Well honestly, I always have too. The main reason for me is how well I get along with them. Although age Is no guarantee of maturity, I always have a lot more to talk about with older men. I myself am a bit of a conservationalist or maybe it's just because I don't tolerate being 'too open' or childish. I don't like wasting my time and more than often older men have been through plenty in their lives to know what they want out of it and if they want you, well, they don't really have plans to mess with your head or play games. Although people think it's a daddy issue, it really isn't. Comfort really depends on how he makes you feel. Most of the older men I've met really do respect women more and know better than to play with them. As for the whole sexual idea, it's more about chemistry. I don't think experience itself is so important because practice does make perfect. And honestly, don't ask questions on why you're attracted. You don't need justification or negativity to give you clarity. You'd know what attracts you to them and plus just be okay with it and enjoy your life.
Well-said!
Your attracted to men of that generation which had a difderent mindset than the ones you see today. It has nothing to do with age. The may have a sense of maturity that is indeed lacking in our generation. There are men of your age who are mature. You just have to find them. And be who you say you want to attract.
It could be just what you like is all. My girlfriend and I are a, “May - December Couple”. A colloquial for saying there is an age difference between us. Both our parents and friends aren’t bothered by the difference either. We do not notice it since neither of us have ever been married not had kids. Not to mention our matching energy levels. Guess it also helps that I do not appear my age either. Point is, no, there isn’t anything wrong with you. Frankly, neither of us were seeking the difference in age, just just existed between two people who happens to love one another immensely.
You like what you like and that is that. No more, no less. Hope this helps.
A few questions before I answer...
How many men have you dated?
In your life how frequently would you say your around older men?
Do you truly believe that you only like older men or has that just been the pool your most commonly around?
I've had 8 boyfriends, and dated a few guys.
Not all were older than myself, some were actually younger.
but most of the time i've noticed people i seem to get feelings for or connect deeply with are older than me.
and i wouldn't say i'm usually around them more its just i feel more for them or feel i click better with them? its hard to explain.
Try to explain i think you’re on a pretty decent thought and you should explore it more.
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Older men are appealing to young women for several reasons.
-(rare opportunity) Older men tend to treat younger women better than a young man would do after all an old man can't take a young woman for granted anymore.
- (confidence) older men have confidence that was given to them from the battlefield of life, they know how to talk to a woman. Unlike younger guys who would think going up to a girl and calling her sexy slut will make her fall in love with him.
-(seriousness) older men have stability , money, they can put on a show that they are responsible. and are ready to start a family unlike a young man.
You simply like a lot of traits that only come with being a little older.
I myself also noticed that I like guys that have the same traits as my father does, but it took me a long time to realize that it's silly to expect guys my age to have my dad's qualities, he was already 40 and wealthy when I was born, and the dad that I grew up with has a lot of experience and wisdom that I didn't see because I didn't exist back then. Since then I am more flexible and don't feel like a guy has to be like my father to be considered a keeper.
oddly enough i find the reasons why i prefer women younger than me to be a similar case... I dated women my own age, even older and upto 5 years younger than me too and they weren't to be... always judging and controlling etc, always picky and barely able to appreciate my sense of humour.. or my hobby choices
but those younger than me, 10 years plus was great as we both got on amazingly
even despite not working out towards the end due to health issues...
Because in our minds, older = maturity and stability. Unfortunately it's not really the case. Although, an older person is more likely to be more experienced in bed. That's why I have my eyes on women 70+ 😏
70plus women?
ok thats even way to old for me lol
Different people are attracted to different things. But I can tell you for a fact that most young women are not attracted to much older men. I find them physically unattractive and I just only see a life mismatch down the road. Its not a relationship that can last forever, if you're talking about marriage though. Unless you're ok being married to grandpa at 40
IMAGINE I wrote THIS:
Different people are attracted to different things. But I can tell you for a fact that most young men are not attracted to (fill in the blank) women. I find them physically unattractive and I just only see a life mismatch down the road. Its not a relationship that can last forever, if you're talking about marriage though. Unless you're ok being married to a (fill in the blank).
Do you see anything wrong with this?
Your comment is ageist.
Please quote your sources
Please provide factual evidence not your opinion or conjecture
Or at the minimum preface with "In my opinion..."
Again a factually incorrect assumption.
You, my dear, are ignorant and its ugly.
Its anothet double standard sexist comment that a man would get shot for saying but a female can live her life by while she's wrapped up in special laws just for females to help make them equal god help us. .
@Guardian45 I think she has a reasonable opinion. There are challenges that a split in age can lead to, and it's not for anyone. I don't think there is anything wrong with having her own opinion and taste in that area. It's also not wrong for you to think what you wrote in response. Everyone is entitled to like what they like, and are no obligated to be interested in those things that are not to their taste.
This is definitely your opinion, but not everyone shares it. I know for a fact that I am attractive to women around your age, that are themselves very attractive. Not everyone fits inside a neat little box. I can also say that I am attracted to women who are older than me. Especially those who can match me in intelligence and conversational wit. If they don't take care of themselves physically, I would be less attracted, just as I would expect someone younger than me to not appreciate me not taking care of myself. I (and anyone else) should respect your choice and that you have an opinion, but wisdom is recognizing the difference between facts and opinions, and that is not always age related, but living longer tends present more opportunities that expose you to that truth.
@Almostoverit I don't think exceptions matter. I have seen women who looked better at 45 than at 25. But I find it pointless to mention it because the chance of this happening is about 1 out of every 10,000. But just because some young folks find you attractive, it doesn't mean that they will take you seriously for marriage. They might flirt, date or have sex with you but the smart ones know there really is no real future with you.
And I find it disgusting how old folks think 48 is the new 28. It doesn't work that way and age matters. People should just get married while they are young so they don't need to be so desperate for something out of their reach in their older years.
It seems this topic is really important to you. Studies and articles support your opinion as it relates to marriage. As the age gap widens, so does marital satisfaction. You can look to the Hilda study for support here. I just want to point out that you are the one who injected marriage into the discussion. The question asked simply related to why she was attracted to older men. I also find it interesting that you feel the need to use extreme adjectives such as "granpa", "disgusting" and the like. It seems you are quite unhappy about something possibly related to the post. Finally, exceptions may not matter to you, but they may matter for those whom the exceptions apply. Personally, I agree with you. There is not much point in a large gap in age as far as a traditional relationship goes. What I disagree with is that you feel that a person should get married early in life to avoid this. Statistics show that the majority of professionals are waiting until their mid thirties to forties to marry. They focused on career goals and developing personal networks and relationships, and less on romantic ones the could potentially alter/derail their plans. To say that waiting until they are 40 and suggest that they are done flies in the face of statistical evidence. See the following article for useful statistics. The divorce rate for those in the US in their 20's is the leading statistic at 36.6% for women and 38.8% for men. See link for support: www.mckinleyirvin.com/.../ . Assuming that you are correct and 1 out of 10000 can marry at a large age gap, that means that age does not play a measurably meaningful role in that statistic, and that similar age related are having marital problems already. My point is that marriages fail, nothing is guaranteed and people should feel free to find some measure of happiness however they like without the burden of judgement from those who disagree with their choices.
@Almostoverit
"A five-year age gap statistically means you’re 18% more likely to divorce (versus just 3% with a 1-year age difference), and that rate rises to 39% for a 10-year age difference and 95% for a 20-year age gap. Partners from different generations may have different cultural reference points and values, and polar opposite tastes in music and film, and even friends, and also have different approaches to their sex life, says Fran Walfish, Beverly Hills psychotherapist and panelist on “Sex Box,” a forthcoming We TV relationship therapy show. “Sex drive goes up for women in middle age, but sexual function decreases for men which may lead to sexual dissatisfaction.”"
www.marketwatch.com/.../the-bigger-the-age-gap-the-shorter-the-marriage-2014-11-11
The study points out that after six to 10 years of marriage, the age gap appears to widen and satisfaction tends to dissolve. “The people who are married to a much older or younger spouse tend to have larger declines in marital satisfaction over time as compared with those who are married to spouses who are similar in age,” according to the HILDA study.
www.aarp.org/.../...rences-between-couples-fd.html
If you turn to research, some signs suggest the wider the age gap, the lower the likelihood a pairing will last... but not all. A widely-circulated 2014 Emory University study
of 3,000 recently married and divorced people showed that age gap was correlated with breaking up; couples with ages falling within five years of each other were significantly less likely to divorce
than couples who had age gaps of, say, 10 or 20 years. However, that’s just one study; others, like a 2008 analysis
of data from England and Wales, show there is not a significant association between age gap and marriage dissolution.
www.psychologytoday.com/.../is-big-age-difference-problematic-relationship
@Almostoverit This was an answer to another question.
I'll be quite honest with you. Most girls in their 20s are really not looking for a man 10+ years older. Most women like men who are older than them by just a few years (less than 10 typically). But there are still a few women out there who like extremely older guys. Its rare but you just gotta find them. Typically a young woman in her early 20s have no reason to go with a guy so much older. So if you want her, you're gonna have to give her a reason such as if you're a wealthy man or a high status man.
But most of us women are smart. We want a guy closer to our age because we are looking for a lifetime partner. There is also gonna be a high chance of divorce down the road when she's 39 and you're 50. You are on your sexual decline while she hits her sexual prime in her 40s. You might not be able to satisfy her sexually. She might still be young and full of energy in her 30s while all you want to do is stay home and read the paper. The nanny phase will also hit her much earlier in life. There are many potential consequence of marrying someone way younger than you. Its the same reason why divorce rates are much higher for these types of couples. All you gotta worry about is if she will divorce you as you get older in life.
Don't forget about the lack of physical attraction too. By the time you hit your late 30s-40s, you will start to noticeably aging. You will probably lose hair, gain weight, wrinkles. Would your young wife still be attracted to you? Would she end up cheating on you because you just don't look hot anymore? You can date a woman 10 years younger with no problem right now. But this might not be the same if you were 50 and she's 38.
It just sums up all the reasons why I chose not to date an older man. Your sperm quality can't be good at your age too. I don't want to have some fucked up kids.
@Almostoverit You're only disagreeing because you can't stand the truth. It is so painful for you to accept that younger men make better mates than upcoming grandpas like you. Sounds like you really should've married when you were younger.
The largest cite percentage "39%" while larger, is still only 2.7% larger than the divorce rate for those in their mid twenties. Technically speaking you are correct, but that difference is not astounding. Also, if 39% fail, that means that 61% succeeded? I find it interesting that the statistics we tend to quote are failure statistics rather than success. It seems that marriages fail all over the board. Interestingly enough, marriage is a relatively young institution in the recorded history of humanity. We can go back and forth on numbers all day. At the end of the day, you are against it, and that is your choice. I'd rather let people find out on their own in their search for whatever happiness is out there.
Wow. You really like to sling the mud don't you? I should point out, that I date women between the age of 37 and 48 in general. I don't restrict myself to that only, but I find that's my comfort range. So your statement about why I am disagreeing (I never really disagreed btw) is invalid.
@Almostoverit I didn't even bother reading your reply. All I see here is an immature old man who is offended that you aren't as desirable as before. Firstly, you look like shit, you will be sent to the nursing home before I even hit 49, my children will call you grandpa rather than daddy, my kids will even come out fucked up due to your aged sperm, you won't be able to satisfy me sexually. HUGE LIFE MISMATCH wedding someone 20 years younger. I'm not lying about any of this crap so deal with the fact that you're not as desirable as before.
Just because you don't like it, it doesn't mean its not true. You know its true.
My partner is in his 40s lol. It's all about maturity and experience for me. I'm not a fan of immature men who don't know what they are doing, or what they want. On our first date he was direct, confident, and very well-read.
Probably the maturity factor or your father was an asshole?
Curious, what age range do you prefer
40ish id say.
Yep! I have noticed that. 90% of the girls that hit on me are at least 10 years younger than me. My wife is 4 months younger than me and it's fine. I just don't get it. But apparenlly there is nothing wrong with it, many thinks so but am not one of them
Because some of us are really awsomeness, thank you very much!!😇
It likely is we are more settled, mature, ability to provide security... a strong need for females.
It may be you were impacted by an older male growing up, that could have been positive or negative... it's still a driver.
It could be because they're usually more mature, or your taste is just like that, you like their appearance, it's not strange. Plus they say women go for men with characteristics similar to their father's, so that's another point too.
We're better at paying attention to people, generally. Plus we tend to have a "plan" for life. These two touch on the most primal of female insecurities that all have and few develop independence from.
May be because you are mentally more mature than other girls of your age so its normal if you like older men. Don't think too much, if you feel physical attraction to an elder man don't be shy and move ahead.
A fast look could be dismissed as something like, say, "daddy issues"
But perhaps you like older men because the men around your age you've experienced really just aren't cutting it for you.
well biologically guys go downhill later than woman, I think it was like mid thirties for women and early 40s for men give or take. So I feel a natural age gap is usually in order provided y'all want to peak and going downhill at same time. Not to mention women and men of the same age, women are usually more mature.
I'd say 5-10 year age gap would be completely normal. Relationships over a 10 year age gap seems to be much rockier. So how much, is much older?
Cuz they're smarter, more patient, better looking, usually have more money to spend, know how to treat a lady, and are WAY better in bed.
What's not to like?
Up to 10 years at your age is not unusual at all. After forty, up to 20 years.
You need to understand that a guy's brain doesn't even fully form 'till nearly 25. Girls are WAY ahead of guys in maturity. They pretty much never catch up.
Maybe your father is a wonderful man and you like the feeling of safety and maturity a man like him provides.
I'm the same 😂 I think it's nice that they have their lives more together, as competed to most younger guys. It's nicer when someone is mature and know what they want and don't want to mess around (not that all older guys won't mess around or all younger guys will)
I am the same, can't explain it. It can't be money because every older guy I have been with hasn't has been broke or in debt. I just am drawn towards older men.
Good to hear! At least for you, it's not about money. How old do you prefer?
I think it's about maturity. Girls mature faster than guys and it's nicer to date a guy that is more mature
Maybe you're picking up on their wisdom, maturity and ability to navigate through life by their experiences. Older guys tend to be more independent, resourceful and laid back while the younger ones are running around getting drunk, hanging with their buddies and lighting their own farts.
typically girls mature faster then guys. both in body and mind. so on average there is a 3-5 or more year gap between ages.
I assume you're attracted to confident, mature, and accomplished older guys. Those are positive traits, so it's perfectly normal.
You may have grown up missing something from your dad
How's your relationship with your dad? That would say a lot about it
how would it?
Could be the maturity level?
Older men tend to treat woman with respect.
They appreciate a woman more.
Could be they are more experienced.
Don't get me wrong there are some older men that are worse than younger men
My girlfriend is much younger. We really never think or talk about it. Truth is, she is very mature in every way for a lady her age. This makes for a relationship based more on who we are than how much sex we could have
It's quite common... I work the other way i. e. a guy who is looking for older women... more experience in life, more understand and generally less status unless it is functional and quality as well
Many women are attracted to older men.
They feel comfortable with them. It's as if it is a daddy figure to them , a feeling of safety and comfort. Plus there more mature and set in life than most younger men.
Thank you
Depends on the age difference. 23 with 50 sounds like you got issues. 23 and 30 sounds completely normal.
There's nothing wrong with that, perfectly normal...
To some age is just a number, to others they prefer older or younger.
I like younger and older women
There are some evidence that that's something that occurs way more frequently in girls than guys, so probably you are just one of the girls that prefer them, nothing wrong with that
It just a feeling, cause of stable money tho. But it was good actually, u won't struggle to start a life. If I were u, maybe I do the same but only if he looks younger than his age😂
Older guys are better at communication. They can express their needs and desires in a more mature way. They have a way of boosting my own confidence in self-acceptance.
My sister always like older guys like my grandpa older which I think is disgusting how attractive is old balls and wrinkled skin? And then mentally you have nothing in common or maturity-wise usually like 8 to 15 years tops is where people start having trouble...
How's your relationship with your father? Most women that have this problem have ( daddy issues ) because they lacked a strong male role model growing up so they are drawn ro older men to make up for it.
I’ve always been attracted to older men but now I don’t have feelings for anyone
I think because women are taught that older men are more secure and financially and more able to provide for them
Dunno. I think you're like 10% of the female population that feels that way.
I don’t think that’s uncommon. A lot of guys like dating younger women too so it works out for everyone
Maybe your first sexual experience... what was it like? Was it with a older male?
I am too, though there are exceptions. I'm not sure why.
You like that older men are emotionally more mature than younger men and they know what they want.
I know why. It is because they are better at video games and are able to beat games like Castlevania, Mega Man, etc. And the younger guys usually can't. That's why. :P
Because you're a woman. Natural planners. You want a guy that's pretty much got it figured out. You can look up to him for awhile, then arrive on even level, then attempt to fix what's not broken. It's a hell of a ride though.
I used to be 2 ever since i was 15 bc guys my age were so imature but now i found a Guy so mature and responsible and is just 3 years older
Because you're intelligent and mature and feminine probably.
You want maturity, peace, less talks and solutions in life.
Why is there anything wrong with it. You are both adults. Like older guys its 2020. You do you boo.
Missing your own father. Seeking him into your older boyfriend or husband.
I do as well but not for money or because I have daddy issues. Im attractive to them because they are more mature and intelligent that others my age.
And do you feel you're at that level too? Like what makes you better than others your age
Probably you feel deficiency of father's love and while you are hanging out with older guys, you feel yourself smarter.
his forehead is trying so hard to make him taller..
I'm attracted to older women, even ones much older, but no more than other women.
Every woman has her preferences. It just is, and nothing is wrong with it.
Pretty normal for women, older means maturity and stability
cause you rely an old guy tryna get younger girls to go out wit him
Because you want matured fucker
Us old guys are so thankful to young ladies like this...
Because they're established. They have the look of experience, skill, accomplishment. A few other factors possibly, but these are the main things
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