He blocked me after I told him I'm pregnant? Why would he do that?

[Anonymous]

Ex & I hit a rough patch and I started feeling nauseous, dizzy spells, spotting etc. He lives hours away & during our rough patch we weren't really speaking but I told him I didn't think I was, but was worried about being about pregnant. He called & asked why I thought so and I told him my body had been feeling off. Fast forward he said he would call the next day & let me know what he wanted to do about our relationship. He didn't call. This cycle of I'll call, but didn't. Repeated this for 1.5 weeks. Finally Monday my best friend told me to stop putting off taking a pregnancy test, so I did, & it was positive. My ex said he was going to call that same night so I wanted to tell him then, of course he didn't call. I took his lack of response as my answer that he didn't want to move forward.

I unfollowed him the next morning on Instagram because he posts a lot & I didn't need the constant reminder of him especially after finding out that I'm pregnant. Later that night he texted me & apologized for not calling. 10 minutes later he sends me a long message saying I was childish because I had unfollowed him, that I put in the nail in the coffin with my behavior, & that he would never respond to me so to not even try to contact him. I tried calling and text him that night a handful of times. Explaining that I tried to hint to him weeks before that I was worried about being pregnant and he just didn't understand my thought process-I wasn't being childish I unfollowed out of self preservation. The next day he still hadn't responded so I told him this is why I had been freaking out & sent him the positive test holding it in front my toothbrush holder (so he knew I didn't do anything shady with the test). Again, no response. I stopped trying to make contact. A week later I made my page public, & a few days later he blocked me. I am so hurt. Yes, I was on BC, but he ejaculated in me every time we had sex. I can't help but think he think's I'm lying & that's why he blocked me.

[Anonymous]

Call him on a house phone, your moms phone, your friends phone, ANY phone that you aren’t blocked on. CALL HIM. this is serious. Explain to him everything you said on here. You’re pregnant now. No time for he said she said.
Call him tell him. Tell his damn parents idc. Tell his mom.

I had a pregnancy scare with a guy I wasn’t with. He snapped out. Told me to get an abortion. He’ll pay for it etc etc etc.
biggest turn off

If there’s anything that will cause you to drop a dude it’s his response to you being pregnant. They can get you pregnant but can’t be supportive in ANY way.

Just call him and talk to him. Make sure to update. I wanna know what happens.

[btbc92]

He did that because he wanted a pump and dump. This is why you do NOT have sex before marriage, and now you have a guy that walked. You cannot get your expectations high and expect every man your not married to seek to help take care of a baby he never wanted. I'm sorry, but this choice was your and him to fornicate. This child doesn't deserve the hell you both brought on yourselves. Leave him alone. You're going to have to raise him/her by yourself. And hopefully, you can receive some support. Harassing him will only make it worse.

[Asker]

Unfortunately, plenty of married men leave their wives pregnant. Marriage doesn’t equate to a man stepping up to responsibility. I haven’t said anything else to him since and didn’t plan on saying anything else to him.

[bizzym]

My dad left my mom when she was pregnant with my oldest sister. They were married. He came back and they had me and my two brothers. My dad left when I was only a toddler. Men who are selfish do this. It has nothing to do with marriage or love.

They are plenty of men who have one-night stands and still step up to take care of their kid. It comes down to character-not how they feel about a woman.

[btbc92]

Asker, it's about who you choose, not just when you choose to do it with. Yes, married men leave. But 9/10x the wife already KNEW what type of person she married, or was blindsided by the sex because she had premarital sex instead of finding out who she married. That is the problem.

[btbc92]

Don't date somebody who doesn't share your values about sex, children, beliefs, faith, marriage, etc. You find these things out as FRIENDS and BEFORE you date them to avoid DUDS! Because sex is only a smoke screen for them to use, abuse and hop in before they want to hop OUT! Because marriage will FORCE them to be responsible and that's why they fight their way to not marrying you, or having you birth their child, but don't mind toying with your body for sexual pleasure while you still fill unfulfilled in other areas. You can always tell how they treat you by how they have sex with you.

[btbc92]

Can't always blame it on the men, they were already like this, you just refuse to see it.

[btbc92]

feel*

[Asker]

That’s the thing we HAD talked about this. I said this to another poster below. This is why I’m shocked. Heck, he even said he wanted me pregnant. Not to say I planned on this (he’s quite a bit younger and has no money because he’s finishing up school), but he definitely didn’t seem like the type to do this. Since I’m older I needed to know these things and we talked in detail about how we would raise our kids, if he wanted children, etc.

[btbc92]

Asker, of he didn't marry you, and prove to you that he's worthy of being the father of your child, he used you. That is the point, and I'm sorry that you had to go through that he'll, but sadly, that is the price of having premarital sex.

[Shezadi]

dear asker, you are saying your boyfriend was finishing school, what age is he? it sounds like he is a lot younger than you and there is a huge age gap, you know what they say love is blind

[Sheep_Dog]

My ex left me with my two boys. It sucks when people check out cause they can't handle responsibility. But I am grateful she did cause now I know it wasn't meant to be and won't waste more years of my life on her. And that I have kids, the next woman I find I know she is the one cause it's already out there before we wed.

[Asker]

Sorry to hear that, that’s awful. Yea, my best friend keeps saying this behavior has nothing to do with me and everything to do with his character and not wanting to take responsibility. I’m just having a hard time believing what she’s telling me though.

[Sheep_Dog]

I think that sounds about right, or he's just scared, either way not wanting or not ready. I don't know him personally but is this someone who you want to build a family with and can he do that?

[Anonymous]

So 2 30 year olds acting like kids. Of course he blocked you it is social media. What else will he do to get rid of a girl who has a baby he does not want. Your hours away with no social media no real evidence your having a kid. He can ignore his responsibility.

[Asker]

We had already unfollowed each other which is why I don’t see why he blocked me. I told him and haven’t tried to reach out since. He didn’t block me until I made my page public.

[Shezadi]

anonymous person, you are heartless

[DocilexElle]

Miscommunication, misunderstanding of your actions... and this fucked everything up. I wish I could cry with you and hold you in my arms. HUGS! You don't deserve this bs. Sometimes I assume that people don't want to talk to/be with me either (if they don't get back to me/don't hear from them)...

[Asker]

Thank you :/ I know shouldn't, but I keep beating myself up. If I just hand't unfollowed him things would be different. My best friend believes he would've ran upon hearing the pregnancy news no matter how and when I told him. Who knows. I'm just so shocked at his behavior. He kept saying how cute I would be pregnant, how he would be a good dad, etc. Granted, we didn't plan for this at all but I would think someone who said those kind of things wouldn't block the woman they got pregnant.

[DocilexElle]

You're welcome! I completely agree :( That's really odd that he just avoided you.

[Bananaman177]

That's what you get when you pick guys based off their looks, Honey.

Don't worry, the government is empowered to take almost all his money on your behalf. They'll even let you keep a cut!

[slatyb]

If you are going to have the child and he's the father, then he is liable for child support whether or not he remains in contact.

[slatyb]

Downvote? That's simply a fact.

[On_the_other_hand]

It is what is. You don't need to know "why."

The question is, with him walking away. What do you want to do?

[reptocarl]

I hope you’re smart enough to get court ordered child support. You’ll never get him back but at least you can make him be financially responsible

[newPython]

Bad idea.. gives woman a bad name...

[reptocarl]

@newPython you’re full of shit. I see you’re an enabler of deadbeat dads. Don’t we already have enough of those? I’ll bet you’re a deadbeat dad yourself

[newPython]

No, I just don't like women trapping a guy to get free child support money.

[reptocarl]

@newPython he wasn’t trapped. She was on BC. I’m a firm believer if a guy doesn’t want kids then be responsible and wear a condom or don’t stick your dick in a pussy. Him willingly fucking her and cumming in her isn’t entrapment. It’s him being an irresponsible moron

[newPython]

You are entitled to your opinion, but I am a strong believer that you should have an abortion if you are having a child out of wedlock. No excuses.

[newPython]

Also there was a real good chance she lied about the BC. It's quite common for women to do that.

[reptocarl]

@newPython regardless the child has to be taken care of and he’s half responsible. By not paying child support you’re not hurting the mother you’re hurting the child. Not everyone believes in abortion some for religious reasons. If you’re so moral then you shouldn’t have premarital sex either

[Princessperfect]

@newPython First of all... I guarantee you are some ugly miserable 40-year-old man who was picked on in high school. All the pretty girls went out with a good looking guys and they didn’t even know you were alive. And right now you have grown to be an even uglier 43-year-old man with absolutely nobody who loves you. So why don’t you do yourself in the world a favor get a gun go in the woods put it in your mouth and pull the trigger do your own abortion.

[Princessperfect]

@newPython It’s quite common how do you know that do you take statistics as a job or is it all the women that I’ve tried to trap you because your charm is just so unbelievable or is it because you’re a miserable prick nobody loves you nobody ever has loved you And nobody ever will love you and the only way that you can handle it is to act like you’re not missing out on anything anyway when in reality you’re missing out on a lot.

I understand if I was 40 years old with nothing to be proud of in my life and those kind of opinions I would try to justify it myself as opposed to looking in the mirror and saying I’m just not good enough to have a wife and kids like every other man.
Again your mother should’ve aborted you but there’s still hope you can still blow your own head off

[Princessperfect]

@newPython Although you do seem like quite the pussy so if you need some help let me know I have no problem helping you out.

Babies are innocent you are the furthest thing from innocent so if they should die again blow your head off jump in front of a train call me I’ll help you figure something out maybe poisoning.

It definitely has to be something quick because you’re too much of a pussy to do it any other way so let me know when you’re ready there tough guy.
If innocent babies should die because you say so then I say old miserable ugly never get laid pieces of shit like you should die.

Again please do the world a favor and go kill yourself

[gio_isaac]

Because he is a cunt.

[DocilexElle]

are you British?

[gio_isaac]

Irish

[DocilexElle]

That makes sense. Us Americans view that word differently. Here, we usually call women that word. I hear in England/Ireland you can call anyone it!

[gio_isaac]

Yeah pretty much. An insult can't get any better than this lol

[DocilexElle]

Do you call guys a cunt more often over where you live?

[gio_isaac]

I don't use this word often. Over here when you call someone a cunt, it's the highest insult.

[DocilexElle]

I think over here, it's "motherf***er"

[gio_isaac]

Yeah, I hear that often over there.

[DocilexElle]

yep!

[WhoDatGuy]

Social media argument. Clearly neither of you are mature enough for a baby

[newPython]

If I got a girl pregnant and she didn't want to have an abortion, I would dump her in a heartbeat without any hesitation.

[bizzym]

... and people like you are why so many kids have absent fathers

He didn't even give OP a chance to talk about things he just completely jumped ship. It's okay for a man to say he doesn't want/isn't ready for a kid but he completely disregarded OP.

Dumping vs. completely ignoring the woman you got pregnant are two VERY different things.

[newPython]

@bizzym Almost all women who get pregnant out of wedlock, purposefully get pregnant to trap the man into marriage or something like that. The blame shouldn't be on people like me with so many kids having absent fathers, it's rather people like her who are selfish and want to pressure the guy for marriage when is not ready, and get free child support money. They need to eliminate child support, and you will see that women will suddenly be responsible about taking birth control pills instead of lying about it. I blame the woman 99 percent for this.

[bizzym]

You can't read. Where in this did OP said she was going to keep the baby?
I stand by what I said. You're the reason why so many children have absent fathers-sexist, idiotic, and immature thinking.

[newPython]

@bizzym Yes, I can read. The OP never said anything about keeping the baby, but I did comment on it, because I knew where this was going to. Seems like you can't debate with me, so you got to use words like idiotic and immature. When you can't debate the facts, attack the messenger, eh. That's your game plan.

[Asker]

Ummmmm you're so wrong. I don't want to keep the baby. I even said in my message to him how I was afraid that I would have to terminate the child alone. Furthermore, he is years younger than me. Is still getting his degree, doesn't have a job, and has no money. This is not who would I try and "trap" as a father when he doesn't have the means to be. So no what's your lame reasoning for him blocking me now? Can't "trap" a man if you don't keep the baby you idiot.

[newPython]

Take a deep breath and relax.. my bad for not reading that you wrote that you don't want to keep the baby. Good for you, you made a good decision. In that case, he is an idiot for blocking you.

[thtgr]

WTF is wrong with you you piece of shit

[newPython]

@thtgr Are you pissed off at me, because I still haven't paid your mom 10 dollars for the awesome blow job she gave me back in June. I don't blame you. Just tell her to be patient and I will make it up during Christmas. Happy now?

[slatyb]

And you would still be liable for support.

[Answermyquestions31]

Dude wtf are you talking about. WE DONT GET PREGNANT TO TRAP DUDES, WE GET PREGNANT BECAUSE YOU DUDES LIE ABOUT CUMMING HALF THE TIME AND REFUSE TO WEAR CONDOMS ETC.
NOT OUR FAULT DUDES LIKE YOU ain't SHIT.

[newPython]

@Answermyquestions31 Refuse to wear condoms? It takes two to tango. If he refuses to wear condoms, don't fuck him. Why is that so hard? Otherwise, you are to blame.

[newPython]

Have had too many women who don't want to use condoms. I break up with them right there and then. No woman is going to trap me for child support money.

[btbc92]

See that's where your being both a hypocrite AND an IDIOT. You don't want to get her pregnant, then keep your junk in your TRUNK. It takes two to make a baby, or have you not learned that in sex ed? And please, don't say that's what condoms and birth control pills are for. Because anything can happen, and if God allows somebody to be pregnant, there is not a thing you, I or the world can do. And that is why you say abortion. Murder your own flesh in blood because you want to live a bitter and selfish life. People will do what they want, and you should not expect any better than what you believe and put out. So no complaints. Everything is not all on the women, just like everything is not all on the men. You wanted to do an adult thing, own up like an adult! That's all.

[Answermyquestions31]

That’s you. Every guy I’ve been with (3) REFUSE to wear condoms. And talk about getting me pregnant etc. not all women want to get pregnant or trap guys. Just the ones who are all in love.

[Answermyquestions31]

NOT ALL WOMEN WANT TO TAKE BIRTH CONTROL. I DONT TAKE IT AT ALL BECAUSE OF THE SIDE EFFECTS. WEIGHT GAIN, MOOD SWINGS, etc. then later on in life you sometimes can’t have a baby because of all those years you were on birth control.
I don’t take that shit.
So I depend on a guy to pull out or wear a condom.

[newPython]

@Answermyquestions31 You shouldn't be having sex if you are not on BC.. that's selfish and not fair towards the guy.

[newPython]

@Answermyquestions31 Yep, there are too many of those that are all in love. If they were really in love, they wouldn't want to mess up the guy's life. Because love means caring more about the other person than caring about yourself, whereas lust is when you care more about yourself than the other person.

[newPython]

@Answermyquestions31 The guy should wear a condom and the woman should take birth control. Period.

[btbc92]

@newPython I got to say that at 45, shame on you. Blaming others for equal choices you make. You think a girl wants to ruin HER LIFE when she is believing that sex = love? You tell her " I refuse to wait for marriage to have sex! You need to be sexually compatible first! That's religious, and I ain't religious" Bull [you know what], but you have sex with her, get her pregnant and dare talk about how she ruined YOUR life? You need to grow up for your age and stop trying to be a kid that never wants to grow up. Nobody has to do a thing. You hear me? Not a thing. Your the one that's being twice as stupid for not learning to control your lust and urges. But some of you have the gall to call a woman a hoe when you're being just like a hoe. Stop it already. Your embarrassing yourself.

[newPython]

@btbc92 Typical feminist argument.. never wanting to take responsibility for her own actions - you don't use birth control, you are just as guilty.

[btbc92]

I'm a virgin. Never had a man touch me other than being sexually harassed and touch inappropriately against my will. I wouldn't even DARE date a man who won't wait and have a desire for marital faithfulness and the responsibilities that come with it. Marriage is a place for ALL THE SEX you want until a baby comes and you start again. You don't have to wait until your 20 or 30 something to marry. You marry young while you are still ABLE. What the hell is SO FREAKING HARD? It's not hard to submit to each other in faithfulness and only have sex with each other! Not so hard to give up your needs and wants for the other person and learn to LOVE each other. Not so hard. But no. You people do what you want to do, and dare blame each other for your mess. It's pathetic.

[btbc92]

This is not some feminist argument from me. I ain't no feminist. That's all those women you ran around with being a tramp. A godly woman knows to love and be with only ONE man while keeping her butt at home when she needs to be other than work or with friends and family. Not chaperoning the sexual needs of other men.

[newPython]

@btbc92 Excellent advice if this was 1850, but this is 2018. Be realistic instead of living in a fairy tale.

[btbc92]

It's not a fairytale buddy. It's people who just choose to act 'Stupida/Stupido'! So don't give me that 2018 BS. Because even back then people still did it. The only difference is, you do that crap, you would be shamed and called out for what you were. So if you were a hoe, you were a hoe. And it gravely effected your work and social reputation. They need to bring it BACK!

[newPython]

@btbc92 Have you ever tried meditation before. Seems like you get worked up a little bit too easily.

[btbc92]

I don't mess with that witchcraft crap. I just don't like idiots who make excuses for what they do. And sadly, I don't think other people so far disagree with me. They're disagreeing with YOU. So, I'm not the problem. Your mentality IS.

[newPython]

@btbc92 You are funny.

[btbc92]

I know you think I'm funny. Because you don't take life seriously! Makes me wonder how can you be the age you are and still live with yourself with the type of conscious you have? Because it's not human. It's sick.

[newPython]

@btbc92 I am not sick. You just live in a feminist fairy tale. Men are meant to fuck and women to receive. Don't have sex if you are not on the pill and he is not on the condom. Want to fuck without the pill and condom, then be ready to have an abortion, instead of being a freeloader that takes away child support money.

[btbc92]

Sick to the point you sound mental and need professional counseling or a psychotherapist, because somehow, somewhere in your past, you had something happened to you that makes you think this inhumane to do is natural.

[newPython]

@btbc92 I think you are secretly in love with me. Sorry, but I don't fuck women who don't take birth control.

[btbc92]

No, you're very sick. And like I said before. I'm not a feminist. I'm Christian. And even God didn't make us be like how your brain is. Your brain is warped.

[newPython]

@btbc92 Ah, you are Christian. That explains everything.. what a sick demented religion.

[btbc92]

Your the one who sounds like a freeloader. A freeloader who uses women for sex. That is an idiot. Don't want to get a woman pregnant? How about getting your balls taken off! Sounds so much smarter than blaming another person because you got to stick your junk everywhere! Yours suppose to be a human being but you sound too much like an untamed animal.

[newPython]

You are Christian, but you are a hypocrite. If you are a true Christian, you would wait until marriage to have sex.

[newPython]

@btbc92 If you can't handle emotionally the fact that a man can walk out anytime after sex, you should not be dating to begin with. Period. A man who is not a boyfriend, does not owe you anything. Period.

[btbc92]

Oh please! I'm not religious. I follow God's standards, not standards based on man-made concepts that the church today use. You want to say it's a sick religion, but you're forgetting that God is not about religion, and what he says, goes. End of story.

[btbc92]

I don't think you know me or what I do. I don't date men because of imbeciles like YOU. Not worth it. You don't see me whoring anywhere.

[newPython]

@bizzym If you are not religious, why bring up the fact that you are a Christian. That's fine, men don't want to date child support money grabbing women like you either. At least not men who have self respect and dignity.

[btbc92]

Man, you got issues. Serious pent up issues. I say that I'm a Christian because I am a believer in Christ. There is a difference between religious people who worship the church or another Jesus that isn't of the Bible, vs people who have a spiritual and personal relationship with him, and he actually speaks and guide us through life by obedience and instruction. He is not fictional. He is just as real as you and I. He is not in our physical plane, he is in a higher plane. Its like trying to get the right radio station, but all you get is static on the other side. But get the right signal, and you can receive the feedback you need. If you have no desire to know him, he will stop trying to get to know you. And most Christian's today do what they want and secretly want to live in the world. Most Christians aren't even Christians, to begin with. Actions speak louder than words.

[btbc92]

You do not have self-respect. And you are blind to see that for yourself. I may not condone or agree with premarital sex, but I see men who made those choices, and still stick by their partner or the mother and raise the child. You just have serious problems.

[newPython]

@btbc92 Please stop trying to convert me.

[newPython]

@btbc92 Christ said love your enemy. Judging from your hostile attitude towards me, we can definitely say though you profess to be a Christian, your way of talking to me is anything but Christian-like.

[btbc92]

Jesus said 'My sheep hear my voice'. So think about that when you see 'Christian's' doing the exact opposite of what his word says. Because 9/10x they don't hear his voice. Or they never were part of him. Just playing CHURCH. I know because I was taken out of the church at 8 and went back at 16, then 18, 20-21 and then I had to stop because I had a sick mother to take care of. Not she is dead because of the very thing YOU say is okay to do and got cervical cancer from it from her youth. It's not religious. It's life and it's very much real.

[btbc92]

I love you by telling you the TRUTH! And I say what I said out of righteous judgment. Because if I don't, then I have to answer and pay for it after my time on earth is up. So stop already. You just, once again, have a problem. I don't have to convince you to do better in life if you don't personally WANT TO. But you're the one with the problem. And you have to live with it. A person who loves you tells you the truth no matter how it hurts. Everybody got choices. And each of those choices has consequences. Think about this before that smart talk about women. Because if you're screwing them, you're just as responsible for the outcomes. If they want to mess up their lives. That's THEIR choice. Be responsible for what you choose to do.

[btbc92]

And my reality is that this December is her 3rd year death anniversary that could have been avoided. Be glad your still alive! And sadly, you don't even know how bad you've hurt and impacted the women you slept with.

[Princessperfect]

You should have been an abortion. Waste of space. Ask your mom why the heck she had you...

[legalboxers]

get a lawyer.. take him to court.

[kittyluv]

Get over that guy already. He isn´t interested.

[Asker]

Glad you answered a questioned that was never asked.

[bizzym]

This has nothing to do with interest. If he wasn't interested he wouldn't have gotten so upset over a stupid unfollow. This has everything to do with a lack of maturity.