yea, so that is emotional wounds influencing him, and that seems normal... but a problem. So he needs to heal those emotional wounds and put them into perspective. face what all that rejection meant to him, and then deeper... what happened as a child w his mom possibly. He may need help doing that in multiple ways... counselor, read book, God (he probably doesn'.. that was the problem.. doh... but that is a solution... e. g. find out what is blocking him from God), social support of friends, and resolving in his own heart. there are various techniques to resolve this stuff... discovery is part 1.
And then there is why he is drawn to you and your type... digging into the details. it isn't your blonde hair, it is deeper than that. it's probably an image of his mom or mother figure.
This one gonna be hard... but God is at work, like him, accept him, or not. I learned how attraction works...
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I'm not joking when I say this:
take some drugs together. An eighth of psilocybin for each of you one Friday night should do the trick. It's like taking a trip to The Wizard of Oz, in that you may find the courage, brains, or even your sense of self or home by the end of your 8 hours. You can mix the dry fungus in a lime & water soda to "improve" potency.
I don't think any of my girlfriends have ever looked similar, lol. I've seen people who remind me of various past lovers for, reasons, but I also understand your man's dilemma. He was avoiding a serious thing because he's still a bit shaky like an abused dog at the shelter.
Anyway, drugs are your catalyst. Use them or argue with the idea of using them. It'll just take longer and be harder to take the same journeys. You've got nothing to lose but $100 and an evening.
It is one thing to look like a ex or have similar interests but if he was over her, theoretically it should not be bothering him that you 2 resemble each other. He still seems to have feelings for her otherwise he wouldn't care that you 2 are similar.
You should decide how it makes you feel to be a constant reminder or someone in his past.
Seems like he is not over his ex and you remind him of her. It is like being her again.
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He is not confused. He is excited that you remind him of his ex and he feels guilty about that, knows that it is the wrong reason to be in a relationship with you.
There are at least some similarities of ladies I found attractive. 2 coincidentally worked at the same store. If I did date a girl that looked like another one I like a lot, I would just pray I didn't call my new girl by my old ones name by accident because they seemed a little similar.
I do have a type but I would never date someone who reminds me of my ex like that or date someone who confuses someone to that extent as he is confused. He definitely needs professional help. Regard this as a red flag. You need to be guarded as you really could get very hurt. You are your own person.
If you are like his minus the religion thing, I would go for it if I were him. Clearly he was super into her, probably why he found you attractive in the first place. If you won't leave for the same reason and you are doppelgangers then you and he have a real chance at happiness.
He was open enough to let you know this. That looks thoughtful to me. As long as you look ahead, the 'behind' does not look like a threat. Everyone has a past; but the future only can be modelled.
I heard 1000 of stupid excuses. You're to check if he's playing with you while dating other girls.
He ainβt over her 🤷🏽ββοΈ he should be talking about how different you are and the qualities that made him attracted to you. Not his ex 🤦🏾ββοΈ
Sounds like he dates you cause you remind him of his ex.
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Sounds like you are a replacement
Possibly I hope not. 👍😇
Maybe he just has a type
Run! This is a problem you do not want.
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