First off, realize that we're talking in generalities here and that none of this applies to specific guys and girls. Now that we've got that disclaimer out of the way. . .
Girls, as a group, have lots of things they look for in a guy, but two characteristics I've observed they are most uncompromising on are that the guy be as tall or taller than she is and that he have the same or higher educational attainment and/or the same or higher income. In short, girls seem to care to some degree how much a guy makes and how tall he is. The evolutionary basis is that she needs someone who can provide for her and protect her when she is less able to do so like when she's pregnant.
Guys, on the other hand, tend to care a lot more than girls how physically attractive their mates are. While we might like a richer girl, all else equal, we'd be willing to give up a LOT of wealth in a prospective mate for just a little more attractiveness. (For instance, would you rather your girlfriend make $10K more per year or be one cup size larger? $10K more per year of 10 lbs thinner?). Similarly, while we might prefer a smarter girl all else equal, it doesn't matter as much to us as it does to them.
Bottom line: there's no use in complaining about other people's preferences. Girls like dating richer or taller guys? So what? Would you like to give up YOUR preferences of dating thinner, more attractive girls? Probably not. Everytime I girl turns me down because of some characteristic that I'm lacking, it's a bummer, but I think, "at the end of the day, there are a LOT of girls I wouldn't date for a lot of reasons, and I wouldn't want someone telling me that I should date someone just because it 'wrong' for me to like thin bodies, or sunny personalities or nice breasts."
Many women are, in fact, duped into dating deadbeats who have no aspirations to earn as much as their female partners -- or, in fact, to hold any sort of job at all.
Women have had to struggle into their positions in the classic rat race and are now expected not only to go dutch, but to treat their dates to meals, etc.
Charming.
Don't forget that in the era you're describing at the start of your question, women were earning less because of the glass ceiling phenomenon (yes, look it up). "House wives" had to manage a household, entertain, bear and raise children, and maintain any number of other chores to which many (rather ungrateful offspring) somehow manage to turn a blind eye.
Please stop griping. If you don't want a woman who earns less than you and you can FIND one who appreciates and shares the offensive views you're expressing here, best of luck to you both.
Some gold-diggers are lonely by choice because they narrowed down the pick of men to a mere few.
I can't live like that. Slutty as it may sound, I've more than one male partner at this time. It's not monogomous between us, obviously, but I just like having different types of men around, different personalities, etc. I've male friends whom I don't have sex with, some of which are gay, which make great card game partners. It's the same with my girlfriends as we've all started having sex very young, so I know that has something to do with it.
It's not an issue that we don't want to marry, though psychologist see that as a kind of mental disorder that makes it impossible for me to commit to one guy, we just see it as enjoying our lives. I don't see myself growing old and lonely, I see myself growing old and happy with my childhood friends.
because social economic status isn't the equivalent as basic sexual attractiveness.
for instance like someone already pointed out, we girls spend quite a bit of time and effort making ourselves attractive and presentable to the opposite gender.
Myself, I shower, do my hair, make up, nails etc in the morning and go to work or out with my friends...it takes time and I earn less but I have attracted quite a bit of guys to date
and for myself, personally, I HAVE dated guys who make less. or equal. I have no problem about money, it's as long as he's making an effort to be somewhat independent.
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I don't have a problem with making more money than my guy. As long as he's not dating me to get a free ride. That was the problem I had with my ex... So I don't care if he doesn't make more money than I do, as long as he does make enough money to support himself.
The only thing that concerns me about it other than that, is that a lot of guys are uncomfortable with their girl making more money. But if he's fine with it, I'm fine with it. There are more important things than money.
I have been in two long term relationships with guys who earned less than me and a big part of why they didn't work out was the guys' insecurities about the fact that I earned more and was better educated! So I now only go for guys who earn the same or more, for their ego, more than me being money grabbing :)
As a girl I think it would be refreshing to have someone contribute equally in the finances. Other than that money is not an issue. Men usually have the best jobs but sometimes a girl just wants to be more equal. If you truly love someone then money isn't an issue. But some women like the man to be the one that makes the money so that she can relax, clean and raise children.
I have no problem dating a guy who makes less than me.
it's not that women won't, it's that men can't handle the woman having mroe power and control. because as we ll know, with money comes power
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