Guys, are you a mama's boy? Ladies, would you date a Mama's boy?

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Massageman · Accepted Answer

Definition - mama's boy
n. A boy or man characterized by unusual closeness to his mother and often by timidity and overly refined manners.

To a certain degree, this shows a caring person, no a dependent one. But he should get over that timidity thing if he expect's to get a gal. For gals, though, the way a guy treats his mother is a decent indicator of how he might treat her.

21browngirl · Accepted Answer

I dont know what defines a Mamma's boy. But I find it cute, when a guy loves her mom.. and respects her.. But if he cannot make his own decisions or cannot survive without parental guidance.. its a No No

microhorse · Accepted Answer

I would date a man who respects his mother.

aWes0MeNeSs · Answer

I have before, and never again. He actually invited his mom on our dates and friend outings, without discussing it with anyone first, and he wanted his mom (who was EXTREMELY dependent) to live with us. I love my parents a lot and completely understand and encourage a guy loving his mom, but there's a difference between loving your mom and still being attached at the umbilical cord...

StingRayxoxo · Answer

I'm not a big fan of that. My grandma (dad's mom) was always negative to my mom, who treated my dad like gold. It was really annoying.

Iwant2kno · Answer

Nope! I honestly would prefer an independent man. I simply wouldn’t like the idea of his mother looking after him no matter what (I get it! Is the unconditional love of a mother but I would still not be ok with it).

Jean-Marie_Céline · Answer

No, my mother barely raised me and left the job to my sister.

CubsterShura · Answer

Depends on what Mama's boy means. I don't mind him being a bit extra attached to his mom and loving her a lot and doing a lot for her, but as long as it's not like he depends on her for everything and he belittles me and doesn't take me or our relationship seriously...

I won't mind it if he wants his mom to stay with us, as long as I can get my personal space and privacy at home. I don't mind if he wants to take his mom along with us at times when we go out, but it doesn't mean that he should do it always and we can never have fun on our own! I won't mind if he is being a devoted son to his mom, as long as he is being a devoted husband to me too.

In fact, I would like it that she stays with us if she's sick so we would take care of her. Or when we have kids, when we go to work she could stay at home and look after the kids meanwhile. It is common in many households that both parents work and the children stay with their grandparents.

There's a difference between loving your mom and being a little more attached or devoted to her, and still drinking her milk. There, I said it.

HereIbe · Answer

Part of the problem is that mama's boys spew the propaganda that they are "taking care of" or "repaying". That's total bullshit. I can take care of my elderly parents WITHOUT them telling me what to do. THAT is the key. If you put mama first, above everything else, and you do whatever Mama wants, you're a mama's boy, a total little bitch.

If you take care of your mother's appropriate needs in her old age, respect her, but do NOT let her push you around or dictate your time, then you're a grown man.

Mama's boy (little bitch): Drops everything whenever Mama demands.
Grown man: If he's got a regular time with his mother, he honors and observes that--it's part of a grown man's routine, but he doesn't drop everything on his mother's whim. (Legitimate emergencies do not count.)

Mama's boy (little bitch): Drops a girlfriend because Mama doesn't like her.
Grown man: Realizes his mother won't like ANY woman he brings home, it's what mothers do. Smiles and smooths ruffled feathers, but keeps dating (or marrying) the woman of HIS choice.

Mama's boy (little bitch): Automatically does whatever Mama has always done at the holidays.
Grown man: Realizes that it's time to make his holidays work his way--which also means that he doesn't let the girlfriend/wife push him around.

We can keep going.

Lovethedove · Answer

I appreciate when a man has a healthy relationship with the woman who raised him. It’s important he respects & cares about her. It’s great when he enjoys her time. But when I don’t like it is when it can feel like it would be me versus his mother. I won’t compete for anyone’s affection, commitment, respect etc
If the relationship is unhealthy like to the point he can’t make a decision without that woman’s input then that would be too much for me. I need my man to be independent, responsible, mature, confident. I think running everything by your mom would contradict those qualities.

curiousnorway · Answer

Would you date a mama boy?
Depends on what you mean with "mama boy". I'm fine with people having a good relationship with their parents and it's way better than having a long story of abuse. Being open about emotions, talkative and not trying to be tough all the time have it's benefits. It's not necessarily feminine either, but just a new way to be a modern man in. I thinks it's nice if a guy can share both good and bad news with his mother like a daughter can do with her parents.

I'm one?
Again, depends on your definition. I'm open about my feelings, discuss my opinions with her, share good and bad news, shops with her, goes to cafe with her and so on. Shopping, going to the cafe, travelling etc. with your mom isn't more wrong than going fishing or watching football with your father.

Blaisexx · Answer

No Im not into that atall, my partners mom has always been abit cold towards me from out of no where. I can't imagine him being a mama's boy aswell I think it would make things worse. Plus it's alittle unnattractive to see a grown man attached to his mothers nipple (hypothetically) I feel like your partner should be the only woman in your life, but of course if they have a good nice friendly relationship that is not creepily close then I don't mind that. As long as his mother is a kind woman and she's friendly. It just wouldn't work with my particular situation because she's a nighmare so I would hate for my boyfriend to let her get away with it just cause he's a mama's boy.

dalibara · Answer

If by mama’s boy you mean a guy who is very close to his mom, value her, spend time with her, and take care of her, then hell yes. If she raised him to be a good man then she definitely deserve to be taken care of, especially that I’m also very close to my mom, so a we will have the same values when it comes to family. But if you mean a guy who depend on his mother, then fuck no!

ChiTown33 · Answer

I find this question rather vague. I don't consider myself a momma's boy but my father died when i was in my early 20's. My mother is far from helpless but with my dad gone and my 4 siblings being all sisters i do feel it my job to look out for all of them ( it's a guy thing lol). Anyone that would think negatively of this i don't need in my life.

hellionthesagereborn · Answer

HA, HA HA HA HA HA! No. No I don't think any one could ever consider me that. In fact I would say I was never a "mama's" boy and that I am the polar opposite. I talk to her once every couple of months (less if I can get away with it). Been living on my own since I was 19(she said I wasn't "moving forward with life", while I was working and going to school full time (which of course had to end as I had to find a higher paying job to afford rent and you know, food.).

Chemdawg99 · Answer

There is a difference between being a mama’s boy and being dominated by your mother. The former is a good indication that a man has a good relationship with his mother and values his mother’s qualities as a woman, which he would naturally seek out in a mate.

The latter is a sign of emotional and/or physical abuse.

If a man values and respects his mother, that is good for the women he meets as he will likely value and respect them as well.

A man with a good, healthy relationship with his mother might indicate he will have a good, healthy relationship with you.

JoyISok3 · Answer

I like when a guy loves his mom. My boyfriend is very rude and sometimes you think he doesn’t care. But he loves his mom and you can’t tell without him even saying. I was looking at his tattoos and he had his grandparents portrait and I asked if he’d get his moms name and he said probably not and tried to act too cool for love and all of a sudden I saw a year and I asked what it meant and long and behold it was his mommy’s birth year. I thought it was so cute lol

DizzyDesii · Answer

Not at his point. I may sound selfish saying this but i wanna come first. I used to be a mamas girl but when i reached a certain age, i sat her aside and put my man first. So ima need them to be like former mamas boys or sumn 😂 cause i dont have time to be competing with her. Too many guys moms these days feel like they can diss the sons girlfriend and he usually doesn't speak up for his girl. I dont have time for that BS again.

Vero9116 · Answer

Honestly i mostly likely wouldn't due to the fact that he will always go by what his mother says.. he won't allow himself to be a grown ass man and make decisions in his own.. one thing is asking your mom what she thinks and another is doing what your momma tells you i means it good for a man to have a good relationship with his mother cuz that means he will be a great man but another is involving your mother in all your shit

BluesheepOwl · Answer

Only if his mom is really nice and super cool. I dated someone who's mom was a huge bitch to me whenever I interacted with her and my ex would act like it didn't happen. I'm sure he was a mama's boy. If his mom is a sweet heart I would love to be around her and hangout with her so I would be fine.

AlexanderBrunnrgaard · Answer

In the sense that I love her dearly and have a good relationship with her, yes I am. She's also fiercely protective over me but I've made her loosen up a bit now that I'm an adult. But sometimes she can't help herself, she's not an easy woman to refuse.

Katebfun · Answer

I once dated a mommas boy, found out when together that they were having sex. Super gross.

ariadneR · Answer

As long as you're not all up in our business. I married your son. Not you.  If keep asking for grandkids, ovulation cycle etc fuck that shit

YHL6965 · Answer

Yes, unfortunately. Since my parents have done everything for me instead of teaching me how to do things, it has been my way of "surviving". I hate it and I'm mad at my parents for that. It makes me feel worthless, with no skills and useless. I feel like I'm not independent because my parents handicapped me.

just_a_potato · Answer

I'd date a momma's boy as long as he didn't : 1. Only ever take his mom's side when it comes to our relationship  2. Is planning on living with her for the majority of his life

morningsunshine0000 · Answer

No way! He should be independent and not be at his mother’s whims. I have no time for that. There’s a difference between treating your mother with respect and following all her orders.

AlienParasite · Answer

No I wouldn't. The guy must show me he's very independent. I've met a real mama's boy and it feels very weird when he talks about his mother as it sounds as he had Oedipus complex. Pretty weird.

faithie_Artist · Answer

I knew a mama’s boy. He always relied on her to pay for all his things, doesn’t have or want a job, can’t drive himself to college, always plays his PC games, calls her a bitch when he doesn’t get his way... yeah that’s a big fat NO for me.

Jjpayne · Answer

Kinda, I'm close with my mom but she does not control my life. I'm actually hanging out half the time at my roommates and half the time at her house at this point in my life. I can find it sometimes easier to relax at her place

Felinegirl · Answer

My boyfriend's parents call him every day. I don't care that much. As long as it doesn't hurt the relationship with your girlfriend, a good relationship with your parents is usually a good thing!

dancing_in_nebulas · Answer

No. Real mamas boys are whiney and helpless. I will date a lady's man however - men close to their mothers and sisters, who develop understanding about how women think, act and feel.

kaewk · Answer

If he’s going to tell her every time I curse at him we gonna have a problem.

Syrian_survivor · Answer

I am and will always be. I'll never be able to repay her for making me who I am, attaching to her forever and giving her all I can is the least I can do to try ❤

Theladywithcurls · Answer

I'm my daddy's girl. Dating a mamma's boy would be okay as long as we're not both too spoiled. We'd end up living with our parents and unemployed lol

TheHillsRAlive · Answer

As long as he can take care of himself and thinks for himself... And she doesn't influence our relationship negatively... I don't have a problem

Exterminatore · Answer

Hell no and I doubt most women would. It’s hard to fuck your man when he’s still attached by an umbilical cord to his mama.

tempolocus · Answer

there’s nothing wrong w being a mama’s boy and i would date one as long as it’s not a borderline, creepy obsession w his mother.

pooper89 · Answer

In my experience it's kind of a turnoff. It can be an unhealthy attachment to their mother to the point where they won't move out and their attachment interferes with the relationship.

Anonymous · Answer

Depends. It would be Nice if he had a great relationship to his mom so they dont fight all the time. However I don't want him to be super attached to her like a baby.

AlexBlack007 · Answer

Nope. She doesn't treat me like a child anymore and I don't behave like a child around her.

ElizaPam · Answer

My mom still treats me like a mommas boy and I’ve been living as a girl since I was 14 😝

frerardsprincess · Answer

It’s sweet if they have a good relationship with their mom of course but not if they’re incapable of being without them or anything weird

TacosRAwesome · Answer

Yes as long as he's decently independent. Someone who cares about their mum is cool. Someone who is controlled by his mum is not.

BrownBratzDoll · Answer

not really but then again I don't know, never dated a mamas boy and I'm not a family person and I hate people, so I don't know it probably wouldn't bother me much because I will be to myself

Kayayy · Answer

I mean so long as she's not hovering over our relationship then it's ok. he's a grown adult he should not have to be running to mommy whenever something happens.

markanthonypeace · Answer

Define mama's boy.. I don't think I'm one. But I love my mom.

MackToday · Answer

I imagine a good number of men are by virtue of the fact we didn't have fathers who stuck around.

Ordinarygurl_ · Answer

Yeah I would but if it's too much that could be annoying

DECENTSCOTTISHLAD999 · Answer

Never was l was very independent from a very young age l loved my mother as my mother but she died very young at only 64 with a heart condition and a stroke and there is nothing wrong with a mummys boy as he knows how to look after a girl well l do

sasukeuchiha7 · Answer

Nope, I do care for my parents and I love them but I'm not dependent on them for everything (except currently my college tuition).

mateynine · Answer

I don't think so, but I keep in contact with my mom even though she made me leave home a year ago. I don't make decisions based upon her.

Liam_Hayden · Answer

Well my mom is the #1 person in my life so in that respect I am, but if we mean in the classical sense, no. I do my own cooking and cleaning and shopping, etc.

DiegoO · Answer

Hmm, I am not clingy, so no, but I do enjoy still living at home and having the opportunity to be with her.

Logorithim · Answer

No, I never was

chunlilovesvega · Answer

no I dont like a mama's boy kind of man, that's the kind I'd like to avoid.

ashley1996 · Answer

No. In my experience you have to be like their mom. Im me and nothing will change that

convo_king89 · Answer

When i was a teen i was.. i belueved everything my mom said.. then i grew mu own brain a d a realized a lot of it is just b. s

terrancemac34 · Answer

Definitely not a mama's boy but always got her back.

Darkangel19 · Answer

I can't stand my mother we are two different beings that will never get along.

backdoorman · Answer

What do you mean by "mamma's boy"? If you mean do I treat my mom like gold, then yeah I am.

DakotaNorth · Answer

Well, he lives with his mother but he's not a mama's boy.

No_Archons · Answer

I mean if you're jewish or italian you pretty much don't have a choice...

Rawkstar26 · Answer

I'm not, I do love my mom though.. Even though she's annoying lol

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