What’s the most common reason a girl can’t get a boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

What’s the most common reason a girl can’t get a boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

Personally, I'm 22 and I've never had a boyfriend. I've always struggled with myself and my body, been overweight and severely obese my whole life. I'm starting to emerge and get our my bubble only now after losing 50 lbs. But trust me it's not easy, I don't love myself and I find it difficult to be able to someone. I've always said that in order to have a relationship with someone you have to take care and love yourself first. I'm so used to live under my rock that I'm honestly terrified at the thought of being with someone. I once tried but it made me feel so vulnerable, I'm just so used to have my space and my own company that I don't see anyone else in my life. Sometimes I feel like an alien and tell myself it's not normal at this age but I'm not gonna force myself to date any guy just because. Plus, I've never taken any risks either. All the guys who have approached me only wanted sex and I'm not that kind of girl. I've been raised with great values by my parents, I know what I want and I will not settle for less even if that means waiting forever.

[blythely]

This is entirely within your control

[XRabbitHeartX]

-looking in the wrong places
-expecting men to just knock on their door and not making a effort to initiate
-unrealistic expectations about romance or love
-choosing to date the wrong type of guy

[FunkyMonkee]

1. Stop looking under rocks! I'm a VERY nice guy! I may not be the best-looking guy in the world, although I've heard a number of women say I'm good-looking! Well, if that's the case, why am I not surrounded by women every day? Why is it I've spent nearly al my life completely alone? Women have told me hundreds of times in the past 30 to 40 years that they're looking for the exact kind of guy I am! Sweet, affectionate, kind, caring, loving, romantic, helpful, funny, smart, talented, etc., but EVERY SINGLE TIME, they go after some pretty boy that treats them like shit and beats the hell out of them, then they come to ME and cry on MY shoulder about how he mistreats her!! I don't mind helping her though this "crisis" at al but, they never listen to my advice and, even if they do, (leave him), guess where they go? CERTAINLY not into MY arms!! They find ANOTHER abusive pretty boy!!! And the whole pattern starts all over again!! "There must be something WRONG with me that I keep ending up with assholes instead of the nice guys that I want!" Yeah, there IS!! And I've heard PLENTY of WOMEN say THIS: IT'S THAT YOU CAN'T SEE THE GOOD ONES WHEN THEY'RE RIGHT UNDER YOUR VERY NOSE!!!
Just because it's a pretty package doesn't mean its contents are gonna be good!! And vice versa!! It works that way for guys, too! I just heard yesterday about a guy that married a beautiful girl and she ruined his entire life by lying her ass off telling everyone he raped her when he did no such thing!!
2. I just said that in my comment above.
3. They all want Prince Charming but end up choosing the evil Black Knight.
4. See numbers 1 and 3.

[XRabbitHeartX]

Thank you for your reply to my comment and putting in effort in your reply. I know it must have taken time. But look I have no answers for you. Everyone is different and both genders can go through rejection, being alone and having to go through painful things. I wish I can say do x or do y or change things for you but sadly, I cannot 😢

[FunkyMonkee]

That's okay, I didn't expect you to.
Take care!!

[Miristheiss]

She lives a sheltered life and never goes out or to where single people could meet her.

She is unfriendly and isn't cordial when people try and talk to her.

People don't find her attractive.

A really obese person will have a hard time finding someone attracted to them. Their mathematical rates for potential suitors go down.

[boggboss]

You may not like what he has to say but it holds truth

[MrOracle]

- Demanding a higher Social Market Value guy then her own SMV.

- Isn't outgoing enough and/or doesn't make her interest known to the guy.

- Doesn't leave the house enough and go places where single men might be.

[Logorithim]

Bad personality

[PrincessJasmindaaa]

Do U think my boyfriend was attracted to me?

[Logorithim]

@PrincessJasmindaaa: I assume he was, or he would not be your boyfriend

[FunkyMonkee]

Is she actually TRYING TO or is she just sitting around waiting for Prince Charming to show up and sweep her off his feet? As far as I can tell, there's NO REASON a girl can't get a guy other than an unwillingness to try! Most guys would LOVE to have a girlfriend. It SUCKS being alone al the time!! Problem is, they're a bit too "scared" to after them because, from past experience, either the girl is already taken or just flat out doesn't like him! So, rather than get shot down AGAIN, they just don't bother. Where is it written that a girl can't try to get a guy? When my aunt & uncle were young, back in the `30's or `40's, they met at a bowling alley. She was with her friends and he was with his and they both just happened to be playing each other. She met my uncle and shortly after told her friends, "I'm gonna marry that guy!!". She went after him and got him!! They both died a few years ago in their early 90's exactly 1 year apart. Had she not tried to go after my uncle, who knows if he would've ever gotten married?
Another factor is that there are now 3 girls for every guy on the planet so, there's GONNA be twice as many single girls as there are mated girls.
Lastly, we have this insane bullshit called, "Political correctness"!! You can't even LOOK at a girl half the time without her thinking he's thinking about raping her or without her thinking he's making her out to be a sexual piece of meat! It's scaring the shit out of guys and they DON'T want to be seen r thought of as a pervert when they are CLEARLY NOT and they DON'T want to end up in court or jail just because she THINKS him saying hello to her was a perverse sexual come-on!! How would girls like it if the tables were turned?

[Love2Jackit]

Arrogance when a girl is stuck on herself. That's makes a guy not want 2 go out with her. Reason he knows she's going 2 be hard 2 please. Really he knows it's going 2 be all about her. Meaning you will come 2nd 2 her. Shew will always demand 2 come first.

[JoseJr]

Usually ask why too much out of a guy when nobody (including her) are perfect. As she wants a tall... handsome... wealthy... educated... well versed... etc etc... just unreal expectations, if the guy doesn't meet all of those are requirements then she will ignore him

[yeeesh]

1. She's insecure and/or looking for the wrong things
2. She has high standarts and doesn't settle for less than she deserves
3. She has unrealistic expectations. It's hard to find the line between knowing your worth and being unrealistic.
4. She's busy and/ doesn't socialise
5. It's just a coincidence, doesn't matter if she's busy or anxious, confident or insecure, maybe the right person didn't cross her way yet.

[EpicDweeb]

Cause she's looking for all the wrong things. Whether it be "the spark" or some idealized picture of perfection, she's looking for the wrong things and approaching a relationship poorly... that or she's so eager to find/get a boyfriend she's just really flirty and guys just see her as someone hey can't trust in a relationship.

[hellacray]

Common reason?

I'd just say she's unhygienic or ugly.

Cause I've seen guys go out with girls that treat them like trash. So if you're hot, with a crappy attitude you'll still get dates.

Not so sure if you're ugly or got a funky smell with some nasty greasy hair.

[Anonymous]

Thinking she is a Kate Upton and only wanting to date the 'perfect' guy.
If she is rude.
If she is 'too independent' or 'hangs out with a lot of guys'
If she likes living a 'party life' because we guys like girls who listen to us sometimes and has not slept with every damn guy.

If you think you have a shitty personality improve it.
If you think it is because you are shy then it is not your fault.
Just open up a bit and let your shield down a bit so guys can approach you.

[hahahmm]

Not having a great persona (lity). If all you seem to offer are looks that’s a dime a dozen really. There’s always another who looks the same or better out there.

Otoh with a great personality you could have plain looks & have almost any guy.

[rufurrealz]

i would say... pretentious, rude, treats people like crap, never says,' thanks, thank you, im sorry, excuse me,'' things like that.

also, bad hygiene. gets around with men. STDs. that's just me, though.

[Glue-Sniffer]

She is not approachable and has her shields up all the time. Most of the times unconsciously without ever noticing it.

[Anonymous]

Overly high standards probably.
Or lack of self confidence.
Even if a girl is unattractive there's always tons of unattractive guys that want love too.
Or even attractive guys who may have a fetish for her depending on her body.

[Diana7]

I’ve been single a good while but it’s easy to find a boyfriend. The thing that’s hard is finding that special someone. So I guess as others say pickiness etc. but I’m getting older so I can’t hold out for my one true love for much longer probably. At the same time, it would destroy me to be with someone I wasn’t in love with. Rather be alone.

[FunkyMonkee]

I thought I had miss right, too, but after 5 of our 10 years together, she started to show her true colours. Sadly, it took the rest of that 10 years for me to find out exactly what was going on!! Not only had she been lying to me and stealing from me, she was also cheating on me!! So much for loyalty and implicit trust!! That was 18 years ago. I've been alone ever since. NOT because I haven't been trying!!

[cavmanier]

I think it's a combo of not meeting enough people for the expectations she has.

[stormbreaker06]

She rejected good men and is looking for a bad boy. But won't admit it because she is going through her own insecurities.

So when she dates a bad boy she can blame him for the way she is.

[YvanKarma]

Literally this lol

[stormbreaker06]

@YvanKarma thanks man

[SEXslave1]

Believe me. If a woman truly wants a guy she would have one. Dudes are hungry dogs look for fresh meat.

Guys are easy. If she is single it is probably by choice.

[Just_a_human]

It's not very comforting to know that someone would settle for you just because you have a hole.

[SEXslave1]

It has to be the right hole. Haha! Not just any hole.

Dudes have holes. I wouldn’t go after a dude.

It have to be the special magical hole.

With all the right qualities.

But serious. Dudes are easy. Yes, some just want the hole. Some want all the holes.

[Anonymous]

Standards are too high. She might be an average 5 out of 10 girl but expects to get a guy who's 8-9 out of 10.

[Anonymous]

Physically unattractive
Overweight
Looks unclean or like she doesn't take care of herself
Gives off unapproachable vibes

[Finchie40]

Her personality is crap , has a resting bitch face lol

[SexyAshh]

If she's ugly and dosnt make up for it with a good personality