What are some petty reasons that someone has ghosted you/you have ghosted someone?

[Michieex]

The pettiest reason someone has ghosted me was because I was staying in NC & when it was time for me to come back to NY, I decided to stay in NC since I had found a job and also to continue caring for my sick mom. So I told the guy I was talking to at the time that we can always visit each other and that distance won’t matter. He said I was playing games and never talked to me again.

[chadpattan]

I've never "ghosted" anyone. And from what I can recall, I've never been "ghosted" by anyone I was dating. But maybe that term means something different to me.

However, the closest I can recall to your example:

2002. Blind date with a girl in Bakersfield, California, I'm down by the border. She seems nice. Tells me she has a kid, cool. We make plans to meet. Her description and her voice on the phone comes off as someone fairly attractive. I'm not a light skin guy, I'm not a dark skin guy.

I drive up, she arrives. This girl is at least 8 weeks pregnant AND has a 3-year old daughter. SO right there I know it's not going to work because it's basically a lie. But I'm here, she's bored so we go places, Chuck-E-Cheese with her daughter and daughter's cousin. Daughter is an absolute sweetheart, wants to hold my hand, etc.

We go to the park. Kids go off to play. She tells me she likes "light skinned dudes" (this girl is darker than Wesley Snipes, mind you), not going to work, I'm not her type, whatever. In my head I'm 0% attracted to her but her kid is awesome. Suddenly we hear her kid screaming and crying, comes running up and wants ME to pick her up instead of her mom.

I think THAT is what triggered the next action from the girl.

I go back home, girl calls me to tell me it's the last time I'll hear from her because nothing worked for her (?). I'm thinking cool, but then in the background I hear the kid say "is that ______"? I WANT TO TALK TO HIM!" and starts crying. Girl just hangs up.

And I was heartbroken because I really did like that kid.

[Chubbyspooder]

I ghosted someone I use to have a interest with because she never put across if she was still interested in me or not and eventually she tells me she likes someone else which I accepted but she would complain how he choose his girlfriend over her or even better blatantly tries to cheat with her. Then months later she comes to me crying when that guy she has a interest with choose his girlfriend over her. I've been warning and telling her the guy is no good but she refuses to listen after that it came to the point I got tired of her crap and ghosted her for months till I settled the relationship with her that I'm no longer interested being her friend if she keeps choosing to not listen to my advice and continues to get hurt due to that from bad decisions.

[itsallaroundtheworld]

I provoked once a friend. I told her that someone had told me she had talked behind my back, had told them some of our conversations (I mentioned them) and had made comments about me regarding those conversations.
After hearing that, she got mad, denied everything, even insulted him/her who had made those rumors. I said "that's fine, no problem. I believe you. I don't believe what she said to me" (thus ending my provocation).
She went on to ask who had told me those rumors. I didn't say it. She insisted to know WHO said them. But I didn't give her any name. I didn't have any names after all, it was just a provocation. Eventually, she stopped asking, and cut me off. She even said "I'm sorry we have to end it like this". To me this is a petty reason to end a friendship.

[Michieex]

Yes, very petty she could have easily talked the situation out with you or could have said it doesn’t matter who said it, the friendship is more important.

A friend of mine and I had a falling out once because of some rumor she thought I said about her, and when I tried to tell he what happened and insisted to talk things out & apologize for whatever she thought I said, she refused to hear me out and she ignores me if we cross each other. I’ve tried reaching out but nothing.

[itsallaroundtheworld]

You know what all these mean? That we have never really been friends with those people. Period.
Now that I think about it, I'm happy that she cut me off. I'm better off without her.

[Anonymous]

My race. Most guys instantly assumed I am white, Asian, latina, etc. Every ethnicity but black! So they talk to me, like me and my personality. But as soon as I show them my picture, they ghost me.

What's so hard about saying you aren't attracted to someone instead of just ghosting them?

[QueenTanya]

aw that's terrible

[lovedejj_xo]

Aw I understand

[Michieex]

That’s so horrible, for people to not be interested in someone over race or even their skin color is the most hurtful thing ever. That’s what happens to me at times, I’m half black/half white and sometimes black guys who only like white women treat me as if I’m garbage or something. You will find someone who sticks around soon enough

[Opinion Owner]

@Michieex It really is. I get that it's their choice, but they are missing out by excluding certain races! It's funny that they liked everything else about me: personality, my interests, my figure. Until they find out my race. I've literally had guys tell me, "If you weren't black, I'd date you." Yeah, thanks for being honest I guess but still. I have just learned to tell people upfront my race so there's no confusion or them ghosting me later.

[Account]

1. I couldn't see it working long term.
2. I felt like I had to.

[bamesjond0069]

She saw a picture of me and was like dayum you're fine 😍 and then i asked what she goes to school for and she blocked me. I get that all the freaking time its really annoying. And it makes me unsure of myself like why do girls tell me im hot and also fawn all over me sometimes yet its also the thing that gets me ghosted or denied a lot. Ugh so aggravating.

[Michieex]

That is an unfair reason to stop talking to you. Asking what she goes to school for is a harmless question, some people get upset over the littlest things. Hope you find the right girl for you soon.

[Anonymous]

Disclaimer, these are the things that for me personally are petty.

Someone ghosted me:
1. Because I am from India (not living in india now).
2. Because I made the beautiful pic of a waterfall that she sent me as the background picture of our chat.
3. Because, her mom got mad at her.

I ghosted someone:
1. Because I couldn't take any more of her whining about how all girls hate her.
2. Because I didn't say I was Indian before. We became good friends, I was afraid she would hate me for hiding it.
3. Because she sided with one professor at my university. Who basically denied a n Indian guy internship because "He too should be held responsible for women getting raped in India".

Those are some highlights.

[diamond567]

I have never ghosted anyone, but I have always been ghosted, and I honestly don’t know why. I have talked to certain people, but maybe it’s because we’re far away, or I am not pretty enough for them, or they found someone better. I definitely think that it’s not the best thing to do to someone, it hurts and makes you feel bad, it makes you wonder if you did something wrong, or if you weren’t good enough for them.

[crazy8000]

People does it because of all kind of pity thing's that doesn't even have to do with the ghosted one.

Only proves they doesn't have what's needed to reach you as a person on common grounds.

[diamond567]

@crazy8000 Yeah your right I think that’s why they mostly do it

[Snakeyes7]

How would you ever know why someone ghosted you? To know why would mean that the person would have to stop going ghost to tell you.

[Michieex]

Yea you have a point there, but sometimes to just stop talking to someone out of the blue it makes people want answers lol

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

She was too clingy, too soon.

[Michieex]

Lol those are the worst, like give some space pleaseee

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

What was worse is that at first she was really cold and almost disinterested.
Then overnight she couldn't leave me alone, lol.

[richardsnarky]

I’ve ghosted a couple of people because I felt like they were playing games with me. Therefore, I played a game of my own that I like to call, “Hide and Ghost”. I don’t have time for bullshit. We’re adults.

[joshctlee]

I ghosted my best friend. We were living together he needed to move in his other friend because he couldn’t afford rent, even though there was no room for him. The guy had a pit bull. My buddy told me it was trained and wouldn’t harm our cats (the cats being my main concer) Then I witnessed the pit bull try to maul his cat and was growling at me. So I moved out without notice that same day and ghosted him.

[jabbahut]

I would rather tell someone to their face instead of ghosting them - I think to ignore the situation is rude. Instead wise up and tell me nicely you don’t have feelings

[crazy8000]

Doesn't sink to that development level and it's bad manner without any excuses to justify it.

Karma has a tendency to hit back in other unpleasant areas in life 😉

[parislover2002]

I have been ghosted for many reasons, age, looks, living at home, etc. I ghost people when they get buggy or too personal

[MackToday]

I don't know and it's none of my businesses why. A person can associate with anyone they chose to.

[poneglyphs]

I was too short for her, she didn't like my hobbies, and she said I was too nerdy for her.

[COMMODOREII]

You were in NC? Where at? I lived in Newport close to morehead city on the Crystal Coast. 😄

[KrakenAttackin]

When I have been simply tired of her shit ---- ghost time...

[selfdestruction]

One time I made an off color joke. Most of the time is cuz I’m not well endowed

[Marissa095]

She claim to be single turns out she got a husband,

[Brodiealmighty]

Because I am in a wheelchair

[lovedejj_xo]

That’s messed up

[Michieex]

Really? That’s so sad and people are so spiteful being in a wheelchair doesn’t stop someone from having a relationship. Hope you come across a woman who likes you for you and your personality, and accepts your wheelchair and all ✨