Is it okay for someone in a relationship to check another guy/girl out? (Page 2)

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I work with this guy who is in a relationship. He’s very friendly and he helps me a lot. Every now and then I’ll catch him staring at me. He complimented me and told me I had a beautiful smile. He likes to watch me do stuff. He just got into this relationship about a few months ago but he’s always been like this (still is). Let’s say I’m doing something like cleaning up, he’ll lean back and just watch me. He mostly stares at me from behind when he thinks I can’t see him. He was in the breakroom talking about the cute girls at work with another coworker. I was making coffee and when I turned around to a sec, he was watching me while he was talking about the cute girls. He didn’t say anything about me tho lol :p  There maybe one creepy time I was standing behind him towards the left facing the opposite direction. He was sitting down on FaceTime with some guy and as soon as I turned around, his front camera was on me/my butt. He didn’t even bother to hurry up and take it off me. My face was all on the camera lol. This was during his relationship.

TonyBologna25 · Answer

Yes, and anyone who disagrees is most likely very insecure. Looking is only human nature and just because we're in a relationship, doesn't mean we become blind and don't notice beauty in others. How we react to it is what defines respect in a relationship. I don't check out other women when I'm with my girl, which is just basic common sense, but I'll certainly notice an attractive girl within my line of sight and get a quick glance.

throwawaytime · Answer

What you describing is over the topz however I think no straight man will be able to completely avoid checking out women he finds attractive. Men dont take it seriously, it happens naturally, so women shouldn't aswell. HOWEVER HOW THAT GUY didn't GET FIRED YET, BECAUSE FROM YOUR DESCRIPTION IT SEEMS LIKE HE DOES NOTHING BUT STARES AT YOU. Hard to judge such one sided story.

Also comments here blue pilled AF

lacaras · Answer

I think it's typically fine, but this particular situation I kinda feel like is crossing a line. I should be able to acknowledge that other people are attractive and even "check them out" sometimes, but I think it's inappropriate for me to be gazing at one or two people (who aren't my SO) on a consistent basis, I just think it's kinda weird. My policy when dating (and early on in relationships I make this clear) is "look but don't touch" and that goes for both me and my partner.

Anonymous · Answer

The guy seems to be crossing the line, and I’m sure if his girlfriend read this she would be really upset.

I’d say it’s harmless if you catch your partner occasionally checking out a member of the opposite sex. However, if it’s more than an extra glance and they actually proceed to flirt, screw that.

I don’t believe in flirting while in a relationship, I don’t do it, and wouldn’t tolerate a girlfriend who did.

Anonymous · Answer

No it's not. Guys will often do it but they sure don't like it if their wife/girlfriend does it!

He sounds like a perv (and possibly lazy).

Be careful of him. Try not to be alone in a walk-in supply cupboard with him. And if he acts inappropriate again, report him to his and/or your supervisor. I'm sure his boss won't like finding out that he's just standing around watching you work!

Daniel3035 · Answer

It's fine largely because to ask a human being to not look at the opposite gender when there's billions of them is unrealistic for one and two you can't prove that your partners looking because she's checking that person out could be a past friend a bad friend etc.

Paris13 · Answer

It has Only been a Few Months into his Relationship and Now... SH*T!!! Sounds like he is Looking and has Plans for Cooking and Hooking UP with you, Cutie Pie, This Guy... Is Not Happy with his Current One, hun. xx

MissDawn7961 · Answer

a man who does this looking at another woman while on a date with his girlfriend / wife is not a man at all but a creep who would ask this strange woman for sex after just having sex with his woman just before they dated

Anonymous · Answer

It depends what kind of relationship he has. She might be doing the same and they're not serious, who knows?
For me personally that's not really okay.
I wouldn't do it like he is.
I would check women out while being in a relationship, but not flirt or make it obvious to them that I was.
I wasn't looking for attention from other women.
I valued my girlfriend.

markscott · Answer

There is a difference between checking a girl out, and obsessing about her. He's a little creepy.

nella965 · Answer

girl he's not interested in you. he's simply a pervert. No guy checks out womens bodies and asses all day everyday then shows the ass over facetime to another guy. Run far away from him!

mommoms · Answer

If it was my partner I will be okay with that
If he sees and say beautiful she is admires the beauty but he should not say she is beautiful than you
That means he is comparing and that is rude to degrade one

Elliegirl · Answer

I think a little window shopping is ok. Just don’t try anything on! And don’t even think about layaway lol

Dongtai · Answer

Am I the only guy who is unable to perceive other women once I’m committed to a girl? In my mind I’ve chosen the best. I’ll see other women but i won’t be able to perceive them as “another woman”.

SheeRaXStePhan · Answer

Well, he should respect that he's in a relationship and behave. And in my opinion, if its bother you, then tell him to stop or try to be more formal with him 🤷🏻‍♀️

woodvases · Answer

It should always be ok because everyone dies it. And everyone should be ok with it. But we all know that most people would not be impressed if their partner were checking out someone else so It would depend on how his girlfriend felt about it. Anyone who thinks that their partner doesn't check out others is in denial. Funny thing is everyone does it and most aren't ok with their partner doing it. Don't be a hypocrite!

Anonymous · Answer

sounds like your both being 'creepy' to me, he's watching you when he thinks your not watching (which is normal behavior btw), your watching him but pretend your not and giggle to yourself afterward in thinking he probably doesn't realize your watching him.

I get it, very clever, how's that working out for you?

Anonymous · Answer

No, it’s not okay. Partnership means commitment. Of course there will ALWAYS be better-looking people than me and her. BUT why would it matter for you? Instead of checking other people out and admiring them, care about your partner. Give him/her suggestions about their appearance, encourage them to look their best, support them to get a hair cut, pick the right dress.
It’s just a broad mindset, I don’t get the logic behind it.

arabgoddess · Answer

Always I have to witness guys who are in relationships checking me out. How can I ever trust a guy!

PinkMichae · Answer

The guy you're talking about is wrong. But I think people are drawn to look at and admire beautiful people.

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