Guys: If a woman doesn't offer to pay or split the bill on a first date, how do you react or respond? (Page 2)
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i don't like it when girls don't offer to pay as like i was expected to pay for her just because i asked for date
i mean i asked her to spend time together not to feed her delicious foods lol
when i don't know the person completely yet why should i pay after a couple of dates i won't mind paying
If it's a coffee date I'm not that fussed. If more expensive like dinner she'd lose some points in my books and if she didn't offer on date 2 I wouldn't see her again.
A guy paying should be a pleasant surprise, not an expectation.
It depends really. If we got on exceptionally well and had an incredible time with real chemistry, then id maybe let it pass. But I'd make sure she paid on the next date.
If the date wasn't that great and she still expected me to pay, going as far as to refuse to split it, then I'd find an excuse to go outside and then id just leave and let her pay for the whole thing.
I would pay the bill and pretend to act nice and comfortable, I'm very good at pretending to feel something which I'm not. I would pay the bill, and I would block her as soon as I reach home and hope to never bump on her way again because that would be creepy and it's obvious that I don't want her to catch me on a public place.
It really depends on how was the date. But I can have three reactions: she again in a date where there's something needed to be paid, she again in date where there's nothing needed to be paid or never she her again.
I don't see in what it matter if the girl offer or not, if the guy want to split then he can just tell it to her, it's not that hard.
If people can get stuff for free they won't offer to pay for anything.
I don't expect it from her.
The one who asks is the one who pays.
Since no woman would ask me on a first date, it's up to me to make the first move, thus I pay.
If I invite you to dinner I see it as the bill being on me. If someone invites you to a bday party or a wedding are you expected to pay a percentage of the expense for those things? I guess I look at dates the same way. If i invite you to join me for dinner or a movie... i feel like it's my deal. If you invite me... I think it's yours
It depends on my situation. Right now where I'm at I would brave the uncomfortableness and ask. But if I was comfortable in my finances, I would pay even if it was offered
Same reply unfortunately
Unless I planned for it I have a very limited budget I guess it also depends where we ate though too
Depends. If i was the one who asked her out, then Id be fine of she didn't offer, unless she showed signs of expecting me to foot the bill. But if she were to be the one who asked me out, it would be a bit of a red flag.
I should rephrase. If she asked me out and didn't offer to get the bill it would be a red flag.
I always pay for all the dates all the time, first included.
That said if she doesn’t offer I don’t like it. I don’t say anything, but it is possibly a good indicator of how she is as a person.
I would never expect that, in fact if she did offer either one I would assume she thought the date was horrible
I Pay for the first date if i am asking her out but if we see each other again after that She should offer at least but i usually end up paying
Honestly, if a man asks me to split the bill. I’ll split and never see him again. I find that disrespectful.
Double standards...
Wow girl okayyyy
Just say , don't worry I'll take care of it. I see no reason in
making a big deal out of things concerning this matter :)
i'll take note of that. maybe she thinks i need to pay for my masculinity or whatever but if she's the type of dependend girl that expects the man to do everything, then she's not for me.
I am always expecting to pay the bill its a pleasant surprise when someone pays half or pays for me though. So I wouldn't get upset yet who doesn't enjoy a little surprise here or there.
On an "official" date, I'll pay. So if she doesn't offer to pay part of it, that is fine.
If a woman offers that to be nice and the guys accepts, she needs to run far and fast away. No decent self respecting respecting guy would let a woman pay on a first date.
Totally agree.
If I ask her out then I pay for a first date, after that I think all checks should be split or u each take turns picking up the check