What are the best dating/hookup apps to use?

[ManOnFire]

Everybody raves about Tinder and I've had it since last year but no luck. I've had near hookups on Whisper but the chicks ghosted me, though I did go out with one girl from there once but she was awful. Tried Plenty of Fish too but didn't stay long.

Seems like the ones that are hailed as best for hooking up are scams like CougarLife and AdultFriendFinder. Anybody know any TRULY good ones?

[brennanhuff]

Neither. Stats show 70% of women use them just for ego strokes and window shopping. Many might match or message on it or text you, but as far as actually meeting up. Most women use the app have no intention to ever meet up with any guy. I've used bumble and tinder and have had matches and messages. I get likes once a week, but yet have not been able to meet up with anyone. I've quit the apps.

[ManOnFire]

That's actually been a lot of my experience too, yeah.

[brennanhuff]

Well I'm sure most of the 30% of the women who do meet up with guys are the "heavier chicks". Not trying to shame, but I can't operate like that. Some dudes will fuck any chick that's willing or even if she's like crazy in a bad way or got crazy baggage or red flags or fat or not that cute at all, whereas, I just can't do that. She has to be decent person and have to find her cute or pretty. She doesn't have to be hot, but some chicks I've had that liked me, I didn't like back or maybe they would want to meet me, but it didn't matter anyway because I wouldn't have wanted to date them anyway.

[ManOnFire]

That is ALSO a lot of my experience.

[DaDon72]

Tinder kinda sucks now. They mess with there algorithm so much. Either that or Im behind the paying subs. I use bumble now and that one I've had 39 matches and 10 convos started in 2 days. I used to have that with tinder but now its like dead and I don't get many attractive people on tinder anymore.

[Anonymous]

If Tinder and POF didn't work, then I'd forget about online/app stuff. The competition is just way too fierce for guys.
And AFF isn't a scam, but it is a swinger site. That's nearly impossible for a single guy to get anywhere on that site, unless you're very good looking and hung.

[ManOnFire]

Have you used AFF before?

[Opinion Owner]

Yes. That and SLS.

[Temporal_Ice]

Yeah I agree, online dating just doesn't work for me. Its basically useless.

[Opinion Owner]

@Temporal_Ice
It doesn't work because it requires little to no effort. You're better off practicing your skills offline.

[PianoTrees]

Real life. All of the dating apps are full of desperate people. You're better off just using normal social media like this one, facebook, I sometimes use MeWe and Instagram.

[ManOnFire]

Never heard of MeWe. Have to look that up.

[Cnyrdhj]

Agreed

[ElvenMr]

So some people really use facebook to meet new people/send friend request to some random girl they like?

[StingRayxoxo]

Just keep trying, IRL and apps. I’ve met good and bad on Match and Tinder.

[ManOnFire]

Match was like the worst. You had to pay to see messages.

[StingRayxoxo]

I paid for a year 😩 LOL Many of the matches were convicted felons but I have no criminal history.

[WillyD]

Sting have you ever used POF? would you say the quality of users on match is better than POF if so ( your post suggest it isn't very good). Because it's been suggested that i use match and considering how unsatisfying POF is i really don't want to pay for the POF experience on Match.

[StingRayxoxo]

WillyD, I haven’t! Sorry. Match is okay, I’ve had good and not so good experiences. Tinder is easier because it’s free and I’m just upfront about what I want.

[WillyD]

Never tried Tinder i've always been under the impression it's just a bunch of degenerates looking to get laid (sorry to be blunt).

[StingRayxoxo]

It’s okay, I prefer bluntness. Yes, that’s a lot of what it is! You will also come across some that are looking for more than that. But yes, the degenerates outweigh those.

[AzBiman]

(The following is from a man's POV and the woman's experience could be quite different.) Answer: To date, I will honestly and comfortably say, ""NONE"". They're a business and out for 1 thing and one thing only. The almighty dolkar. Watch out for the term 'FREE TO SIGN UP'. As that's the ONLY thing 'FREE' about it. From a man's POV, the majority of women on these sites no matter how the site or women present themselves are scandalous, misrepresented, online whores, all of the above. Remember, these women are sheltered behind a computer so they can be anyone they want, say anything they want and tell you what you want to hear. That is if you get a real person. If you get a site that is automated, they reply/respond to key words. They gotten the keywords vast enough and have done market
testing and research enough to get their responses right a high percentage of the time me. They'll say it do ANYTHING to keep your attention just long enough to get your wallet open. In my experience, I know I haven't seen it all and now I just create a username for the sole purpose of seeing what the latest scam is... And there's some pretty good ones out there, it's a waste if time and resources (Yes. As in money, emotions, spirits and it does tend to have one question human kindness. But as I said, it's a business and we have the right to NOT proceed if we so choose. But hey, don't let me discourage you. You're young. Go for it. Pick a sight, any site. As they're (mostly) all the same. (At least until they can regulate the sites themselves and the women whom these sites hire mostly for commission) {{disclaimer: I am only speaking from personal experience I do not represent any competing site or sites.}} The preceeding is just my opinion. I could be wrong, but I doubt it!!!

[JudgmentDay]

It's all hit or miss, completely a "your mileage may vary" kind of thing. So which one is the "best"? Whichever one you actually got real results with. And if you never got any real results no matter what you do or did, then NONE OF THEM are the "best".

[goodlongman]

I will not say what is the best but I will tell you it is a great way to weed out what you don't want. I have been married twice (first wife died) and found both online. By doing so you find out if you have common interests and goals and your core values are in-line with each other. This gives you a good starting point to develop and grow a meaningful relationship

[bamesjond0069]

Tinder but tbh really low quality girls. Usually only want sex. Not great for dating. I've had GREAT experiences with very high quality girls on whisper but since its not a dating app it takes awhile to talk and link with girls. I had like 10 dates off tinder which where all hookups only and 2 off whisper which one is now my girlfriend and the other was a really great girl id have dated but my girlfriend was better.

[ATuairiscean]

Depends what you are going for - Dating probably eH, expensive but I think most genuine people looking for commitment - I don't know much about hook up side but like you heard the most about Tinder

[That1tallguy]

Want the harsh truth maybe your just ugly or not very good looking. Vast majority of guys who will do well online are the hot ones. Hot guys kill it on tinder not so much for guys like you and me. I meet a couple chicks from tinder but still not really worth the time. If it hasn't been working out for you irl interaction is the way to go

[thisbutterfly81]

OkCupid worked for me but my now friends with benefits from there said I was the first woman interested in that type of thing and understood and had the same mindset. So it is truly hard to find.

[Anonymous]

If you’re just looking for a hookup legit put it in your bio so it’s known

[ManOnFire]

Yeah I did that too just recently on Tinder when I re-did my profile.

[Opinion Owner]

Saves time and makes it easier

[Titanic1912]

Try ChristianMingle. I was on there. I’m on two other sites. www.specialbridge.com and www.whispers4u.com

[PrivateJim]

Bumble is more for people who are more looking for a relationship from my experience, the only thing I don't like it is there are hardly and chicks to swipe compared to tinder

[Prof_Don]

I met my current girlfriend of two years and going strong, on OKCupid

[Annajamey]

Yes, too many scammers for the traditional dating/hookup sites - aff, cougarlife. The tinder is the biggest community for dating, hookup or social. Some niche dating apps are also great choice.

[Anonymous]

I met my boyfriend on tinder. And my friend met her husband on tinder. Just because it’s a hookup app doesn’t mean you can’t find someone you click with.

[Gurkaran]

Yes. But hookup is primarily goal.

[Opinion Owner]

@Gurkaran yeah but you can meet someone. It’s like those mingling parties. Would you rather go to a place and not know who is interested in at least a conversation and won’t turn a hello into an “uhhh I have a boyfrieeend” or have singles who you’d know to make your move on walking around with red cups? These websites are just that. They give us a pool of people with at least some sort of intention.

[WalterRadio]

The best dating sites are not the best for hookups.

If you want to find sure-thing hookups, just google, "escorts near me" and you can find them.

[Mynamejef696]

Iv never had any luck with dating apps it's easier to just be social talk to everyone to meet girls

[BossBossCross]

Honestly just focus on you and you’ll attract somebody. Tinder sucks ass. Like I’m not even ugly and can’t get a match

[Logorithim]

Try Bumble

[ManOnFire]

Is that good for hookups?

[Factshurt90]

Yes, bumble and POF. I’m dating women and all their profiles say looking for fun nothing serious.

[ManOnFire]

@Factshurt90 Then I'll try it again.

[avalonbob]

Find a large church with an active young people's group and find somebody decent. Best "APP" in the world.

[Slim57]

All of them are like playing the lotto really, it's the same as regular in person dating, but worse.

[GayHowellMeme]

Altscene.
https://www.altscene.com/Emo_Dating_Site

[bladedshard]

I see people commenting "face to face". Any useful advice on telling random people you want to hookup? Its seems a lot easier to go online and do it.

[MusicMayhem]

You don't "tell them" you want to hook up. You attract them like any woman, get them back to your place and after making out on the couch and touching, she'll get horny and want you. Be less logical about it and focus on making her feel good and creating positive emotions and it'll come naturally.

[ManOnFire]

@MusicMayhem Hey, great advice, man.

[MusicMayhem]

@ManOnFire thanks man! It's a common mistake men make. We need to focus more on actions and less on words.

[Nik1hil]

That not going to work,..
You need to more sexier,
Good with words and need to be rich

[inmensus]

Some people are just unlucky. Maybe it's not the app but the way you present yourself on them?

[qxeenrrose]

Real life interaction

[ManOnFire]

I agree, but the trouble is virtually all the women I interact with or come into contact with are all too young, especially on my job.

[skateranon123]

I mean give younger girls a try as long as they are over 18 you can be surprised women like older men

[Username96]

Try hinge!! I like it a lot!

[BMWE46M3]

Can we date?

[Username96]

Hahah sure 😂😂

[BMWE46M3]

Where do u wanna go?

[red324]

@BMWE46M3

Don't ask a girl where to go on a date. She will let you know if a certain place is a problem. Be a man and say something like I know this great seafood restaurant down the street I've been to several times, wanna go?

[That1tallguy]

🤦🏻‍♂️ bro never ask the girl make statements not questions @BMWE46M3 I know this is just gag but just a little advise if you actually do it like this irl

[red324]

@That1tallguy

Lol! I said the same thing.

[ManOnFire]

@Username96 I think I tried that one too.

[Dionigi]

Abs is the best

[ManOnFire]

Lol😂

[Dionigi]

I only use those apps as an alternative to porn. I did find a couple of decent dates, but still the best places to find a good date are real life (best) , instagram and Facebook.
Improve your body and health.
Instagram stories are good to help you improve your charisma.

[princessfromjupiter]

Tinder is the best tho

[Vix8991]

Really? Lol it’s format is wack

[princessfromjupiter]

@Vix8991 of course it’s superficial but it’s just what you’d do in person too when you’re looking for someone cute to approach them — and it’s great if you’re shy because you can get to know people you find attractive first and see if it’s even worth meeting up in the first place

[jimmy2]

They all suck scammers in wait for you

[Cnyrdhj]

None. Real life is the best

[os2blue]

I heard bumble is good

[Daniel3035]

Bdsmdate. co. uk
Spanknet. co. uk

[Anonymous]

I haven’t had good results with any of them

[ElvenMr]

Try Happn. It may work for you.

[DaMack999]

You must not use face to face

[GregoryDownham44]

None of them are any good.

[Bubbles45]

Christian mingle

[Anonymous]

I met my boyfriend on Meetme. com

[ROCKS128]

CMB.

[ManOnFire]

What's that?

[ROCKS128]

Dating app.😝

[Anonymous]

Plenty Of Hoes. POH. com

[winniethepoah]

Tinder and bumble

[bloodmountain1990]

Bumble and Hinge

[TheRealQuestion]

Try "Hot or Not".

[wouterv]

Tinder

[Anonymous]

Fetlife