Every relationship has a "honeymoon period" at the beginning - typically about 6 months - where you tend not to notice (or pay attention to) any of the bad or annoying things about your partner, and where you are both probably actively working to improve your behavior around each other. That will never last at that level - it's like actually living in a fantasy, but the fantasy doesn't last.
You have to remember that you are a flawed human being, and so is your SO. He will leave his towel on the bathroom floor or you will leave the cap off the toothpaste and you will piss each other off sometimes. But that is to be expected, and you have to keep communicating and you have to be willing to make some changes even if you prefer not to.
You also need to do a lot of work at the very beginning - before you commit to each other - and ask a lot of questions about long-term compatibility - about your thoughts on marriage, kids, religion, finances, lifestyle, living location, morals, values, etc. And you have to actually pay attention to the answers, and if there are conflicts, you have to work them out in advance. You MUST NOT EVER assume that your SO will change their mind in your favor down the road.
Mutual attraction is important, and feels good in the beginning, but if you don't have long-term compatibility, your relationship will fall apart, and the only time to figure that out is at the start - because if you don't have it, you have to break things off and move on, no matter how strong your feelings might be in the moment.
For myself, 14 years this June.
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Unless you find a way to rekindle it or are just perfectly matched to your partner, it will burn out at 5-7 years at the latest.
u In a good relationship. . . passion lasts forever.
The honeymoon phase burns out because our oxytocin levels start to drop. Our bodies aren't built to be in that state of euphoria for too long. Remember that first year where you had sex five times a day and you went to work exhausted? So happy you could burst? I Do. We aren't meant to be in the stage too long because we need to function properly lol. So it's normal for the honeymoon phase to fade and the lust for one another to drop. Doesn't mean the persons feelings changed, just means it that your settling in and getting back to normal.
What you percieve is to passion is only the mind playing tricks upon your body. The emotions you feel are only to influence your actions far enough to fulfil your base needs, your instinct to reproduce and it's associations. At that point your body goes through the next phase and you act in influence to your next set of base needs. All the while you are just a passenger sitting beside your mind and body, experiencing the drive but not controlling the steering wheel.
Those fantasies are not much different than sexual fantasies, they are just mental delights for the temporal moment.
Whatever you kindle next, it will not be your desired romance, but something more fulfilling.
It can last for as long as you as a couple want it to last! We've been a couple for 6+ years, married for over 3, just had twin boys in October. I still feel as passionate about him as I did when I realized that I was in love with my best friend! I can tell he still feels the same way too, just by the way he looks at me and treats me so lovingly. I remember one of the things we were taught in our premarital counseling. That love is like a well that will never run dry if you put as much back in as you take out. simply it is the act of returning your mates love and not just being content to be loved. While I was pregnant I felt like I was as big as a house. Yet he was just as loving as ever! It made it easy to love him back especially when I sort of felt like I wasn't so loveable! (Hormones do funny things to pregnant women!)
Hum, what you describe sounds like what in my language is named "forelskelse" roughly translated "pre-love".
That's the initial stage of love where you're kind of blindly in love in the sense that you don't see all the flaws of the other person and see everything through a "pink haze" so to speak.
That phase rarely last more then 2 years.
After that time you have to manage with regular old fashioned love.
Passionate love lasts up to 2 years, it then turns into Compassionate love, the type that can lasts forever. For most people Passionate love doesn't last more than 18 months, which it why you should never get married before you hit that marker (but preferably don't get married before 2 years to be safe)
There was no such thing how long it will last, it's all about choice and what you consider it to be. Also whether or not if it's pure or not. Pure passion last for a lifetime, and dishonest, empty cheap ones die out faster than a candle light.
It can last forever, but it takes effort to keep it going.
Both of you have to keep doing those small things that you were doing when you both met. When things start to die off start doing those things again and watch you S/O come alive with that passion again.
It’s that small stuff that attracted them to you in the first place. Keep doing it, and that attraction keeps going.
Depends if you keep improving it should keep lasting forever. It’s when you either stop caring about yourself, or you self sabotage that things like this happen.
Both sides have to be held responsible but sometimes one always drops the ball. Now the question is does the partner catch them and help them get back up or they’re disgusted that they dropped the ball in the first place, or they ignore the mistakes till cracks turn into fissures.
Ideally, forever. It's just not always as intense as like the honeymoon phase, but it shouldn't fade completely at all while you're together in my opinion.
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The butterflies last about a year, but the "OMG how did I get THIS lucky?" Lasts about as long as you want it to.
Ideally it would not go away, but it changes over time. Life gets in the way. There are periods when it won’t be like that. You have to work hard to get it back.
It seems like it lasts under a year. Once you get into an argument it seems like the relationship loses value in terms of that really intense feeling you’re describing.
The thing with relationships is that they are what you make of them. If you both put in the effort to keep the passion going, it can last decades upon decades.
I have friends who got ejected from a club for PDA after they had been together five years. So it can last a very long time.
In the right relationship with the right person, the passion should never stop. If anything it should continuously grow.
If you work hard and support each other it goes on and in and on for years!
It varies but yes it doesn't last
It can and hopefully will be replaced by a deep emotional connection that maybe not be the hot flame that passionate romance is but is very rewarding in its own right
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