People need time to get over a breakup. Someone may do the rebound boogie just to not be alone, then dump you after they're over the FORMER relationship because they were never really invested in you... It's not the best scenario. Longtime relationships (20-30 years) usually take a year or two to get over. Shorter ones, shorter times. Weigh that. Go out with others and check this person out later... MIght save you grief.
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No... I'd think it's too soon for him to be jumping into a relationship with me.
I wouldn’t mind since I’d probably be a rebound but since I’d rather have casual sex now, it wouldn’t bother me and would make it easier for me. I don’t want to hurt a girls feelings if she wants more and I just want sex. But since it’s more likely she’s looking for something temporary after a break up so soon, we can both get what we want without problems
Yes as long as you realize what you are getting into. You could end up being a rebound if that is your thing. If it's not then I would vote NO.
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Yes, as long as I feel she is emotionally ready to dedicate herself to a relationship with me.
No I wouldn't.
I don't want to be a rebound.
I'd want him to have been out of the relationship for at least a few months.I've dated immediately after relationships before and I know how it was for me. For that reason I wouldn't exclusively date a girl fresh off a breakup.
She could genuinely like you and want to be with you. Not consciously getting into it as a way to bounce back and heal from her breakup. But you're asking for a lot from someone who really can't give to you from an emotionally stable place. Meet that same girl two months post breakup and you could have a smooth, beautiful relationship. But after a breakup you setup a situation where you're more taking care of her emotionally and it's just not the type of relationship you want. It's more volatile emotionally when it should be the honeymoon period. a lot of reasons not to do it.
Unless you already know them and know they're the type of person you want to marry. In my mind it's not worth getting into right away, but if you're that serious it might be worth it. I know girls who "might" go 3 months as a single girl. You meet a girl like that and you have a short window of time to move.It depends on why they left the relationship.
There's such a thing as mentally leaving a relationship before you physically leave the relationship. I was dating a complete jerk and I came to hate him. It was a couple of big things that he did and said that made me realize "this is not going to last... because this is absolute bullshit".
I started conversing with a guy who was nice and who i had chemistry with. I left him and started seeing this new guy. When it ended I was just relieved and felt no sadness, no grieving period (guess I already went through it when I realized it wasn't going to last). I left the relationship ready for this new relationship and it's been going well ever since and this all happen a matter of years a go now.
If a potential partner was in a circumstance like that, I see no issue with starting a relationship.Been there, done that. Didn't end up well for me.
It was this June when I finally decided to date again after a year. Met this girl and got to know her. She had broken up with her "ex" boyfriend (who is again her boyfriend now) in Feb. We started dating and I was loving every minute of it, 6 months into it and us being pretty into each other (at least that is what I thought) she told me out of the blue that she just doesn't think she can move on and broke up.
Never dating anyone who has just gotten out of a relationship.
No matter how much they think they are ready trust me they are notI think not dating someone because they just got out of a relationship is nonsense. It is far better than dating someone still in a relationship and if you are interested in them better to date them before the enter a relationship with someone not foolish enough to wait. Life is too short always try to make the most of it.
It depends on who left. If your dating the person that left that relationship was probably over if not years before you met them. If you’re dating the person that was left, then you would proceed with some caution. However never live your life by “rules”, life is too short. Be happy...
yes...
Sometimes you're the reason for the end of a relationship. However I had always the feel "she dumped him without any scruples, she will do that with you as well".
On the other hand I have never thought about a relationship in such long term perspectives like many other guys are doing that.I definitely would as long as I can tell through actions that he’s really done with his ex! I say that bc I move on fast as well! U will know if ur a rebound or not after a while! For instance, y’all may have sex but y’all never go on a date or talk about anything really deep. It’s just all physical. Or he may bring up his ex alll the time! Im actually dating someone right now who just got out of a relationship in I believe February & there’s no doubt that he’s into m. We’re into eachother & I love it!!
Short answer, no, I wouldn't. That person that just came out of a relationship is emotionally vulnerable and not ready at all to start something new. I could be there as emotional support, or some variant of that but not much more. Also, after being emotionally scared you can't start something meaningful. It would be a waste of time to try and start something with someone who isn't ready.
might go on a date, but not date. people need time to process that junk or they just drag it forward. It's an interesting thing because they need love and support, which is fine, but dating is a different set of expectations. those emotions need fixed up or she's gonna be "needy", then expose her wounds, maybe go back, etc.. can be a mess.
Yes, but it depends on how it had ended etc. My last 2 relationships have in theory been over long before we actually split up. It happens all to often these days. Going on dates with someone is fine, just make sure they want you for you and nothing else. Remember that people don't usually play the long game. Take your time, as this will show you their true meaning towards you
I wouldn't do it because, first of all it could be dangerous if you don't know nothing about the Ex and second I feel the person should make sure they give themselves time so they don't make the same mistake because time is valuable and you don't want to waste it on keeping starting over.
No because on the off chance she realizes she still wants the old guy, you are screwed.
I have turned down rebounds, because women are emotionally unstable and users. She just needs someone to cling on to and will give her the attention and affection she needs at that moment.Ask yourself how much your time is worth. The older you get the less you will want to invest time in something highly likely not to work out. In your 20s it seems like you have forever to experiment and learn.
If too recently, no. It's difficult because you might be the rebound. And how can you trust the other person? They clearly like you, but how to know if they're being honest with wanting to date your or not?
I know I'm likely a rebound. I switch goals to having fun and easing their mind. The whole intent is usually to cover over the ex with someone new even if its short term. It's no big deal until well... it is! Honestly can smooth over that issue.
I did before. I didn't know ofocurse that they broke up two months before. I asked and he lied it was one and half year. He hurt me he broke up wirh me and at the end I found out he was always in love with her
And what I was? Probably nothing...I might but I wouldn't put any high expectations on it
No, been there done that, and it is not worth it.. Unless they were truly ready to move forward.. But other than that, nope..
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