Guys, are you a mama's boy? Ladies, would you date a Mama's boy?

[Pinay_ako]

Guys, are you a mama's boy? Ladies, would you date a Mama's boy?

[Massageman]

Definition - mama's boy
n. A boy or man characterized by unusual closeness to his mother and often by timidity and overly refined manners.

To a certain degree, this shows a caring person, no a dependent one. But he should get over that timidity thing if he expect's to get a gal. For gals, though, the way a guy treats his mother is a decent indicator of how he might treat her.

[Massageman]

Thanks for the MHO

[21browngirl]

I dont know what defines a Mamma's boy. But I find it cute, when a guy loves her mom.. and respects her.. But if he cannot make his own decisions or cannot survive without parental guidance.. its a No No

[microhorse]

I would date a man who respects his mother.

[aWes0MeNeSs]

I have before, and never again. He actually invited his mom on our dates and friend outings, without discussing it with anyone first, and he wanted his mom (who was EXTREMELY dependent) to live with us. I love my parents a lot and completely understand and encourage a guy loving his mom, but there's a difference between loving your mom and still being attached at the umbilical cord...

[StingRayxoxo]

I'm not a big fan of that. My grandma (dad's mom) was always negative to my mom, who treated my dad like gold. It was really annoying.

[Iwant2kno]

Nope! I honestly would prefer an independent man. I simply wouldn’t like the idea of his mother looking after him no matter what (I get it! Is the unconditional love of a mother but I would still not be ok with it).

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

No, my mother barely raised me and left the job to my sister.

[CubsterShura]

Depends on what Mama's boy means. I don't mind him being a bit extra attached to his mom and loving her a lot and doing a lot for her, but as long as it's not like he depends on her for everything and he belittles me and doesn't take me or our relationship seriously...

I won't mind it if he wants his mom to stay with us, as long as I can get my personal space and privacy at home. I don't mind if he wants to take his mom along with us at times when we go out, but it doesn't mean that he should do it always and we can never have fun on our own! I won't mind if he is being a devoted son to his mom, as long as he is being a devoted husband to me too.

In fact, I would like it that she stays with us if she's sick so we would take care of her. Or when we have kids, when we go to work she could stay at home and look after the kids meanwhile. It is common in many households that both parents work and the children stay with their grandparents.

There's a difference between loving your mom and being a little more attached or devoted to her, and still drinking her milk. There, I said it.

[HereIbe]

Part of the problem is that mama's boys spew the propaganda that they are "taking care of" or "repaying". That's total bullshit. I can take care of my elderly parents WITHOUT them telling me what to do. THAT is the key. If you put mama first, above everything else, and you do whatever Mama wants, you're a mama's boy, a total little bitch.

If you take care of your mother's appropriate needs in her old age, respect her, but do NOT let her push you around or dictate your time, then you're a grown man.

Mama's boy (little bitch): Drops everything whenever Mama demands.
Grown man: If he's got a regular time with his mother, he honors and observes that--it's part of a grown man's routine, but he doesn't drop everything on his mother's whim. (Legitimate emergencies do not count.)

Mama's boy (little bitch): Drops a girlfriend because Mama doesn't like her.
Grown man: Realizes his mother won't like ANY woman he brings home, it's what mothers do. Smiles and smooths ruffled feathers, but keeps dating (or marrying) the woman of HIS choice.

Mama's boy (little bitch): Automatically does whatever Mama has always done at the holidays.
Grown man: Realizes that it's time to make his holidays work his way--which also means that he doesn't let the girlfriend/wife push him around.

We can keep going.

[Jamie05rhs]

I agree with everything here except for the holidays. The older generations always take the lead for these special events.

[HereIbe]

@Jamie05rhs, WHOSE older generation? Does little boy's mama dictate, or does the young man's wife's family get a say?

[Jamie05rhs]

It depends on whose house you're at that year. Duh

[HereIbe]

@Jamie05rhs, and if the boy lets Mama say that it will be her house every year?

[Jamie05rhs]

Hmm. I don't think that's fair.

[HereIbe]

@Jamie05rhs, and we're right back to me being entirely correct.

[Jamie05rhs]

But you said "Mama." So I thought you were talking about the guy's mama, not his mother-in-law.

[HereIbe]

@Jamie05rhs, I get it, you're trying very hard to pretend to not understand.

[Jamie05rhs]

Whatever, bro

[Lovethedove]

I appreciate when a man has a healthy relationship with the woman who raised him. It’s important he respects & cares about her. It’s great when he enjoys her time. But when I don’t like it is when it can feel like it would be me versus his mother. I won’t compete for anyone’s affection, commitment, respect etc
If the relationship is unhealthy like to the point he can’t make a decision without that woman’s input then that would be too much for me. I need my man to be independent, responsible, mature, confident. I think running everything by your mom would contradict those qualities.

[curiousnorway]

Would you date a mama boy?
Depends on what you mean with "mama boy". I'm fine with people having a good relationship with their parents and it's way better than having a long story of abuse. Being open about emotions, talkative and not trying to be tough all the time have it's benefits. It's not necessarily feminine either, but just a new way to be a modern man in. I thinks it's nice if a guy can share both good and bad news with his mother like a daughter can do with her parents.

I'm one?
Again, depends on your definition. I'm open about my feelings, discuss my opinions with her, share good and bad news, shops with her, goes to cafe with her and so on. Shopping, going to the cafe, travelling etc. with your mom isn't more wrong than going fishing or watching football with your father.

[Blaisexx]

No Im not into that atall, my partners mom has always been abit cold towards me from out of no where. I can't imagine him being a mama's boy aswell I think it would make things worse. Plus it's alittle unnattractive to see a grown man attached to his mothers nipple (hypothetically) I feel like your partner should be the only woman in your life, but of course if they have a good nice friendly relationship that is not creepily close then I don't mind that. As long as his mother is a kind woman and she's friendly. It just wouldn't work with my particular situation because she's a nighmare so I would hate for my boyfriend to let her get away with it just cause he's a mama's boy.

[dalibara]

If by mama’s boy you mean a guy who is very close to his mom, value her, spend time with her, and take care of her, then hell yes. If she raised him to be a good man then she definitely deserve to be taken care of, especially that I’m also very close to my mom, so a we will have the same values when it comes to family. But if you mean a guy who depend on his mother, then fuck no!

[ChiTown33]

I find this question rather vague. I don't consider myself a momma's boy but my father died when i was in my early 20's. My mother is far from helpless but with my dad gone and my 4 siblings being all sisters i do feel it my job to look out for all of them ( it's a guy thing lol). Anyone that would think negatively of this i don't need in my life.

[ChiTown33]

The fact that two women would downvote this syatement only illustrates how flaky some women are.

[Pinay_ako]

I didn't downvote you lol

[ChiTown33]

Oh, i know you didn't Pinay ;) You upvoted it i know because i got the notification.

[hellionthesagereborn]

HA, HA HA HA HA HA! No. No I don't think any one could ever consider me that. In fact I would say I was never a "mama's" boy and that I am the polar opposite. I talk to her once every couple of months (less if I can get away with it). Been living on my own since I was 19(she said I wasn't "moving forward with life", while I was working and going to school full time (which of course had to end as I had to find a higher paying job to afford rent and you know, food.).

[Jamie05rhs]

Right with you there, brother.

[hellionthesagereborn]

@Jamie05rhs Not sure why I was downvoted though. Weird, seems an odd thing to downvote some one for. Not every one has a "stellar" relationship with their mothers (because in my experience mothers are crazy. I'm adopted, I've had two mothers, again, both crazy).

[Chemdawg99]

There is a difference between being a mama’s boy and being dominated by your mother. The former is a good indication that a man has a good relationship with his mother and values his mother’s qualities as a woman, which he would naturally seek out in a mate.

The latter is a sign of emotional and/or physical abuse.

If a man values and respects his mother, that is good for the women he meets as he will likely value and respect them as well.

A man with a good, healthy relationship with his mother might indicate he will have a good, healthy relationship with you.

[JoyISok3]

I like when a guy loves his mom. My boyfriend is very rude and sometimes you think he doesn’t care. But he loves his mom and you can’t tell without him even saying. I was looking at his tattoos and he had his grandparents portrait and I asked if he’d get his moms name and he said probably not and tried to act too cool for love and all of a sudden I saw a year and I asked what it meant and long and behold it was his mommy’s birth year. I thought it was so cute lol

[DizzyDesii]

Not at his point. I may sound selfish saying this but i wanna come first. I used to be a mamas girl but when i reached a certain age, i sat her aside and put my man first. So ima need them to be like former mamas boys or sumn 😂 cause i dont have time to be competing with her. Too many guys moms these days feel like they can diss the sons girlfriend and he usually doesn't speak up for his girl. I dont have time for that BS again.

[Vero9116]

Honestly i mostly likely wouldn't due to the fact that he will always go by what his mother says.. he won't allow himself to be a grown ass man and make decisions in his own.. one thing is asking your mom what she thinks and another is doing what your momma tells you i means it good for a man to have a good relationship with his mother cuz that means he will be a great man but another is involving your mother in all your shit

[BluesheepOwl]

Only if his mom is really nice and super cool. I dated someone who's mom was a huge bitch to me whenever I interacted with her and my ex would act like it didn't happen. I'm sure he was a mama's boy. If his mom is a sweet heart I would love to be around her and hangout with her so I would be fine.

[AlexanderBrunnrgaard]

In the sense that I love her dearly and have a good relationship with her, yes I am. She's also fiercely protective over me but I've made her loosen up a bit now that I'm an adult. But sometimes she can't help herself, she's not an easy woman to refuse.

[Katebfun]

I once dated a mommas boy, found out when together that they were having sex. Super gross.

[SilverRain92]

Who were having sex? 😅😲

[Pinay_ako]

ewwwww

[Katebfun]

@SilverRain92 it happens more than one would admit to. Society is full of sick molesters it's not just men woman are too. That's taboo so ne quiet!

[ariadneR]

As long as you're not all up in our business. I married your son. Not you.
If keep asking for grandkids, ovulation cycle etc fuck that shit