No girls ever chased me, so I've never really been on that side of the equation. "Gained weight" really is the wrong term, because you gain weight every day without looking any different than you did the day before. "Gained weight" is polite, but it's wrong. "Gained fat" is accurate, and while some might perceive it as rude or as a derogatory thing, it really shouldn't be perceived that way.
As for you, you should only care about how you feel. If you are content with how you look post fat-gain, then you should own it and not allow the world to bring you down or shame you about it. If you don't like the way you look now, you can always hit the weights and get back in the shape you desire to be in.
I am sure that previously, when "every guy chased you and hit on you", you must've had a tough time in public, especially at moments when you would've wanted to be alone but those vultures wouldn't let you be. Now that you no longer fit in their superficial goals, you get to see people for who they really are. They won't put on those masks any longer in order to try and take advantage of you, because you don't have that advantage to offer them any more. It also increases the value of those who genuinely approach you. In a way, this minor fat gain acts as a filter that you can use for your own advantage.
Last, but not least, you are not ugly, not even the least bit. If there ever was a doubt in any corner of your mind, I hope it's history now. You're beautiful regardless of the amount of body fat you hold. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise. You're still the same person on the inside you were before, and every change allows you to grow and be better, including this one. I hope you don't suffer from self-esteem issues, and chase your own goals and dreams, just like everyone should.
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My body composition fluctuates a lot depending on how food I can afford to buy.
When I lose muscle and gain body fat the same thing happens to me. When I get lean muscle back, things go back to the way they were.
I have a neighbor who's really pretty. But over the past 6 months she suddenly got fat and I was like woah WTF!
She's losing fat again and she's looking pretty again! It's amazing. It's just a great reminder that people aren't born a certain way, with some inherently better than others. People are the results if their discipline and routines. It's really true that what we put in is exactly what we get out, no more no less. 🤘🏼
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First off you’re not fat, you’re just a little thick. I promise you that your weight doesn’t have to stop you from getting a date. I’ve literally always been chubby and it’s never stopped me. You just need to learn how to dress for your new figure. When you’re skinny you can wear almost everything and it can look at least ok. But when you’re a bit thicker certain materials show off your rolls more than others. It’s important to buy clothes made with quality materials and make sure that they fit right. And when you wear form fitting/bodycon stuff you should wear a body shower and/or the proper under garments. Try a high waist jean. Try a looser blouse.
Yes 😭
I used to be the chubby girl that guys just saw as a friend.
Oh yeah they loved talking to me and hanging out, but relationships? Nope.
But I did manage to lose weight and now I'm fit! 💪
... however guys STILL won't date me, lol.
Moral of that rant is fit or overweight, it comes down to you.
I know plenty of overweight women that have no problem getting guys! Then you have fit, attractive women that guys won't come near. It's more about how confident you are and how you present yourself to others.
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You don't look THAT drastically different. You shouldn't need someone to like you just when you're skinnier. Sounds like someone only dating you for your looks, which I wouldn't want anyway. If you don't like how you look, work on it.
u My weight has fluctuated over the course of my adult life. Fortunately for me, the consequences for men are not as severe as they are for women.
Is there an impediment to you losing weight and regaining your former appearance?
I can get a date. However, I don't want one. I am already exhausted as I am
I gained a lot of weight from eating at those all you can eat places with a male friend of mine named Curt ! then I got tired of eating there with Curt and not doing my own interests and hobbies ! so I stopped eating and doing things with Curt ! Then I did start loosing weight at least 30 lbs. but then my feet started hurting me from damaged nerves do to the eating weight I put on them all those years ! Now I am still over weight but I have boys and men complimenting me , whistling and talking to me so evidently I look better in this weight then I did when I weight under 100 lbs. ! Thanks
Love all these guys telling you you're perfect the way you are. What would you think if some dude who had six pack abs and then got obese? Still perfect? It's obviously not the same and there's no reason to relate. You either care more about staying attractive/fit or more about eating junk food and being lazy. It's not even an insult, it's obvious and you already know it so all you're doing is seeking validation from horny men online.
I've had phases were I was chubbier because I was lazy, then I changed my goals. If you want more men to find you attractive go ahead and start working out. Getting desperate people online to validate your out of shape body isn't going to improve your quality of life.
No because i always stay ontop of the gym and excercising.
Just lose the weight and you'll be back to your confident self.
But for now, try and wear clothes Your size and not from when you were thin, clothes that are too small and tight just accentuate your weight gain.
I would totally ignore you if you gained weight. However. Here is a strategy that worked for me in terms of eating more vegetables ( best thing to get healthier and lose weight) every meal start phasing in more veggies, make veggie smoothies, start adding in a fruit if you want but start phasing out the sweet things. HInt your taste buds will eventually get used yo and like bitter vegetables like arugula, watercress and dandelion. you have to try that. also start doing intermittent fasting, push your breakfast 2 hours later every day until you eat about 2 meals per day starting at between 3 to 5
That's not how you get a date. You do. t want shallow guys and you look great. Nothing is wrong with your weight! Go be friend guys and get to k ow them instead of expecting men to chase you. They won't even if you were skinny again.
I gained a lot of weight when I had a baby, and lost it all because I felt unattractive. I only had to please my boyfriend but I still liked the attention you get when you are skinny. I find a lot of people are attracted to you because you are skinny sometimes, a lot of people are put off by fat.
I like how half of the guys comments are on how you can lose weight rather, that's not what you were asking lol.
It honestly might just be the types of guys you are going after. Or that your confidence went down and that changed things. Sometimes it goes unnoticed but when you have confidence people tend to act different than when you dont. There are tons of guys who would be into your body before weight gain and after. So it might not be the weight but other factors to sum it up.
Yes i have been underweight all ny life and in 3 years I've gained like 55 pounds i was 113 i had rheumatoid arthritis im around 5'10 plus i drink like 5 beers every day om not really concerned about my weight😂😂. And i probably won't not find a date.
Your self confindence is lacking and you may need to change yiur mind a bit but there is always a dry spell for us all. Girls not putting out after being chased get exnayed after a while cuz it is only a tease. That may also be the problem. Guys want something easy and casual not to work for nothing.
There are a few in the office around your age and they are gaining about like you. The young free metabolism with extended natural hormones is over and now you will have to work to keep it. Your metabolism is starting to crash and now you will have to cut out booze and sweets to start and begin running your ass off and pumping weights. If you don’t, you will balloon.
Your "fluffy" photo isn't bad either. Take up hiking with one of those men who just talk with you. You'll be surprised how fast that can work by going a few times a week. Then guess what, that guy who stuck around hiking with you will also make for a decent boyfriend because he was there from the start. Give it a try.
Honestly the likely reason is not because of your weight, because you don't look big or unattractive by any means. It's likely because you FEEL like you're those things and your confidence reflects that. Guys like a confident woman and if you feel like you're too big or unattractive, then you don't come across as confident and we can pick up on that.
I couldn't get a date beforehand, but I did gain weight because I wasn't medically cleared to exercise because I had a PICC line in and couldn't lift anything above 10 pounds. Also, of course holiday weight is also a factor. Now that it's out and I'm working on recovery, I look to get back to where I was beforehand at 187 and make my stomach disappear. It'll take time, but I'll get it, I learned my lesson about trying to lose weight too quickly.
I don't see you so ugly, in fact you look more mature on that way.
On my opinion, your problem is more about being opened to a relation that to your weight.
About not having so many dates, I would prefer having interesting ones that many of them.
I don't know if you're just an attention seeker or just being too picky. Because obviously you're beautiful and attractive and you know it, asking this question doesn't really help you in any way. Something else is driving men away.
Um, is that your before and after pic? I thought you said you gained weight? a lot is in your confidence level. If you feel good about yourself as a person, make yourself look hot as you can, guys will still hit on you!
Nothing wrong with wanting to improve your health but you should be happy with who you are!
Unfortunately we live in a superficial world and most guys want the Barbie doll... Only issue is they are not Ken Material.. Just look at it this way, The guys that hit on you are the ones that really like you for who you are and not just as a object of attention... I would date you either way… :)
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