Why do girls like you more when you ignore them?

[reece973]

So, I have noticed that when your speaking with a girl if you reply in bad timing or read and ignore the occasional message they seem more interested and tend to want to speak to you more, why is this?

Girls prefer to be "treated mean"

Girls preferences a lad who replies and makes effort.

[ChurchOfIron]

Don't listen to womens on how to interest women. They generally don't try to interest women, so they have little experience with it. Even if they're bi, they don't have experience interesting women, as a man. If you want something, listen to people who get it. You want financial advice from someone successful in the financial world, for instance.

Can't see the forest through the trees, so to speak. They're too close to the issues. And when they give you an answer, they're giving you a rational answer, from the frontal lobe. That's not the part of the brain responsible for arousal. It's emotions you want to focus on. We don't really know ourselves, male or female.

Women like men who are selective. This conveys high value to the male. Because he's so high value, he doesn't mind if one chick escapes. He can easily get a better one, because he is highly desired.

It's a sign of high status. Women are very influenced by other women, in this. If other women value the male, even if she doesn't, she'll start wondering, "Well why does that chick like him?"

In my experience, women enjoy the chase more than men do. They want to know they have "won" the man's interest and proved that they are worthwhile, not that they immediately have his interest right from the start--that smells of desperation. They like to play the cat and mouse game.

[Blightly]

scarcity drives the price of something up in value. its not about ignoring them, you just need to be busy enough that you can't always respond to them. Often I find it confusing how someone can be so busy to not be able to respond to a text message unless their life were insanely stressful and their schedule completely booked full. HOWEVER, scarcity can also be in terms of how much time you allocate to each girl, which makes guys who are sought after by one girl more appealing to other girls because they can't just get him; they have to compete with the girl who already has his attention and this makes him more attractive.

[lumos]

Girls who do this tend to be insecure, and the less you interact with them on a regular basis, the more they start craving your attention and validation. This creates an unhealthy imbalance though and if you do it on purpose to mess with their heads, it'll likely end up ruining any potential relationship you could have had. Either because they end up feeling too hurt, or because they become too unstable and you yourself lose interest.

[Twenty2]

I don't think it would have a stable relationship to start with tho!

[lumos]

@Twenty2 I think that depends. People tend to be somewhat unsure of the other person's feelings in the beginning stages. As they get to know each other better and start feeling more comfortable and secure when it comes to their own feelings and their (potential) partner's feelings, it's less likely that this sort of imbalance will happen. Granted, if a person is really insecure to begin with, it likely won't turn into a healthy relationship no matter what you do. But it's surprisingly easy to crush someone's confidence like this, and thus to also ruin a relationship that could have been good otherwise.

[Cynicaldreamer]

Because they're idiots...

Sorry but if a guy plays hard to get with me or does that ignoring crap, I assume he's not interested, then I lose interest in him.
I outgrew those kind of games when I was in school and hated it then because I didn't' know if he liked me or not! Just be upfront for goodness sake, it's less confusing!

[coachTanthony]

You need to add option C "See Poll" for us who don't like you shitty A and B answers.

[XRabbitHeartX]

If a guy ignores me it actually just causes my interest to decrease as I assume he is not interested.

[Logorithim]

When this happens, it may be because you seem not needy and perhaps more confident to them

[btbc92]

The point is they do not want to be approached for the sake of approaching and trying to get them sexually. Girls feel safer when the guys back off. Many of you come off too strong or is too pressuring. It's messaging that you are too available and easy. That means you say yes to ANY woman who pays attention to you. Show that your WORTH pursuing too. Your job is no different from women.

[Anonymous]

I like it when guys sometimes hold back a little. It can be a sign that they are taking things slower because they are reserved and careful thinkers about their love lives. if a guy just messages hey all the time it seems insincere or that they have one-dimensional lives without much else going on. It also makes me feel pressured to respond quickly as well. if they hold back a little then it makes me feel that I can do the same when I am busy. And yes, it indicates that he had options which is a sign of a high quality guy.

[Marcuslrh]

It's really hard to say a think it comes down to showing them your not desperate so they see you more as someone that might have other options and makes you more desirable to them maybe am not 100% sure they all have there own reasons it's impossible to no what they really want

[anon1903]

In the art of seduction it's clearly mentioned, that smothering your target (h. crush) with attention in the early stages of dating will put them off, what did you expect?

Ignorance isn't that effective, but if I can easily earn your attention and care, why'd I put efforts forward to earn it?

Imao, this technique in general is used to stop people taking you for granted. Your absense makes your presence valuable sometimes.

[Effably]

Has nothing to do with being mean. Its more about being available. When you're not going for it that sends the signal she has to earn your attention. Can be good. Can be bad. Personally I find you can make girls work in more fun ways.

[BukkakeBimbo]

Well everyone wants what they don't have and loves the chase but actually girls subconsciously want an independent, confident, and emotionally secure man and pick up on cues that you aren't when you are texting her every 5 seconds

[Love2Jackit]

They like it when a guy don't reply back. Then that makes u a challenge. All girls/women always want what they can't have. What's so bad most of the time. Once they get what they can't have. Then they dump u and go own their way.

[Babygirl_S]

A guy who acts like that seems more dominating or busy or masculine so women like it. The guys who constantly keep messaging you are sometimes taken for granted. The same applies to the girls who play hard to get. Men want them more.

[Jamie05rhs]

If a girl plays hard to get with me, I just move on to the next girl. I know it sounds bad, but it's just reality.

[No_Sugarcoat]

If a girl plays hard to get, i lose my interest faster than if she was genuinely interested in me.

Fuck playing games and get real.

[Jamie05rhs]

Exactly.

[Jamie05rhs]

#aintnobodygotnotimeforthat

[Babygirl_S]

I know girls who play hard to get and cute guys I like are just crazy about them.

[Jamie05rhs]

I hope it works out for them.

[Dragon_Rises]

@No_Sugarcoat I also lose my interest really fast if a girl if she plays hard to get or doesn't reply to my messages in a reasonable amount time.

[Jamie05rhs]

@Dragon_Rises Because we're taught that if she doesn't respond then we're not supposed to send any more messages. So it kind of sets both parties up for a communications standstill.

[BrittBratt2416]

Cause humans don't like to be ignore, it makes us feel unimportant or invisible.

[Clarity01]

For me, I take it as a hint and back off. I'm already insecure, don't want to re-enforce it with an unhealthy relationship!

[Secret6620]

Because a guy who doesn't even try is so mysterious 😇

[IKissedAGirl]

When people take their sweet time to text me back, I instantly drop them and lose interest. That doesn’t turn me on at all. It shows disinterest and so I move on

[Jamie05rhs]

How long is too long, in your opinion? I think people should be given at least 24 hours.

[hahahmm]

Because not being needy is a symptom of confidence. Just like smiling is a symptom of happiness so a smile can be attractive.

[marleyanna2016]

I personally don’t like being ignored. If a guy ignores me I usually view it as them not being interested

[hellacray]

Lol does it?

Usually when I ignore them they don't bug me.

And the reason I ignore them is because I find them annoying or I just know they're a bad person.

[trollified]

Interesting

[Truthatanycost]

That's because some kind of emotional connection, and / or sexual tension usually has to be created first.

[trollified]

@Truthatanycost duh

[SexyAshh]

Because then we wonder why you dont like us because everyone does!

Then you become intriguing

[SpookyKat]

Hahaha TRUTH!

[JuanFrank7]

Because we humans like what we can't have and chase that which retreats from us. Primal psychology right there.

[000_000]

It’s all in your head. They either like you or they don’t. But sometimes when you show interest too strongly it makes people uncomfortable

[bamesjond0069]

Immature girls like to be treated mean but mature girls like to be treated with respect. If you have to play games with a girl she isn't wife material. Its that simple.

[Anonymous]

Guys mentality is sick. I won't prefer to be treated mean.. I will just take it as he's not interested in me. And I will act like "adiós!"

[Liam_Hayden]

Those with fragile egos, who need a lot of attention to alleviate their insecurities, prefer that.

[Anonymous]

It’s not meanbut it gets my attention more and doesn’t seem desperate

[yourfavperson]

i want all the attention, if a guy isn't going to do that, i will find someone who will.

[Jaaron420]

Im pretty sure no girl likes being ignored and i think you want to know the reason a guy is ignoring you that keeps you intrested in him

[Anonymous]

the ones who enjoy playing games, do that

if you don't want to play games, don't go for one who wants to play games

[Anonymous]

It not actually with women infact it happend with men too. I believe somewhere we have the same psychology but society forces us to be differents.

[Anonymous]

i guess you misunderstood her. i don't think girls like to be ignored. it must be just a coincidence. you consider things as you want them to be

[Paris13]

A Chase and Challenge... xx

[Miss_Savanna_Dry]

I don't, i lose interest if he ignores me

[BrokenEmpathy]

Because scarcity bias, you can google it.

[lernulo]

A woman prefers a man who is balanced.

[Anonymous]

It’s all a game with women

[DECENTSCOTTISHLAD999]

its a game girls like to play

[immett]

Not true