He cheated, but why don't I care? (Page 2)
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You’re not invested enough in the relationship to care. He may well be a good friend and you’d miss him if he were gone, but your reaction isn’t normal in the sense that people care if their partner betrays them.
I think it would be much better for the both of you to just be friends.
friends with benefits I could do, I still want to sleep with him
That will only work for a little while.
That's fine
You can't spell, but that's pretty much how everyone should take such news. Just don't tolerate disrespect and lies. Use a condom and don't get AIDS, or herpes.
You don't "need therapy" and you aren't "secure enough". Truth is you might not even truly love him, or your self esteem is so low that you're willing to put up with his asshole behaviour. Either way, I pity you.
Honestly I "put up" with dating. Im the one who likes the idea of something open and casual, but I thought I'd give dating a try for the heck of it. Which is why the cheating doesn't really bother me.
I say to each their own. If it doesn't bother you, that's fine, though I'd personally disagree.
However, I think his dishonesty at least should bother you. He should have at least rediscussed the open relationship with you BEFORE f*cking his ex.
Your perspective on your choices are way in left field. You didn't care probably because you don't value commitment with him. It's pretty simple. It has nothing to do with being secure.
"I didn't really want to have a monogamous relationship to begin with..."
I think you just answered your own question.
You are not that into him to care enough. There is no real love loss here.
I don’t think you two are a match. Date someone else.
Wasn't really trying date to begin with.
I know right? So, cut him loose.
I'll probably just do an open relationship. Otherwise it's a waste of good dick.
Wym by "hall pass" and he's an idiot. He wanted an open relationship so that he could tell u he was fucking his ex the whole time. He was probably bored of you but didn't have the balls to tell you. But if you are happy then your happy.
Hall pass means she gets to fuck a guy, at least in this situation
@19magic ohhh wow
how long have you been with him? i mean if you two are ok with an open relationship from here on out, maybe that's why it doesn't seem to be that much of a deal to you.
Roughly a month
that's very short amount of time, up to you on whether u ok with how things currently are between him and u. seems like he ain't over his ex and you're just a rebound girl to him
He broke up with her so I don't know what his deal is.
but then he slept with her again while the two of u are still together and then he try to cover for himself by asking for an open relationship, i can't c this relationship end well, at least not one where u would be married to him some day, but i may be wrong though
Your right I don't see this as lasting long, I'll dump him at some point but at the present moment I probably won't.
it may work as friends with benefits and for the time being, it still seems like you are just a rebound girl to him in this situation. how long as he been broken up with his ex? if the time is too short and too recent well then that explains it, because it sure seems like it and it does not seem like they've been broken up and hadn't had contact for a long period of time like 5 years or more
They were together for about a month, apparently because he was bored so he decided to date her.
We were hanging out a but at the time he was dating her.
They've been broken up for a good 6 months or so
that's quite a short amount of time the way i look at it. just make sure u are ok with whatever choice you make and won't look back on it one day and regret it.
Sounds like you two are better off being friends with benefits. If you truly loved him as your one and only, his infidelity would hurt you deeply.
my feeling is that you just don't care that much about him or the relationship to be bothered that he cheated.
you answered your own question...
"I didn't really want to have a monogamous relationship to begin with"
I could never forgive blatantly cheating. But if you're part of those who can then do you. It's your relationship.
If you don't care about someone then you don't necessarily get hurt
Alpha makes are like that, the fact they have other options makes them mote attractive. I got super jealous when I found out my be cheated.
I'm out of his league. He's out of her league so I'm confused lol
Well if you really really cared about him then it would hurt. But maybe you just view him as a friend, so you were looking at it from a friend's perspective
Lmao it’s not even about being “secure enough” most people have enough self respect to get out of a relationship where their partner doesn’t value them enough to stay faithful.
so he was the one that wanted to be monogamous to begin with and then he cheated? he needs therapy, not you.
Yeah I was the one who wanted an open relationship or friends with benefits. I don't know what his deal is.
it's reasonable to want that. go look for someone that agrees to doing that xD don't go with what you don't want.
" Some people are secure enough in themselves to know what works for them. "
Did you just write that whole paragraph to slip this option in the poll so people can tell you you're secure 😂
No I wanted to see how many people think I'm insecure for staying with him in the comments.