Is it weird to sleepover at a second date but don't have sex?

[Anonymous]

So me and this girl agreed on a second date some time ago. At first we thought of going out to eat but later she reconsidered and told me I could come to her place directly. We watched some shows like friends/ himym etc. We both enjoyed it since we were talking for hours.
After some time it got late and I didn't know if it was time for me to leave or suggest to go to sleep together. No need for doubting, since she suggested that we should go to sleep. In my head I was thinking "HELL YEAH". However, once we brushed our teeth and finally got to bed nothing really happened after that. No one made a move; me, because I was afraid for doing the first step and I maybe would've pushed into something she wouldn't want to do. Her, I'm trying to figure out (maybe with your help).
The day after was pretty chill and we agreed on meeting again although we never did that.

Now, what did you guys/girls think I should've done?

[SueShe]

I personally approve that nothing happened between you and her.

The second date is definitely not the date for that type of activity and you have my consideration for not imposing yourself on her.

As for her, perhaps she secretly hoped you would do something. She gave you the chance to try something and you did not respond, which speaks in your favor.

The fact that she told you to come to her place makes me believe that she was hoping something would happen. But you were gentleman enough not to fall into that cheap trap.

I would say that you should perhaps not pursue that relation because she is obviously more interested in getting on the horizontal than in your person.

Never ever get physical on the second date. That is not a good start for a relationship.

[Asker]

I disagree with you. I wouldn't call it a cheap trap as that was the outcome I was hoping for as well. Turned out after that night I never spoke to her again, so maybe I should've made a move. This whole thing is way back in the past and I would just want to know the 'what if'. After that I met a girl who I 'got physical' with on the second date and I'm still with her 1 year after so no, once again, I don't think you can call having sex at the second date 'a cheap trap'.

[SueShe]

If that is your way of thinking, then obviously I will withdraw my praise for you and just state that you are just like all the other guys. Only thinking of your physical pleasure and not of the other person.

[Asker]

Here we go again 'all men are the same'. What is wrong with having sex on the second date if the chemistry is there? A relationship is still possible and you don't ruin anything if it feels right. It's not like I would never want to see her again. Please don't jump into conclusions so fast. Wow.

[SueShe]

whatever

[Avicenna]

Its understood if she invites you over for a sleepover that she expects to have sex. I guess she expected you to initiate, but she should have when you didn't.

[OlderAndWiser]

When you got in bed, you should have asked her, "Are you sleepy?" Her response would have told you if she was ready for shuteye.

[theKris94]

In my experience it is very rare a girl suggest a sleepover on the first date and lets you sleep by her side without her wanting something to happen.

Next time, try to go for a move. Dont be afraid of being rejected. If you do, hear her the reason and make a choice - keep her as friend untill maybe it evolves or dump her and move on.