Why do I only attract players and creeps?

[Anonymous]

So I have this problem where I only attract guys who are at one of two extreme ends of the dating success spectrum: Either players (who get tons of action) or creeps (who get no action). I don't get any attention (or seemingly even noticed) by normal guys who mean well and who want a real relationship (this is the demographic I want). Literally no one flirts with me besides players and drunk weirdos. I get told I'm generally attractive a lot, but here is a general description of me - please tell me if there's anything that would be offputting to good, normal guys:
-25 years old, 5'8", 130lbs, general hourglass figure (32DD boobs, small waist, proportionate hips, small butt), fairly long legs (on the skinny side) small overall build (I'm on the slight/delicate side, but it's just my bone structure - It can't be helped by "just gaining some weight")
-Blonde hair (natural), green eyes, pale skin, good teeth
-Well-paying job in major U. S. city, but nothing high-powered, pay my own rent
-Interests include volunteering, reading non-fiction (politics, history, architecture) and going to museums
-No kids
-On the introverted side, but still generally friendly and will engage as long as someone else initiates

[23anonuser]

Why not ask out the guys you find attractive? Unfortunately, the creeps and players are going to be the most aggressive, which is probably why they are creeps and players. Only way around it is for you to take charge.

I take my time when deciding to pursue a relationship and have lost out many times to creeps and players by taking too long, but have also met some wonderful women who decided I was worth it and asked me out.

[cavmanier]

My guess is that the normal guys or guys you like are less likely to approach women. Guys that approach women are more likely to be the player type I suspect. I'm not sure otherwise.

I consider myself a normal guy that means well and wants a relationship and I rarely approached women that I didn't know. It felt awkward. So I think that's the dilemma.

[NightFlirt]

The "Normals" are to intimidated by your looks to approach you. Drunks don't care they'll try hitting on anything that moves. The creeps are just weirdos. So if you see a guy you think is cute, talk to him, let him know you are interested and willing to give him a chance.

[Gatman34]

You use dating apps that’s where all the creepy desperate men go just look at the men on gag. Also the only guy that still approach women are the guys with nothing to lose. That’s why you you women should just approach men you like. Why don’t you do that?

[Gatman34]

Also you said you are interested in politics depending on what side you lean normal guys aren’t going to want you

[perfectchaos]

I have no room to speak because I probably fall into the creep category but, a lot of guys wait for ample opportunities to make the first move. The two who don't are players and creeps which neither have anything to lose. I wouldn't look into as a look thing but maybe a space thing/inviting thing. by the way the creep thing was a half joke. Both my Ex's told me they first thought I was a creep until they realized I was just an overly nice person.

[Dchrls78104]

Unfortunately you can't help who you attract because you can't help who notices you; but you can be careful. There are things to look out for. Set and/or maintain reasonably high personal standards and you may repel many of the players and all the drunks. Dressing conservatively may rile up some of the players---and you may be able to avoid them. If you do date someone, listen or look out for how soon be brings up sex. If he asks for sex and your refusal annoys him, he's likely a player.

[Paul09]

Well players and creeps have more balls asking out random women. But that's because they do not care. Nicer guys might be shy, or whatever other reason. Do you like any nice guys that you know? Why not try flirting with them, and maybe even ask them out? Would be way easier than waiting for those other two.

[jackbasst]

I think it's sometimes women claim two players and creeps because that is Showboat kind of dudes and a lot of times it charismatic so I mean you have to understand I've Been There Done That I Used to Be the player guy and women fall for the play guy but I've started being a good man then women didn't really cute and hang out with me but I was a terrible guy I had I slept with several women but when everything is good guy and want to do the right thing and I don't even pay me any attention

[Anonymous]

Yeah--tall and thin with a delicate bone structure but still sporting 32DDs--it's no WONDER you've got all kinds of guys who are attracted! You're objectively attractive, it's going to happen!

You're going to make one lucky dude, VERY happy! lol!

[homelesstoad]

Depends where you go to meet men if you go to bars and clubs then you'll attract players and creeps but if you go to dog parks for example you might find more "normal" men

[broken_heart_at_48]

Either that's the vibe you're putting out there or it's the groups or place your running in. Or they see you as easy to manipulate

[cicchis0]

You sound lovely. I doubt that you only attract dickheads, they are just a lot more noticeable.

[Anonymous]

Well this isn’t a knock on you but have you looked at the men in your life? What are they like? Are they similar to the type of men you seem to attract?

[Anonymous]

Probably because they have features and qualities you like but the situation doesn't end well.

[Texaskid1]

My Spidey sense tells me that this is bogus.

[Shamalien]

So if a guy gets no action he's a creep?

[Anonymous]

How do you dress? What's your style?

[rockrewls]

Be patient you will find a decent guy.

[Thatsamazing]

This post is stupid.