8 brutally honest reasons why millennial women are staying single, thoughts?

How do you all feel about this?

1. We're busy starting our careers.

2. We're busy racking up advanced degrees.

3. We have obscene student loan debt — and we don't want to deal with anybody else's.

4. We aren't particularly religious.

5. We haven't met "the right person."

6. We're working on being better people.

7. We want to have sex. Like, a lot.

8. Being single can actually be awesome

8 brutally honest reasons why millennial women are staying single, thoughts?
  • Career over a temporary relationship any day
    Vote A
  • This is sad , what happened to the traditional family
    Vote B
  • Nothing wrong with it
    Vote C
  • Other
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  • None of those things on the list prevent a Woman from having a relationship, except Maybe not having met the Right Person (and even that applies only to settlig down or having a child).

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    • * settling

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    • I dont get it either why people want the benefits of a relationship an dnot the relationship per se? I mean the only benefits of a relationship they could want is sex other tan that I dotn see another benefit of a relationship a person wants but not to be in a relationship

    • Men think they are entitled to it. but not anymore in this generation men are getting shut the fuck down. perfect examples are Weinstein and cosby

  • 1. We're busy starting our careers.

    You can do this whilst being romantically interested in the opposite/same sex, unless you're working 7 days a week that's not an excuse

    2. We're busy racking up advanced degrees.

    Such as? Gender studies is not as advanced of a degree as Quantum mechanics (which I doubt many women are pursuing anyway, women avoid STEM)

    3. We have obscene student loan debt — and we don't want to deal with anybody else's.

    Everyone experiences student loan debt when they go to college in the US.

    4. We aren't particularly religious.

    Neither are millenial men.

    5. We haven't met "the right person."

    Right person being Chad?

    6. We're working on being better people.

    That can be agreeable. Although I doubt any work is being done.

    7. We want to have sex. Like, a lot.

    You can have that in a relationship, although for a woman it's this

    Sexual relationship with Chad > Romantic and sexual relationship with a sub 8

    Relationship with Chad > anything with a sub 8

    The only time a sub 8 wins is if he is careermaxxed or statusmaxxed

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  • It's kind of number 5, but kind of not. It's necessarily that we are waiting for the right partner or haven't found the one, but the truth is most guys just aren't worth your time. Men will swear up and down that it's not true but most men are just a waste of your time. They don't do anything for you and they can't be trusted because they cheat so much. They don't treat you right, either. And most guys I dated I made way more money than they did, and they had a problem with it because their ego couldn't stand it.

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    • That's true but if you wait until 30+ you are unlikely to find a guy worth your time as that guy is off the market or looking for a woman in her prime attractive years.

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    • Insecure, inexperienced, small weenie guys always coming up with age shit. pussy is pussy. you must be a virgin boy

    • Women do tend to go for older men, also the use of viagra is very high among men in their twenties.

  • These are my reasons from your choices exactly...

    5. We haven't met "the right person." (Well, I did, but I lost him)

    7. We want to have sex. Like, a lot.

    8. Being single can actually be awesome

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    • The single girl calendar. is that a book? looks interesting

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    • Sounds awesome. ill check it out

    • Glad I could help and thank you for the up vote! :)

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    • lmao, be gone with this.

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    • It's sad but if you won't you can continue trying searching for honors

    • It will be better not to try something bad but still search you will get

  • This is sad , what happened to the traditional family..

    Actually none of this is surprising to me. A lot of younger guys are staying single for similar reasons while a lot of older guys have their own set of reasons for wanting to stay single. If this keeps going marriage and family will be a rare thing.

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  • I completely agree with your list. I look for girlfriend s that don't want relationships because relationships are time and energy consuming and I don't have time for one. I hope that in the future more women have less interest in relationships. Living independent lives and having good women friends is the best way to live.

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    • Oh god lol trying to sell the 60's sexual liberation all over again ain't you? Haha this time 'relationship liberation'
      Haha ' woman friend ' genius ! But not really

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    • Not the least surprised by your use of vocab.. All I can add up here is it will very likely backfire. Very typical of your kind , you 'll get screwed up so hard. My pleasure.

    • @saltwater84 I aim to please.

  • I’m an anti-theist so religion has never played a part in my relationships. I find that reason a bit odd. Although happiness is far from underrated, I feel people have forgotten how important it is. Careers are great, money is wonderful but the experience of having someone to love is unreplicable. We only have this one life and working just to have things and stuff has always seemed odd to me. If someone has a career they truly enjoy, then that’s amazing. It isn’t an either or situation.

    I listen to the regrets of the dying podcast and the resounding regret is not telling people you know how much you love them because work got in the way. I’m paraphrasing but I get my point. Love is seen as idealistic these days. It’s a shame.

    I’m far from the template of courting, marrying, having kids and getting a mortgage. Then what, we die for the cycle to repeat. We remember experiences rather than a new phone, we remember hugs more than we remember work deadlines.

    Carry on doing what you love but don’t dont forget to take a step back and remember what really matters.

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  • All of those are just excuses minus "the right person" they don't prevent you from having a relationship unless you work for seven days a week with very little time to do things like clean house.

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  • 1. I hope she plans to keep working after having kids then, otherwise it was a waste of time.
    2 & 3. I'm not paying off her loan debt for that degree.
    4. So, an excuse to be immoral?
    5. Someone to take care of all of her mistakes? (kids by other guys) lol
    7. So, she wants to be a slut? I hope she knows she is not worthy of ever having a good guy/SO after she is like that.
    8. I agree. Being single I don't have the stress created by greedy, selfish people and I can do what I want when I want.

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    • Not all women likes or wants kids.

    • That's fine. I wouldn't want one that isn't family oriented anyways.
      I hope you get fixed then if you don't want kids but plan on lots of sex, otherwise you'd end up having some and they'd feel unwanted.

    • When did I say anything about me and kids?

  • Simple

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  • Nothing wrong with it. Whatever floats people's boat. Nobody has to be in a relationship anyway. If you didn't really know what you really want out of a relationship without any clear goals whatsoever, chances are you'll be right back to square one all over again; the relationship will be over eventually and you're back to being single. ALWAYS look on the BRIGHT SIDE of it, if you're never in a relationship, then you can NEVER EVER break up and deal with the miseries and troubles of a relationship. The part where it ends is usually the hardest part for most to deal with, depending upon how emotionally invested and attached one has become to their partner. Sometimes it would end well without too many problems and both people just move forward and move on and just let the their former partner go, but almost everybody seem to have trouble with this once they get into a relationship when it ends. Too many people probably think that nothing can ever go wrong with their relationship, and expect that it's gonna be some "happily ever after" bullshit fairy tale conclusion.

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  • Honestly numbers 1, 2, 5, and 6 are all good reasons to be single. This is a new era. The days of tge woman staying home has been over for a very long time. I truly believe that career woman, that has her shit together, make good money, take care of what she needs to take care, should never settle for anyone that is not on her level, or better. A woman can always do better and should never downgrade herself for No one not even herself.

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  • Sure... it's attitude. You don't know how nor desire to PLEASE a man. Hope you like cats.
    Oh, and the sex part, well, that will be your demise. Oh well.

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    • You missed the point, didn't you? She was talking about the article, that she posted, not necessarily about herself.

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    • You're 61 years old with saggy balls and a shriveled dick who needs viagra.😂🤣boy bye and send me your government pension so I can feed my cats

    • In your dreams honey. LOL You don't know jack.

  • The structural thing i see on modern society is corporatist indoctrination and systemic control of modern day women. They are living a life where they are forced to invest there entire life in a brainwashing machine they are not allowed to leave with the end goal being a job. By the time they get out of it they will have a combination of an entire life time of investment, tons of debt because of this system and a world view that they should make career.

    Now think how it should be traditionally and contrast it with the modern society. Originally it was the men who had to do the hard labor and provide for the family, the women had free time to make some money on the side doing things she is passionate about and had a lot of time to raise the children and keep an eye on the family. She didn't have to worry about a career, she didn't have to worry about dating so close to her biological clock, she didn't have to worry about dept. Girls where free and had a good life where they where being loved and cared for.

    Now you can argue its better this way but thats mostly false. Sure i believe people should be equal in this regard that men can choose to be a house dad and a women can choose to be the career maker. Whatever works for the couple. But as we speak society is being tricked into DANGEROUS grounds. Where both parents are working FULL TIME. That will shift the norm, cause inflation and before you know it working full time with both parents is the only way to get by as everyone got away with increasing the taxes and prices to the point a solo earner family can no longer get by while you didn't get any wealth in return.

    So mix and match all you want, but make sure only one parent is working at the time. Don't surrender your children to those who spew mindless propeganda at them and think trough if our education system even works well to begin with (Spoiler: It Doesn't).

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  • If a woman is saying those kinds of things, the reason she’s single is because she doesn’t have what it takes to be in a relationship. In relationships, your partner matters more than things like sex and money. The only exception is religion. That should matter be the most important thing in ones life, but nothing should come between religion and relationship.

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    • The thing is if a woman doesn't have a career and a man leaves her.. what will she have? nothing. i think establishing a career prior to getting into a partnership is crucial for a woman

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    • Your thinking is probably the biggest cause of young people getting divorced. That young love wears real thin when things get tough and the real world sets in. First the sex goes and then you go because you are just so tired of having nothing, barely able to keep food on a table.

    • @katiesmuff I’d help and support her with everything, but I’d want to do it with her.

  • Tinder effect.

    Women rate 80% of men as below average. (hypergamy combined with how we currently lie to men about what women want, making them way less attractive) Then they get on tinder, manage to get banged by one of the rare guys they find hot, he never calls back, and they think that if they just get banged enough by enough hot guys one will eventually want to date her.

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  • Why are so many dudes saying sad when so many guys have sowed their oats and done fooled around. A woman has to want a relationship all the time? If women wanted that, few men would be getting no strings attached sex, but they do. And many guys are single because they don't want to settle down either.

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  • 1. Shallowness
    2. social status among friends
    3. They think all men just want sex.
    4. prefer the attention of being single
    5. They do not want to settle down with a guy in case something better comes along.
    6. They would rather men pay them for sex, dates and gifts rather than going on proper normal dates or hookups.
    7. They do not think they are good enough for some men.
    8. They do not trust men get scared they may get hurt or worse.

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  • Well it's a choice but the other side of it is women past their prime attractive years hitting 30+ after years on the cock riding carousel finding it hard to meet a decent guy when they are ready to settle down.

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  • I'm just gonna be real: the only reasons that I have personally seen in my own life are focused on career, and haven't met Mr. Right. Every Millennial girl I know who claims to like being single is really just incredibly jilted by men and has given up on romance for the time being.

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  • 1, 2, 3, 4, 6, 7 don't stop anyone from having a loving relationship.

    Girls who claim those are their reasons are probably in denial about why they're single.

    5 and 8 are legit reasons.

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  • Kinda comes off as sour grapes when she's gotta justify her relationship status.

    Like... what's the point of being an ambitious career woman if all you have to come home to is cats and to find out your one night stand forgot to flush after leaving a big dump in the toilet.

    Congratulations. Pretty sure having a husband and kids might be a teensy bit more rewarding, but what do I know?

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  • Nothing wrong with just dating, specially if you're under 30. Tie down your career and have some fun, but don't tie the knot until you have a little experience living because people change drastically from the time they're 18 to 30, from the time they're 30 to 40, and from the time they're 40 to 50. Nothing like making the wrong decision when you're young. So take some time to experience life but also be safe and protect yourself and respect other people.

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  • All the others seem reasonable, but I don't understand how religion has to do with that (number 4). I'm not the type to stay single by choice, though.

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    • From reading the article I gathered the religion part had something to do with marriage and sex. bc they're not religious they're not fixated on jumping into marriage. That's what I got out of it

  • Waiting longer to settle down with this one person who is suppose to be your best friend for life and the person who would step in front of a bus to save your life is a very good idea. Family may start later, but it has a much better chance of lasting rather than the multitude of divorces that begin after just a few months of marriage to a few years of those jumping right in there very young.

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  • I don’t find anything wrong with any of those points and I agree with them all except the sex part (point 7), but I’m just thinking about myself. For me, sex is not important.
    Tradition is overrated. Not everyone wants a family and that’s perfectly fine. Live your life. Do you.

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  • There's nothing wrong with women wanting to be single. The traditional "get married and have kids" is not for everyone. A lot of women used to get married early because that was the norm, and they ended up being unhappy. Of course, not all of them but still. I'm just glad we're slowly understanding that there are more things in life than getting married. That doesn't mean that you won't see traditional families anymore so stop the drama. Just live and let live.

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  • ooh ooh, I don't think my age qualifies me to be a millennial but I am single and young.
    5,6,7 are my reasons mostly.
    I haven't found the right man yet. And I'm okay taking the time to work on myself and my career vs fixating on finding a partner. Also, in my last relationship-my sex drive was an issue for half the relationship.

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  • Well depends. I am a conservative person, but the next person may not be. For me I will always respect another individual's choice. But for me, I find a nice man and get married to him. I believe in monogamy, but absolutely respect you if you think otherwise

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  • I don't agree having a family or being single is not WRONG. What is wrong is acting like your better then someone just because you were able to find someone and have kids with them or you single and get dick or pussy as much as you want. It just pathetic and quite frankly why even care what other people do? maybe I don't know focus on yourself and your life and stop giving other people any fucks.

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  • It's a bunch of blarney. Because women like sex? Uhhh, so do men so it would seem that getting married and doing fit legal would be a good thing instead of all this casual shit which spreads STD's like jam and bread.

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  • Pretty good except I can't relate to #7.
    Traditional family can suck it. I'd probably have to hang myself if I got trapped in one of those. I'd need someone who will travel and go on adventure with me.

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  • there's nothing wrong with staying single but I got married at 20 and I'm doing fine. A lot of these reasons just dont equate?

    1. You can have a career and a boyfriend / husband there's nothing stopping you?

    2. People get multiple degrees? What's an advanced degree anyway?

    3. Well if you're getting multiple degrees it's no wonder your student debt is obscene. My student loans aren't stressful I just pay like 90 bucks a month on them. Nbd.

    4. My husband and I are both atheists and we still got married. Marrige does not equal religion

    5. This is a good reason. Some people get lucky and meet the one early. Most dont.

    6. You can do that with your partner! If that's you found someone who's right for you

    7. Again, you dont have to be single trust me.

    8. Yep it can!

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  • I want to marry someone who I’m love with (who also loves me back). I just haven’t found anyone with whom the feeling was mutual. If we’re not on the same page romantically, I’d rather be single.

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  • The first 6 points are definitely me. Some people can have a family and do college all at once. Me, I can only focus on one thing at a time. In college, I didn’t have a job so I can focus on my studies. If I was working and studying, I would prioritize one or the other.

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  • If want a traditional family, I will not be the main supporter of the family, but I may make a bit of income through side jobs.

    However, I still don't know, and time is running out for me to decide.

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  • correct, it has nothing to do with being a millennial. Today's girls want to have just as much fun as guys do, and all reasons listed apply to one or another millennial.

    Times have passed when girls at age 18 had to be married because it was the tradition in the past. Girls just like boys are ambitious, want to discover new things, experience what their parents did not/could not. Nothing wrong about that except that modern society has a hard time accepting that youngsters want to go their own path rather than to follow in the steps of their parents/grandparent. I am one of those and proud to be!

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  • I haven't forgot my ex and
    I do not trust in other guys.

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  • Career. My first priority is getting my life together and being financially stable. Being in a relationship is last on my list.

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  • I can understand most of these but number 7. There’s no reason you can’t have a relationship and lots of sex. And no 4 is completely inconsequential.

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  • "We want to have s*x. Like, a lot"

    Same can be said about having a long term partner.

    I voted B honestly.

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    • If you're 16, you're either born in 2002 or 2001 so you're not a Millenial I think
      You're GenZ. Besides you're too young to be in a relationship

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    • And no, I'm not gonna have s*x in this age either if you're concerned. I am too young, but it's pretty damn obvious that a lot of s*x can happen in a long term relationship. It's not only a single people's thing 🙄

    • No I think she's right, people in relationships tend to have more sex than single people and more satisfying sex.

  • We haven't met, the right person, which leads to, we're working on becoming better people. The result is understanding that being single is not that bad, the rest seem just excuses to me.

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  • I think, better stay single if you think you're not able to stay committed with your partner. Tbh, there's nothing wrong by being single and focus on career first if you feel comfortable with it.

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