Why did he block me like that?

[Bratz1211]

Me and this guy have been speaking and seeing each other for 4 months! Things have been going great! He’s very affectionate with me and invited me to his house. We talk everyday and always have lots to chat about. I saw him every weekend nearly. So I recently went to see him every thing was going well! He kept on wanting to hug me and stuff. So I left and the next day I texted him these medications that can help w his haye fever, and he texted back “I’ll have to give them a try x.” And I left it on deliver for 2 days, as I was genuinely busy and needed space, so he then ended up blocking me, as I didn’t open his message! Why is he being so dramatic? We’re not in a relationship for me to answer him straight away, I just got busy and overwhelmed.

[DaveJord]

Well the simple truth is that when two people meet and are meant to be together they always find ways to make it as easy as possible on each other to be together. Honestly it sounds like you two have been going along at a good pace for four months and then you ignore him for two days without a good morning text or good night text... not even a hello I am really busy and over whelmed today I will give you call later or text tomorrow?

Its kind of bitchy and selfish to me. I've been dating a women for over 7 months and yes, we all get busy and overwhelmed, but I never went a day with out giving her a good morning text, and good night text... usually we call each other once a day and discuss our issues of the day... be it with family, work, or daily drama. Not one day in 7 months have gone a day without at least one text between us. As a guy that super refreshing and sexy hot to find in a women these days, because so few really know how to treat a good man right.

So ignoring him for two days is not cool, but him just blocking you with out a word is immature of him. If he had a problem with you then he should of approached you with it and discussed it with you. But with that said there are probably other things that are bothering him about the relationship and this might of just been the straw that broke the camels back.

I mean honestly you're 25 years old, you're not some teenager. So if you think its okay to blow some guy off for two days without a text after you have been dating pretty heavy for 4 months... well that suggests to me that you probably have other things going on in your life that are more important to you, or you lack some perspective on what it takes to have a serious committed relationship.

All I can say to you as a guy, is that once I get into a relationship were I feel that I am trying harder then the other person, or putting more effort into the relationship then she is... well I don't just ghost or bail on her but I end it. Too many times I found myself falling for someone, then had to step back and ask myself is she really investing at the same level as me.

[kmg9150]

No relationship will ever be equal to what the other is investing, because that is a mere perception. Its silly to think we would know all which another persons efforts are being out forth, there's so much that goes on underneath that we dont know as to what we see. That goes for what effort one may think is "not" being made. It all changes depending on the situations they will encounter together. If she gets busy and doesn't message the guy, even when she had the slot to do so doesn't make her anything but human. Society has created this stigma of if this then that to dating. I dont give a damn who it is, if I need some space the honor it, which I didn't realize how important it was until I was the one not honoring it. Married couples need space, just because space is needed or a text dont get sent for a few doesn't mean that they dont care about the other person or doing it to be rude...

Fact is you feeling like one should be sent every morning and night and touch base on your day is kinda awkward. That comes off as insecure to me, like are you worried shell get mad if you dont?

Obviously because you would catch feeling if she did, start thinking why she acting like this, does she not like me, what did I do wrong, blah blah blah. You know what true love is, giving each other freedom and trust. I go months without talking to my best friend, but he's still my best friend. Unless the two people are living together then it shouldn't be an issue for a few day reply. Even then unless its something thats needs to be addressed or an emergency, the hows day going text can be intrusive. That can be discussed later when they see each other at home.

I mean really, relationships should be stronger than a little bit of time passing from last contact made... Do you message everyone you have a (any kind) relationship with good morning, good nite and ask how their day was?

[DaveJord]

@kmg9150 So maybe you're right, relationships aren't equal... but equal or not people know when they aren't getting what they want out of one. In the original post she says they were talking and dating four months... then she got busy and left it unread on delivered for 2 day's because it ain't like their "not in a relationship " where she needs answer him right away.

So it sounds to me that this guy might of thought "SHE" should of felt the need. He apparently felt they were in such a place and if he was sick... busy or not she would of texted if she cared. So he blocks her, and she wants to know what this guy's problem is.

The problem was that he liked her, cared about her, and might of wanted a serious relationship with her. And apparently she didn't appreciate him or the relationship enough to place proper value on it. Or she honestly did not care at all or enough so he got tried of it.

In the end he wasn't getting what "HE" wanted out of it and was done with it. Was she self centered, selfish or inconsiderate? Or is he a over zealous petty ass hole? Hard say not my relationship, but obviously someone wasn't getting what they wanted, got their feelings hurt, and the other person didn't really seem to appreciate that fact,, or care to notice for 2 days. What happened is simple,, 8f she cared she would of texted him, but she got busy and apparently didn't care or not enough. He got his feelings hurt. That's what happened. Her bad or his is all a matter of perspective.

As for me, nah... I would say I am pretty secure and confident in myself and girlfriend. I think what we do works for us and its sweet and caring. It makes us happy... until the comes that we aren't. Then it will end like this situation did, some one gets their feeling hurt.

[Raaj4you]

It takes months and years to build a good relationship. But girls and guys don't think a minute to break it. Social media, smart phones, internet is a curse when it comes to building strong relationships.
Go find and meet him if you think he is a good guy.

[Daniela1982]

So you have never made any opinions at all, not even on your own questions, and the questions you ask are very similar - and sound almost made up. You also have been quiet for like 2 months. What is with all that? Are you trolling and have more than one account or something?

[Aerissa_Jade]

Seems like people these days, ghost, block and then complain that there is no one out there. They think relationships should be easy and natural. No such thing exists.

[kmg9150]

Its all these life coach gurus that promote that idea. Their theory is if your not benefiting by having them in your life, then they are hindering your success. Walk away because they dont value your time and there will always be someone better than that person. Its a disgusting ideology that they promote, its all me me me... Catching feeling because they can't communicate their feelings.

[ItsMarie]

I think that if you truly cared about him you should have let him know what was going on with you. I get episodes where I want to be alone and have my space but I’m scared to turn him off so I apologize in advance and give him a heads up. If he cares about you too he’ll understand. Have you done this to him before? If so, it sounds like he’s fed up and doesn’t want to deal with it anymore. If not, then he’s being immature.

[A_stranger]

Well it seems that the affection you both have... has given him wrong signs that you are into him. So, when he was not well and needed you, you were not there for him, and that's obvious that he didn't like it.
So if you don't have anything for him, you should make it clear.
And if you are really into him then you should talk to him about it.

[Jacob147]

Him blocking you was dramatic and childish of him. I get that you were busy, but if you at least went forward and said that you were, then it would be fine and hed step back for you to do your thing unless he was overly obsessive and with his action of blocking you, its very likely.

[TransAm85]

Reverse psychology. Some needy guys don't understand space. They want to suffocate the woman b/c they are insecure themselves. He likes you, but he wants to play a game now and see how much u like him.

[RealMarek]

So, blocking you seems extreme, but next time you need space why not tell the guy before you leave his texts on deliver. That way he won’t think you’re ghosting him.

[TommyMountainFigure]

He obviously has issues that only he will ever understand, so I suggest you go round his house and ask him face to face what's happened?

[serious]

That is very odd. I think he thought you lost interest and you don't want to contact him again. He assumed that.

Hence he blocked you.

[Jamie05rhs]

It doesn't matter if you're not in a relationship. That still doesn't give you the right to disrespect someone.
No, you don't have to answer them right away; but you should answer within 24 hours.

[kmg9150]

Everyones take on disrespect is different. Its disrespectful he couldnt reach out and see if she hadn't been involved in a near death accident and was in the hospital before blocking her. Or she was avoiding him after a break in and was assaulted and she was traumatized... Maybe dudes playing a psychological game on her, its a very well known tactic of dark psychology.

[Jamie05rhs]

@kmg9150 Those are extreme examples, and they are statistically highly unlikely.

[kmg9150]

Highly unlikely or not, they can still happen. Still yet everyone has been conditioned, trained, programmed differently. Household dynamics, peer social interactions, media exposure and such play a huge role on what we seem as acceptable and not. Take for instance that all black people hate cops and that cops will harass them any chance they get, thinking otherwise would be stupid and insulting. It can be applied to any situation.

Why is not responding being disrespectful? Because they aren't doing what you expect them to do that is reply? But thats disrespectful you can't accept their decision and need to do what you want from them... Consider they have a hyperactive inattentive mind, its easily done to space replies, or think you already did reply to.. Its hard to get the smallest things accomplished sometimes, and its not laziness... One first must understand the reason why before they should catch feeling... Killing is deemed acceptable in self defense, otherwise your evil.

[Jamie05rhs]

@kmg9150 Yes; that's extremely disrespectful. Didn't your mama teach you any manners?

[Jamie05rhs]

If someone is ditzy and unorganized, then they need to work on that problem and fix it. Otherwise, they will never get very far in life. Employers don't tolerate that kind of bullshit.

[kmg9150]

My mama taught me that people can be manipulative pieces of sheet, her included. She contributed to my decision to do drugs, nor did she do anything in regards to when I molested. Showing up to work on time and replying to a message are on opposite sides of the line. Whats disrespectful to people is taught, its a belief, its perspective. Its why one person may get upset and shoot another for looking at them the "wrong" way and another dont give a flying fk. Its unfortunate that you get upset and feel disrespected if this happens to you.

Why is it a problem? Because you want to make the situation about you and what you want?

[Jamie05rhs]

@kmg9150 I'm sorry that your mother was not a good mother. :/

[kmg9150]

@Jamie05rhs It wasn't to make you feel bad it win an argument. I just dont need to feel ashamed and keep it hidden so I share when its becomes relevant. To that tho it helps support my reason for saying that people feel different about things. So the issue is often that we dont like when someone doesn't feel as we would, then get upset about it... Step back and its comes off a little selfish even though its not thought to.

[Jamie05rhs]

I see. Thanks for sharing.

[Jamesshinobi]

his ex girlfriend or another person he is dating had more serious plans with him. he will unblock you when he is single again and say "hey! how have you been?, you awake?"

[loveslongnails]

You want to know why? Seems pretty obvious that you've been dating a boy, not a man. That's how little boys behave when they don't get what they expect or want.

[IsoUser]

It's entirely feasible that he just has a fear of " Bratz" dolls or figures, I know that creepy clowns always scared the Crap out of me when I was a kid Lmao

[Daniela1982]

But that was Ronald McDonald.

[Bklynbadboy12]

Why did you do that it takes just a few seconds to send a text he dipped on you cause of what you did

[XXblack88]

Well if you didn't tell him you are busy and need some space he probably thought you ghosted him.

[lofii]

You're not as important as you think you are.

My man got Hella hoes lined up

[Sheghost]

Well I'm sure about one thing, which is he's genuinely affected by you and your action which can come from attachment. He is taking it personally and probably thinks you're going to ghost him.

[Anonymous]

He unblocked me and messaged me what does that me?

[mark000h]

He probably thought you were ghosting him.

[RuthlessAggression]

"needed space"

OK, rachel

[TheAfrikan]

Maybe he lost interest.

[Mahmoud_Madyan]

He just act like a child!!