Guys never show interest in me?

[Anonymous]

I am super sad and depressed. I am 24 and guys never show interest in me. I've also never had a boyfriend before or dated. I've tried showing interest in a few guys but they never were interested in me back. Why am I so cursed? I feel forever alone and that no guys ever like me, I am always ignored and unnoticed by men. I thought by now, I would have had a relationship at my age but no guys ever seem to want me. It's like I am a guy repellant. I don't even get catcalled thats how much I go unnoticed by men. And before someone asks, I am not fat. I am 5'5 and weigh 127 lbs. I am extremely worried that I will be 30 and still be single. I am tired of crying in my room at night over this... I don't know what is making guys not be interested in me?

[fueledbythc]

there's many factors. first its how desperate you come across as. there's a girl at work who is cute but seems desperate so i found her unattractive. she's always staring at me and its not helping her case if she's interested.

its also how you come across to guys too. if you stare and not talk its quite creepy.

a lot of guys are judgmental too so you haven't mentioned anything about your face. not to be mean but a lot of guys can find your face unattractive. when it comes to dating, its all about looks at first and looks are enough despite having a good personality to have men avoid you. from how we guys talk, a big nose is enough to make a guy run away (most guys anyways, i find big noses cute).

instead of dwelling on dating, focus on yourself and improving your own situation. be the best that you can be and believe me a guy will notice you.

[jimmy4740]

I think as people grow they develope confidence and that is very attractive to the opposite sex. In short make it happen for yourself if you dont want to wait for someone to make the first move. I've seen this many times where people expext to be persued when they should take on that responsibilty thierselves. That is where the problem arises from confidence as pursuit requires the will and the confidenceto face rejection. Keep in mind everyone fears rejection just some have learned tonlet it roll ofd thier backs.

[Marilynjuana]

Hey love, stop this right now. A man isn't someone to cry over in your room. You come first and your first step is to become confident and become the very best version of yourself. Get creative, do things for you and enjoy yourself. A confident happy woman earns a confident happy man and vice versa.

[Connor-RK800]

What brainless degenerate creature disliked this beautiful opinion?

[Marilynjuana]

My best bet is one who can’t land a lady, seems to be the theme here :3

[Anonymous]

I know how you feel! I get told all the time by everyone how beautiful I am, yet the guys I like are never interested in me. Ever consider that you're you're unapproachable or something about you is off to some guys? That maybe the reason!

[driller1127]

You know maybe you are hanging out the wrong places don't go to places where you think you can meet a guy like a bar go do things that you enjoy maybe you'll meet somebody don't get down on yourselfp you sound like a very sweet and honest girl your real that's probably why they're scared

[asankanels]

Live alone is a beauty, love is amazing and it will surely come to all who wait patiently my dear. just believe that the someone out there for you is also in a huge search, trying to find you

[boggboss]

It would seem on frost thought that because of how you view yourself I can only imagine that translates into how you hold yourself and walk about which would make guys overlook you

[Connor-RK800]

Ok, so the best thing to do here is to literally ignore all the opinions I the male section (aside of the nice and encouraging messages some nice guys left here) and give a chance to the awesome advice @Marilynjuana wrote.

[Marilynjuana]

Thanks love!

[Browneye57]

"I am super sad and depressed"
I quit reading here. Get some professional counseling.
YOU get to CHOOSE your state of being. You've chosen to be a loser.

[Connor-RK800]

And what sort of adult are you to say she's a loser? By and large, how well do you personally know this human to believe they are a loser because of a bad luck streak in romance?

[Browneye57]

@Connor-RK800 - Rather obvious, don't you think? And why she needs a shrink.
Women tend to just LOVE to CHOOSE to be a victim. Mostly they're just sure they are.

[dburke500]

Ok boomer

[Browneye57]

@dburke500 Okay dipshit.

[Connor-RK800]

Alright, folks, let's try to be a bit constructive here. @dburke500 , I never thought I would witness that statement outside a meme. However entertaining generational "wars" may seem, we're on this app together, let's at least all try to set ourselves to a standard we can be proud of, especially if we are conversing about mental issues. @Browneye57 I have, what I believe to be, an interesting question. Is there a possibility to, perhaps, consider the fact that for generations on end maybe it wasn't females that initiated the upper mentioned by you tendency? For so many years we have grinded the belief that women are just victims, or princesses, symbols of the delicate, fragile, vulnerability, whereas men did not had those traits. Is it possible that due to our current culture that was established a while ago, young females might assume that role which was formed for them over the years? Because yeah, in a sense you are right about the tendency to be the vulnerable, but it got me thinking how more and more men simply recognize that they are not the embodiment of Zeus, macho knights that should show emotions, empathy or similar such traits? I merely propose you this idea because it is something both sexes can proactively work on for their betterment and goes beyond finger pointing to stereotypes.

[Browneye57]

@Connor-RK800 - That's not what this question is about. Read it again. "Guys never show interest in me.". Well, first, it's not even a question, and no properly decked out female can navigate their life without at least a few guys noticing them. Guys are attracted to girls. Period.
So when we hear or see this it's natural to assume they are either A. just flat ugly, which I don't believe is the case here, or B. unapproachable.
So instead of doing something about it, getting help with your attraction traits, like makeup hair and wardrobe, and developing social skills so she can converse with interested guys, she instead cries herself to sleep at night. This is complete and utter failure, CHOSEN by the asker.
So I'm done here. This place is not going to fix this girl - she needs help. And if she is so depressed and emotionally unable to deal with just the basics in life, she likely needs professional psychiatric care. Get some counseling, for this simply is way out of the realm of reality.
My guess is she's a validation queen looking for attention, and people to tell her she's really okay. This is not the place, nor how that gets done.

[Browneye57]

And asker is anonymous - so not even enough fortitude to be a real person, but hides behind a keyboard in anonymity. I'm calling BULLSHIT.

[Connor-RK800]

Understood. I'm just new here, some 3-4 days old on G@G, I am completely inexperienced about validation queens. The closest for me are drama queens, which I am able to notice. I suppose partly the fault resides with me, because I got too comfortable in other online communities that are heavily moderated and for mature membership. But about what you said, I thought and think you're right. Without any shred of shame I admit that I did go to therapy and it is awesome. Mental healthcare is getting better and I will always support it. I do think you were and are right, my only suggestion was that perhaps a more fruitful approach would be more beneficial and wholesome. And it was, I really enjoyed this. But yeah, I quit Facebook specifically because of dissent and harsh attacks between people, so I just hope you can understand me why I find it way better to have a positive spin. Maybe she is a validation queen, I do not know for sure to attest to. But I still met you here who has honest and helpful opinions and I can follow you. Call me naive or stupid, but I like finding a positive spin in any situation I invest time. 😀

[Browneye57]

@Connor-RK800 - all good.
I'm about four years, and some 25K posts. Frankly I get tired of the whining and bullshit.
And I agree absolutely - professional counseling can be of huge benefit, and there's surely nothing to be ashamed about - BTDT, several times actually.

First wife and me went to counseling and they basically said we're through. LOL
I went for slapping my kid - turns out I am severely hypoglycemic and not mentally ill, so that was all resolved. Poor kid. She turned out wonderfully however.

And I've conducted couples counseling in a group setting, mostly based on MBTI - trait type. Out of a handful of couples, two of them came up and announced they had decided NOT to divorce based on what they had learned, and were going to give a go to stay married.

I don't sugarcoat, I don't mince words. I deal in stark reality, let the chips fall where they may. I believe in complete transparency, facts and logic, and pure honesty. It's easier that way, you don't have to worry about nor keep track of what you said - it's always consistent. :)

[Connor-RK800]

I know! I feel exactly what you mean in regards to honesty. Early this year I had an unpleasant experience, the whole shtick with chest compressions, epinephrine and all that kinky stuff. Ever since then, because of those 8 minutes of uncertainty, I changed three things. No more lying/sugarcoating, no more asshole behaviour, and as much charity as possible. At that particular time the main difficulty was trying to transition these aspects in my life seamlessly, but even with as much diplomacy I have learned to use as possible, some friendships simply fizzled out. On the way more bright side, however cheesy, overrated and overused this sounds, I simply love living in the now. And you are so right about honesty, because it feels liberating when you apply that degree of honesty to yourself. What initially starter as full cooperation with the doctors out of fear for my life, slowly turned in me just being honest to myself and to others. Sometimes on here I simply cannot put an opinion because sometimes I don't know the answer, but I do the next best thing I love. Making a joke. I love comedy and it feels nice to put a smile on someone. My only question that I addressed was a parody to human-AI relationship. I'm still not sure if making a joke without insulting anyone or touching on polarizing subjects, would put me in the crosshairs of being reported for trolling. Speaking of an amusing scenario. Try to visualize what we just did. Random 18 yo anonymous girl crying, and we're sitting around with a couple of beers, talking about our lives lol. I'm sorry, the mental image feels like Monty python level of comedy.

[Browneye57]

@Connor-RK800 - Like. :)

[Fuentes]

Probably by the fact ur to desperate to date if you think your not attractive put it to the test make a Tinder and see what type of dudes hit you up even if its for sex then u know dudes do look at u sexually and thats a plus

[Supermosh1990]

It might have to do how you present yourself: your appearance, maybe an annoying aspect, or many other problems.

[Supermosh1990]

Sometimes men can be really shy too you know especially when they see an attractive woman

[MackToday]

There was a guy on here that said the exact same thing that you're saying now. There should be a dating app for this for sure.

[zagor]

Being depressed and desperate is a pretty strong turn-off, except for guys looking for a quick fuck.

[Giggletr0n]

The more depressed you get the less likely you are to meet a guy that won't just treat you like crap

[FrenchyRomain]

maybe they aren't attracted to you so maybe shake things up in the dressing up department

[Connor-RK800]

she's not plastic and fake enough for the taste of shallow views? I've seen feral ghouls use more brain in Fallout New Vegas.

[FrenchyRomain]

@Connor-RK800
outfits matter... if her outfit ain't great then MAYBE (if you read my original answer again I used the word MAYBE) it's a sign

[GreenGold1992]

I'm in the same boat as you, girls never seem to show any interest in me.

[funson82]

Shoot me a message and let's chat a little Id like to get to know you

[Exorcist_Rampage]

Maybe they don't find you interesting.

[Connor-RK800]

Real smooth lol Do you play Mr. Bean at funerals?

[Anonymous]

Have you tried asking/talking to them?