Why are people so materialistic?

[amanablank]

My sister and my mom look a lot a like. They are constantly complimented. My moms friends always say how beautiful she is and how my sister is pretty. It explains why guys are complimenting them also and oogle over them, I'm never complimented because I'm fat and short. My sister and I look nothing alike. We were out at a family function and we were standing together and a lady came up who we are related to and she complimented my sister saying "when I walked in I was taken back by your beauty" then she just smiles at me. And my dads friends were complimenting her also even though I was also dressed up, not one single compliment. I smiled but inside it hurts, and there's a big double standard. It explains why guys dont want me, I'm fat and ugly. when guys with me they are desperate, so yep. And before you say "dont compare yourself". I feel like I'm not apart of this family from my weight. pretty girl privilege is a fucking thing, they got their lives handed to them. cause when a hot girl comes on here she gets every guy after her! cause all men what hot girls and if they dont get them they fantasize and follow them on social media and get with girls like me cause I'm the settle for less. actually they dont even talk to me. nobody talks to me. But my mom or sis goes out they got a flock of guys after them. I am gonna start working out and losing weight for my health. BUT like why? Why is it like this? Why am I never gonna find a guy who wants only ME?

[Mega_illuminati]

Though I am also ugly, I can't really say that I understand what you are going through. Girls, thouhg it may seem otherwise, have higher pressure of personality. Many optimization factors are necessary. Approachable, but not too much. Look good but not slutty. Its just impossible for me to comprehend. This becomes tenfold if you have pretty relatives. Because then even in your own space or with very close group of people, you are judged.

Unfortunately, this does affect on personality. People tend to be lot softer to pretty people. Inturn pretty people normally seem like they are cheerful, in good mood. Hence, they sort of get that "light up a room", personality.

What I would suggest is for you to start your self-evaluation based on your actions. Even though I was never in such enormous pressure as you are, I had some moments (being the ugly dude). But it helps when I value myself for doing something nice. It could be anything. Be it a small donation to homeless person near you, or just donating to wikipedia. Additionally, you can also start volunteering at pet stores or local zoo or something.

What has really helped me, is to read and donate at the causes around the world. It makes me realise how good I have and makes me rather thankful for what I have.

[Lucky1974]

Hello Amanablank. It’s a sweeping generalisation for you to say that “all” men go for a particular type of woman. Human sexuality is so diverse to the extent that not all men are into 18 year old bimbos. I’m not a typical man in some ways, and I have never been interested in women who conform to the ideals of pop-culture. Even though men like me are in the minority, we are certainly not a tiny minority.

[arabgoddess]

It's really good that you vented all that out! I think you need to be away from your mum and sis so you can work on yourself and learn to love yourself again! All the best huni 🤗

[Matthew2222]

The media creates a powerful social pressure that glorifies anorexia. That having been said, there are tons of guys out there that prefer chubby girls. I suspect your issue has more to do with self image and confidence than anything else. The fact that you are jumping on the bandwagon and losing weight indicates you do not accept yourself, which a a major deal breaker. Instead, you should work towards accepting your body and rejecting the negative influences. What is your weight/height?

[Thatsamazing]

1) Being short doesn't matter, for a girl-- being fat matters. Lose weight.
2) I don't think you know what the word "materialistic" means; you haven't talked about materialism in this post basically at all.

[Exorcist_Rampage]

People hate spirituality and place greater focus on the natural world than hoping to thrive spiritually.

[esotericstory]

Its modernism. Consumption and production have replaced spirituality and family in society.

[Avicenna]

You will find a suitable guy, keep trying

[SquidwardsmellsGOOD]

Social media has corrupted us all

[COMMODOREII]

What do you look like? 😕

[oldoldold]

Materialistic?

[Thatsamazing]

I am also confused by her word choice there.