Why do guys prefer “hood” or “ghetto” girls?

[Serenity2014]

It’s been pretty difficult for me to date because every guy I have the courage to talk to, just looks at me like I’m a complete dork.

They constantly laugh at me and say I talk and act “white”. And they make jokes saying I’m “not black”. But in reality, I was just raised slightly different. They don’t even try to get to know me.

And I’m always told that I’m not “hood/ghetto” and because of that, I’m just not their type. What should I do? My dating options are very limited tbh.

[NearlyNapping]

I swear blacks are their own worst enemies sometimes. WTF does that even mean when someone isn't black enough? Yea, I know what it means. It means a self fulfilling prophecy. It means that blacks are ** supposed ** to be where they are. Now how the hell is that going to help anything?

I've seen this "ain't black enough" thinking too many times. The kid next door ain't black enough. He's going to a good school, getting a good education, but his own mother (who isn't raising him) thinks he isn't black enough.

He isn't black enough. He doesn't listen to "our music". He needs to be more hood. Heaven forbid if he should get a good education and make something of himself. That's not black enough. So just what is black enough?

Sorry I didn't answer the question. Because I don't know the answer. I just had to rant. You're a pretty young lady and I hope you find someone special. You are black enough. Don't ever let anyone tell you otherwise.

[Pinky_what_why]

Correct is right 💯‼️❤️

[blutwolfe]

Because they're easy, why not just go after "white" guys?

[Serenity2014]

White guys where I live are racist.

[blutwolfe]

I know this kinda sounds far fetched, but have you ever thought about moving? I pretty much got up and moved to a much better place because dating back home was non existent for me, I was just not desirable and work was hard to get ontop of that.

I know it's kinda crazy especially with everyone's circumstances it's just not a realistic option. It's an idea though, especially when you live in that type of area.

[Serenity2014]

I’ve actually been saving up to move hopefully around this time next year if my financial situation is right. I’d still be in Texas tho. And I don’t think it would be much better there either. Right now I’m in a small town and I’d just move 2 1/2hrs away into a really populated area. The suburbs of a major city.

[blutwolfe]

Ya bigger town is more people aka more of a dating pool. Honestly small towns are terrible for dating. Kinda why I left home too. At least you got a good plan though, mine wasn't that planned out lol. Why don't you think it'll be any better?

[Serenity2014]

Cause it’s still Texas. Lol. It seems like most of Texas kinda has a similar viewpoint on people that look like me. I’m not blaming anyone for their opinions because a lot of that was taught to them.

[blutwolfe]

Ya I feel like Texas is an old school state if that makes sense, maybe the city will have more of a modern idealogy. What do you mean people who look like you? You look fine lol, have you thought about other states?

[MissKittyz]

Why would you want a guy like that? I've met guys like that as well. I'm actually biracial and have been told by black guys, when I was younger, that they don't want to be my friend or date me cause I'm too white because of my personality lol but whatever, I don't date ghetto people just like I wouldn't date someone who calls me "too white" as well. That's probably also why I prefer white men. Never heard that from them. But anyways, don't Change the way you act just because others don't like it. There are many men out there who are way more mature than these guys who call you too white!

[AuroraRoseat]

Those tend to be stupid uneducated men. Do you really want ANY man that's like that? You're pretty and your options aren't limited. You just don't need to settle for gutter trash (of any race).

If these are guys that are educated, then I think they would target those women for simple fucks and not a relationship. They might not be interested in relationships anyway. This is what I've observed though.

[TheWaterisFine]

Sorry of my life.. are these people of other ethnicities telling you this? Because I know damn well black males don't typically like ghetto. I have only been with white men and I've noticed a tendency to want the "token black girl" but this is the same girl they won't pursue relationship or anything more than sex.

[Serenity2014]

It’s black guys that are telling me this themselves. It’s weird. Sure they make jokes and constantly say I’m not black. They always say I act white and talk white, but if you ask anyone of them, if they had the chance to date an actual white girl who’s not hood/ghetto, they’d go for it in a heartbeat.

[TheWaterisFine]

That's bizarre. Try dating outside the box then. Other men will worship the ground you walk on!

[winterfox10]

You gotta go where the bar is a little bit higher! You should start hanging out at higher end places. Try to land a guy who frequents the sort of location that a guy could expect to meet a fine, educated, well spoken, intellectual woman, such as yourself.

[Serenity2014]

Those types of guys want the trophy wife type. The kind of women that look like models 24/7, have no personal goals and will do whatever their man commands... I don’t fit that ideal type. Trust me, at one point I tried looking for those kind of guys. But they don’t like when they find out you can support yourself just fine and they don’t like hearing the word “no” from any woman. I’m not bashing men, but it’s that one certain type of men.

[winterfox10]

Hmm... okay. It seems like your best bet is going to be to find someone in a special interest club, or a charity organization, or some kind of community group. You want to find guys who match your values and lifestyle, so you need to live your life in a way that brings you in touch with those people.

[Boadecocoa]

I am also a single black lady living in North Dallas and I can confirm that everything your saying is straight facts!! It’s HARD out here for a pimp. Especially in this area. I was born and raised in mesquite so I’m automatically not black enough or “talk funny” white guys only want you for sex not a relationship. Dallas is hard place to find a mate that’s for sure.

[Passionate790]

Trust me... they don’t. They’ll take a nice, well-behaved girl over a ghetto girl any day. But if they like those type of girls, then maybe he’s from the ghetto or finds them attractive

[Robbie_mosly]

Cause guys around there 20s are still kids and can't see when there's a good thing right in front of them you seem like a great girl dont give up but don't settle for someone that dont like you for you

[Gaffercake]

Certain people will prefer different things. Not everyone likes a "hood" girl. Keep searching, you'll find someone who loves you for you!

[bklynbadboy1]

I dont for me it's about balance I want a intelligent girl wit a cool personality and a great sense of humor and I dont want her to be a square but she doesn't have to be a total bad ass either. You feel me?

[zagor]

Where do you live where being "ghetto" is considered a good thing?

[Serenity2014]

Northeast Texas. The majority of black people who live here think that going to college is “white” and that actually having hobbies is “white”. Then the actual white people here are prejudice but contradict their beliefs. (They hate black people but blast music by black artists out of their trucks, they hate Mexicans but they could eat authentic Mexican food every day of the week if they could.) smh.

[zagor]

Doesn't sound like the most inspiring place to live. Have only passed through on the interstate. Doesn't sound like I missed much; I guess all the dead armadillos I saw was the highlight.

[NorthwestRider]

Maybe because ghetto girls are more real than the clueless daddy bimbo princesses

[Serenity2014]

I wouldn’t say I’m clueless. I’m almost 24 and have my own place, my own car and a good job. And I can proudly say I did that all myself. Just because someone isn’t ghetto doesn’t mean they’re clueless.

[NorthwestRider]

Not saying that

Just saying that ghetto girls more real than the bimbos on Fox News or the Kardashians

[jasco]

You are in a area where they like those types. Find some other areas

[Rangers]

Only troubled people prefer those kinds of trashy girls

[JadeOFluorite99]

I don't like hood/ghetto girls and most guys I know don't either.

[Adogdog]

I prefer a good girl who has her act together. Overall I'm pretty picky.

[FilmGuy93]

They tend to be flashy and bold.

[Anonymous]

Stereotype that they are easier to lay

[LegendaryIcon]

didn't know we did?