Would you date someone who has a lot of emotional baggage?

[Pinay_ako]

Self issues, family problems, broken-hearted, have hard time trusting people, etc

[Dchrls78104]

That depends on the baggage. It's a sad fact that some people who have emotional baggage should not date anyone at all, unless they have first taken enough time to heal and deal with their issues.

[Lemia]

Everyone should feel loved no matter how broken they are. If people can't understand that, they are messed up.

[JaneDoesBeatz]

Everybody has got emotional baggage, but its how one deals with said baggage that would either pull me close or push me away. That being said, Yes and no to answer your question.

[JaneDoesBeatz]

@Pinay_ako thank you.

[hibffhk]

i would because i am that way too

[Desconhecida]

We all have baggage and it only gets heavier with time and experiences... so any successful relationship starts with two people with baggage enough to have learned after their mistakes

[Gothd011]

depends on how bad it affects them as functional adults.

We all have issues but some people just be EXTRA

I dated a guy who wants to kill his self every few months. Calling me 2 in the morning knowing I have class or work the next day. Fights with his dad and mom. and im sitting there smiling trying to pretend we are the fucked up version of the Brady Bunch. Missing days out of work because he "depress"

I'm like dude power bill people just going to say "oh?" and then cut your lights. Then he tried to kill himself on my hardwood floor crying and shit. As he rolling around. I had my steam mop and Lysol out at 4 in the morning. I was drunk too. so he ruins my buzz. That was it. I told him good luck and I hope you like don't die or whatever. It was too much. My last words to him were "seek help"

I moved just to disappear from that crazy boy...

[Pinay_ako]

oh damn that's messed up... I don't know how am I gonna deal with that.

[Gothd011]

Run... Don't get caught up.

[Adrianna7868]

Depends on how bad it is. If they're normal, happy, and confident most of the time but they occasionally have episodes where they just need some comfort. Why not? But if they're constantly moping around, being depressing, and really mentally unhealthy (for them and for me), then no I don't think I could deal with that as it would be really draining for me. But hey, if they're willing to deal with my baggage, I can deal with theirs.

[Leimarie]

Yes, but maybe it’s because I also have enough baggage of my own that I can empathize? So long as we are on the same page in that he knows I don’t expect him to solve all of my problems, nor would I want him to expect me to fix all of his, we could work out.

[musicloverr8]

I feel like relationships with these people fail because the other person feels the emotional pressure and then blames the break up on their issues ie "damaged goods"... I hate this and I've been the damaged person before so I needed time to myself to heal before I could involve someone else in my personal / emotional world.

[musicloverr8]

I would expect mostly everyone to have some sort of issue beneath the surface and would hope they find a sense of balance. I would date someone with emotions but not drama, infact i would not wanna date someone who is perfectly happy.

[FreshOutaIdeas]

Aye, I'm hearing what your saying. In today's world there's not a chance in hell that your potential SO hasn't got some sort of issue. Surely the whole point of getting into a relationship is to become a unit, and work through each others shit together?

There is a fine line of course, and some people really are "damaged goods", but hitching up with someone with a few abrasions from life to me, is pretty normal.

[cavmanier]

Absolutely, if she's the right person for me. I'm understanding about things like that. People have the plasticity to get through challenges like that in life. It's not easy but getting though that can build character by having insight towards empathy others aren't exposed to.

[Vanillachoc88]

I have a few of those, and I’m very open. I usually disclose info before anything get serious... always be honest!
But not sure if I could date someone with a lot of emotional baggage. Maybe it’s a way to help each other! As long as the conversation keep going... who knows!

[Chris00987]

Sure, I've got lots of emotional baggage too.
50% of the women I meet have been abused, assaulted, cheated on etc.
Some of the other ones have crazy fetishes, but claim they were never abused.
I think women have emotional trauma more often than not.

[curiousscorpio89]

I was just with a woman like this. Everyone has emotional baggage, myself included. But hers was on another level. It does become exhausting, especially because she just had a negative energy to her all of the time. So in short, yes I can deal with it in small doses. But when it dictates her moods and behaviors too much, then no.

[Flipswitch]

Absolutely, I'll be like a bellhop at a fancy hotel "can I help you with your baggage?" 🤣🤣 But seriously though who doesn't have things they've been through but the past is the past only the present matters.

[Pinay_ako]

SHe brings the baggage to you for you to carry with her

[Flipswitch]

🙌 and she can help me with my baggage 😁

[severance]

I think it depends on how this baggage manifests. If it's all he can talk about, if it prevents him from any semblance of normalcy- that's a problem. We all have baggage.

[FebronianMainline]

We all got some sort of issues and if you say or think you don't your in denial whicb is an issue of itself , but i digress , yes i would of course date someone who has issues cause i gottem too.

[richglos]

Yes of course.. everyone has there bad days and helping that person get through it can bring u closer together

[MannMitAntworten]

The biggest hurdle would be their trust issues, so no. Those with trust issues snoop around in personal effects on a level of creepy that makes one's skin crawl. Did this a couple of times. I will not date those sorts ever again if avoidable.

[PearsAreGood]

Personally, no. Because I was taught to never date an individual with problems because then sooner or later, their problems will become my problems. And I deserve bettter. We all deserve a life without problems.

[Kaneki05]

Yes of course, i think it would be easier tbh cause i can understand and get what they feel and are going thou.
Plus trust is gained not just given.

Also i am weird and broken also.

[just_a_potato]

a lot of people are like that so probably half of romantic candidates have some kind of emotional baggage but I say if they let you love them they are worth the time

[thegirlfromthething]

Sure. I have a lot, so I can’t exactly reject someone for it unless it’s constantly getting in the way of our relationship.

[ChiTown33]

Not all baggage is equal. It depends on what the baggage is.

[Pinay_ako]

if her baggage is heavier than yours...

[ChiTown33]

Well you say emotional baggage and that's kind of broad. I mean it's one thing if she's been hurt a lot. If there's one thing i am it's patient. But if she can't communicate i can't help.

[Miristheiss]

I don't know. It would just be a case by case situation. It depends on what the issues are and how they manifest in our relationship.

[curiousgeorgefan]

I don’t know if I should, my last relationship he had a lot of baggage and he didn’t try to open up to me. It was bad.

[smg99]

No body is perfect as long as it’s sincere it’s ok if it goes on to snide comments or negative opinions on me no. But I’m tolerant really tolerant.

[TaureanBull81]

No I wouldn't because at the end of the day with the person's constant emotional ups and downs, unnecessary drama it becomes very taxing so it's better to steer clear!

[CandyCougar]

Those damn energy vampires will get you every time.

[TaureanBull81]

@CandyCougar couldn't agree more!

[TaureanBull81]

Thanks for the upvotes 😘

[elite665]

Yes because I’ve been there things get better with support as long as it’s not depression because that will never go away

[Berethor]

I rather not, she should had made better choices, to avoid some of the baggage.

[AmorgansHorse]

Sure why not we can be messed up together sounds like a hoot we can swap messed up stories and things our therapist tells us.

[Jaybone98]

Yes. I think if someone truly wants to be with you they would date you no matter what.

[young_old_soul]

I would, I mean it's not something I'm attracted to, but to say no would kind of make me a hypocrite.

[Ripper_E]

No because if you can't trust me, already, there is no chance of a relationship.

[needhelp777]

I'm like that and my boyfriend is with me.. but his cousins and him is helping me though

[OvershareGamer]

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[CandyCougar]

Hahaha 😂

[Pinay_ako]

:P lolz

[rgb008]

no way
I don't have enough suitcases for all that shit

[pizzalovershouse]

depends, on if they never talk about those things if not yes if so then they just keep doing so no way

[DDpsy]

Yes because I still like the idea of finding someone to date. I usually don't set goal posts that are not passed by 100% of the population.

[loveslongnails]

Everyone has emotional baggage, but there's a limit as to what I'm willing to take on.

[Gedaria]

Hard to say, we don't know who we are attracted to...

[terrancemac34]

No indeed, cause it can start affecting your behavior and mental capacity.

[GreenGold1992]

My first relationship with my first girlfriend was like that, it was not fun and things got ugly and painful.

[Blueeyes81]

I'd like to say yes but from past experience it is incredibly difficult.

[Under_Maps_OF_twigs]

No because all I would hear is whoa me and about her past.

[Lance1965]

Yeah because I have my own baggage, I think most people do.

[CandyCougar]

But, your baggage + her baggage will turn into hoarding. Your relationship will get lost in the heaping piles of problems and then what?

[CaptainLegal]

Of course but only if she's normal and not a weirdo

[Piteka5]

Such people are the ones that most need to be loved

[CandyCougar]

Yes, but the love they need isn't the kind that comes from someone else, it starts with loving themselves

[MarkTheory]

Most likely not. Because usually they have an "you have to work extra hard with me" attitude because of their past experiences.

[intjgamer]

Nope. I especially won't date someone where I need to get her family's approval even before we get started.

[manmeat]

na just fuck them over and over till they forget about their past issues and enjoy life again

[jesse1997]

I wouldn't date myself no. But one way or another I always end up with a "damaged" girl...

[isweatergawd]

Im already dealing with this type of thing. Let people handle their own demons

[Jhon24]

Nope why i would do that!

[Pinay_ako]

my sucky lovelife eh lol

[knurse]

Everyone has baggage and its helpful to look past it. So I would say yes I would give some one a chance and see how much the baggage affects them.

[dannyjett]

Probably not. Nothing against them, just a personal preference

[Slim57]

No because they'll always think I'm gonna do them wrong like they've been done before

[CandyCougar]

No, but I would offer friendship.

[SongBird3]

Ehhh baggage isn’t too good

[casanova411]

you dont know about the baggage until its too late

[mnyc914]

i have enough emotional baggage for the two of us

[bananathunder]

heck no... i like to have fun and go with the flow

[Q-tipBoy]

Everyone have those problems.. It's normal

[helbigarthur]

Learned from this one. No. Long story

[Mullakkajokes]

Not at all. Depressed face is a turn off