He could get those with me !
But he loves you. This is absolutely NOT the same. You are a very special person. Reserved for his loving feelings. Sexting targets are disposable pseudo-personas, same value as the kleenex he uses after jerking off.
I don’t care. I don’t appreciate it. Why should he get my sex and my attention and my loyalty, when he doesn’t offer it back?
He doesn't? So what is your relationship all about then? You have no sex with him? He isn't paying attention? You are sure he loves you?
I wanted sex with him, more than he wanted it with me. That’s his fault.
It's nobody's "fault". In the worst case it's an incompatibility. In the best case you have an option: Men do not appreciate to be called for sex. Some do, but I tink most don't want this. They have a different physiology and psyche. They also need an erection in contrast to women who don't need anything to be able to have sex. You have to understand that.If he has to be the one to start, he might will become different. But if you are constantly demanding it can turn him off. So find out if this is the case. Don't ask him. Let him decide. If the frequency goes up after a few weeks you are on the right track. If not he is most probably a sexual dud.
Very true! He told me “i thought you would never find out and i could move past it”
For people who sext, it tends to be curiosity and maybe boredom with the hum drum of everyday life that makes sexting an attractive distraction. The need to feel desired can be a big motivator too. One of the main problems when sexting happens outside of the relationship is that you find it has a different meaning for each of you.
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@Being_a_good_Indian thank you!
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I don’t know. He said “we were going through a rough time, and i was weak”. And he said “this girl i sexted, she was an escape from all the stress you were causing me. I was miserable being around you”. If he was miserable he could have told me, or left. Yes, we went through a rough patch and i wasn’t always happy either, and his actions and inactions stressed me out too. But, i did not cheat on him.
Do you know her? Sounds like he's using some excuses to cheat. He might do it with other girls too soon. This is just the beginning.
I know who she is. I have had my suspicions about her for a while. he always denied everything. Made me seem i was overreacting.
I just asked him. He said “i sexted her when it was miserable to be around you”. That is messed up !!
That's not an excuse. There is no excuse.
@hasrett Agreed! There is no excuse for this. It is CHEATING!
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What do you mean?
You give me your opinion, why do you think your boyfriend is sexting another girl? Any guesses?
Because he’s a jerk and doesn’t know how to deal with relationship issues. And he had a HUGE ego. Which is true, he’s an insecure person who pretends to be confident because insecurity and jealousy aren’t “manly”. They make a guy look “weak”. But, he is weak. Cheating is for the weak minded.
You are correct, you don't need to ask this question when you already know the answer...
I know. I just sometimes blame myself. Maybe if i was a little less this, or a little less that :/ I don't know, i had a lot of insecurities and got jealous often (but, sometimes his actions on social media just made me feel badly).
So you come here to gain a boost on feeling right?
I decided to end it with him. I didn’t deserve to be cheated on.
I am not sure what else he is searching for? I gave him a lot. I don’t know, maybe he enjoys the “freedom” that a strictly sexual relationship offers. No rules or restrictions that comes with monogamy :/
Which makes sense. He said sexting that girl was an escape from me :/ that really hurt.
Yeah well a guy shouldn't need other girls if he has one that provides him with everything. It's just selfishness. Pure and simple.
No. I’ve known of this girl for months. I’ve always been suspicious of her.
Wait why did he think u cheated?
He didn’t think i cheated?
Oh sorry must have read a different comment wrong ignore that sorry
It’s okay lol. No, he never thought i cheated. If he did, he never mentioned it. He never mentioned any jealousy in his end. I know he got jealous sometimes, but he’d never admit to it. I would always tell him about me being jealous, and i don’t know he went and cheated because of my insecurity he says. :/
He said “i cheated when we went through a rough time. And it was miserable to be around you”. It was miserable to be around him too at times. But, i did not cheat! We were doing better. But, i found out about the cheating and ended it.
End it indeed. can't be saved now. Maybe meet up some years from now.
What’s going to change in a few years?
The two of you get older, wiser and learn more about life and your self. Sometimes it works when ekses meet up later in life. But not always.
Mmm. But, he is already 25. He should know a little bit more. He’s not 15 anymore :/
25 for a man is like 15 for a woman, just saying.
Still, he didn’t cheat on his exes (not that i know of), but they cheated on him. And he cheated on me, and it’s messed up that he never told me. He said “i thought you would never find out and i could move past it”. But, that wasn’t even true. Because, then i saw that he was sending compliments and flirty messages to other girls online too. It makes me feel so sick. He never really complimented me. He said “i don’t feel the need to give you compliments a lot. You get my attention. I take you out, pay for things, ask you how you are”. This sounds like polygamy to me. And that’s fine if it’s what he likes, but, we didn’t agree to it. He basically told me, “i never cared about what you did on social media. Social media isn’t real to me”. But, interacting with other women and sexting them IS REAL! sending photos and vulgar messages, IS REAL!
Time for you to recognise a lost cause when you see it. Break up and move on. There is no saving in this.
I asked him why he did it. He said “i cheated her during the times it was miserable being around you”. That is a messed up thing to say!!
either way, dump his pathetic ass
I just found out about the sexting!
How is it a mistake to sext her more than once?
You never tried sending your grandma a pic but ended up sending it to all of your classmates and professor? If that's never happened to you then you are lucky
I know that’s right.
I’m good enough for me 😂😂