Guys run away once they find out I'm a single mother. Why? (Page 2)

Question

I get a lot of women out there only want your wallet! I absolutely acknowledge that ugly fact of life. But my kids want and need the love of a father. The statistics don't lie. Children of fatherless homes are worse off for a lot of reasons. And I'm financially responsible and solvent. I don't want your money. But I'm not even given a chance. Thoughts?

UncleJessieRabbit · Answer

Like you mentioned in your question update, being a single mom tends to send off buzzers to other men (I admit that I sometimes have these preconceived notions). I think it's because when a man likes a woman it can seem degrading to him or his role when the woman biologically fathers a child with somebody else, it's kind of like that other person "stole" their opportunity.

Likes2drive · Answer

It’s a tuff position to take on, for a guy without his own, I got married to a mother with 2 boys and then we had 3 daughters together, we lasted 17 years and now I’m just looking for moms with older children or no children. Your best bet is a someone that had kids already , probably aren’t with him anyway because the mother usually gets them and he might want one with you still

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Why would i want someone with baggage when i can get someone without baggage? Sorry not sorry. I did consider a single mom once, she was 12 years younger than me, the hottest girl i ever met in my life and was completely obedient and sweet and respectful... i still turned her down because i want my own kids and not some other dude who fucked hers kid and i dont want him around either.

suncookie · Answer

They're cowards who are afraid of the responsibility... don't worry tho your kids are better off with a man who is actually a man

Anonymous · Answer

they simply dont want to raise kids who aren't their own. you'll find the right man one day and he will be worth the wait.

mrArcher · Answer

Pfooosh, I am so sorry for you, sister. You're the diamond in the rough, the rough being all the other single moms.
You have no idea just how radical it is for a single mom to acknowledge the fact that it's bad for their kids.
I wish you success. I think the best thing to do is to try to appear as put together and preoccupied in the eyes of the man you're trying to get with and try to find a man who'll be inspired to step up and lead the family.

findoutwhy · Answer

Any guy that runs away just because you have a child isn't worth your time don't get discouraged there are good men out there in due time don't ever put a man before your child don't listen to idiots calling you a come dumpster or anything like that There fucking retarded & I bet there come dumpsters themself

justme1171 · Answer

First of all you’re thirty seven years old. Get real lady. No smart man your age wants to be with a woman your age, and you gave your best years up being the father’s cumdumpster. I want my own kids, not some other man’s. That’s why.

GayLoner · Answer

No guy wants to raise another mans children, they want their own. The relationship itself is a process and when you couple in someones children it just makes things even more difficult.

Your dating pool is very very small I suggest looking for weak desperate men who dont know any better and can be used to help raise your kids

YHL6965 · Answer

Well, it's going to sound harsh but I would rather be honest : it would personally bother me to have to deal with the consequences of a failed relationship, to take care of a child that is not mine. I am young so my views could change but that's how I see it. Besides, I heard some single mothers in the USA can become really bitter against men and many men just don't want to dal with that.

JamesBlackDragon · Answer

1st off nokia needs a mother or a father there are keys they grow up in Foster homes that are better than kids they grow up in a house with a mom and dad

Anyway to answer your question most men even women who dated a single dad don't want to deal with someone else's kids

yuesper · Answer

Being a father is a daunting task. Little guys are ready to be a good boyfriend. Lesser guys are ready to be a good husband. Even lesser guys are ready to be a good father.

MackToday · Answer

They don't want to spend their lives raising another man's child. Nothing mysterious about that. Why would't they prefer to carry on their own genes? No big mystery there. Maybe try single fathers.

BeMuse · Answer

Kids need their father, not some generic plug in. A guy is never going to care for your kid like it’s his own. Most guys are honest enough about that to not get involved in the first place.

Miristheiss · Answer

Because we do not want kids... maybe ever or if we do we want to be single and carefree with a girl until we decide to marry and THEN have kids... way down the road. We do not want kids from day one... we do not want to raise some other guys kids.

cgehr783 · Answer

Im single and I've considered being in a relationship with a single mom only because its easier to find a single mom that's interested in me than a single woman with no kids because she has higher standards. I'm also relying on dating sites because i find it unprofessional to hit on customers at work. So far i haven't had much luck attracting female coworkers. Its hard to be confident and charismatic when uve walked in my shoes.

ImagineSketchy · Answer

They don't want to deal with your children and probably are not ready to be a father or even a father figure where they are in life.
I also wouldn't be interested in dating a single mother at the moment. Maybe 10 years from now I might.

R4vedave · Answer

I personally wouldn't be interested in dating a mother since I don't want kids myself, so dating someone who already has them is out of the question.

Reaperbot666 · Answer

I would almost rather date a single mother. Due to me being a single father. Would just hope everyone got along well.

contactjoshua · Answer

If women had adequate logic and science, devoid of emotion, they could answer this one on their own: we live in a system of evolution, same as all the other animals on this planet have been doing for millions of years; so why would I raise another male's offspring? You like the cuckoo bird tryin to drop some eggs off in my nest for me to raise for you? Come on, snap out of Disney fairytale "logic", AKA female "logic", and start using actual logic based in science, AKA man's logic

Smiley32 · Answer

Girl they are worthless if they need money to give for you. That’s called bullshit you should be given a chance and your children are lucky to have you. If they handle fact you are single mother and stable they suck im sorry. Stay true to you and real man will come down for you.

Pejtu · Answer

Its just the way it is
Almost every guy like 99% of them will run away since the moment u tell them u are a single mother
There are multiple reasons for that and i dont blame this guys I understand it and i would do the same

Dchrls78104 · Answer

Kids may take up vast quantities of resources, space, and intimate time; and disciplining kids that aren't yours can be difficult and problematic.

Anonymous · Answer

I Wish I Knew... Girls Do The Same Thing, I Am A Single Father With Custody... One Was A Single Mother, But Because Of Her Daughter Being Grown, She Felt She Would Have To Be A Mother Again, Mine Were In Early Teens...
So My Guess Is, They Feel Kids Are A Burden And Prevent Us From Having Fun At A Moments Notice, They Don’t Want To Help Raise Kids That Are Not Theirs...

Anonymous · Answer

Losing a husband/bf to death is one thing, but, if you got divorced or he ran, when he found out you were pregnant (perfectly fine to do, but you're also allowed to make him pay child support), that's another story..

I don't want to be responsible for his kids, financially, or emotionally. They're not my kids!

Therefore, I won't date you, until they're at LEAST 18

MannySimms · Answer

"But my kids want and need the love of a father." Sounds to me like "We're staying together for the kids" That doesn't work either.

Nessygurl · Answer

I don't know if it the kids that bother guys. I think a lot of the time what bothers them is the idea that your ex (the kid's father) will be in the picture and most guys don't want to deal with that.

BagoH · Answer

For instance I'd like to date a single mom but not for a serious love relationship. I personally don't want any kids, especially now. But to each it's own.

GreenGold1992 · Answer

too much baggage and pressure and responsibility, some guys aren't ready for that. I'm sorry

DonCachondo · Answer

Stop going after guys who haven't had children of their own yet, maybe? Intuitively, single parents should date other single parents, no?

EnglundUberAlles · Answer

To be fair I think kids hate their stepfather which is why I personally wouldn't go there. And like it says in the Bible:

Mark 10:9
9 Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”
New International Version (NIV)

Anonymous · Answer

They don't want to be responsible for someone else's kid. There's always been a lot of guys out there who think like that. 😥

Exorcist_Rampage · Answer

They don't want to help be a dad to a child that isn't theirs biologically.

serious · Answer

That is because maybe that is not their preference to date single mothers.

slurreyboy · Answer

At 20 I can understand why, but at 37 I'm not sure it's a thing. Guys... sorry, men don't run away at that age. Are you trying to hook up with boys or men?

blondfrog · Answer

Most guys don't want all that baggage. I fell for a woman who is a single mom and she rejected me. Not all guys are like that. If I liked her enough that wouldn't stop me honestly.

TheFlak38 · Answer

because you're damaged goods and have other priorities. No need to ruin ourselves for a mental nutjob. Find a desperate pussy slaves to destroy. He will put up with any bullshit you have for him.

Hogoblin_of_Venice · Answer

I won't add to whats been said. but Will say you have handled this better than I expect most women to. No spite or bitterness , Well done Conservative Pehtaq

JermalTheBlackDog · Answer

Because, Us men are not designed to take care of someone elses child. We rather taking care of our own

worldscolide · Answer

Is that klingon on the end of your name? As for your question. Some men can't handle that, that's all..

AD240pCharlie · Answer

Maybe they want biological kids as well eventually but aren't sure if you would be willing to have more.

winterfox10 · Answer

A lot of guys just don't want the constant reminder that their girl was once with another man who got her pregnant.

manofstyle · Answer

I don't want to raise another man's child. Most men don't.

filipswagson · Answer

we dont like the idea of taking care of a child that isn't ours

cloud9vortex1234 · Answer

Because men don't want to be the father of other people's kids.

Anonymous · Answer

The only issue for me would be that you will still have contact with the father..
I've heard lots of story’s about single moms in a relationship with a guy, and then cheats on him with the father and wants to get back with him.

Slim57 · Answer

Because we don't want to raise your mistake, simple as that. And most single mothers just have the most horrible attitudes imaginable

robertKugler · Answer

I wouldn't... but.. moms can be less sexual.. attention is not focused around the man... baby daddy issues,..

Anonymous · Answer

They don't like another guy's cum inside you. It's biological for us.

Zion333 · Answer

Because you're picky and expect men to approach you when you're in your prime. Past that period, we simply look after our own interests.

BoxySama · Answer

Do you have a little girl? Are you in the Philadelphia area?

Tommy2017 · Answer

Being rejected by the kids and the kids coming first in all decisions you make and take.

Trooper205 · Answer

I think a Primary reason is FEAR. They're afraid of being rejected by the Children.

pizzalovershouse · Answer

Not all would just the guts who dont want a child around so they can have all the girls time

zagor · Answer

I've met single mom's who I would be interested in, but never bothered to pursue it.

JamesRandiDebates · Answer

You shouldn't have driven away the kids' actual father (s). Time to lean in, dearie.

TellitlikeitisPJF · Answer

They're most likely emotionally immature, fragile, or just selfish.

Marie01995 · Answer

I can’t say for guys I dated single moms they tend to neglect their kids party live them with me I was like no two of them so I am more careful.

The_man_whol_aughs · Answer

I would do the same , I'm never going to date a single mom  Your just gonna have to suck it up and prepare for the worst

Anonymous · Answer

Because you already got fucked and used by the bad boy so now you're looking for a good guy aka beta male to support you and a kid that's not even his

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