Am I shallow for not wanting to date a guy that doesn’t meet my physical requirements? (Page 2)

[just_a_potato]

No you aren't they are your preferences, but in all honesty, you probably will stay single if you have a checklist

[Anoniemus]

Not at all. Not interested in unattractive dudes and I wouldn't expect them to be interested in me if they aren't attracted.

[Blublub]

I most of the time have the same problem and i don’t think it’s shallow. Why should we be expected to fuck someone we aren’t attracted to.

[Chanel1981]

If you don't find someone physically attractive there is nothing wrong with not wanting to date them, everyone is entitled to their own opinion

[DOGMA1954]

You need to be with someone your attracted to. Nothing wrong with you having standards in your life. That doesn't mean you may have to make adjustments at some point in your life.

[livingthelife19]

Dont settle for anything less than what makes you happy. If you do, you won't ever truly be happy and you will always want more.

[cavmanier]

It's normal. The attractive men also want attractive women or they want to sleep around with more average women in bulk while they play around.

[Cozzy81]

Attraction comes in many forms and we don't all attract to the same things. Nothing wrong with that at all. Some people are physically attracted, other financially, and some intellectual. It's really preference and not shallow.

[Liam_Hayden]

You don't get what you want? Not to be harsh, but welcome to reality. Few of us get everything we want, and those who do often forgot the most important characteristics in a partner - adoration and loyalty.

[Drumlin2001]

Shallow, no. Its your life. But you also can't judge others who judge you for your appearence. Not without being a hypocrite

[chriscdi]

its not shallow cause thats why we have preferences but maybe someday you'll be surprised at yourself and like someone that isn't in your preferences, who knows 🤷🏻‍♂️

[TheAteam1978]

That's what men do, why should women be any different?

[Avenoma]

These feelings are mostly instincts. We often don't know why we feel them but we shouldn't struggle against them. Just being aware that it could be a problem is good.

[Twalli]

You can't really complain that no guys who meet your physical requirements approach you though. They have physical preferences too, obviously those that don't choose you after seeing you have ones that you don't fit.

[Anonymous]

No you're not shallow, but the guys that meet your bar have probably caught the eye of lots of girls and some of those girls may do a better job than you of meeting their physical requirements, so. . .

[DeeDeeDeVour]

Everyone is entitled to have preferences. There is nothing shallow or wrong about that.

[LunarCelestial]

Nope. You like what you like, and have your preferences. Nothing wrong with that.

[jabbahut]

You need to lower your requirements for a guy otherwise you’ll be single forever

[beldath]

It can be seen as shallow, but if you don't have physical attraction as well as mental attraction, the relationship I more than likely doomed to fail.

[SuccessfulHornDog]

the men that you are attracted to feel that way about you. Attraction can be a cruel trick for some people. stick with it and eventually you'll find someone who is mutually attracted to you.

[SpicyBoi17]

Not at all, there's nothing wrong with having standards. If you force yourself to be with someone you don't find attractive I personally think you'll never be able to fully love that person.

[DiscomfortZone]

Oh, you're absolutely shallow, as are we all. Nobody dates anyone without physical attraction, except specific sub-communities. That's life for you. And you're not cursed, so quit your whining.

[Anonymous]

I think you should go for what ever it is you want. Your preferences are just as valid as anyone elses.

[Anonymous]

No but that question and attitude is a turn off which is why those guys don't go for you. Also useless sex is needed for hot guys till 39.

[Chthou95]

Yes it's shallow but there's nothing wrong with that. Our brains are hardwired that way & that's how humans work. But if we're going by the very definition of shallow, then yes it is but like i said there's nothing wrong with that

[redpanda_]

You know what you like, I don't think there's any problem with that!

[Greta_lover]

Yes but you've got the bar to high. Its not uncommon for average at best women such as yourself to desire men way out of their league

[Cassie094]

No it worst to date him until “something better” come a long.

[es20490446e]

https://youtu.be/rVn2yTPmtMQ

[Pejtu]

No thats not shallow
Same as I dont want to date girls that do not meet my requirements not only physical ones but mental too

[GreenGold1992]

technically yes, but you shouldn't settle for less than what you deserve. not everyone is perfect, but if they prove they're good enough, you shouldn't pass them up.

[Testaccount65754]

Anyone who has "requirements" is entitled and shallow. If you want to date people you only find attractive, then fine. Having "requirements" and compartmentalizing people like that is stupid though.

[Alex_988_2]

yes obviously.
I don't know why most people voted no.
and when someone else doesn't pick them for their physical body, they call them shallow. lol hypocrites

[KrakenAttackin]

You probably have an absurd list of requirements, than you wonder why you are single.

[SweetDisaster]

Everyone has there own preference. Your good girl don't worried.

[Cocacolaaddict]

Wanna repeat that in English?

[TheFlak38]

Just another entitled princess that wants it all but has little to nothing to offer in return.

[Massambit]

So long as you give them a consolation BJ it's all good.

[Gnome0]

Guys do that all the time. No you aren't. The question is, would you date someone like that anyway if he were the only type of man available to you?

[clampfan101]

Depends on how steep the requirements are. If those three are your only ones, I wouldn’t call it shallow.

[TahoeHiker]

220 pounds ( not fat)*
Not ugly ( not ugly)*
6 foot 4inches and 8 inches _ ( not short or laughable)

[devil_8888]

Well everyone wants their SO to be perfect but that’s not possible. Hence, you can’t expect the guy to have everything you want.

[DiegoO]

No, I think you always gotta find someone who matches your lifestyle.

[YesIsaidit]

Nah. There are guys you don't meet their visual need either

[dbr1987]

Did you once look at yourself, you attract what you are😉

[WhereAmI]

No, but you could be delusional if your requirements are too high.

[Dchrls78104]

No more than I am for wanting only slim girls without tattoos or piercings that don't wear thongs.

[TravelerNikki00]

No it’s not and you know what you want some can’t handle that.

[worldscolide]

It depends on what those requirements are and honestly of those guys would be interested...

[Paul09]

No. You want to live a active life, you want a active partner. I'm on the same boat. Obviously you can tell that mostly by physical attributes.

[ronaldo75]

Not at all. Just don't be that type of woman who cries and complains when attractive men don't find you attractive.

[Anonymous]

Its fine just don't complain when men say they want young, beautiful women with big boobs, big ass and curves.

[KUWAR]

Mostly guys are hungry of sex and in this wild jungle it's very hard to survive so u have to be always cautious too much beauty of woman is enemy to themselves

[ChefPapiChulo]

as long as i'm not shallow for rejecting you for being fat

[scooogy]

I turned women down because I mistook their eye color for brown.

[CuriousMufuxka]

I voted no, but there's no better way to come across as shallow by posting anon.

[Gedaria]

But it's difficult not to do this. It depends on what you want out of a relationship..,

[Mindwipe]

It's not shallow as long as you don't have double standards.

[Anonymous]

If you're not going and talking to people you like then that's not "unlucky," it's a choice you're making.

[Anonymous]

That's literally the definition of shallow lol. Nothing wrong with being shallow. It's perfectly natural. Don't know why it's perceived as an insult.

[skeetskeetskeet]

Thats totally fine... as long as he gets to do the same