Is it normal to feel sad being single?

[Anonymous]

I feel like that sometimes :( I don’t have much success with dating...

[Anonymous]

I’ll help you get rid of this issue. The issue you are having is the same as me. You must realize that relationships aren’t all that fun. You only look at the positives which are sex and stuff like that. You gotta look at the negatives as well. Do you know how painful being in a relationship is when you and your partner are not on the same page? You get into constant fights and arguements which will only make you feel even more depressed than you already are. You should just wait for the girl to approach you. What I’ve noticed is if you approach them, they will use you and make you chase them so it’s basically an ego boost. Focus on your self and work hard in life. Never ever put others on a pedestal. Good luck 🙂

[OldArmyDog]

Hoot- "The_Coolest" where were you in 1972? SERIOUSLY,..., yah it is but if you look at it in ways like,..., "WHY" are you sad then you might not fall prey to the emotion. If you are just naturally "Sad in a crowd",..., then you would probably be sad in many other Social ways. Also if you have family that bugs you about NOT having a "significant other" in your life,..., THAT can really get the Lonelies going too. But being "SINGLE" may not be the real reason for your sadness,..., just another facet of your life it shows up in.

[Anonymous]

Yeah. I know some people will probably roll their eyes because of my age, but as a teen we’re dealing with these dumbass emotions for the first time. My two best friends are in relationships. They always talk to me about how happy they are and all the adorable things they do with their person. I’m happy for them, I really am. It just makes me sad that I’ve never had anything like that yet. Again, I know I’m only 16 but still. Although, I think I won’t be single for too long. My crush said he likes me so 😏🤷🏽‍♀️ He’s an awkward ass nibba so it’ll take him awhile to gain some confidence. But anyways, yeah, it’s normal to be sad about these kind of things

[Gopnik]

I know that feeling, you're lucky to have someone who likes you back, my first and most recent girlfriend and i met when we both had smth to drink with friends at my house, she ended up not being what i was looking for but she ended it, i felt the most happy i could have felt for the small amount of time.

[Anonymous]

It’s normal to feel sad when you’re single. But you know what’s the best you can do when that happens? Question yourself what has led you to be single! Analyze every aspect of your life and where you find a flaw, stop and think of ways of improving. If you know yourself better and you speak with honestly and humbleness, others will perceive it and gals too and that my friend is very attractive. Just remember everything starts with you and your attitude to face life and yourself.

[Babsie1984]

I think that is normal as it’s human nature to want to find someone to be with - to enjoy a affection, intimacy, shared memories, dinner etc. But there’s also a lot of pluses about being single and having your own space! Use the time to do some self development and you’ll meet someone when you least expect it.

If you’re really that keen to meet someone, it might be coming across to your dates and could seem like neediness or desperation. I’m not saying that is happening but it could.

Good luck!

[Hello4242]

It’s normal, but you should realize that there’s a reason for why you’re single. It’s time to better your life to prepare for the right girl. She’s not going to come into your life when you’re not ready for or when you’re unhappy. It’s okay to be sad about being single, but it shouldn’t make you unhappy overall. Know that this is where you need to be and just work on yourself.

[chris_987]

lol but sad and depressed girls get in relationships all the time

[Hello4242]

@chris_987 yes, people do that all the time.

[mirrornoon]

I’ve never been in a relationship before but sometimes I used to upset me —from my experience, I just thought I never good enough but then now I realise that it’s not a bad thing to be single. I know now that I’m not ready for a relationship and I wasn’t even ready for a relationship back then. Besides, at the moment for me, it’s just too much hassle and effort right now🤷🏾‍♀️🤷🏾‍♀️

[Alice2398]

Yes I do a lot of the time, I've never had a boyfriend and sometimes feel incredibly lonely.

I hate when happy couples ask me "so have you found someone yet" and when I say" no but thanks for reminding no one ever going love me and I'm going to die alone" and then they say "oh Im sure he'll come along one day just be patient" with a sumg grin on their faces whilst gazing into each other's eyes, I'm secretly thinking to myself "fuck you Karen and Pete " 😊

[Gopnik]

Anytime i tell someone how lonely i feel and i mention i have had and still am kinda depressed they immediately tell me to see a doctor and take those dumbass pills, like fucking pills are going to solve my problem, that's not how the world works

[Alice2398]

@Gopnik definitely you have to get out there and try figure out what helps you happy and healthy. Popping pills and telling yourself your depressed only makes you reliant on that excuse to not change

[Alice2398]

Your only 16 you have your hole life ahead of you and plenty of time to find a girl. I wasn't even interested in dating at your age. Enjoy being young and the fact people aren't expecting to settle yet and to be tied down.

[Gopnik]

It's been proven working out helps depressed people and that's exactly what i've been doing but i know why i feel like shit.
I need someone to relate to since i already don't talk to anyone about my feelings, a girlfriend would be good because it would motivate me to do better and it's someone to relate to and talk to, and cuddle up with which is one of the things i really like to do.
I know how it feels because i have had a girlfriend but that didn't last long.
I need a relationship that lasts on trust and stuff like that and not on lust.

[Gopnik]

My age doesn't matter, some people get into things later than others some earlier than others, i've always been more independent and cropped up to myself, but a girlfriend would help me open up, i don't want a relationship for the lust parts, those don't compare to what i really need.

[Alice2398]

@Gopnik I've never been with anyone ever but I totally understand what you mean. Sometimes I wish I had someone who supported me and to be a shoulder to cry on when I'm down and stressed out. I feel to embarrassed to talk about how I feel and I don't want people to think I'm feeling sorry for myself.

Everyone tells me I'm really pretty and kind and it would be easy for me to get a boyfriend but it's really not. No guy I've ever liked has liked me back. They just see me as annoying because I have standards and respect myself so label me high maintenance.

All my friends are in relationships and I always feel as if I'm 3 wheeling or I know longer have anything in common with and don't have any one to hang out with anymore so I just stay at home or spend all my time with my two older sisters who also have the same issue as me

[Gopnik]

i know that feeling.
you know what hurts?
when you're going out to ice skate and your pal hypes you up to ask a cute girl out but then he has to go, he asks you to walk with him for a little bit so you do, eventually you go back after 20 mins you're back and you see she's not there anymore, so you're mad and go back home, you whatsapp him that he's a cunt and you come to find out he got success with asking a girl out whom he likes, which further annoys me.
i told him he's going back with me tomorrow so i can try my luck again, and he can fuck around with his date.
that fucking hurts.
she seemed kinda cute and not a total bitch.
welp that's another chance gone and another step down the slippery slope towards fucking death.

[Solitaryman83]

@Gopnik exactly, not to mention so many pills have a list of side effects a mile long. I tell myself that so many women seem to be into the casual end of things, hookups or friends with benefits arrangements, that I’d rather be single, even if the opportunity arose, since I’m not into either of those things.

[Alice2398]

@Solitaryman83 I don't have many female friends but the ones I do are all in long term relationships but I find women like as you mentioned very peculiar as to why they've let their standards go down so badly and pretend to like being used for sex and then ditch. It has no emotional or physical benefit for them really when they are just sleeping with random men who they barely know. Like don't they think the are worthy to try and find a good connection with a man and form a solid relationship with them before jumping into bed with them.

[Solitaryman83]

I’m old school. I want the kind of relationship my Grandparents generation had, my parents generation had. It makes me feel like an antique in today’s world. I do think dual incomes is a good thing, it provides more stability. But sleeping with random women, even if using protection, I would be terrified of catching something. You don’t know who else they’ve been with, or the people they’ve been with have been with.

[Alice2398]

@Solitaryman83 I get how you feel. My parents have a great relationship and I wish one day I could have what they have with someone but honestly most guys my age are either to shy or are just looking for sex to even bother with having a serious relationship with me.

[Burgerboy21]

@Alice2398 perhaps it would have helped you to have left out the whole "no one's ever going to love me and I'm going to die alone" part." :P

[Gopnik]

Yeah, you'll find someone, and on the pills note, pills don't solve every issue.

[lightbulb27]

I think sad feelings are normal at times. Especially hard for me after a breakup/loss. I don't bounce back so fast. It takes some effort/time to feel good. If you are "not having much success", then you are seeing the encounters you have as failures and that deflates your sense of self worth, alone, makes you feel like you dont' have anyone, etc.. Changing your mind and thinking is a way out of that. didn't say it is easy, but change is always work... but in it is growth!:)

[mrbobz]

Yep! which is why charities like CALM exist

https://www.thecalmzone.net/

"The Campaign Against Living Miserably (CALM) is leading a movement against male suicide, the single biggest killer of men under 45 in the UK. Join the campaign to take a stand against male suicide and get the tools you need for action."

[princessfromjupiter]

Sometimes I get lonely and upset too, and wonder if I’ll ever know what it’s like to be in love with someone who loves you too... but dating can be so frustrating that I’m not even sure it’s worth the trouble for something I don’t even know is real or not 😪

[DivineMatriX]

You just gotta stop thinking about it. Maybe your not ready yet. You have to be happy with yourself first before you'll be able to love someone else truly. Sure a relationship at first will bring up your mood but you'll soon find your still sad. Love yourself and everything will fall into place. Sure sounds cliche but its true. Good luck bud!

[unlovedguy]

Yes, I feel that way frequently but I don't have to be in a relationship to be happy. Relationships aren't everything. And sometimes people prefer being a single person. There's nothing wrong with it. People come and go. I am not considering myself as someone successful when it comes to relationships and dating - and I have never been with someone in real life before. I am currently following the mantra "Be the person that you want to date"

[Anonymous]

For many it is, for many it isn't. Depends on the individual.
I've been single for nearly 30 years, and it's never bothered me. In fact I intend to remain single my entire life. I'm perfectly happy.

If you wish to improve your chances of getting a date, really start working on yourself. Dress well, be confident and work out. The last one really works. The more athletic you look, the more attention you get...

[Lman3000]

Welp join the club buddy, I suck at dating as well it don't make sad about nothing I move on with my damn life, don't let dating mess your life, be honest with yourself aside from sex and affection what else a woman can give ya that you can't do alone? it'll come eventually or never but the choose is up to you

[Secret6620]

I think loneliness and sadness go hand in hand and it's completely normal. Just work on loving yourself and doing things you love and that should help ease that sadness. If you're busy with life you won't have time to be sad😇😇😇 Good luck

[Fredde199]

Ask yourself why that is the case.. try and look objectively at what you could be doing wrong. Trust me.. most people have sometimes fealt like your feeling right now and then boom.. they meet the love of their life. If you are not hitting the gym i would recommend that you start.. it will increase your levels of feelgood chemicals.. up your confidence and so on.

[Nivinxus]

Well in my position, I'm not really sad about being single. After dating a few times, I do appreciate what being single has to offer. Admittedly it isn't as awesome as being in a relationship, but it isn't as bad as I thought it out to be before.

[Anonymous]

Me neither I had never had much sucess in dating either. Never had boyfriend or dates or relationships of any kind. I dont know the meaning of dating a man or being in a relationship with one. I never been loved either. And the only one guy I met inmy life who I really could say "Wow it matches me to get to know him better" appeared in my life just when I was in my mid 40´s and he just want sex.

[febreze26]

yes in fact i am except i'm more a person who gets angey easily and not to be mean to her but i am the prettier one out of me and my bff and she has gotten a boyfriend and no doubt i'm happy that someone likes her but because im average looking and prettier and she's got a boyfriend i'm just here like so no guy likes me huh?

[HOAAH]

Don't focus on looks too much. I know you are upset that she has a boyfriend and you don't but don't be upset because you have to believe that you will in the future have a boyfriend too.

[Lilyanony]

I'm miserable having the title single, shoddy sleeping with someone I love and it not progressing. I've also been miserable whilst in a relationship I think I'm just miserable end of

[dosiax]

I'll take you

[Lilyanony]

That makes me feel worse no more than a bag of chips. Or a dog at the pound. Wow :-(

[Burgerboy21]

It's very normal and understandable to be upsrt over being single. However it's also important that you resist this feeling because it makes you look bad in the dating world.

[loveshorro]

I feel like that right now but I think it’s because all my friends are in relationships and I feel a little lonely and it’s nice to be in a relationship

[BlobMonster]

I feel like that sometimes. Mostly when I see people and their SOs, makes you want someone in your life.