Would I? I have. I've also lived out of my car and had no permanent residence before.
I traveled for a few years touring for various reasons and me and my boyfriend at the time lived out of the back of a van during that time of our lives. We didn't need a permanent residence to do what we were doing, and we didn't want an RV (not to mention how unwieldy and unnecessary they are just for a young travelling couple), so we both ended the leases on our apartments and decided to share a van as living quarters for a few years.
To answer a few questions:
- We showered at gyms or similar facilities that allowed us to pay for a one-day membership.
- We had a few silverware and dishes that we washed at similar facilities.
- We both had reasonably stable jobs: He was a tour manager of sorts and I was touring for a promotional book deal that paid pretty much the same amount at each stop we made while going cross-country and back with the tour.
- We had the back of the van decked out with a mattress, pillows, blankets, etc., and neither of us found much use in radio or TV, so we basically just drove from place to place sight-seeing until one of us had a stop that we had to make.
- We kept our clothes in suitcases and out nicer clothes that we wore for promotional/business interactions we kept in those plastic bag-things that keep clothes from wrinkling or staining, which we hung around the interior walls of the van. We would sometimes just buy a new outfit whenever we needed to make a stop, retiring or donating an older outfit in the process.
- We mostly ate out at fast food joints or restaurants, but we did make a few things by campfire or other small heat source every once in a while, usually on the longer stretches of highway or late at night in smaller towns where everything closed earlier in the evening.
- We would usually check into a hotel room for the nights just prior to when we had a business engagement, as that allowed us to have access to a shower and other more convenient utilities/commodities when getting dressed the following morning.
- We didn't take physical mail in any way whatsoever if we could help it due to the temporary lack of permanent physical addresses, but what we did have to have mailed physically (as opposed to electronically) we simply had forwarded to our families.
Between the two of us, we were getting paid far more than enough to afford fuel and food, often enough to afford hotel rooms, new clothes, and one-day access to several gyms and recreational facilities. Think about it like this... We could have been paying monthly rent on apartments for those 1.5-2 years, so all the money that DIDN'T go toward rent payments and travel to and from our business engagements all over the country went towards the hotel rooms and new clothes and finer things that we got for ourselves along our journey, instead. It would have been all but impossible for either of us to afford a fixed residence while working the jobs that we were at that time because we each would have had to take a cross-country round-trip flight at least once, if not twice, each month... That's upwards of 4 flights and 4 nights of hotel lodgings per month anyway to get to and from our speaking engagements, so adding rent on top of that seemed like a waste of time/money. It was far cheaper to buy a van and pay for fuel from place to place than to pay monthly rent AND round-trip flights each month.
I know of at least a handful of people that do the same thing and have continued to do so for many years. One couple that I'm still pretty good friends with tours the country collecting and selling minerals and rock samples at various fairs and exhibitions across the globe. They drive everywhere from Alaska to Mexico and all through Canada and the U. S. in a van similar to ours, and they live in much the same way we did in our little van. They make pretty good money, and probably wouldn't be able to do their jobs if they did have a physical residence.
You won't get much compassion from users on GaG, or anywhere else for that matter. People are selfish. They don't care about anyone but themselves.
I became friends with a homeless guy. He was a war veteran. The country he risked his life for didn't care about him when he came home. Everyone called him a war hero, but when he became homeless people would look down on him and ignore him. He was treated with distain
I've drummed it into my kids never to fight for their country.
I would date a homeless guy that lived in his car if I liked his personality.
Lol. I don't understand by homeless. He has a car to live in and it should be his home. Usually it depends on perspectives, but I like people with home. No matter where, s/he should be happy enough to call everyplace his home. And I will tag him as "true human". And i'd love to have true humans around me. But if s/he thinks homeless then I won't. S/he has a personality disorder.
Yes. Material wealth is far from all there is to a person. In fact, it is relatively unimportant when you get beyond the basics.
Also don't give up, dude. The world is full of good women, including ones that are open-minded and non-judgemental. It is great that you don't do drugs or drink. Also, you're young. You just need to get back on your feet and you'll be fine.
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Not unless I was in a similar situation... at this point in my life, I need someone with more stability who has their life together.
Yes I would and they could love with me.
Why not? Loving someone can only help!
No. Even if they didn't do drugs or drink, they could have severe mental health issues, felony convictions, extremely poor decision making skills, or complete lack of ambition to do better. In my experience, these types of people tend to bring you down with them, whether intentionally or not.
I would like to date someone who has their life reasonably together and has ambition like I do. I don't want to take care of someone else who can't or won't pull their fair share of the weight (been there, done that with a lazy, entitled ex who thought video games were more important than getting a job).
I probably wouldn't consider this person as a possible partner because I would fear how the lack of stability and the problems that come with all this could affect me. I wouldn't mind trying to be friends though, and if we get to be good friends I would try to give a hand so this person can reach stability. Maybe through friendship, or maybe through finding stability my mind changes. Or maybe not. Because it's not all about stability, it should be sure I like this person's personality for a partner and also feel sexual attraction.
You know somehow this works like this; if you live in a car, you may be working productively to better the situation but if I know you live in a car I'm not dating you, or anyone that's still working on themselves in regards to sustenance and substance.
But I've dated guys that I did not know where they lived for sure or how they made their money, so at least for a few dates, till i learn the real deal he can get away without saying.
There are more issues to this person who needs to deal with before thinking about dating.
So no, I would not date him knowing our proiorties in life not align.
I would help him, but no, not date him.
Hmmm tough question. The answer is leaning more towards 'no' as the condition indicates instability and probably inability to maintain a long term relationship.
This has to be a case by case. You never know why a person has ended up without an apartment. If they have a job and are working to find a place, but might be in a rough patch. I don't want to take in someone, though. They need to get stabilized.
No. A homeless person should not even think about that stuff unless they want some other homeless person. I have been in shit situations that were far better than being homeless when dating was totaly out of the question because I felt I couldn't offer much.
No, lol... they need to focus on getting a place to stay and fixing their life.
Not dating. Prioritizes first.
I wouldn't consider marrying an individual who isn't stable. Homeless implies unstable situation. So no, I wouldn't date them because dating is to decide if I want to marry them.
I mean, I imagine quite a few people have been in a situation like that. If you're motivated enough, I'm sure you'll get out of this soon. As for answering your question, yeah I probably would if they were a nice person with no alcohol or drug problems who would be willing to put effort into getting a home. I'd even try to help out as much as I can
I know a guy who has a decent job and consciously decided to live out of his van lol. It's a choice, but hey *shrugs*. Living the life he wants. When he goes out he is posted up near the location xD
So you're asking would i date Jewel because she was homeless and living in her car at one time. I'd give her a roll. But most likely it wouldn't last cause politically she's the polar opposite of me.
I guess this was and oddly specific answer to such a broad question. Sorry.
My girlfriend of a few months ended up sleeping in a car for three days until I found out. I paid for a motel for a few days after which she moved in with a friends family. We eventually got married and she is here next to me in one of our two homes.
I know a lady who lives in her van, because she takes temporary job assignments and it saves with living expenses. So in-between jobs, she travels. She's a fairly normal person though.
I guess so.
She would probably be pretty easy to please. Don't have to worry about jewelry or fancy dining, she would be happy just to use my shower and have a sandwich.
My kind of relationship.
As long as she found a way to groom of course but at that point if she wanted to date I'd let her crash at my place and even past that as long as still friends she could stay until she got on her feet
If she works / lives in certain ultra expensive enclaves of California, this is sadly all too common. Although a Van or a Camper can be a "house" if done right.
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