Is showing up unannounced a red flag?

[monimon783]

I recently started dating a once to be close friend.

she's been showing up unannounced

E. g 1. I tell her I'm going to a certain spot and tell her she's free to join. She says she can't. Next thing I know she popped up and sitting with me on the table.

E. g 2 She said she's hanging out with her friend and we'll meet up another day. She called a couple of hours later asking if I want to join them and told her I'm having drinks with me friends and she could join and get her friend too. She said no and to have fun. An hour later she texts me saying she can't find where we're sitting. (Shes an introvert and has anxiety meeting new people, for her to show up and meet my friends is a big thing I guess)

Should I be worried?

[Cammy137]

It could be. It depends why she's behaving like that. If she's just trying to surprise you or perhaps doesn't want to commit (because of her anxiety), then I wouldn't consider it a red flag.

But, if she doesn't trust you or ia doing it to fuck with you, then it definitely is. The next time you think she's going to turn up, leave or hide somewhere and see what she messages you.

[Seket]

You should. It's either she has bad planning habit or she just likes to mess with you. At some point, those situations may escalate to something you can't normally handle.

I think the worst it would still only be a yellow flag, though. Giving her red flag is too much.

[Chanel1981]

Considering you invited her I don't think you should worry but I don't understand why she doesn't give you a heads up

[Chanel1981]

Thanks for the MHO :)

[Anonymous]

Nah, it's all good