often pushed as the standard.
Desire by many women to have kids and be taken care of - That goes with marriage.
Its just society thats put this idea in people's heads that you're not an accomplished person unless you're in a relationship, have a career and own your house.. blah blah blah. I think people need to stop judging other people and let them live their lives the way they want to.
That depends on if you're single by choice or not. If you are, it's not a bad thing, but if you're not single by choice, you'll view singleness as bad in your own life, which you will then project onto everyone else's singleness too.
It not looked upon it’s rather us as individuals don’t like to be alone. We crave attention from others and that love feeling... the notion of really being wanted and needed by somebody who wants to share your life x
Who said so? I didn't get that memo, and I certainly would have SHREDDED it, if I had!! What's wrong with being single, and doing whatever you want?
Ask people in unhappy marriages about being single, and see what they say!!
Not everybody pictures the view off being single upon down, being single means your strong enough to wait for what you deserve and it’s better then being in a false relationship.
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