Do guys ever pretend to not like you so that you will be easier to win over?

[jennifer_bloom]

Yes

No

[Spiritwander]

I mean, I can be coy, but I'd never pretend *not* to like them...
I spend enough time all alone (like 90+% of my time), so it's not like I'd be giving them *more* reasons to stay away. 😅

But, with most of them acting like you're *not* showing them enough love, no matter what you do for them, I don't think I'd have to act like I didn't like them for them to act like I didn't.😅

[Trings]

Playboys do. My roomie is 1... and that's the common tactic. If I ignore you... its because I don't want you in my zip code.

[Trewqpoi]

Yep if you aren’t a player you don’t do that

[Trings]

@Trewqpoi Yeah. I sorta tried what he did.. used to. But my jaw would always fall open, like😮😮... and I realized that's all crap and just dropped all that.

[AuroraRoseat]

Had that happen years ago when he joined a frat and was in front of his boys.

I lost all respect

[PrincessGrail]

Yes, but it never works.

[SteveSmith1985]

I am shocked at the results. I said no... Why on the world would a guy pretend to not like a girl to win her over.

Are you guys kidding me here? That's supposed to be some elementary school "I pull her hair because I actually really like her" type bullshit.

What is going on with the world today?

[DDpsy]

It's not exactly pretending not to like her at all but it certainly does help if you do not always show the full extent of your interest. Chicks just easily lose interest in a sure thing.

[Anonymous]

I had a guy in high school play weird games like this. He would show interest and always wanted to sit with me, talk to me, etc., but then he'd ignore me or act rude to me, or flirt with other girls in front of me, and this cycle would continue. It confused me and I didn't think he really liked me since he'd flirt with my friends in front of me and ignore me, so I pursued my interest in another guy, and when he caught news of it, he got extremely jealous about it.

I also dated a guy who would get like this, and our relationship absolutely sucked because he got in these weird moods where he'd act like he didn't give a shit about me, and it was hurtful. I think he did it to make me feel bad about myself, so that I'd feel like I was lucky to have him and wasn't worthy enough to get anyone else. He had poor self esteem himself and I think he projected those feelings onto me, too.

Honestly, if you're interested in this guy, I would move on to someone who doesn't play silly high school games instead and actually shows interest. I honestly think this kind of crap is stupid and childish.

[Mr_Mystery]

Was that guy his close friend

[Opinion Owner]

@Mr_Mystery No, they didn't even know each other, lol.

[ChocolateBrowny]

i said no to this question because girls have a radar and know when a guy likes them (facial expression, behaviour, reaction to jealousy, they way he looks at her. When they ask that is the moment she wants confirmation. In my experience when I've said no it's an instant self-sabotage and I've never seen or heard from the girl again (it hurts that i didn't have the confidence). Playing games is childish and when it wears off she'll get bored because she wasn't attracted to him naturally and the chemistry just isn't there. I will chase a girl who came into my life by reason and once I've identified weve got chemistry. Then i'll let her chase me back.

[JackSmy]

Those are kids games, like when you are in college, or high school!!
I like a woman to be confident, and approach me, and just talk to me, not expecting anything, but just making the move, and telling me she is interested!
REALLY HOT!! LOVE confident women!!

[mmncac81]

I totally agree with WT fever. "Men" don't have thoughts like that. Beta male types might but no man i know does. All these fucking manipulative mind fucks that create a false narrative, and false reality because of childish weak deception. Deception distorts reality. Wake up people

[DDpsy]

Yes not fully pretend that I do not like them but I don't express the full extent of my interest. A guy should never show his full interest in a woman. The moment they know they have you it's the moment they know they can probably start looking for something better.

[Anonymous]

Sort of but not like that I don't think. I'd word it different. We often hear from you women that if we come on too strong, it looks "desperate" and women become uninterested, so... we might pretend to be less interested than we really are in the hopes we don't turn you off. And nothing makes women "easier" to win over! lol. However, if a guy is showing no interest AT ALL, then there probably is none.

[djmzes]

Simple

[Anonymous]

Not really. If i'm cold to a woman it's usually one of 2 reasons 1. I have NO interest, i sense she does, and i don't want to encourage her in any way. 2. I do like her a lot and i don't want to show all my cards. It's been my experience most women aren't interested in me. But they want me to be interested in them. So i try to NEVER satisfy that want just feed the fish a little bit and then start paying attention to another woman.

[MajesticTwelve]

I'm not sure, but if it appears a guy doesn't like me, I assume he doesn't like me and I move on with my life.

[clampfan101]

That appears to be the definition of “playing hard to get”. I personally never would, though. It sounds rude and risky.

[Doodabeat]

No. That's a kink. That does not attract me and I don't use that tactic to attract mates. If you do that to a normal person and they have sex with you its because they want to have sex regardless and they don't care about the kinks in your feelers.

[gaurwaith]

it may be because he's trying not to seem desperate or a player, it's kind of dumb but in my experience even trying a little bit some people will think your desperate. you just can't win with some people and their broken logic

[JustShattered]

I think some don't want to admit they like you? Maybe it's something about being embarrassed. Cause that's what it's like at my school

[shimmeryns]

If he pretends and I don't even know he is pretending, I take it as a sign of disinterest and move on.

[BestUserName100]

Sure players play games tho and they aren’t very honest and are manipulative. They can’t really be trusted.. Most of it is just lies and manipulation.

[Adam1978]

We don't play those kind of games. Or at least not any guy you want does.

[LoU_Hades]

no...
I don't like it if a girl does it to me, hence I don't do that..

[CherryRoseChampange]

I'm sure some do, but I think most are smart enough to know that's not a good method.

[Syrian_survivor]

It sadly is a good method actually xD

[CherryRoseChampange]

Whelp, I stand corrected. 🤷🏽‍♀️

[TayTay21]

Every single day. Guys suck up so hard in hopes that one day I will confess my lust for them lol

[LuvAsh]

That doesn't win me over at all.
But guys who do that are acting like they're in middle school. Just be straight up. No need to play games...

[Kaazsz]

I don’t know why. But you and the other girls comments have actually helped me. Like I FEEL different now.

I was never playing games, ignoring girls.

I believed deep down for whatever reason, that women see guys who chase them as nothing but sexual harassers.

That’s the last thing I ever wanted to be. On the deepest level it was just impossible for me to believe that women really think it’s OK to be so direct.

But I’m starting to finally believe it I think. And I feel like some relief I guess. I hope this feeling grows. Thanks for the comment.

[bklynbadboy1]

Yes but guys normally do that when there young and unsure on how to approach a girl

[-Asca-]

I don't know, some guys have stupid ideas like this and some girls are into stupid things, like guys who don't like them. To me it sounds incredibly stupid though.

[Anonymous]

That does not work at all. If they show no interest why would I waste my time?

[2fun4her]

It works... your just not aware of it, or it's not happening directly to you... but it works

[Opinion Owner]

Since I'd rather to be chased instead, it definitely does not work for me. Hah

[YHL6965]

I personally don't have time to play stupid games like that.

[WTFever]

Children play stupid mind game like that. Men don't do that stupid shit.

[AshleyMadison00]

Yes but if I like them I act the same and speak my mind

[Therisinghero12]

I've never seen anything like this, most guys I know are pretty straight forward

[Nanananinano]

I don't if I don't like you I will tell you directly.

[Hessel]

I do not but maybe thats the reason i have never had a girlfriend

[PSTASHIO]

I have never had any relationship work out when either she was the one playing the games or I was one doing it to her.

[Anonymous]

Some guys do... the smart ones. It works very well with most women.

[Warmapplecrumble]

Not really thats horrible

[Opinion Owner]

@Warmapplecrumble How is it any different than women playing had to get?

[Anonymous]

Yes we know how stuck up girls are. Girls want you to act like she's worth fighting for, like she's a young jlo when she ain't

[8164634040]

When I was young and silly yes as a grown man no...

[yatharthgupta112]

I think some do to which make girls think more about that guy. Which exactly what he wants.

[spartan55]

What dude does that? That's a girls racket.

[Warmapplecrumble]

I don't know.. :-s I don't know what men think

[sawno]

Personally i am honest

[Bman4907]

Is this middle school or something?

[chadi_sw]

I'd give no fucks anws

[CassMi]

Eh is this actually something guys do? Creepy...

[Guanfei]

Why would I do that? That's stupid.

[happy122]

Girls do this to me a lot

[Anonymous]

Maybe not to like you as much as they really do.

[Anonymous]

Sometimes. If i doubt in her love towards me.

[Anonymous]

I mean women play mind games, so men adjust

[CoffeeWC]

Personally I don't

[Fuentes]

Can we fuck already?

[Joker_]

Never

[Smf1989]

I do not