Is it considered cheating if I take off my wedding ring in bars, just to get free drinks? (Page 2)

[Screenwriter]

If you can't afford to pay for your own drinks, then don't go out. If someone pays for your drinks, they may expect your company. Taking off your wedding rings isn't cheating, but it's a cheat to advertise yourself as something you're not. You think your husband would find this amusing? You're hanging out with the wrong kinds of friends.

[slatyb]

There’s an tacit agreement when a woman accepts a drink from a man. By accepting she’s saying that there’s a possibility of a romantic relationship. Maybe not a large chance, but she’s available and interested. So you can accept a drink, but before you do you need to let the guy know that you aren’t offering more than conversation.

[Anonymous]

It’s not cheating, but as your husband I wouldn’t be comfortable with it. It seems like an all too convenient excuse to get the attention of men, and I’d be skeptical that if the right guy offered you a drink that you wouldn’t cheat. But that’s me 🤷🏻‍♂️

Why are you going to bars without your spouse anyway?

[Opinion Owner]

I didn’t realize your question was about your friends, my bad!

[etf0nehome]

Cheating? No, as long as you're not crossing any lines of physical interaction. Immoral? Yes, you'd essentially be purposely misleading men to hit on you solely for your benefit.

Side note: this is exactly the type of behavior that contributes to what feminists claim is "toxic masculinity". You'd essentially be purposely enticing men to hit on you and objectify you only to ultimately deny them of what you know they're looking for.

[MusicMayhem]

No but it makes you a sleaze.

Maybe some guys can't really afford to go out either but if they meet a girl they like are willing to eat noodles the coming week for the sake of buying them a drink so they can enjoy some rare company.

Don't deceive them, that's just trashy.

[Abmac]

Simply, no, but it is rude/ indecent to take advantage of others. I honestly never cared when people bought my x drinks it's less I'm spending. I find this situation wrong for taking advantage of men trying to get to know you, and date you when you already know that they have no chance. Ideally you are a scammer, and making dating harder for good guys looking for a beautiful girl such as yourself.

[Abmac]

If you don't hide your marriage and don't lead people on. If you still get bought drinks then I see no problem.

[updog45]

If my wife done that I would be highly pissed off. Thats how cheating starts, affairs you name it. Harmless at first, just getting free drinks. Next thing you know you have a bar friendship with a guy that bought you a drink, next thing you know y'all are fucking in the bathroom.

[COMMODOREII]

Damn. First off you are telling everyone your marriage doesn't matter. Then you deceive a guy thinking you will do something for him for drinks. Then there is the fact you are manipulating them out of their money just so you can get a drink. I would be pissed. And to be honest I've drank with friends who are married and have a boyfriend where i bought them a drink because they couldn't afford it. It's much more honorable when a guy invites you to drink with him without any of the deception.

[Nik1hil]

Definition of cheating states..
"Doing things with your partners consent or acknowledgement, and keeping the information hidden."

Just tell your Boy!..
I will remove my ring and use some Men to get drinks..
And it's not cheating.
In fact as long as your partner knows..
That you are going to have a gangbang in Bar.. It's not cheating..
But if you are eating food hiding from your partner.. And not sharing or telling him about it..
It's CHEATING

[Anonymous]

I wonder when these thirsty simps will learn that chasing women, dating, buying them drinks, and anything else that looks like they're trying to buy their affection is pathetic. Stop doing it...

As for your friends, they are not led by wisdom, introspection, or guided by the inner self. If you look at the bigger picture, you might see other aspects of the friendship that are questionable.

[Figurative]

It's like this. A guy buys a girl a drink, to try and date her, or whatever. Lying to someone about being married? Is your spouse okay that you want to do that?

Let's put this a different way.

All your married friends had sex with a bouncer to get into a nightclub for free. Why stop at free drinks? No one would know. You aren't wearing your wedding band.

Yeah. Not really the same. But, that's what your hubby might think if he found out.

[AiahZ]

Only if you would consider it NOT cheating that your husband takes off his wedding ring when out of town and in places where lots of hot women are just because he wants his ego stroked.

[R_Cakes91]

That’s a pretty fucked up thing to do. Do yourself a favor and be the mature one of your friends. Living a double life like that will catch up with you one day and if your husband ever finds out, it could end your marriage. Be smart.

[merv84]

Lol... this is different
... hmmmm I think it may not be technically cheating but it definitely has elements of cheating... letting another man flirt with you to buy you drinks etc isn't cool at all... not a nice thing to do... n you "you just can't afford it right now" then all good dont stress it is just going out... you will have plenty of times to go out... dont degrade your character for momentary gain... not worth it... I hope this helps...

[DWornock]

I'm not certain it would help but if it does, why not? You are not going to cheat unless the guy is exceptionally attractive and then only if you are in your fertile period. And, besides, wearing a ring would be an aid to cheating since it would make you appear more willing since men believe married ladies are less likely to play games.

[soleil2666]

Imagine a man asking this same question!
Such vile behaviour - your friends are the reason men go their own way and all this rage about female privilege and the 'feminist' backlash happen
Can you or your friends not work to pay for your own drinks - or do you consider it acceptable to use unsuspecting men?

[lightbulb27]

that's very wrong. It's fraud, false advertising, baiting a male without a license, indecent behavior, unscrupulous, and devious.

how low will they stoop...

[DeeDeeDeVour]

As a married woman, I'd only go to bars nowadays with my husband or among a group of friends my husband personally knows. If I wanted a free drink, I'd expect it from him and not someone else.

[Kiran_Yagami]

No, but it's stupid. You're lying to get free drinks. If I had a wife and she did that, I'd be brushing off that prenup. What's the point of being married if you're gonna go out and act single? Just be fucking single if you aren't mature enough to handle being married. Being married means no more free drinks from thirsty dudes. Oh, the horror.

[bamesjond0069]

You should tell your husband. If the thought of telling him makes you scared or ashamed or just feel bad, its wrong and you shouldn't do it.

And come on, disrespecting your marriage to feed your alcoholism is just disgusting. You need new friends.