Guys, do you pull the chair out for your date in the restaurant and ladies how do you feel if he didn't pull it out for you? (Page 2)
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I don't expect him to do that, it might even feel a bit weird when he does. I'd probably feel flattered as well though
I don't think that my partner's ever done that for me :P It's really not a big deal, I've never really thought about it.
If she gets mad over me not holding doorsor pulling out chairs im better off without her
I like to wait for her to start sitting down and THEN pull it out from (under) her.
Its Just a prank bro
Hahaha XD
I Open the car door for her and the door leading to the restaurant but not the chair that's overdoing it a little bit too much. Sooner or later down the road I stopped doing all of the above
Whoever the girl was that donvoted me I would like an explanation I won't get mad if I promise
I pull out the chair for all women who wear skirts shallow or judge me for e who deserves the chair pulled out for her and you do not.
By claiming I'm wrong means you want to dictate be the thinker and decider of my thoughts and actions.
All women who wear skirts or dresses but not wear pants. Call me shallow if you want. Sorry that my keyboard gets stuck at times.
You okay there? Did you or the computer have a stroke? It's okay if you don't want to pull out the chair, you want to date someone who's capable of basic functions. It's *meant* to be an 'extra mile' gesture, those who demand it are not the kind who deserve it.
@yoshi_wanna_ask
I pull out the chair for women who wear dresses and skirts, not women who emulate men by wearing pants.
Aww sweetie, you'll be in for an uncomfortable wake up calls soon if you hold onto that sinking ship. Ironically, I do get where you're coming from though. You want a simple, girly-girl type with a heart to serve. Now, while I hope that flows both ways, pants or not aren't the kind of thing that will help you find one.
Why women didn't wearing trousers for the longest time, goes back to about the Victorian era when they had no rights but we're bartered and traded as brides to the highest bidder to be their property. If a woman wanted a chance of getting a husband who was capable of providing for her, she had to look her most stunning, all the time, pulling all the stops even if she had nowhere to go.
Not long after this women gained the ability to hold certain property, money and even set up organisations in their name. These were freedoms for women thar had never been put into UK law before so naturally there were a few petty folk who took the chance to define what a lady was and what one wasn't. Most of these being men. Now, correct me if I'm wrong but I'm not sure if a guy is the best judge of that... unless there's something he's not telling us. But anyway, this included things like making it illegal for women to wear trousers. Not ill-advised, awkward or not recommended but punished by imprisonment. Trouser were never specifically for one gender, women were banned from wearing them. Even at the women wore underwear that was nearly identical to trousers anyway. Some of us need to wear trousers for health conditions or because of our jobs. I can't see women in construction wearing skirts or police work.
But even so, it's okay if you want to date someone who always wear skirts. Truly. But don't think just because she does, she's a lady or even the kind you're looking for. Some extremely pretentious women wear only dresses, ones that can make a man's life a living hell. There's way more to any woman than what she chooses to wear. Especially now that we can.
@yoshi_wanna_ask No need to worry. My last date slapped me for saying that.
I've grown up surrounded by guys so I know what your trying to say. I think part of the problem is women think a lot of things they'd never say or at least that they'd consider rude. If a woman was describing something next to a fat person she'd probably say "that larger lady" or "that hefty guy" instead of "that fatty over there". Everyone can see they are, in their mind they're thinking it but saying it is the rude bit. Whereas guys just tend to say what they're thinking, exactly what they mean.
Plus a lot of women crave is affection & support buut almost everywhere we look there's judgement, high beauty & social standards, catty friends and on top of that 'experts' and brands telling women "dress like this, act like this, think like this". So when she opens herself up to get to know a new guy, see if maybe they're similar, hoping he'll treat her with affection and he says "I only pull out chairs for women who only wear dresses/skirts" I can see how that could be their breaking point. If it helps, I'm very similar (not the same but similar) to the kind of girl you're looking for (I know the type) and I can tell you there's no way I'd date someone who meters out kindness & manners based on something so trivial.
There's a lot of harshness and rejection out in the world. Look after yourself but know you don't have to become part of the problem.
@yoshi_wanna_ask Since I do not want to be slapped, I will pull it out for pants wearing women too.
Well it's always good to avoid getting slapped but I think maybe she was upset about the idea behind it. That she wasn't worthy of having the chair pulled out, because she chose to wear pants. I don't think you probably meant it like that but I think your new idea will stop that & make any date have a good impression of you.
@yoshi_wanna_ask
I think you are right.
All the best! ;)
i probably would. i think i have, but i like booths more than tables
It’s mandatory the man pulls out the chair and opens the door and allows the woman go first
Well, not mandatory, but it is nice. Like I said in my answer, if it's because the guy wants to show care for the girl & respect, okay, great but if it's because he feels he *has* to or she expects it of him, it's better letting her do it herself.
Yes i would pull the chair out for girl if i took her out for a date.
Yeah, it's HILARIOUS when she falls on her fat ass! She deserved it.
I have done and would, but at the same time there's that nagging no, as the feminist within may get offended.
Do, do it, but maybe more so for a date or someone you know if you're worried. The hyper sensitive make things worse for all of us.
Yeah I get what you mean, it's more suited for that sort of thing. Other than that all you have to do is brush it off if she gets mad etc, nothing to really worry about.
It doesn't bother me if he didn't pull the chair out for me but if he did pull the chair out for me id be really flattered
Most guys don't even know what this is at my age. I would rather them not anyways.
I wouldn't be bothered if he doesn't, but it will really improve my impression of him if he does.
Yeah id definitely do that, just need a girl to take out on a date first, not having any luck so far
Nope, in fairness to equality she can use her own damn hands to do it
I’d like it but then if he doesn’t do it I wouldn’t notice
I still will!
Aww 😍
If I'm near the chair and it's close to the table sure, just to be nice tho, unless she wouldn't like it
Yeah, I am one of the only guys that pull the chair out for date in the restaurant.
Well considering she's your date that's probably a good thing
i usually do pull out the chair, i like to be chivalrous