If there was a law passed that forbid Men to approach women for "dating purposes" or "flirting" do you think women would finally do the approaching?

[Gods_Gift]

They'd have to. If men couldn't even flirt, never mind initiate, women would be left with little choice but to do it themselves, since it's a plain fact that (straight/bi) women want relationships/sex with men, if often on a different basis than men do.

Some might refuse to try, insisting that it's just not their nature. They would just get more and more lonely and frustrated, until they sought some means of making it happen. There would undoubtedly be a huge growth in the gigolo market, and all sorts of underground ways men would try to get what they wanted. There would be 'flirteasies', like the speakeasies of Prohibition days.

This question reminds me of a couple of things. Firstly, 'Locktober', in which some men in relationships voluntarily lock up their genitals in a cage for a month and give their partner the key. They generally say it frees them from male sexual prerogative and allows them to relate to their partner on a more emotional level. And the 'Swedish model' of policing prostitution, in which prostitutes are not targeted but the men using them are. As one (male) officer said, "You do not have a right to sex".

The idea behind this question is extremely unlikely to happen. But if it did it would lead to changes and self-reflection not only for men, but for women too. Both sexes get both benefits and drawbacks from the current situation, and they would too if a ban on male romantic/sexual initiation was enforced.

[AbleLearner]

Obviously I wouldn't want a law like that.

Look if this is a problem for you, move to China. The Chinese women are not afraid to make the first move the way western women are. I like this. I want the woman to make the first move, because I don't need to be a mind reader to talk to a woman like that. The women in the U. S. who fault a man for this are just being immature.

The woman I am currently talking to exclusively, she contacted me first, and she's a millionaire. She said she doesn't care how much money I make, but she said her parents will want me to make a lot of money. With this new job I just got, that shouldn't be a problem now anyway.

Anyway, I spent entirely too much time trying to contact immature women first, who wanted a man to be some kind of psychic or other mind reader.

Never going that route again. Find you an authentic Chinese woman. They are honest, they don't play immature games, they are more educated, they make more money, the are all perfect "tens", they are bilingual, they all take dance or yoga classes regularly, most of them play a musical instrument, etc, etc. Most of them do not drink alcohol or smoke, and very few of them do recreational drugs. They look 10 to 15 years younger than a western woman of the same age. They are superior to western women in every way.

[SueShe]

Unfortunately, the likelihood for such a good solution is not very great although I would salute that the law finally protects women from abusive approaches for the sole purpose of being sexual with them.

The best solution would be to have "mutual dating contracts" that would be available in every public place where both parties agree to a set of terms and conditions and that needs the signature of both parties before engaging in dating/flirting. They both would need to sign the contract. Alas, this is just a dream but I would welcome a similar protective solution.

That would be the safest for both genders since both know exactly what they are into and what the limitations are.

I would be the first one to endorse that type of law and to vote for it.

I still think that if a law would be passed, a number of guys would try to find loopholes in order not to get caught.

[little_bird1]

I don't know where you live but it's already like that (men approach less, women approach more). It's fucked up. It would be great if men could realize that not approaching men usually doesn't have anything to do with fear of rejection but more with the superiority thing. Men don't approach because they are afraid, and women hate approaching because it makes them superior and no one wants that. Can't help it, most women are wired like that to be turned off by inferior men, it's simply not attractive. Blame our genes, evolution, biology, etc.

[BlackRoseFairy]

Passing a law won't change people's nature. some women are more than willing to do the first move, others are not.
Until a few decades ago it was the man's job to ask the father of a young woman for his approval to marry her, hence he made "the move" and it got transferred through time that the man has to do the first move.
Habit is the second nature. Thus something that has been imprinted into people's brains for ages, and passed down on so many generations can't be changed with a law...

[SydneySentinel]

No. Women will still expect men to bend over backwards for them.

[demonics]

Human civilization would go extinct before women put themselves out there like that. Look at birth rates throughout the western world with just a sprinkling of 'empowerment.' Now its a requirement for them to take the reigns? Pffffff lol Hell simply losing weight is hard enough for women, that they find it easier to petition the government and various cultural institutions to force men to date them. "Why aren't there any STRONG, BLACK, FAT, WOMEN in your movies Scorsese?" Annnnd rape allegation. Boom he's gone. "More fat women on the Bachelor or we stop watching it!" annnd 5 big girls make it to the finals. lol

In the long long ago, aggressive women were looked down upon because a truly valuable woman didn't need to lift a finger to get a quality mans attention. Hence the trope of the fat mean girl, punching some little boy "You're my boyfriend now, lets go shopping!" I doubt this would change even if men were prohibited from flirting with women.

[Kurαȷ]

I think that most people would simply continue forming connections through natural interaction as many already do.

I don't think that doing away with strangers walking up to your face uninvited because you happened to make their genitals tingly would be considered a big loss by any sensible individual.

[curiousnorway]

I think some brave women may choose to approach, but it's maybe rather the exception than the main rule, since social expectations doesn't change over night although the laws does. Many would still expect people following the old norms and many would break the law.

Many would be too shy to approach too, so it would perhaps be less successful relationships and more people would stay single. If you're raised to think and feel a thing, it would be difficult to change it later on because of you're used to that thing only. If a law like that was passed, I would most likely not follow it. Good look enforcing it!

[ecfresh]

Knowing human nature and how we are wired biologically, I would imagine if that law passed quite a lot of men would begin their own companies and approach women for ‘business purposes’...

It’s an easy solution—> men have more testosterone than women in general so they approach more

[BatmansWife]

I’d say yes and no. There are some women (such as myself) who do approach men first. No, maybe because of fear and rejection. But maybe it’d force females to approach more.

[TheFlak38]

Probably yes but then again men would continue to keep their distance because women can use the law against men exactly like they do with all the false rape accusations.
If we want women to make the first move then the easiest way is to take down tinder and instagram. Two things will sky rocket. 1. female suicide rate and 2. ugly guys getting laid like never before.

[Moonchild714]

Yep, they wpuld have to or be lonely many nights. I've been approaching since First Grade... LOL

[FatherJack]

No , not at all , also a lot of women would definitely welcome such a hypothetical law. On average women desire men far less , than vice versa , and combined with much lower sex drives and absolutely no need to have a man in her life , as women are perfectly capable of earning as least as much as men. Therefore no real incentives or desire to approach men... this is the age of " I don't need no man " .

[zeitgeist057]

women would just go for the "bad boys" who would break the law to flirt with them. But no, they would not approach men, at least not much more than they already do, which is some women, but a low percentage.

[Anonymous]

NO.
Women are to entitled to do the work involved in approaching.

There kind of is a law (unofficially) that prevents smart males from approaching women already, it's the entire false accusation bullshit and metoo garbage where "unwanted advances" can destroy a mans life simply for showing interest. (Which was that MOST of the metoo shit was).

Women will always expect men to do the approaching because they like having to not work, sit back and wait for the endless attention, and then just bounce the ones they don't like while waiting for the one they do. They also have this shit "illusion of choice" they get from all the easy online attention they get through apps like tinder, so they are more picky now about what they want because they think they can just "have another man in a minute"... so they have become just spoiled brats.

[MlleCake]

It's funny how men think women are entirely passive in such matters.

The problem is that many men still find it emasculating to be approached directly.

[bro25]

😂😂😂Hell😂😂😂😂 nah they'd expect some bad boy to break the law and talk with them

[doublenb14]

A very small percentage would but for the most part NO WAY! Especially if men started to treat women the way women treat men when we approach, they would never do it again. I don't think women realize how it feels knowing how the second you approach you are being looked at as someone just trying to get laid.

[Avicenna]

They would do it more, but the law would also be circumvented by men.

I had to laugh when one female posted that "Women still expect men to bend over backwards for them". Some do, yes. Others don't mind taking the initiative.

[Jyams]

Well to be honest, I like sometimes doing the approaching but I take some time to know the person and stuff, then when I feel we’re ready I’ll go fo it!

[thinkaloudtolive]

The way things are going, we’ll find out in about another 10 years.

Flirting is already considered ‘on the fence’ sexual harassment. And I’m not talking about physical contact if any kind. Just words and gestures.

Men are starting to think twice before flirting these days. It’s sad.

[Unit1]

Honestly? Nein 😂

Women doing the approaching are heroine!

[worldscolide]

I guarantee the human race would die out if they did that... That having been said most feminists are trying to get laws like that pushed.. Which is bullshit.

[Anpu23]

No, they'd just use it as a bludgen to force a guy to do stuff for them. "If you dont ______ I'll report you for picking up on me."