Why Do This Gay Stereotype Exist: Gay Men Are Feminine And Women Masculine?

[curiousnorway]

It doesn't make sense to me that the stereotype that says gay men are feminine or likes feminine men and lesbian women are masculine or likes macho women - especially not considering they're attracted to their own gender and not the opposite one. I understand if a straight man likes feminine women and visa versa since masculinity is typically male and femininity typically female. So why in earth do this stereotype exist?

To people claiming it's true, what's the logic behind gays liking feminine men and lesbians liking masculine women. What's the scientific reason? What's the logic? Why not more gay men liking masculinity and women liking femininity? #Gay #Lgbt #Stereotypes

[Prankster13]

Probably because (for the majority) a relationship is still seen as two complementary parts. One masculine and one feminine. So, if there are two men, either people just see or there (usually) actually is one that's more feminine than the other. And with lesbians, one that's more masculine. A lot of the time, since most men try to be manly and most women feminine, most gay or lesbian people would either be seen as or actually assume the role of the opposite of their normal sex's role, and therefore best fit with their own sex. Thus, lesbians as masculine because theyre attracted to the feminine sex, and gays as feminine because theyre attracted to the masculine sex.

At least that's why I think it is..

[JustinTheGreat]

I mean its obviously not true for every gay person. But it is for some.
Im bi and when it comes to men i've been with guys who are very masculine and more dominant than me, and i've been with more feminine submissive men as well.

[Anonymous]

I don't know, I like both but not too feminine and not too masculine.. I like all the in betweens
I'm dating a guy now and he's the talkative one, touchy feely and has me making the decisions.. which are supposedly "feminine" traits

[alice55]

This stereotype held some true, there's a lot of masculine lesbian woman and feminine gay man. Not all are like that but a lot are.
As to say why they're like that, I don't know.

[NearlyNapping]

A guy screwing another guy in the ass isn't exactly masculine.

[Liam_Hayden]

Because those who are flamboyant are the most noticeable. I know a gay couple who are both power lifters. They are the most masculine-looking guys I know.

[esotericstory]

They just like to emulate straight people maybe?