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Girlfriend is letting herself go? Should I break up? (Page 4)
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Well. Being a beta is tuff. She's "fat" with you, because your d ck is not impressive enough... I'm on your side though, she's being a selfish fat b that should go on a diet! She's comfy with you, because she knows your self esteem is low enough to put up with her bs 😐
Your saying it as its a stated fact, but both you and i dont know him right? So you dont know if thats the case, or if its because he's getting desperate after trying for so long, or because of love or whatever it could be. Stop beeing so judgmental so fast, he asked a question for help, not for an insult
@Didi1337 love? Lol a man that could say that about his female would t know love if it throat punched him. Please don't put love in this demons mouth. He's less than 100 .. In too many ways, YET demands so much from a lady? Lol. .. Ok
Listen im not trying to take any sides okey? I feel their both making mistakes (as it usualy is in breakups or fights), yeah he might demand a bit much, but she can't demand sex if she doesn't take care of her body? Like fair enough, i have dated a lot of different kindes of shapes and sizes, i dont judge, but sexually we all have what we prefeer and what turns us on and off. Besides these points there's probably more their both doing both wrong and right, but without a fully detailed story from both sides its hard to say, as well as we dont know them. Oh and keep in mind a lot of guys are vad at expressing and writing feelings, which causes a lot of stupid fights as well, trust me i've been there to help a lot of people trough relationship trouble and fights. And more often then not its either misunderstanding or stupidity to be honest.
But i agreed with you on the point that size has nothing to do with love, and breaking up with someone shouldn't be tought about unless its harmfull, bad for you or the love is gone, well or cheating and stuff like that ofcourse
@Didi1337 NO. He's wrong and she's an angel. THE END.
I don't care if she s super fat. He's a piec and is luck y to have her
You dont even know anything about her and you call her an angel... if your just gonna defend her because he wrote some bad stuff that sets him in a bad light, without knowing if we misunderstand he's meaning, or know anything about her or their relationship except what they said then i gotta ask you. Do you think every girl is an angel?
@Didi1337 yup
No offense, but thats sexist haha. didn't know i would accualy talk to one, i tought you girls where a myth created so girls wouldn't be afraid to express themselves :0 nah just kidding, but honestly, how can you think a sex is bettet then the other? We basicly have different jobs in a partnership that has been since humanitys beginning. Without one, the other would be very inefficent. But you do you, have a good day
@Didi1337 ooOh you just got me so good! Everyone thinks you're better than me đ¤
Why would i care about that? Its not like ill ever meet any of these guys, but if you are on a page like this, shouldn't you at least try to be helpfull?
@Didi1337 nope
This is very obviously a catfish troll.
Stop trolling troll
She doesn't care about herself enough, let alone about you. If she did she would be in shape, first for herself, and then for you. If you were fat and lazy it would have been different, but if you put an effort and encourage her, she should do it too.
Now you can do 2 things: leave her or find why she gained weight so fast. It coyld be a health issue or a mental problem. I can eat a lot of crap and stay skinny.
real relationships go beyond the physical.
I was 113#s when i met my boyfriend...
3 years later i met him again and i weigh 169#s coz i was prego and put on a lot of weight.. it is very hard to lose it...
He said he loves me more now than he did before. I feel and look like a big fat cow, but he says he loves the me inside.
It's a shallow reason to break, but legitimate.
I remember my brother's friend got a tumor on his brain a few years back. They cut it out, but it affected his speech. He needed some care during and after until he was able to get back on his own but his wife said peace out. She couldn't handle it and they divorced. He did eventually get another wife who was a cancer survivor, and they seem happily married. He works and is able to take care of himself now
I don't condone it 100% though. I think it should be worked out first and then go from there.
The honeymoon stage has obviously ended. My relationship is going on 8mo... and I'm still trying to look good for him. Would it be wrong to break-up with her? Hmm could you take a break? Give her an ultimatum... either we take a break--or you get back in shape. Offer to go to the gym with her, be her trainer. It'll be sexy... hopefully.
Hi Anonymous. Listen up, I think that you do not like her anymore nor you ever realy liked her because you would have accepted all her virtues and vices. If you ever get married, after getting kids your wife will never be the same. If you were only into her good looks it was not love. You were just hormonal. You have bigger problem than she does.
Sounds like you are talking about yourself.
Yes break up. If a person can't keep their health and well being in order they sure as hell won't be able to keep anything else in order. Just get out of there. She won't change becasue of you either. at least not until its over. But then you should have moved on.
Yeah, the girl wants some sad chap to give in and let her be as lazy as she wants and gain as much weight as she wants. If you stay with her then eventually it will change from pouting to tantrums, just wait for some body positive person to speak to her and she realizes "I don't have to be responsible for my weight as long as I love myself at any weight" then she just expects you to love her at any weight.
Wowww, you're a shallow douchebag
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~ Mrs Manson
Now Ms. Manson, you know this guy is 6 foot 2, a stacked 220 lbs, muscles rippling, chiseled chin. . .
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He can't be bothered with some fat slob.
@RolandCuthbert XD
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~ Mrs Manson
I agree with you, yeah she humbly told you she'd try but one response like that just isn't enough to measure up with your huge share of effort you've been working on. For the sake of your happiness you need someone who's more self loving, appreciative of you, and devoted to their promises. There's nothing telling you that you should have to settle for the same cycle. Just let her down easy already.
so you don't really love her then? cause if you did, this shouldn't be bothering you, let her do what she wants, if she doesn't want to get fit like you then you can't do anything about it, why are you letting those itty bitty things annoy you?
It goes both ways in my opinion, if she's not willing to better herself for him is she any better? If he were to do something she hated\despised would it then be ok?
Whoa. A guy can love a woman and expect her to TRY to take care of herself. I bet if he just quit his job & said he does not care about making money because heâs depressed she would jump ship. Not BECAUSE heâs broke but because heâs acting selfish. Same goes for stuffing your face endlessly.
Plus itâs only been 10 months. They arenât married or been together for 5 years!
"so you don't really love her then? cause if you did, this shouldn't be bothering you".
Sigh, there's always at least one of them
@hahahmm kinda love how men always go for the "money" jab. Not all of us care about your wallet size. You've been with the wrong girls clearly.
@Lish89 But money is all i got.
@lish89, you really do not understand why a man is attracted to women. As far as men always âgoing for the money jabâ, how else can we explain things to a woman who claims itâs OK for her to not care about her looks. If you have a better way, let us know.
@SngBirdy well sorry but this is my opinion, what can i say the girl loves food đ¤ˇââď¸
@Kru2020 that's understandable, maybe he should do the same to her, might get her to buck up a little bit
@hahahmm no I full understand men are very physical beings.. looks is what hooks you unfortunately and that's just biology. All I was saying was to not make it sound like every woman is after a mans money. It's a shitty perspective to have. It's like saying women only want big cocks. Not true, size doesn't matter as much as how you use it lol. So just be careful in your assumptions or you will attract only those who care about numbers. I've managed to keep a mans attention for over a decade without being with him for seven years, so I feel pretty special knowing my bestfriend loved me afar. So I don't really get bothered by these comments, just wanted to give you a women's view which is why your on a site like this right?
@Kru2020 I doubt that. Sounds like you have a good sense of humourđ
Ah, the typical scenario. Trying to look as attractive as you can when single, and when you've bagged one, not giving a single ''f'' about your tone.
She won't change, man. Sorry. As you said, she's someone that like to use words, not actions. I think the most suitable option is to break up, though I'll tell you right off the bat, she's gonna look better right after you guys break up. Just a typical fisher.
There is something called the comfort weight in relationships it's that point where whatever party is comfortable enough to let go abit
In moderation of course
But seems like there is more going on then that you should probably talk with her and figure out what's happening
But then agian if looks is your only concern then sure break up with her find another one until it happens agian insanity circle
This sounds like she has an eating disorder. I think she needs propper help because she is binge eating. What is important is that you donât make her feel shitty for her body. This will cause her to feel worse and turn to food for âcomfortâ. Treat her kindly and encourage her to find out why she is doing this. It could be a mental illness
Can you politically correct assholes shut up with your 'oh boohoo, she should find someone who isn't going to shame her for this and that' bullshit? Complacency is a bitch, okay? These problems won't be merely about looks, but also attitude. Perhaps, she's more fit to live with a couch potato.. they have so much in common.
It's also annoying to having to discipline her like she's your kid or something. She's had chances, she doesn't try.
You sound extremely irritated and pissed off. Try once talking to her and say everything that is on your mind. Let her know that you are hating this and you want to see her healthy and happy. Try taking her to a counselor or something. Maybe she has something going on deep in her mind which is causing her to do this. If you really don't want to do anything then just give her one last warning. Don't just breakup with her now. If she doesn't try after the warning then maybe the only way to make her realize would he you leaving her.
No try to work things out. Talk to her. Understand her. Try taking baby steps. Include her in your workout 🏋ď¸ââď¸. Sign up for couples workout programs. If gym isnât fitting into both of your schedules then donât be disheartened. Have more sex with each other. Sex is also a great exercise. Indulge more in wild hardcore passionate sex. That will keep both of you physically, emotionally and spiritually healthy. Your bond will strengthen.
I have talked to her.. many times
How have you talked to her though? In your post you said "I yelled..." Which is going to get her defensives up. How have you communicated with her?
If youâre leaving her because she gained her weight then you should gtfo. You donât really love her for her but for other reasons.
Thatâs when people get in a relationship for wrong reasons.
So if you were married to a woman for years and she got saggy tits youâd just go? Man that ainât love.
You gotta love the person for who they are, otherwise youâre dating them for their look. Beauty is temporary heart ainât.
I think you should sit down and discuss it with her. Maybe she's having deeper issue. If this persists, breakup. You don't need toxicity.
Nooooooo! Don't break up with her work with her there has to be some reason why she's putting on weight that fast either it's a medical reason or maybe she's depressed or something don't leave that's a coward's move work with her see if you can help her out get it to the gym and just work with her
If you've tried being smart about asking her to work out together etc. then I only see two solutions (because you can't go on with someone doing things you dislike) 1) break up 2) give her an ultimatum.
If she doesn't care about you enough to be a bit more mindful about what she eats, then that's a red sign anyway. Try having her install an app like MyFitnessPal and stick to the calories or an equivalent method.
No. Don't have her install a weight loosing app on her phone. That's controlling, Petty and a dick move. If you care that much about someone gaining a few pounds then go jack yourself off because you don't deserve any decent woman. It's really sick to see men seeking relationships that force women to look and act in a certain way, just an FYI to any guy/ girl reading this, if you think of your s/o in this way, break up with them. Cause you're obviously not mature enough and don't care enough about the person. Good luck finding someone who will match your requirements and make you happy.
The opposite. The apps help and supports people that want to try and improve thrmselves. If a girl doesn't want to make the guy happy by at least taking care of herself then she shouldn't be in a relationship.
Just an fyi, not every fucking person has their whole life figured out. You don't need to have all your shit figured out to be in a relationship. The person your with is supposed to support you and help you learn who you are. I didn't know who the fuxk I was or what I wanted until about 3 years into a relationship. That line about "you need to love yourself first" isn't always true. I'm proof of that. Supporting her in loosing weight is fine but if she literally says stop I don't want to loose weight then he needs to respect that or get out of the relationship. You don't nag the person you date like their mom would. That's unhealthy. Downloading a weight loss app on her phone without asking first or giving her the option, is completely controlling and really hurtful. If he wants to leave, that's fine. But don't keep dragging her down. Weights more important to him, and obviously she doesn't feel the same way, so they need to break up.
Just an fyi, but that's exactly what I told him.. Reading seems to be hard. I gave him 2 options, since he doesn't seem to like being with a fat girl. 1) break up 2) Support her, for example let her try an app that has helped others. I never said he should force it on her or that he should even touch her phone. Stop getting triggered before you read the entire post.