None of those things on the list prevent a Woman from having a relationship, except Maybe not having met the Right Person (and even that applies only to settlig down or having a child).
I haven't met the right person FOR me and Im still single I had alwways been like tht anyway I never had abf either or dated or hang out in my past therefore I continue to be single and will never experience what it feels like to date a person for some time
@kitty71: Since we are almost the same age, I know that it is more difficult because we have more defined requirements and usually everyone is pickier, but if you want to experience having a boyfriend, it can help if you don't expect quite as much from the first relationship and don't expect the guy to be perfect for you (that doesn't mean you have no requirements- he has to treat you well, for example).
You said that if I ant to ahve a boyfriend I can't expect to be much pickier tan my first relataionship. Well I haven't even had a first experience either. and I know at our ages men or women should not be so pickier but still we want to be treated good and well, becaude is not fair either that we will settle for less,- I dont want to be pickier I know that but that does not mean I want to settle for less. how can that be accomplished? Also at my age many men only want sex end of story. Many guys do not want to be in formal relationship, so what does that mean? That If I want to b e with someone who only wants sex then that is whta is going to be with me because I can't find other guy when sex is not really the top priority. I know sex is important but it does not have to be the main and sole priority. I guess many guys these days do not like that kind of orelationship
@kitty71: It does take two to Tango, and you will have to look harder to find a boyfriend. You will also have to decide what is so important that it is non-negotiable and what you can be flexible About.
Boyfriend could be nice to have even if I dont tend to get married now. Life too expensive to carry a married life and much less have kids, but I know that if I take marriage and kids out from a relationship. A relationship will be based only about sex and that is all there is to it right? U can't have a relationship with someone if marraige or kids won't be part in the future for one of them, that is what I believe.
I think taht is the only exception cause at our ages what are the chances to find completely singlel people with no kids or u nmarried? Slim to 0. At our ages we find more divorced people with kids or just divorced, Chances to find completely single are rare an if we do they dont want a relationship what they want is jsut sex right?
@kitty71: I've had success meeting some women without Kids in their 20s and 30s despite the fact I have Kids, but I am flexible as to what Country she lives in- she doesn't have to be local to me. Women in their 40s didn't seem to be interested, possibly because I do have Kids.
what do u mean u have dated someone that is not local? U mean from anotehr country? I know I wotn date or havea abf from anotehr country if I dont live in taht country. I mean hwo can you really date someone from another country, that kind of long distance relationship for me in my personal case it is not suitable. So u see at our ages is difficult to find a complete single person with no committment of any kind and if we do is just to get laid. In your case you have kids but lets say you do not have kids and u are single, do u think u can find someone exact like you at our ages? It is unlikely and if u do is for sex that is what I believe. What person will like to start to get invovled in a sesrious formal relationshp and then ahve kids when we are inthe middle of our ages? Not many people. I have known from people our ages who are still single, and no kids, and they say at that age they dont want to get involved in the drama that a relationship has, much less at that age start
@kitty71 we love sex so much, that we virtually can't have enough of it. No offense but i expected women to know it already like "no shit" by the time they graduate anywhere. Unless these women went to an all girls school or lived a life without any boys.
changing diapers, the hassle that comes with a relationship and the issues, they say they are not in that age to do that anymroe to start doing that at their mid ages. So what do they want just keep single enjoy being single witn no attachments fool around if they want and have casual relationships, cause at our ages most people is what they want, life is too difficult too and thigns are expensive like marriage, kids, etc etc
@kitty71: Yes, my girlfriend lives in another country (I'm trying to move there), and I fully agree that it doesn't work for the vast majority of people.
Yes, it is hard to meet someone at our age, so you have to be opportunistic. In your case, Maybe if a guy's Kids are older Teenagers, it would not be a Problem.
I haven't met guys with kids either not even single or even married I have the worst luck of finding a guy I like ever and the ones that maybe jus tmayeb seem interested in me in our age group they just want sex. I mean do you think I will live my life based just on sex? no I mean like I said sex is important but it has to b e a compliment not the sole thing in a dating phase.
Dont worry. Im settle and already gave up about the idea of dating in my future years or at least to experience what is feel to date someone. so I will stay single always. Beause the guys who had approach me who had been justa a few few few maybe like 3 in my whole life. They dont eant a serious relationship like to put up with whole drama that comes to h ave a more steady relationship, so they prefer to enjoy being single no attachments to any lady and just get laid with the girls they find attractive. Im not marrying in my fuutre either and that is not part of my plans as well, but I dont want to be approach just to be a pretty woamn for sex only. That is what I said finding guys at my age who are single like me and they dont make sex the first priority is imposible. Why can you be just Friends with a guy hang out, do things together like many Friends do and not have sex, just enjoy time together like Friends do. If by any chance sex comes up in the long run well it will happen
if it won't happen, I dont see why the guy will stop being Friends with that friend just beccause sex was not accomplished for him even if they are nto strangers and they are still Friends.
I dont get it either why people want the benefits of a relationship an dnot the relationship per se? I mean the only benefits of a relationship they could want is sex other tan that I dotn see another benefit of a relationship a person wants but not to be in a relationship
It's kind of number 5, but kind of not. It's necessarily that we are waiting for the right partner or haven't found the one, but the truth is most guys just aren't worth your time. Men will swear up and down that it's not true but most men are just a waste of your time. They don't do anything for you and they can't be trusted because they cheat so much. They don't treat you right, either. And most guys I dated I made way more money than they did, and they had a problem with it because their ego couldn't stand it.
That's true but if you wait until 30+ you are unlikely to find a guy worth your time as that guy is off the market or looking for a woman in her prime attractive years.
@whitepanther88 and you think the woman in her prime would want you?🤣😂tfoh. older women end up with younger men. why? they can fuck all night minus viagra. take a hike
Yes, it is. I don't have it but my understanding is that it is a page or two for each day to give you ideas on how to have fun and keep your mind occupied so you are not depressed or lonely after a breakup or just when being single. She (Erin) is suppose to be very funny too :)
I agree! We are too nice to say ‘try harder stupid’. Lol 😂 A modern woman doesn’t need a provider, or someone to protect her. But what she does want is romance and companionship from her partner. It really is quite simple.
@Poppykate : Some women do. A husband sure beats adult assisted living centers. And it isn't about what you want, or even what he wants, but what you're both called into this world to be. WGTOW and MGTOW are equally pigheaded and stupid.
However, some women have too much pride. They'd rather fail at life, than admit they should give someone a chance. I've seen such failure up close. Women so inept at life, Joe Dirt would feel like an overachiever.
From reading the article I gathered the religion part had something to do with marriage and sex. bc they're not religious they're not fixated on jumping into marriage. That's what I got out of it
Yup. These are all accurate to varying degrees, based on the person and demographic group.
Finding the right person is especially hard if you've been single a while and have invested on your personal growth and thrive on depth/intensity. Standards skyrocket beyond what many men are bringing to the table at that point, tbh. That's before you get to things like external compatibility in terms of ambition, success, education, etc. It's actually harder to match, I find.
Also, for me personally, I can see that most relationships are not built on strong foundation and many are dysfunctional. This is a bit worrying. I've worked so much on my happiness, self-confidence, and sense of inner peace that a part of me wants to simply avoid the drama I see in my friends relationships. I learned that from my parents marriage really - that being in a relationship doesn't mean happiness, respect, joy, or communication. In many cases, its the opposite. Then the emotional low after a breakup, and the constant search for love... It just always seems draining. With everything else I'm doing in life, filtering through guys is honestly like a part time job. And it often seems like that doesn't pay off. So part of it for me is effort and fear - I dont want someone invading my positive space with insecure masculinity and attempts to disrupt my power, and that shit is very real with men.
There's also the issue of freedom - going from traveling and living life on your own terms to having to consider this other person all the time.
The problem I'm having with my own choice to be blissfully single is that I want to get married, have a baby. It's not essential, but I do want it. And I also don't like that I'm letting fear stop me from moving forward in this area of my life. In pretty much every other way, I've always lead myself with a challenge to overcoming what scares me. But this area of my life, my personal, intimate space, has always been too sacred to risk the wrong guy coming into my life. But I think I just have to trust myself. All the things that make many of us complicated af are the same traits that help us stay true to our own standards, which can be effective at weeding out men who are not right for us.
I'm grateful af for staying single as long as I have. I dont think I would have accomplished the level of growth I have otherwise. But now I'm ready for the next chapter.
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None of this are a reason why woman are staying single. That is just copying mechanism , as it has always been , when people are scared or sad. -excuses -losing oneself into work - having sex with as most people as possible -hitting the gym to get the serotonin going and feeling better in one skin etc. -claims that singlehood is better than companionship , when really science back up that human needs companionship to survive
You are 22 and that is a great age to be single and enjoying life , I d say it's a must ! Its when you build the foundation of oneself , just left the family nest and start to survive and exceed the deal and reach an actual living. Personally I had a full blast life of passion, adventure , ideas , challenges , dreams , unbelievable adventures around the world , party , built businesses , work for projects I d never dreamt off. Not so much relationship at all. and did not care because it was not a time to think about getting married and having kids but a time to build myself ! Now i am heading 35 and I party no much at all , working mainly on business to be a good provider , met recently a man I respect and he respect me Lets see what happen. But all I can say , it s now is the time for this matters. Singlehood is a must at your age , it is not brutal , its what it should be ! Its not about debt or career or sex etc.. its about getting to know ones soul, desire and live a life.
Nothing wrong with it. Whatever floats people's boat. Nobody has to be in a relationship anyway. If you didn't really know what you really want out of a relationship without any clear goals whatsoever, chances are you'll be right back to square one all over again; the relationship will be over eventually and you're back to being single. ALWAYS look on the BRIGHT SIDE of it, if you're never in a relationship, then you can NEVER EVER break up and deal with the miseries and troubles of a relationship. The part where it ends is usually the hardest part for most to deal with, depending upon how emotionally invested and attached one has become to their partner. Sometimes it would end well without too many problems and both people just move forward and move on and just let the their former partner go, but almost everybody seem to have trouble with this once they get into a relationship when it ends. Too many people probably think that nothing can ever go wrong with their relationship, and expect that it's gonna be some "happily ever after" bullshit fairy tale conclusion.
The structural thing i see on modern society is corporatist indoctrination and systemic control of modern day women. They are living a life where they are forced to invest there entire life in a brainwashing machine they are not allowed to leave with the end goal being a job. By the time they get out of it they will have a combination of an entire life time of investment, tons of debt because of this system and a world view that they should make career.
Now think how it should be traditionally and contrast it with the modern society. Originally it was the men who had to do the hard labor and provide for the family, the women had free time to make some money on the side doing things she is passionate about and had a lot of time to raise the children and keep an eye on the family. She didn't have to worry about a career, she didn't have to worry about dating so close to her biological clock, she didn't have to worry about dept. Girls where free and had a good life where they where being loved and cared for.
Now you can argue its better this way but thats mostly false. Sure i believe people should be equal in this regard that men can choose to be a house dad and a women can choose to be the career maker. Whatever works for the couple. But as we speak society is being tricked into DANGEROUS grounds. Where both parents are working FULL TIME. That will shift the norm, cause inflation and before you know it working full time with both parents is the only way to get by as everyone got away with increasing the taxes and prices to the point a solo earner family can no longer get by while you didn't get any wealth in return.
So mix and match all you want, but make sure only one parent is working at the time. Don't surrender your children to those who spew mindless propeganda at them and think trough if our education system even works well to begin with (Spoiler: It Doesn't).
I’m an anti-theist so religion has never played a part in my relationships. I find that reason a bit odd. Although happiness is far from underrated, I feel people have forgotten how important it is. Careers are great, money is wonderful but the experience of having someone to love is unreplicable. We only have this one life and working just to have things and stuff has always seemed odd to me. If someone has a career they truly enjoy, then that’s amazing. It isn’t an either or situation.
I listen to the regrets of the dying podcast and the resounding regret is not telling people you know how much you love them because work got in the way. I’m paraphrasing but I get my point. Love is seen as idealistic these days. It’s a shame.
I’m far from the template of courting, marrying, having kids and getting a mortgage. Then what, we die for the cycle to repeat. We remember experiences rather than a new phone, we remember hugs more than we remember work deadlines.
Carry on doing what you love but don’t dont forget to take a step back and remember what really matters.
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Anonymous
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hahaha racking up advanced degrees
sees women are primarily involved in psychology, only later to be employed as walmart employees because no one wants a psych major
funny stuff bro
lemme explain to you why "millennial women are staying single"
1. biologically and naturally women trade up / want the best they can get 2. women value themselves much more greatly than what they're actually worth. not numbers based, but instead "I have [insert degree], I'm worth [insert type] Doctor (or likewise top 5% of male earners)." 3. they can't find anyone who cares about them because the guys who they look for are FAR beyond what the woman is actually worth. ie she's walmart material valuing herself as a goddess and rational guys see her as walmart material
effects from social media, the news pushing "empowerment" and "diversity", pandering white knights and nonstop compliment giving guys reinforce the false belief that they're super models with "a brain", leading them to believe they're so much more valuable than what they really are. popular people syndrome - all popular people are borderline mentally retarded and think their abilities are much better than their competition because "everyone likes me"
note: i don't support mgtow, its just an excuse to blame women for the same reasons feminists blame men
honestly tho why do people in general stay single in this day and age? Because everyone's spiteful and an internet warrior who has been conditioned to believe so many falsehoods by the media about how guys are [insert horrible guy info that's not true] and how girls are [insert horrible girl info that's not true] and so everyone's on edge and afraid to interact. thank social media / the news / idiots who bring out the worst and who's bs gets spread through both social media and the news both.
I’ve seen some YouTubers go off and say that because they’re a pretty and educated woman, and have a higher degree than most guys, and that because women have always traditionally dated up and “more educated” men, like in the past, they feel entitled to the same thing. Except now that means they want the 6-7 figures doctor, CEO, upper executive, celebrity/model/entertainer.
Lol like get real ladies. That’s such a ridiculously low percentage of guys and also, there comes a point where education really doesn’t matter. Like any young guy making 50k+ per year is doing pretty well, doesn’t matter if he’s got a Masters or PhD. 2-4 year degrees or a tech school degree can open up the doors to a very solid, conparable living.
But I mean, whatever happened to just liking a man for who he is and what he can bring to the table? There’s always something “else” or something “extra” a woman expects out of a man. Sometimes it’s an absolutely ridiculous set of standards that no sane, normal, decent man can live up to, or would want to engage in, due to his position in life, the nature of his work, core beliefs, etc. Like some of today’s women seriously have a screw loose.
These “values” that this girl talks about, where are they? “Light choking” is a value to seek in a man? Height? Age? Looks? What about what’s inside and the moral quality of a man? THOSE are values girls. Why am I not surprised she keeps running into bad men? These women these days, she’s mid to late 20’s and she STILL. DOESN'T. GET IT.
Sad thing is, I could say this about most attractive girls these days. They are out of touch.
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Anonymous
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That's cool. I know a few men who are doing the same for similar reasons. I'm basically staying single for the moment for similar reasons. It's a bit easier to pay off my student loan when I'm not focussed and spending money on dating people who may or may not be around in a few months or a few years. In the mean time I'm using this time to improve on myself and my life. Also being busy with a lot I don't have the time to date.
A lot of men are also racking up advanced degrees, getting their careers started, and paying off student loans. Along with this A lot of us haven't met the right person yet.
Though to be honest along from not having met the right person, you can still handle all of these while being in a relationship. The real reason other than the one I mentioned that women are staying single is beicause they want to. There's nothing wrong with that.
For the first three there are men and women getting degrees, startign careers and paying off their own student loans while in a relationship with someone. You don't need to be religious to be in a relationship with someone. Whether or not you'r ein a relationship you should be trying to be a better person than you were yesterday. You can have lots of sex while in a relationship with one person. I would also agree that being single can be awesome same with being in a relationship.
The odd thing about society now a days is that people are becoming more individualistic and less social. That's also playing a part in people being single.
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1, 5, and 8 all the way for me. Plus, I have an extremely low sex drive and actually do not want sex at all. I feel it would be unfair to be in a relationship with a guy and withhold sex from him. At the moment, I enjoy having the time to myself and being able to do what I want, when I want without having to worry about someone else. I also have a career I'm focusing on, and want to improve to be the best I can be as well, which is easier for me to do alone. I have also been much happier single than in either relationship I was ever in. Not that I wouldn't give it another try with someone else, but I'm not in a hurry and I'm not willing to settle, so it will have to wait until someone I want to date comes along. I am completely happy single, so don't mind waiting or even staying single.
there's nothing wrong with staying single but I got married at 20 and I'm doing fine. A lot of these reasons just dont equate?
1. You can have a career and a boyfriend / husband there's nothing stopping you?
2. People get multiple degrees? What's an advanced degree anyway?
3. Well if you're getting multiple degrees it's no wonder your student debt is obscene. My student loans aren't stressful I just pay like 90 bucks a month on them. Nbd.
4. My husband and I are both atheists and we still got married. Marrige does not equal religion
5. This is a good reason. Some people get lucky and meet the one early. Most dont.
6. You can do that with your partner! If that's you found someone who's right for you
correct, it has nothing to do with being a millennial. Today's girls want to have just as much fun as guys do, and all reasons listed apply to one or another millennial.
Times have passed when girls at age 18 had to be married because it was the tradition in the past. Girls just like boys are ambitious, want to discover new things, experience what their parents did not/could not. Nothing wrong about that except that modern society has a hard time accepting that youngsters want to go their own path rather than to follow in the steps of their parents/grandparent. I am one of those and proud to be!
Waiting longer to settle down with this one person who is suppose to be your best friend for life and the person who would step in front of a bus to save your life is a very good idea. Family may start later, but it has a much better chance of lasting rather than the multitude of divorces that begin after just a few months of marriage to a few years of those jumping right in there very young.
I don't know if I can come up with 8, but, 1. Having a serious relationship with a guy is sexist! 2. Having a guy tell you he thinks your sexy all the time is misogynistic! 3. Trump is President. 4. EVERYTHING HAS to be about HER feelings!! 5. Asking her to do things she doesn't exactly want to do is sexists AND misogynistic! 6. MEN? Who needs MEN? I have a DILDO!!! 7. I'm NOT interested in being his maid the rest of my life!!! 8. GET YOUR OWN GOD DAMN BEER!!! How does your version oof number 7 work? You want LOTS of sex, but you DON'T WANT A RELATOIONSHIP, WHICH IS WHERE YOU'LL get LOTS OF SEX!!! yOU WANT lots OF SEX, BUT YOU DON'T WANT TO BE IN A RELATIONSHIP WHERE, YOU'LL get LOTS OF SEX!!!
Was busy with her career Had an advanced degree Admittedly didn't have an obscene amount of student debt (though I don't think this would have made a difference) Wasn't religious Hadn't met the right guy until she met me Was always working on being a better person Liked having sex a lot Thought being single was awesome, but thought being married was more so
These are all rather silly reasons for remaining single.
"A man is not a necessity. A man is a luxury. Like dessert. " -Cher
"Cher is more than capable of saying idiotic things." -Bluemax
*PEOPLE* men and women alike are neither luxuries nor desserts.
This is sad , what happened to the traditional family..
Actually none of this is surprising to me. A lot of younger guys are staying single for similar reasons while a lot of older guys have their own set of reasons for wanting to stay single. If this keeps going marriage and family will be a rare thing.
1. Bullshit. This has been a thing since before millennials; millennials are not special.
2. Some, sure. Definitely not a majority.
3. This is definitely a factor, but I doubt it has a significant effect on it's own.
4. Religion, and whether or not it even matters is not unique to millennials, and lots of atheists and agnostics still get married. It's both a legal factor, and a religious factor.
5. That's the smartest excuse on this whole list.
6. Bullshit. Most millennials (and people period) are lying to themselves if they say that.
7. Wouldn't be a factor if they found the right person FOR THEM.
8. Again, to each their own.
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I agree, because a lot of us grew up in or around people who had difficulties. Either the parents settled down too young and grew apart, or they had kids too soon and resented how their life dreams went unaccomplished so they were stuck in jobs that don’t make them happy with bills they can’t afford.
If anything, many women of our generation learned that men won’t magically make our lives better for us and that we have more to offer in life than becoming someone’s wife or mother.
Thank youuuu omfg a woman who gets it. yassss 🤩🤩. I've seen this too growing up and while dating noticed that men these days either dont have their shit together mentally and emotionally and expect a woman to sit there and cater to it. um not me
And here are the brutally honest reasons why women who stay single until their late 20s and 30s end up miserable and desperate and many of them end up settling for a less-than-ideal man as a result.
Women rule the dating game in their early to mid 20s, but beyond that the power shifts to men, and men their age tend to choose younger women. And those younger women are nuts about older, more established men.
And it shifts for older women. Older women get younger men who can have sex all night without viagra. downside for older men is that young women want your money and are waiting for you to die😂😂
By the time women reach late 20s and 30s, they are looking for a good man to settle down with, and very, very few of those women are interested in younger men for a serious relationship. And to be honest, most younger guys are not interested in older women for anything more than a casual fuck.
If your 30 year old cousin looks that young, she is the rare exception. Women begin to lose their looks after about 25 and go downhill pretty quickly after that.
And yet women and men are reportedly less happy then they have been in decades according to nearly every study.
Now obviously, high fees for education and the strenuous work load are contributing. But having a partner (stable one) is crucial in a person's overall happiness. We desire a connection with another being early on. That role and the need for that role, that role being emotional stability and care will always be a necessity.
Liking sex a lot, that is actually hurting people and not creating them joy, rather its making them depressed.
Other than reasons 5, 6 and 8, I don't see these as valid reasons for staying single. They're just excuses... Religion is whatever because not everyone is religious and a lot of people are open minded and are okay with whatever religions. Not everyone has student loan debt and it's not like most people share that with their partner. They might share a loan for shared property or something like normal couples... Just because You're racking up multiple degrees, doesn't mean you have no time for others. You basically may as well become a shut in with no friends if you're using that as a valid excuse.
I'm not saying that being single is wrong. I can't see myself in a romantic relationship, even if I wanted one. I can't live with or without women. If you want to be single, you do you. I don't blame you.
I completely agree with your list. I look for girlfriend s that don't want relationships because relationships are time and energy consuming and I don't have time for one. I hope that in the future more women have less interest in relationships. Living independent lives and having good women friends is the best way to live.
Oh god lol trying to sell the 60's sexual liberation all over again ain't you? Haha this time 'relationship liberation' Haha ' woman friend ' genius ! But not really
Not the least surprised by your use of vocab.. All I can add up here is it will very likely backfire. Very typical of your kind , you 'll get screwed up so hard. My pleasure.
None of those have to prevent you from having a relationship, but it makes sense that people want to prioritize their career.
That being said, I find promiscuity pretty unnattractive so I'm not very interested in settling down with a girl who had a habit of hooking up with random guys off tinder when she was in her prime and then decides when she's almost 30 she wants to settle down with a stable guy. I mean its great for her if she can have her cake and eat it to, but I definitely wouldn't want to be the guy that marries a girl like that.
Honest reasons? You sure? 1) What career half the girls I know have asimple job those that do have finished university and working. 2) I've never seen a girl do an advanced degree very few go to a masters and beyond. 3) Possibly true but so do guys in fact so do I. 4) Me neither but what does that have to do with it? 5) Yh I hear that a lot and tbh I feel it's bs how can you meet the right person in this day and age when you don't really meet anyone at all? 6) I won't comment. 7) Is that so? How come when a guy approaches you in a club or bar you girls act like you don't? Apparently you girls just want to drink and dance and have fun? And online how come if I make a fake account just for sex to see how easy it is I find that every girl I message doesn't respond to me? And if they do after I reply they don't respond. If anything you girls don't seem to want sex at all. 8) I agree.
Honestly numbers 1, 2, 5, and 6 are all good reasons to be single. This is a new era. The days of tge woman staying home has been over for a very long time. I truly believe that career woman, that has her shit together, make good money, take care of what she needs to take care, should never settle for anyone that is not on her level, or better. A woman can always do better and should never downgrade herself for No one not even herself.
I don’t find anything wrong with any of those points and I agree with them all except the sex part (point 7), but I’m just thinking about myself. For me, sex is not important. Tradition is overrated. Not everyone wants a family and that’s perfectly fine. Live your life. Do you.
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Anonymous
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ACTUAL REASONS Millennial women are staying single. 1. Apps like tinder have given women a entitled shallow self perception where they expect perfection and when the slightest thing doesn't go their way they jump on the next dick showing them attention, because they can go on any app and have guys make them feel important.
2. They are too busy racking up numbers of random cock (and VDs).
3. They haven't hit middle age yet and haven't been forced to settle because the world is still giving them things based on their looks.
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Those all sound like excuses, not reasons.
Ya know, I work a high pressure job and there are a lot of people at my firm above me who are early/mid 30s and haven't been able to keep a relationship going and have pretty much given up. Why? They're selfish assholes. Sure, being a selfish asshole helps you get a lot of nice stuff and its helps you kill it in a career, but when it comes to relationships and love? Its killer.
We are worshiping ourselves, we are putting ourselves at the very center of the world, we are freeing ourselves from what society tells us we should do... but at what cost?
This isn't a gendered topic, men are doing it too. I know people say to always love yourself, but I disagree. Love others before yourself, and you'll be surprised how things change.
ooh ooh, I don't think my age qualifies me to be a millennial but I am single and young. 5,6,7 are my reasons mostly. I haven't found the right man yet. And I'm okay taking the time to work on myself and my career vs fixating on finding a partner. Also, in my last relationship-my sex drive was an issue for half the relationship.
I don't agree having a family or being single is not WRONG. What is wrong is acting like your better then someone just because you were able to find someone and have kids with them or you single and get dick or pussy as much as you want. It just pathetic and quite frankly why even care what other people do? maybe I don't know focus on yourself and your life and stop giving other people any fucks.
2. We're busy racking up advanced degrees. See number 1
3. We have obscene student loan debt — and we don't want to deal with anybody else's. I wouldn't wanna be involved with someone with obscene debt. Kudos for staying off the market
4. We aren't particularly religious. Aaaaaaaaaand?
5. We haven't met "the right person." I imagine most people aren't "the right person", they just happen to be less wrong than everyone else.
6. We're working on being better people. That could take a long time. Self-improvement never ends.
7. We want to have sex. Like, a lot. Promiscuity isn't very attractive
8. Being single can actually be awesome True. Under certain circumstances
The majority of women don't have college degrees and are actually working menial jobs such as secretaries, cashiers and waitresses. Others are working as teachers and nurses. So the myth that the majority of women are too rich and to important to be bothered with relationships is just that. A feminist myth which demeans every working women, without a college degree, who actually earns less money today than working women living during the 1950's earned.
I blame this on #4, no religion, #7, the slut factor, and, of course, the MGTOW movement.
The only problem is if you give up on relationships when you are young, you give up on them forever. Most guys won't date someone who lived that single life for an extended period of time and the ones that do are usually not the best catch.
Personally I think women who find a career more fulfilling than creating children and having a family to be mentally damaged. I am a man with a very impactful and respectable career which people would find exceptional yet I only do it as a means to an end to having a family, I think family is way more important. So when a woman thinks her social media marketing job or HR job is so fulfilling I think they are just losers or something, for something so dumb to be so important to them.
There's nothing wrong with women wanting to be single. The traditional "get married and have kids" is not for everyone. A lot of women used to get married early because that was the norm, and they ended up being unhappy. Of course, not all of them but still. I'm just glad we're slowly understanding that there are more things in life than getting married. That doesn't mean that you won't see traditional families anymore so stop the drama. Just live and let live.
I'm just gonna be real: the only reasons that I have personally seen in my own life are focused on career, and haven't met Mr. Right. Every Millennial girl I know who claims to like being single is really just incredibly jilted by men and has given up on romance for the time being.
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This is stupid I'll tell you why women are staying single. You're staying single because you have impeccably high standards that only 1% of the male population can reach so when men take a look at you and see how ridiculous you women act it makes some guys rather just want to pump and dump you instead of trying to meet your expectations. And you have bitchy attitudes too. No sensible guy wants that. And then when you get older and you realize you can't get the magical man you want for a relationship you go through a process called "settling".
And yeah some men have high standards but there really not as high as you think. The few guys out there who think they can land a model while having nothing going for themselves are delusional I will admit that. But for women, your standards are absurd. Its amazing how so many of you think Mr. Perfect exists. No one is saying you have to date a guy who's a scrub. There are plenty of good guys to date. You just choose to ignore them because he's not the dream guy who's completely imaginary. If you want to wait on a fictional person that's absolutely fine. Just expect years of disappointment.
Women rate 80% of men as below average. (hypergamy combined with how we currently lie to men about what women want, making them way less attractive) Then they get on tinder, manage to get banged by one of the rare guys they find hot, he never calls back, and they think that if they just get banged enough by enough hot guys one will eventually want to date her.
Nothing wrong with it. Not all women want to spend years with a guy whose whole life consists of taking her out to "elegant" fast food joints, then coming home and watching "the game," any game, night after night, and swilling beer, soon develops a pot belly, and at 35, still lives in his college sweat shirt. Also, diaper changing and the subsequent PTA meetings aren't for everybody.
I mean, you do you. But I'm going to do me and men are going to do themselves as well, meaning that when you're 35 with 10 degrees, a successful career, no debt and loads of money and fwbs, I'm still not attracted to any of those things and you won't get much in the way of "dessert" from us.
Again, you can do what you want, but there's this implication that comes across wherein it seems like women feel as though they've justified why they do what they do -- and as such should be entitled to get what they want later should they change their minds. Own your choices.
Well it's a choice but the other side of it is women past their prime attractive years hitting 30+ after years on the cock riding carousel finding it hard to meet a decent guy when they are ready to settle down.
Kinda comes off as sour grapes when she's gotta justify her relationship status.
Like... what's the point of being an ambitious career woman if all you have to come home to is cats and to find out your one night stand forgot to flush after leaving a big dump in the toilet.
Congratulations. Pretty sure having a husband and kids might be a teensy bit more rewarding, but what do I know?
1. Shallowness 2. social status among friends 3. They think all men just want sex. 4. prefer the attention of being single 5. They do not want to settle down with a guy in case something better comes along. 6. They would rather men pay them for sex, dates and gifts rather than going on proper normal dates or hookups. 7. They do not think they are good enough for some men. 8. They do not trust men get scared they may get hurt or worse.
Nothing wrong with just dating, specially if you're under 30. Tie down your career and have some fun, but don't tie the knot until you have a little experience living because people change drastically from the time they're 18 to 30, from the time they're 30 to 40, and from the time they're 40 to 50. Nothing like making the wrong decision when you're young. So take some time to experience life but also be safe and protect yourself and respect other people.
Well depends. I am a conservative person, but the next person may not be. For me I will always respect another individual's choice. But for me, I find a nice man and get married to him. I believe in monogamy, but absolutely respect you if you think otherwise
The first 6 points are definitely me. Some people can have a family and do college all at once. Me, I can only focus on one thing at a time. In college, I didn’t have a job so I can focus on my studies. If I was working and studying, I would prioritize one or the other.
The saddest part about this is that so many women say this is perfectly fine yet women are the least happy that they have been in seventy years, the most likely to be diagnosed with depression and other anxiety based disorders etc. Clearly its not something they want otherwise women wouldn't be so miserable (and statistically women who are in traditional relationships are happier then those who are not).
Why are so many dudes saying sad when so many guys have sowed their oats and done fooled around. A woman has to want a relationship all the time? If women wanted that, few men would be getting no strings attached sex, but they do. And many guys are single because they don't want to settle down either.
Doesn't really bother me, I have an excessive list of requirements a woman has to meet before I'd even consider marriage. Including hundreds of prenuptial agreements. I'm breaking down all of my assets by item, don't want her attorney to try to use any loopholes to claim certain items werent covered.
So if millenial women dont want to get married, so be it, millennial men have a similar list, if not a longer one. 🤷♂️
Yep.. their priorities are a lot different for some women than they were 10-15 years ago. I think it's also that a lot of them grew up in families that involved divorce and they would rather wait and find the right one then marry the wrong one and go through that.
Pretty good except I can't relate to #7. Traditional family can suck it. I'd probably have to hang myself if I got trapped in one of those. I'd need someone who will travel and go on adventure with me.
Thats sweet, though its the same as it always has been. That is the one thing, the only thing that is a true bennifet of betting older. You get to see how much things change and how even though all these things change the core of who we are stays the same. Millenials will get married and split up just as much as any before them and after them.
I want to marry someone who I’m love with (who also loves me back). I just haven’t found anyone with whom the feeling was mutual. If we’re not on the same page romantically, I’d rather be single.
Not meeting the right man is valid. Wanting sex has never stop anyone from a relationship. Being a better person is bogus and advanced degrees don't go on your whole life. I am afraid your premise is incorrect. I don't see many single women. Most want a relationship or someone to come home to after a grueling day advancing your career, working to pay off your loan and so forth.
Then after you’re all used up and in your 30s, you realize your career is just a dumb job, you’re not as hot as you were in your 20s when you fucked everything with a pulse, you and your friends will go drink too much wine and wonder where all the good men have gone.
If a woman is saying those kinds of things, the reason she’s single is because she doesn’t have what it takes to be in a relationship. In relationships, your partner matters more than things like sex and money. The only exception is religion. That should matter be the most important thing in ones life, but nothing should come between religion and relationship.
The thing is if a woman doesn't have a career and a man leaves her.. what will she have? nothing. i think establishing a career prior to getting into a partnership is crucial for a woman
Your thinking is probably the biggest cause of young people getting divorced. That young love wears real thin when things get tough and the real world sets in. First the sex goes and then you go because you are just so tired of having nothing, barely able to keep food on a table.
All of those are just excuses minus "the right person" they don't prevent you from having a relationship unless you work for seven days a week with very little time to do things like clean house.
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