Should the girl make move or the guy when talking to a group?

[lightbulb27]

Lets say guy approaches you and hour girl friends?

and it goes well. Should he express emotionally, or verbally who he is interested in once he knows or should the girl express it with her sub conscious behavior, body postion, hair flips, flirting? Like, what happens if all you and your friends are interested? How do you handle that?

[Jeroenuru]

it depends.
if the guy has made positive contact with the girl he is going for before he approaches the group, he should ofcourse give special attention to that girl.
if the guy is just looking to test the waters he should be extra nice to all the girls and see how it goes, you can find out which one you would want to focus on during the interactions with the group.
Dont go in and be like all focused on only one of the ladies if you still have no clue what she thinks about you.

In the end I don't think it matters how you go about it. Just let it happen and if things go wrong you can reflect on that. You can't go prepare for a situation like this, only reflect on past actions and get a feeling for it. Tere's no guide to what every woman would prefer a man to do.

[Anonymous]

I can tell you right now the guy in the photo is striking out just based on the women's posture.

[lightbulb27]

good eye! I think you are right! what do you see? . they seem to be laughing at him (middle), laughing at him (right). left not sure, but seems affronted.

[Ámayas_20]

I'm very unlikely to make the first move unless I was drinking.

[VIVANT]

Whoever does it first lol

Snooze you lose 🤷‍♀️

[lightbulb27]

you mean the girls make move to him, in some fashion... touch, etc.. ? communication can be sub concious, not necessarily direct.

[VIVANT]

She can do whatever she is comfortable doing. Personally I’m not comfortable being indirect bc it feels silly so in my case I speak directly. This way I know he is intersted or not bc there is no confusion.

I think in the case when one person approaches many people , it is awkward. I find it easier one on one. But I wouldn’t like flipping hair and all that.. I’m literal in interactions. 😊

[lightbulb27]

I wonder if backing off literal would help a little. not sure, sometimes situations can be... socially... interesting. like if you directly said..". I'd be interested in coffee sometime ". most girls wouldn't do that due to fear of rejection. but suggesting things like "there's really neat coffee shop in town I wanted to check out sometime"... even though you've been there 20 times... lol is indirect, waiting for him to take the bait. just thought... I've had direct and she was hurt when I didn't take it.

[Pulimuli]

We need more women like you!

[VIVANT]

I don’t mind rejection. I don’t like feeling like I’m sneaking around afraid to say what I think it fewjs pathetic. If he’s not interested I WANT to know so I don’t waste time. Being rejected clearly just means there’s no confusion. If someone suggests somethjng indirect and there’s no uptake they are still rejected. It’s all the same except one way it’s clear the other it isn’t. In both cases she doesn’t get the guy and in both cases she is rejected. It feels more dignified to just be direct- for me.

When people are indirect it only works if the person gets what is _really_ being says and responds. It only works if they see the veiled assertion for what it really is, so no one is fooling anyone and I just prefer to cut the foremost. IF I’m actually ready to go oit. My liking a person doesn’t mean I’ll ask him oit bit that will be bc I have reasons where I’m not ready to date. If I’m ready I will say somethjng.

I understand many people don’t like hearing rejection but for me I prefer it bc it’s all rejection all the same. My response was just explaining my preference. It wasn’t necessarily advice bc I can’t speak for what works best for all I can just speak for what makes sense to me.

I also think tellkng people to be insirect to help them feel more comfortable can back fire bc it can inadvertently imply there is something to feel uncomfortable about by being direct.. even if that’s not the intention.

I think it’s cool to normalize wanting somethI guess and going after it-respectfully. Life isn’t _that_ long so efficiency is helpful. And each time you are direct you get a response that you can understand and each time you safe tune provides more time for the next opportunity.

I don’t think being ignored really feels better than hearing a no. I find the former More uncomfortable bc I like to knkw I really tried - even if it didn’t work. No shame in trying 🤷‍♀️😊

[VIVANT]

Thank you 🙏😊

Some typos in there very hard to translate by looking.. I’ll fix them when I have a moment 🙃

[StingRayxoxo]

Whoever is more confident!

[coachTanthony]

Big dogs eat... little crying puppies stay on the porch. Go after what you want and make no apologies.

[VIVANT]

Poor little puppies I’d come feed them 😔true story lol

[coolbreeze]

Some girls want and will wait for the guy to make the move. Girls in groups can be hard to read sometimes and can just be flirty and being nice.

[SkipStop]

It can go either way depending on personality. There is no right or wrong way.

[beechman2129]

Guys need to make the first move. It shows that he has confident and knows what he wants. 😈

[Pulimuli]

Id rather the girl do it or make it really obvious that she wants me to do it so i dont waste time making moves on uninterested women

[Kurdishturk]

If i like him i would make the move

[douride2]

If he doesn't make the move I will.

[elly91]

Both can...

[bhavy24]

Anyone can approach

[DECENTSCOTTISHLAD999]

Agirl can make a move on me