Girls, do you date men you think are physically unattractive?

[ADFSDF1996]

I have this female friend who confessed that she thinks her boyfriend is ugly and is only with him because he’s nice. She said: “He’s ugly but he’s a very nice person.” Don’t you think it’s cruel to be playing with a guy’s feelings like that. The guy might think that you actually find him attractive but in reality it’s the opposite. Sooner or later that guy will probably find out and break up with you. If you date “ugly” men, what’s the purpose? I understand that people say that “women are less visual when it comes to physical attraction” but still.

Note: I’m not saying every woman dates guys they don’t find attractive.

Yes

No

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+1 y

I see there is some confusion, the woman in the picture isn’t my friend, that’s just a random picture I got off the internet, that I thought would suit this question.

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+1 y

Based on the poll, many women don’t think men are attractive based on looks, so they they date men for personality.

[azzntittiz]

I have only because a lot of the men here are ugly, well the gene pool isn't very good, it's even hard to find a really pretty girl, Also ugly men are very pushy and over confident, they are kinda like stalkers and will try to place women in positions of submission so he can have access to you.

Which is why people do not want attractive women to be successful because she may have a chance to choose not to be with you. Men know these thing and they do not care. Of course they turn around and be mad when they get cheated on or used.

[jessuper]

Well, you can still date someone you don’t think is good looking. You need to realize that personality comes into play. Her boyfriend wouldn’t be mad she thinks he’s ugly, because she’s dating him despite the fact.

[ADFSDF1996]

It’s not right though, she’s stealing him from someone who could find him attractive. I don’t believe that personality can make up for a lack of physical attraction.

[jessuper]

Stealing him from someone who thinks he is attractive? That’s not how it works. You can be attracted to someone who you don’t find attractive. If she has feelings for him, then she can do whatever you want.
It’s shallow to assume otherwise

[ADFSDF1996]

That’s not what attraction is, attraction is feeling attracted to both a person’s looks and personality. I know that I would instantly break up with a woman who only likes my personality. You can’t have one and not the other.

[jessuper]

That is your opinion

[ADFSDF1996]

For females it’s different because biologically men are more visual than women when it comes to attraction. We (men) value physical appearance much more.

[Meaganrachell]

Maybe attraction and personality go hand in hand for many women? Not sure exactly how to word what I mean...

[ADFSDF1996]

@Meaganrachell Men equally care about looks and personality that’s why guys tend to be attractive to pretty women. Women don’t really seem to care about looks because they are not as visual as men are when it comes to attraction. This is possibly because men are not as physically appealing as women are.

[effyourfeelings]

img.buzzfeed.com/.../...buzz-7110-1386114153-4.gif All the girls who voted yes were just trying to spare the feelings of the ugliest guys on GAG or just dudes posing as girls

[vishna]

I think people who are conventionally unattractive are very frank about it and would say they are unattractive/ugly. (I recently watched a video on this) Anywho, I have dated guys that, with love, I found cute/endearing, but I didn't find them attractive. And that's ok because my intent was pure, and my heart was completely in those relationships... I don't think there's anything wrong with choosing a partner based on personality over looks.

[lostgirl_searching]

To me the guys I dated. It was mainly for their personality and to me at thought they were cute. My friends thought different they said I had no taste and I dated ugly guys and was just blind because I got lucky to find guys that I wanted in personality wise.. Everyone has their own opinion, but since your friend admitted it, it might not be that bad if she's loyal to him still and faithful, but if she's flirting with guys who are attractive or planning on cheating, then it's bad.

[miiszmel]

No wayyy!!
I have to find the guy attractive to date him.
Usually girls that date guys who they find unattractive are gold diggers lol

[Twat_Twig]

Well I'm always drawn to physical looks first. I see an attractive guy and I'm looking. My boyfriend is physically attractive to me and he's definitely been there for me emotionally and spiritually so he isn't lacking there. I'm not with him just because he's good looking. I wouldn't date someone JUST for their looks. Someone can be hot and a total jackass

[pineappleshortcare]

There’s a lot of pressure to “give him a chance” like your own attraction doesn’t even matter. So I think most women have at least tried. Owning your sexual desire can be a tough balancing act, as society generally wants it to be something other than what it is.

[Glass_Cat]

If I’m dating someone i think they have to at least be attractive to
Me in some way lol. I wouldn’t date someone just for their niceness i have to like a lot about them.

[mrs-turner97]

It is pretty sorry to do that cause if you date that person and think that eventually you will find a nice person that’s more attractive and leave him or her and that’s BS

[mrs-turner97]

I personally thought she was a gold digger not many if any woman that nice looking dates a man like that unless there in it for something. She kinda looks like a B to me doesn’t look happy at all but I’m sure he is to be able to say that is his lady but sad that he is prob gonna get heart broke

[Arkansas33]

Not in all cases but if he's good looking and kinda chubby or fat its okay. I dont mind guys who are kinda stocky. I dont mind it if they are good looking stocky and play football because they are attractive. But if they were ugly and fat then no i wouldn't date them

[Hgabrielle]

If I don’t find him attractive, I won’t date him.
Someone does, and it would just be heartless of me to keep him from someone that would be able to love him more than I can